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emblem boy 09/05/19 9:26:03 AM #1:	I'm really disliking this idea that just because I don't agree with your emotion (anger, sadness, etc.) about an event, then they means that I'm dismissing you having that emotion. I don't know if there's something about it that I'm not getting. You can feel whatever emotion you have. That doesn't mean I have to agree that it was the right emotion to have. It's just something I've heard a few times and I can't understand it. It's pretty much saying I have to agree with your emotions regardless of if it was warranted. --- Pitter-patter, let's get at 'er <cite>emblem boy posted [p:927002614] in "You'... [t:77989587]...</cite> <quote>I'm really disliking this idea that just because I don't agree with your emotion (anger, sadness, etc.) about an event, then they means that I'm dismissing you having that emotion. I don't know if there's something about it that I'm not getting. You can feel whatever emotion you have. That doesn't mean I have to agree that it was the right emotion to have. It's just something I've heard a few times and I can't understand it. It's pretty much saying I have to agree with your emotions regardless of if it was warranted.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
averagejoel 09/05/19 9:49:38 AM #2:	"disagreeing" with someone's emotional response to an event seems a bit on the self-important side --- peanut butter and dick <cite>averagejoel posted [p:927003301] in "You'... [t:77989587]...</cite> <quote>"disagreeing" with someone's emotional response to an event seems a bit on the self-important side</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
emblem boy 09/05/19 9:52:22 AM #3:	averagejoel posted... "disagreeing" with someone's emotional response to an event seems a bit on the self-important side Expand on this --- Pitter-patter, let's get at 'er <cite>emblem boy posted [p:927003381] in "You'... [t:77989587]...</cite> <quote><cite>averagejoel posted...</cite> <quote>"disagreeing" with someone's emotional response to an event seems a bit on the self-important side</quote> Expand on this</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ThyCorndog 09/05/19 9:53:25 AM #4:	everyone knows that someone else's emotions on a subject are all that matters and your emotions don't matter. it's totally self centered for you to not care about their emotions but it's not self centered for them to not care about your emotions --- https://imgur.com/6cPXvLN <cite>ThyCorndog posted [p:927003429] in "You'... [t:77989587]...</cite> <quote>everyone knows that someone else's emotions on a subject are all that matters and your emotions don't matter. it's totally self centered for you to not care about their emotions but it's not self centered for them to not care about your emotions</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
krazychao5 09/05/19 9:55:00 AM #5:	ThyCorndog posted... everyone knows that someone else's emotions on a subject are all that matters and your emotions don't matter. it's totally self centered for you to not care about their emotions but it's not self centered for them to not care about your emotions Exactly, so TC, if someone tries to use your OP logic against you, you can twist that around back onto them. --- https://supermariomakerbookmark.nintendo.net/profile/bigllama?type=posted <cite>krazychao5 posted [p:927003478] in "You'... [t:77989587]...</cite> <quote>ThyCorndog posted...</cite> <quote>everyone knows that someone else's emotions on a subject are all that matters and your emotions don't matter. it's totally self centered for you to not care about their emotions but it's not self centered for them to not care about your emotions</quote> Exactly, so TC, if someone tries to use your OP logic against you, you can twist that around back onto them.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
averagejoel 09/05/19 10:01:38 AM #6:	emblem boy posted... averagejoel posted... "disagreeing" with someone's emotional response to an event seems a bit on the self-important side Expand on this I need more context of what happened in order to do that --- peanut butter and dick <cite>averagejoel posted [p:927003741] in "You'... [t:77989587]...</cite> <quote>emblem boy posted...</cite> <quote><cite>averagejoel posted...</cite> <quote>"disagreeing" with someone's emotional response to an event seems a bit on the self-important side</quote> Expand on this</quote> I need more context of what happened in order to do that</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
emblem boy 09/05/19 10:09:14 AM #7:	averagejoel posted... emblem boy posted... averagejoel posted... "disagreeing" with someone's emotional response to an event seems a bit on the self-important side Expand on this I need more context of what happened in order to do that It can be a general event. Just the idea that the two of you might agree or disagree with the context of a situation, but one of you doesn't feel the emotions felt were warranted. It's the same as idea as someone wanting you to apologize for something because they felt hurt by it, and you don't think what you did was hurtful, so why give an empty apology. In something like this, I think everyone has a tolerance for what they'll "apologize" for, but sometimes you just can't admit guilt to something you don't believe in --- Pitter-patter, let's get at 'er <cite>emblem boy posted [p:927003999] in "You'... [t:77989587]...</cite> <quote><cite>averagejoel posted...</cite> <quote>emblem boy posted...</cite> <quote> <cite>averagejoel posted...</cite> <quote> "disagreeing" with someone's emotional response to an event seems a bit on the self-important side </quote> Expand on this</quote> I need more context of what happened in order to do that</quote> It can be a general event. Just the idea that the two of you might agree or disagree with the context of a situation, but one of you doesn't feel the emotions felt were warranted. It's the same as idea as someone wanting you to apologize for something because they felt hurt by it, and you don't think what you did was hurtful, so why give an empty apology. In something like this, I think everyone has a tolerance for what they'll "apologize" for, but sometimes you just can't admit guilt to something you don't believe in</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
