Current Events > Young man uses Tinder for 4 years, only gets 4 dates.

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https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/cge5jh/

Nearly 4 years of Tinder data as a Male (Age 18 - 22)

I don't think online dating helps very much, guys.

I'm starting to appreciate that I live in an area where I swipe left far more than I swipe right.
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I think that's to be expected. True compatibility is a rare thing. (That's why divorces are so common.)
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Eh, works fine for some. That's life, I guess!

Only 6 bots

Fake
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If you're going to swipe left on 80% of your opportunities, you'd better be above the 80th percentile yourself.
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Gotta admit, i'm a bit curious what the guy looks like.
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Polycosm posted...

If you're going to swipe left on 80% of your opportunities, you'd better be above the 80th percentile yourself.

I'm not but I also don't bitch about it either.
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Ive used dating apps on and off for years since 2013. Its really NOT that hard to find dates and matches.

Either the dude is super ugly or really terrible at making interesting conversation.

Ive matched with hundreds of girls. Ended up ghosting a fair amount of them myself because I get bored fast. But I dont try and set up dates often, honestly. Too exhausting.

I know some dudes who literally meet a new girl every night from them. Short convos, just instantly invite out for drinks. Dont waste time messaging on the apps.
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AlecSkorpio posted...

Polycosm posted...

If you're going to swipe left on 80% of your opportunities, you'd better be above the 80th percentile yourself.

I'm not but I also don't bitch about it either.

Totally fair point.
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the only people who win tinder are good looking white men and mediocre looking women

this is just pure stats, everybody else would be better off going to the bar or some shit but i guess tinder is low effort and equally low reward for the majority, especially men
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Man who keeps meticulous stats on his hookup app wonders why he is alone.
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MFBKBass5 posted...

Ive used dating apps on and off for years since 2013. Its really NOT that hard to find dates and matches.

Either the dude is super ugly or really terrible at making interesting conversation.

Ive matched with hundreds of girls. Ended up ghosting a fair amount of them myself because I get bored fast. But I dont try and set up dates often, honestly. Too exhausting.

I know some dudes who literally meet a new girl every night from them. Short convos, just instantly invite out for drinks. Dont waste time messaging on the apps.

that's white privilege for you. i'm asian, only swipe right on white girls and got no matches. i deleted the app after 2 months
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No_U_L7 posted...

MFBKBass5 posted...

Ive used dating apps on and off for years since 2013. Its really NOT that hard to find dates and matches.

Either the dude is super ugly or really terrible at making interesting conversation.

Ive matched with hundreds of girls. Ended up ghosting a fair amount of them myself because I get bored fast. But I dont try and set up dates often, honestly. Too exhausting.

I know some dudes who literally meet a new girl every night from them. Short convos, just instantly invite out for drinks. Dont waste time messaging on the apps.

that's white privilege for you. i'm asian, only swipe right on white girls and got no matches. i deleted the app after 2 months

I'm black and I have like 65 matches.
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Orlando_Jordan posted...

I'm black and I have like 65 matches.

Black guys have it easy too, they have an entire subsection of white girls that only date black guys. They are more polarizing to white girls with hard yes's/no's but they still get a good chunk of yes's

Indian guys and asian guys have it the hardest, but apparently indian guys are in right now, so it's just asians having a tough time. Maybe that will change after shang chi comes out
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SmidgeIsntBack posted...

Man who keeps meticulous stats on his hookup app wonders why he is alone.

lol, that's good. I chuckled.
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Polycosm posted...

If you're going to swipe left on 80% of your opportunities, you'd better be above the 80th percentile yourself.

back before i ditched okcupid, i swiped left like 90% of the time, and i'm pretty average

got a few matches but only one date came out of it and she was gaslighting trash

which is tragic since i used to have a 50% response rate on okc (pre-overhaul) and dated rather often between it and pof

more than content just not dating these days for a number of reasons, though i'm kinda breadcrumbing two or three women
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Not to be mean or anything, but it's highly suspect on who's tinder that is based on your username.

Again, not to offend, I just found that coincidence funny.


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I used that stupid app on and off for the last 2 years or so without meeting anybody. Last Wednesday I finally met someone for the first time. This Wednesday were hanging out again (:

My Dad (who was in his late 50's) registered on some old people dating site and old gals were constantly throwing themselves at him. I was impressed. One young girl wanted him to be her sugar daddy. He didn't fall for that though.
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Polycosm posted...

If you're going to swipe left on 80% of your opportunities, you'd better be above the 80th percentile yourself.

why? as long as you're ok with the alternative of not meeting anyone on the app, who cares how picky someone else is?

SmidgeIsntBack posted...

Man who keeps meticulous stats on his hookup app wonders why he is alone.

what is wrong with keeping meticulous stats? it's how you learn. stats make the world go round
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Darmik posted...

My Dad (who was in his late 50's) registered on some old people dating site and old gals were constantly throwing themselves at him. I was impressed. One young girl wanted him to be her sugar daddy. He didn't fall for that though.

Yeah, I had way better luck when I went after older women on dating apps.

I'm weird though. I prefer women in their 30's to 40's even when I was younger. It's probably the reason I ended up swiping left most of the time on Tinder.
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SmidgeIsntBack posted...

