Current Events > Friend jumped into a relationship with a girl and her kids, now I never see him

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My best friend, actually.

He's known her maybe 3 months, and first they spent all their time on the phone, then he started going over there on weekends, now he's over there after work too. On top of that, her ex-husband is abusive and they're locked in a custody battle, and now there are allegations of physical and sexual abuse by the ex towards the children.

On the one hand, I get that he's being a great guy by standing by her through all this, but... YOU'VE KNOWN HER THREE MONTHS. She clearly has a LOT going on, and he's dropping all his other relationships and commitments for her. I've seen him once in the past month, and that was for a couple hours. We're supposed to be doing drywall and repainting my mom's bedroom, and it's been like a month and a half and I only put down the first coat of paint since I'm having to do so much of it myself.

Oh yeah, and he borrowed a bucket truck from work to do repairs at his dad's house and he called me all excited about it and how he wanted to show it to me this weekend. I called him today, and... he's with the girlfriend and the kids and can't do it.

I still haven't fucking met this girl in person, I've only seen pictures or overheard her voice on the phone.

You should of sexed him when you had the chance, youve let him slip through your finger... gonna have to catch him on the rebound
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That happened to a best friend of mine as well. I had known the guy 10+ years and he got super attached to this girl. I decided to end contact since a friendship goes both ways and he basically ghosted me. Eventually they broke up and he tried hanging out again but I declined. No need to be friends with anyone who throws away a friendship, especially one that thinks they can come and go as they please.
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Jealous much?

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it happens more often than you think

i've had two close male friends in which when they got into relationships, it was like they fell off the planet. hardly reply to messages, never hung out or spoke any more, spent all their time with their partner, never met up at big events (e.g. birthdays, christmas parties) and they became a completely different person

i mean in this situation it sounds more complex since she's been through abuse, custody battles, etc so maybe she needs a solid rock/guardian to help her out atm

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My brother did this. Met her at work, neither of them really liked each other at first. I don't even know how they started dating if that was the case, but 3 months later he asked her to marry him. 3 months after that it was official...

Her and her ridiculously bratty son moved in with us. Once they found a place of their own I barely get to see him. Maybe 3 times a year if I'm lucky.
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sometimes it happens the other way, like I got together with my partner and most of her friends backed away and don't bother contacting her/responding to her messages

but then they try to claim she's being distant because of being in a relationship

If you're jealous that your friend has another special someone in your life, just confess your love for him and ask him to come back.
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It happens. People will spend a lot less time with you once they have a significant other. Nothing wrong with that. But if it goes so far that they never respond to texts or show up to birthday celebrations then just return the favor.
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Guys honestly go on to Gf/wife island way more than girls going on to boyfriend island. Girls usually just whittle down their friends to a select few. Guys? Theyll cut everybody off. Sometimes even family.
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