Current Events > My girlfriend is livid at this email from a friend's church member...

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paraphrasing the email.

"Dear Stacy,
I hope you don't mind that pastor Joe gave me your email. I just wanted to compliment you on your singing. It had been so long since i had been so moved by a performance, even my husband was able to stay awake for the whole service. However, i couldn't help but notice that your dress was knee length. I know many modern women are into this sort of attire, but i couldn't help but be distracted by your appearance. I think a good place to buy dresses is Dress Barn, they are having a going out of business sale, where you can find nice ankle length dresses for a reasonable price. Please consider going there and purchasing some dresses to wear during service, so that we may continue to focus on your beautiful singing rather than your provocative appearance.
Thank you and god bless."

If i were the girl, i would never sing for that place again. I'm pretty sure it's a volunteer thing not paid, but either way the pastor/minister whatever should not have been giving out her email. I'd tell him something along the lines of "I'm sorry, but after the email i received, i don't feel comfortable performing in this kind of environment." and peace the fuck out.

Edit for clarity: Friend was the one singing, not girlfriend.
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If the dress isnt touching her ankles she's clearly a thot /s

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your girlfriend is a stacy? pics

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Oh shit i forgot to mention my girlfriend wasn't the one singing, her friend was.
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Your girlfriend needs to leave the church. No wonder Dress Barn is going out of business.
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Must be a smaller Baptist type church.
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SauI_Goodman posted...

Must be a smaller Baptist type church.

this.
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The implication I'm reading here is that her husband spent the whole service staring at your gf's friend

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Sounds like she noticed her hubby checking the girl out and got butthurt.

I dont get it. Its like choosing jerk friends and being like "Why are they acting like jerks!?"
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eston posted...

The implication I'm reading here is that her husband spent the whole service staring at your gf's friend

I kinda got the impression as well. The girl is known for dressing kinda revealing, usually with a bunch of cleavage, because she does have huge tits and a huge ass. I'm pretty sure she knows better than to wear something like that to church. It probably was just something knee length and the husband could still make out her curves.
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Dear Bitch,
I had a less provocative dress but your husband destroyed it last night.
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Lairen posted...

Dear Bitch,
I have a less provocative dress but your husband destroyed it last night.

Please send this back to bitch church lady!
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Send that lady nudes of your gf. That'll show her!
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If I'm the singer I'm wearing a miniskirt next week and batting my eyes at this lady's husband the whole time.
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Lairen posted...

Dear Bitch,
I had a less provocative dress but your husband destroyed it last night.

Lmfao
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Yeah, I'd either stop going or just carry on. If it's below the knee then it sounds fine, if it's above then I guess you could call it too short.

I used to know of a place where if you were a female you weren't allowed to wear pants of any sort and had to wear a skirt that went to the ankles. If you didn't then they'd eventually chew you out to the point it'd lead to a physical fight or something.

They'll probably use the excuse that all temptation must be removed. Sounds like they'll fail the test of being faithful if that's all it takes. It's understandable if it's the 10-15 year old boys they don't want distracted, but a husband/adult shouldn't be that easily tilted.

Purple_Cheetah posted...

Yeah, I'd either stop going or just carry on. If it's below the knee then it sounds fine, if it's above then I guess you could call it too short.

I used to know of a place where if you were a female you weren't allowed to wear pants of any sort and had to wear a skirt that went to the ankles. If you didn't then they'd eventually chew you out to the point it'd lead to a physical fight or something.

They'll probably use the excuse that all temptation must be removed. Sounds like they'll fail the test of being faithful if that's all it takes. It's understandable if it's the 10-15 year old boys they don't want distracted, but a husband/adult shouldn't be that easily tilted.

My awkward upbringing taught me:

Stare hotty songstress down, get hot and bothered and then go fuck the hell out of your wife.
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those sexy ankles must have been what kept the husband awake
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She should wear a hijab

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From the first two sentences it sounded like a nice email. The lady probably said something like "that singer was lovely, is there any way and I could contact her?" and the minister thought nothing of it. I would tell the minister that someone sent me a mean email and to please not give out my email again.
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Girlfriend told me that her friend politely responded to the email and forwarded it to the pastor.

