Current Events > You start talking to a girl, you like her, and then she ghosts you. Good or bad?

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I'm talking to a coworker right now who is dealing with this situation. He said he was bummed out at first after going on a couple of dates with this girl and then hitting it off. For one reason or another, she ghosted the guy out of the blue. Of course it sucks to have this happen to you, but he's actually glad it happened. He's saying he dodged a bullet because this happened before they got too close, and he didn't waste any more time with a girl he couldn't trust. It was a faulty basis for a relationship, essentially. Does this logic hold up? I think it would suck to get "dumped" like this, but he's glad to be rid of an untrustworthy woman effortlessly and I admit he kind of has a point. What do you think?
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getting ghosted sucks unless it's mutual
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It just sucks cuz she def ghosted for another dude, but it really is whatever the sooner the better, a lot of dudes read way too much into going on a couple dates when each date these days is just a test to see if there's gonna be one after that and that's about as far as anyone plans out anymore.
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Def means just don't bother. Guys can be utter trash to girls or completely miss a point where they fucked up, and therefore I don't blame girls for getting defensive, but some girls also suck or are just really bad at navigating this kind of stuff. You coworker could've done everything right, and is completely decent, and some girls will flip the switch.

It can be insecurity in the end. I've had a girl tell me in retrospect she did not go for me before because she wanted someone who wouldn't outshine her or whatever. (and yeah, everyone who knew all 3 of us was scratching their heads to why she went after him). If things go downhill due to illogical shit, then be glad you didn't put up with it any longer. Don't waste your time making sense of even trying to fix it.
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