averagejoel 09/05/19 11:09:02 AM #8:	emblem boy posted... averagejoel posted... emblem boy posted... averagejoel posted... "disagreeing" with someone's emotional response to an event seems a bit on the self-important side Expand on this I need more context of what happened in order to do that It can be a general event. Just the idea that the two of you might agree or disagree with the context of a situation, but one of you doesn't feel the emotions felt were warranted. It's the same as idea as someone wanting you to apologize for something because they felt hurt by it, and you don't think what you did was hurtful, so why give an empty apology. In something like this, I think everyone has a tolerance for what they'll "apologize" for, but sometimes you just can't admit guilt to something you don't believe in the thing about emotions is that there isn't really a "right" or "wrong" one to have. you don't get to decide if something you did was hurtful. --- peanut butter and dick <cite>averagejoel posted [p:927006452] in "You'... [t:77989587]...</cite> <quote>emblem boy posted...</cite> <quote><cite>averagejoel posted...</cite> <quote>emblem boy posted...</cite> <quote> <cite>averagejoel posted...</cite> <quote> "disagreeing" with someone's emotional response to an event seems a bit on the self-important side </quote> Expand on this</quote> I need more context of what happened in order to do that</quote> It can be a general event. Just the idea that the two of you might agree or disagree with the context of a situation, but one of you doesn't feel the emotions felt were warranted. It's the same as idea as someone wanting you to apologize for something because they felt hurt by it, and you don't think what you did was hurtful, so why give an empty apology. In something like this, I think everyone has a tolerance for what they'll "apologize" for, but sometimes you just can't admit guilt to something you don't believe in</quote> the thing about emotions is that there isn't really a "right" or "wrong" one to have. you don't get to decide if something you did was hurtful.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
krazychao5 09/05/19 11:20:39 AM #9:	One of the more salient quotes from Louis CK that stuck with me, he said: When a person tells you that you hurt them, you dont get to decide that you didnt. I think this applies to the discussion at hand. --- https://supermariomakerbookmark.nintendo.net/profile/bigllama?type=posted <cite>krazychao5 posted [p:927006925] in "You'... [t:77989587]...</cite> <quote>One of the more salient quotes from Louis CK that stuck with me, he said: When a person tells you that you hurt them, you dont get to decide that you didnt. I think this applies to the discussion at hand.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
emblem boy 09/05/19 11:31:44 AM #10:	They can be hurt by the action and can feel whatever emotion they feel. I don't think it means that the emotion has to be valid. Maybe my thing has to do with admitting fault. It shouldn't be expected for someone to admit fault just because someone feels sad about what happened. In many situations, fault probably should be admitted. I don't think disagreeing to admit fault should be considered a dismissal of their emotion though --- Pitter-patter, let's get at 'er <cite>emblem boy posted [p:927007386] in "You'... [t:77989587]...</cite> <quote>They can be hurt by the action and can feel whatever emotion they feel. I don't think it means that the emotion has to be valid. Maybe my thing has to do with admitting fault. It shouldn't be expected for someone to admit fault just because someone feels sad about what happened. In many situations, fault probably should be admitted. I don't think disagreeing to admit fault should be considered a dismissal of their emotion though</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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emblem boy 09/05/19 12:30:21 PM #12:	Accepting they were hurt is fine. If they were hurt because you didn't do something that was unreasonable, that's different though. There's no solution and apologizing would make no sense. --- Pitter-patter, let's get at 'er <cite>emblem boy posted [p:927009772] in "You'... [t:77989587]...</cite> <quote>Accepting they were hurt is fine. If they were hurt because you didn't do something that was unreasonable, that's different though. There's no solution and apologizing would make no sense.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DDirtyDastard 09/05/19 12:41:00 PM #13:	emblem boy posted... Accepting they were hurt is fine. If they were hurt because you didn't do something that was unreasonable, that's different though. There's no solution and apologizing would make no sense. GIve them the ol' passive aggressive "I'm sorry you feel that way." Then you can explain yourself and your intentions. Like, "Hey, I didn't mean to offend/upset you, but I honestly haven't done anything warranting an apology. You're entitled to your feelings, but I'm not going to walk on eggshells based on your subjective interpretations. Sorry, but I'm not sorry." <cite>DDirtyDastard posted [p:927010223] in "You'... [t:77989587]...</cite> <quote>emblem boy posted...</cite> <quote>Accepting they were hurt is fine. If they were hurt because you didn't do something that was unreasonable, that's different though. There's no solution and apologizing would make no sense.</quote> GIve them the ol' passive aggressive "I'm sorry you feel that way." Then you can explain yourself and your intentions. Like, "Hey, I didn't mean to offend/upset you, but I honestly haven't done anything warranting an apology. You're entitled to your feelings, but I'm not going to walk on eggshells based on your subjective interpretations. Sorry, but I'm not sorry."</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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