Girlfriend doesn't know what she said to the lady. Fucking useless. I'll try to get more deets tomorrow
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Next time I was invited to sing at that church Id wear the littlest black dress possible

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Wait, why is your gf mad if this happened to her friend?

Responding politely was right thing to do tbh.
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Lairen posted...

Dear Bitch,
I had a less provocative dress but your husband destroyed it last night.

Now this is a "must be sent" kinda response.
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Your gf is surprised that religious people have stupid beliefs?

The whole zombie walking on the water is cool, but rules about clothes is silly?
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ClunkerSlim posted...

Pastor won't call her up to sing then. You're not going to get over on these people on their home turf.

Some bridges are worth burning, imo

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kingdrake2 posted...

SauI_Goodman posted...

Must be a smaller Baptist type church.

this.

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The fact that so much of CE hates religion makes this discussion pretty fruitless
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LookANinja posted...

If i were the girl, i would never sing for that place again. I'm pretty sure it's a volunteer thing not paid

Yeah, it's volunteer. I volunteer at my church's sound booth and change the slides on the projector.
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That's clearly a GDPR violation. She could sue, depending on state laws I guess.
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Colorahdo posted...

Your gf is surprised that religious people have stupid beliefs?

The whole zombie walking on the water is cool, but rules about clothes is silly?

I don't think she was surprised...

I feel like it has less to do with religion and more like the violation of privacy by the pastor, and also the content of the message. A non religious person could have sent the same email.

Also, i would be upset if the same thing happened to my female friend. Hell, I consider the girl a friend, and i was kinda mad when i heard it. I'm pretty sure i used the phrases "How dare she..." And "What gives her the right..." or "Who the fuck does she think she is...?" Maybe it's just me.

My girlfriend used the phrase "slut shaming" which i feel like might be a LITTLE over the top, but again, i don't know.

What do you guys think?
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I doubt I'd be mad, but it'd probably be the thing to make me look for another church

I pretty much stopped going to the church I'm at now because of this kind of mindset and outspokenness. Haven't started looking for a new one yet
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I would bet that the woman sending the email omitted the fact to the pastor that she would bitch about the dress. She probably pretended like she only wanted to compliment her singing when she asked for the email address.
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Johnny_Nutcase posted...

No wonder Dress Barn is going out of business.

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LookANinja posted...

Colorahdo posted...

Your gf is surprised that religious people have stupid beliefs?

The whole zombie walking on the water is cool, but rules about clothes is silly?

I don't think she was surprised...

I feel like it has less to do with religion and more like the violation of privacy by the pastor, and also the content of the message. A non religious person could have sent the same email.

Also, i would be upset if the same thing happened to my female friend. Hell, I consider the girl a friend, and i was kinda mad when i heard it. I'm pretty sure i used the phrases "How dare she..." And "What gives her the right..." or "Who the fuck does she think she is...?" Maybe it's just me.

My girlfriend used the phrase "slut shaming" which i feel like might be a LITTLE over the top, but again, i don't know.

What do you guys think?

I think this girl attends a religious service with people with strange beliefs, and she is shocked that someone has a strange belief (about clothes). She has no right to be offended imo

Of course I think it's wrong, like a hijab, but she's upset someone has different beliefs than her, just like old Karen is upset that this young strumpet has different beliefs than her
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Next time she should wear a dress that's even shorter.

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Ah, I remember when I was a member of a bizarre church like that (not calling all churches bizarre, just the ones that are crazy like that)

Let them go, they're mean-spirited people

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this is why church is fucking stupid

so many hypocrites
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For those who don't know the full extent of how these churches can be: when I left the strange one I used to go to, the pastor sent me an email accusing me of holding a grudge against him without specifying why (other than that I left him for another church). He desperately tried to prevent me from transferring to a church with a more theologically open stance. The assistant pastor would later stalk me at my town library.

I know not all theologically intense churches do that, but many do. I was gullible enough to sign a waiver that prevented them from being legally responsible for invading my privacy, thinking 'these are my friends, they won't harass me, and they're limited to Biblical teaching in their behavior toward me'. I wish I was kidding.

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Sounds like she was on a stage above the congregation.

Kinda like Supergirl flying in a miniskirt.
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Next time show up in short shorts, a tied tank and a high riding thong.

Fuck em.
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