Man who keeps meticulous stats on his hookup app wonders why he is alone.

at the peak of my dating i admit i did statistical analysis to identify optimal strategies

got a little guilty that i was reducing women to vectors of numbers and stopped doing it but lord knows winging it has not yielded the same success
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TheMikh posted...

SmidgeIsntBack posted...

Man who keeps meticulous stats on his hookup app wonders why he is alone.

at the peak of my dating i admit i did statistical analysis to identify optimal strategies

got a little guilty that i was reducing women to vectors of numbers and stopped doing it but lord knows winging it has not yielded the same success

Analyzing data doesnt mean you dont value the data. As a pick up artist I feel zero guilt about any analysis I do. Look at it this way...all it does is improve the experience for the next girl
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AlecSkorpio posted...

Darmik posted...

My Dad (who was in his late 50's) registered on some old people dating site and old gals were constantly throwing themselves at him. I was impressed. One young girl wanted him to be her sugar daddy. He didn't fall for that though.

Yeah, I had way better luck when I went after older women on dating apps.

I'm weird though. I prefer women in their 30's to 40's even when I was younger. It's probably the reason I ended up swiping left most of the time on Tinder.

It makes sense I think. The 18-35 age range is the most competitive space in online dating for men. If you're in a big city that makes it even harder. So going for different age groups or different demographics and you'll probably have more success.

It's just one of those things I guess. You've got to connect with the right person. All Tinder does is create that possibility but it doesn't guarantee anything.
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Well that sicks for him cant say what hes doing wrong it could be alot of different factors.

I had a successful run on it while I used it.
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beggars can be choosers apparently
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RedWhiteBlue posted...

Why do some posters think that rejecting someone you don't find attractive is a problem? Like, if a woman did this that would be ok. A guy doing it is somehow the absolute single most reason for his downfall. Yeah, ok, how about you try to get it up for or fall for someone who you would rather not look at.

Everyone knows women are the sexual selectors. With confidence and grooming and average guy can hit up 8-10s, but its not going to happen on a dating app, which means you better have the nutsack to approach them in public.
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Same for me. But zero dates and only about 6 messages, all but 1 being a bot, and she didnt reply back

Makes me want to [ToS]. Online was a mistake
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No_U_L7 posted...

MFBKBass5 posted...

Ive used dating apps on and off for years since 2013. Its really NOT that hard to find dates and matches.

Either the dude is super ugly or really terrible at making interesting conversation.

Ive matched with hundreds of girls. Ended up ghosting a fair amount of them myself because I get bored fast. But I dont try and set up dates often, honestly. Too exhausting.

I know some dudes who literally meet a new girl every night from them. Short convos, just instantly invite out for drinks. Dont waste time messaging on the apps.

that's white privilege for you. i'm asian, only swipe right on white girls and got no matches. i deleted the app after 2 months

>complains girls don't swipe right on Asians
>only swipes right for white girls himself
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No_U_L7 posted...

MFBKBass5 posted...

Ive used dating apps on and off for years since 2013. Its really NOT that hard to find dates and matches.

Either the dude is super ugly or really terrible at making interesting conversation.

Ive matched with hundreds of girls. Ended up ghosting a fair amount of them myself because I get bored fast. But I dont try and set up dates often, honestly. Too exhausting.

I know some dudes who literally meet a new girl every night from them. Short convos, just instantly invite out for drinks. Dont waste time messaging on the apps.

that's white privilege for you. i'm asian, only swipe right on white girls and got no matches. i deleted the app after 2 months

Asian women are better anyway .
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Thanatophobic posted...

Not to be mean or anything, but it's highly suspect on who's tinder that is based on your username.

Again, not to offend, I just found that coincidence funny.

Its from r/dataisbeautiful

I dont know what swipe right or left means, but for those of you that swipe in the direction where you pass on a girl, is it strictly because of their race? Or is it like "wow, what a nose..."?
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I only really pass on really fat girls, really pretty girls, and people that are already in a relationship. Then before I Like the ones I do, I read their bio and take it from there

I'm am very picky, but only because I think so many of them are out of my league that I don't even try to get the ones if find really attractive
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codey posted...

No_U_L7 posted...

MFBKBass5 posted...

Ive used dating apps on and off for years since 2013. Its really NOT that hard to find dates and matches.

Either the dude is super ugly or really terrible at making interesting conversation.

Ive matched with hundreds of girls. Ended up ghosting a fair amount of them myself because I get bored fast. But I dont try and set up dates often, honestly. Too exhausting.

I know some dudes who literally meet a new girl every night from them. Short convos, just instantly invite out for drinks. Dont waste time messaging on the apps.

that's white privilege for you. i'm asian, only swipe right on white girls and got no matches. i deleted the app after 2 months

>complains girls don't swipe right on Asians
>only swipes right for white girls himself

People are allowed to have sexual preferences. Both men and women. I'm just saying only white dudes will ever say "tinder isnt that hard".
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I live a few minutes away from a major city, so back when I was on Tinder almost every single person that showed up was either an escort, spambot, visiting foreign student, or a model.
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I've been using for 2 years with 0 dates.

75 matches

Ive met like 5 girls in my 3 years of using tinder, like 8 dates total. None have gone anywhere. Probably hopeless but whatever
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SmidgeIsntBack posted...

Man who keeps meticulous stats on his hookup app wonders why he is alone.

You can ask Tinder for the data.
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