Current Events > I'm getting ostracized for reporting my coworker to HR.

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IdiotMachine
10/05/19 6:30:59 PM
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She said something really racist during our lunch meeting, and it bothered me so much. I went to her privately and told her about it; she brushed it off, that it's just a joke / she was "just sayin", and I should be more understanding.

I talked to my manager about it, who brought in my coworker's manager and HR rep. I then filed a formal complaint. She was put on paid leave for one week (she's coming back to work on Monday).

Now everyone in my group and her group, as well as those who were at the lunch, are picking on me... I feel like an idiot. I don't want to go back to HR and say they're picking on me. What do?
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Irony
10/05/19 6:32:14 PM
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Better than emuized
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Abiz_
10/05/19 6:33:20 PM
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Well, I don't believe you. Your group and her group both dropped you? Sounds like you chose to ignore the context or nuisance and now people don't like you for it or trust you.
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TheVipaGTS
10/05/19 6:34:20 PM
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sounds like you work at a terribly toxic place.
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KainWind
10/05/19 6:35:14 PM
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All I'm getting out of this is she got a free week of paid vacation for saying something racist.

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IMNOTRAGED
10/05/19 6:36:34 PM
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KainWind posted...
All I'm getting out of this is she got a free week of paid vacation for saying something racist.

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RickyTheBAWSE
10/05/19 6:36:34 PM
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TC is a cop?

that sounds like a cop response. "so you snitched on Rodriguez and Abernathy, huh? I thought you were one of us."
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EffectAndCause
10/05/19 6:38:31 PM
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IMNOTRAGED posted...
KainWind posted...
All I'm getting out of this is she got a free week of paid vacation for saying something racist.

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IdiotMachine
10/05/19 6:38:44 PM
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Abiz_ posted...
Well, I don't believe you. Your group and her group both dropped you? Sounds like you chose to ignore the context or nuisance and now people don't like you for it or trust you.

I'll try to be as sensitive as possible: We were talking about sports, and she said that certain races are just naturally good at them because of how they were bred for those traits "back then".
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Esrac
10/05/19 6:43:22 PM
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Sounds like no one wants to hang out with you because you're too sensitive and a tattle-tale.

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coh
10/05/19 6:45:42 PM
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Sounds like youre being overly sensitive
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ThanksUglyGod
10/05/19 6:45:56 PM
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IdiotMachine posted...
Now everyone in my group and her group, as well as those who were at the lunch, are picking on me... I feel like an idiot.

Then what's the problem?

But for real, sucks that you're going through this, but you did the right thing.
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ColdOne666
10/05/19 6:47:27 PM
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Snitches get stitches.
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BeantownHero
10/05/19 6:47:47 PM
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IdiotMachine posted...
I'll try to be as sensitive as possible: We were talking about sports, and she said that certain races are just naturally good at them because of how they were bred for those traits "back then".


Yeah...that's definitely a suspendable offense


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IdiotMachine
10/05/19 6:47:50 PM
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Esrac posted...
Sounds like no one wants to hang out with you because you're too sensitive and a tattle-tale.

coh posted...
Sounds like youre being overly sensitive

By not doing anything, it's further reinforcing that type of behavior should be allowed. It shouldn't be.
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amzpeng
10/05/19 6:48:14 PM
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You might want to look for another job at this point. You've already ruined it for yourself it seem. Not saying it's fair, but it is what it is.
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ProudlyHated74
10/05/19 6:49:18 PM
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IdiotMachine posted...
Abiz_ posted...
Well, I don't believe you. Your group and her group both dropped you? Sounds like you chose to ignore the context or nuisance and now people don't like you for it or trust you.

I'll try to be as sensitive as possible: We were talking about sports, and she said that certain races are just naturally good at them because of how they were bred for those traits "back then".


Lol of all the things to get triggered by.
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karlpilkington4
10/05/19 6:49:59 PM
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BeantownHero posted...
IdiotMachine posted...
I'll try to be as sensitive as possible: We were talking about sports, and she said that certain races are just naturally good at them because of how they were bred for those traits "back then".


Yeah...that's definitely a suspendable offense



Are you being serious, or facetious? Serious question.
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BeantownHero
10/05/19 6:55:05 PM
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karlpilkington4 posted...
Are you being serious, or facetious? Serious question.


I'm completely serious. What the fuck kinda subject is that to bring up in the work environment?

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au_gold
10/05/19 6:57:56 PM
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coh posted...
Sounds like youre being overly sensitive

ColdOne666 posted...
Snitches get stitches.

These.
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Malfunction
10/05/19 7:01:49 PM
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Can't believe the racist gimmick accounts don't have an issue with that
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Lost_All_Senses
10/05/19 7:06:18 PM
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Sometimes doing the right thing doesn't put you in the best place after. I personally wouldn't of cared to put my reputation on the line over it but Im not gonna fault you for it. Many people like to get on others for "not doing the right thing" because those people don't have to deal with the aftermath. Sounds like you're dealing with the aftermath and there isn't any going back
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BeantownHero
10/05/19 7:06:28 PM
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I need to know what sports black people were bred to be good at...and that's not even getting into the insulting nature of the claim that black people's excellency in sports stems primarily from their physicality.

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coh
10/05/19 7:07:00 PM
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Don't be an SJW
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karlpilkington4
10/05/19 7:15:06 PM
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Forgettable posted...
You did the right thing. All humans are equal in every aspect. It was completely wrong of her to say otherwise.


uhhhh
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SiO4
10/05/19 7:16:51 PM
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HR departments are the gutter of the work force.
Handle your shit. Using HR as your personal hitman is a shitty move.

Learn to handle your shit.
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NeoShadowhen
10/05/19 7:20:35 PM
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Out of curiosity TC, what part of the country are you in?
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Diamond_Of_Time
10/05/19 7:24:12 PM
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Call them all a bunch of hoes and act sarcastic whenever that say something.
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rexcrk
10/05/19 7:24:38 PM
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coh posted...
Sounds like youre being overly sensitive

This lmao.
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LordMarshal
10/05/19 7:25:21 PM
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-So i bitched to her but that wasnt good enough.
-I bitched to my manager and that wasnt good enough.
-I finally bitched and got her put on leave.


Id hate you so hard at work and any group i knew would hate you too.
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Bio1590
10/05/19 7:27:49 PM
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Not surprised that 75% of this topic is people seeing no issue with what was said.
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IdiotMachine
10/05/19 7:31:10 PM
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NeoShadowhen posted...
Out of curiosity TC, what part of the country are you in?

Northeast. Central PA.
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Esrac
10/05/19 7:31:12 PM
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IdiotMachine posted...
By not doing anything, it's further reinforcing that type of behavior should be allowed. It shouldn't be.


Almost nobody cares about such an innocuous remark or joke.

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Febrel
10/05/19 7:33:09 PM
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snitch
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NeoShadowhen
10/05/19 7:35:05 PM
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IdiotMachine posted...
NeoShadowhen posted...
Out of curiosity TC, what part of the country are you in?

Northeast. Central PA.


Sounds about right.

I would have stopped associating with that person, maybe started putting together an exit plan. But going to HR is just going to turn it into a popularity showdown. Which you clearly lost. Start that exit plan now, I suppose.
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Bio1590
10/05/19 7:35:43 PM
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Esrac posted...
IdiotMachine posted...
By not doing anything, it's further reinforcing that type of behavior should be allowed. It shouldn't be.


Almost nobody cares about such an innocuous remark or joke.

Not surprised this comment is coming from someone who argued spousal abuse is acceptable.
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Zikten
10/05/19 7:36:17 PM
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Abiz_ posted...
Well, I don't believe you. Your group and her group both dropped you? Sounds like you chose to ignore the context or nuisance and now people don't like you for it or trust you.

boo fucking hoo. they fucked up. TC did the right thing
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LordMarshal
10/05/19 7:37:48 PM
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No, bitching to everyone until being on paid leave is not the right thing.
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Esrac
10/05/19 7:38:04 PM
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Bio1590 posted...
Not surprised this comment is coming from someone who argued spousal abuse is acceptable.


Did I do that? I can't even recall.


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Elmer_Glue
10/05/19 7:42:59 PM
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What did you expect for snitching on someone? Especially so blatantly? At your next job just do it anonymously.
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A_A_Battery
10/05/19 7:48:04 PM
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I was prepared to go against you but this b be talking about human beings as if they were dogs, making her the closest to that description. Paid leave is bs for that, should be unpaid, and if shes a cop, we need less shitheads like this woman in these professions.
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Jiggy101011
10/05/19 7:48:05 PM
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IdiotMachine posted...
Abiz_ posted...
Well, I don't believe you. Your group and her group both dropped you? Sounds like you chose to ignore the context or nuisance and now people don't like you for it or trust you.

I'll try to be as sensitive as possible: We were talking about sports, and she said that certain races are just naturally good at them because of how they were bred for those traits "back then".


Thats a Bill Burr joke.
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IdiotMachine
10/05/19 7:48:09 PM
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Elmer_Glue posted...
What did you expect for snitching on someone? Especially so blatantly? At your next job just do it anonymously.

I thought it would remain anonymous.l between the managers and HR.
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Esrac
10/05/19 7:50:42 PM
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IdiotMachine posted...
I thought it would remain anonymous.l between the managers and HR.


It's pretty obvious it was you when you're probably the only one who tried to confront her about it.

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Wii_Shaker
10/05/19 7:53:23 PM
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Retaliation in the workplace is real.
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Lorthremar
10/05/19 8:02:22 PM
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definitely offensive if said in the work place, don't listen to the CE "moderates"
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Agnostic420
10/05/19 8:07:31 PM
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No legit job is going to get mad at an employee for making a racist comment.
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