Poll of the Day > You think you'll ever have kids?

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Moonjay posted...

Trialia posted...

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ParanoidObsessive posted...

I've spent the last 20 years defiantly refusing to ever have kids. It's one of the first conversations I ever had with my girlfriend when we started getting serious about our relationship (the other being my refusal to ever get married). Fortunately, she was of more or less the same mindset, so it wasn't a conflict for us.

In fact, if I remember correctly, I think her reaction was along the lines of "Oh god, I don't want a baby growing inside me like some kind of alien parasite that comes busting out after nine months", which was the point when I knew it was indeed True Love.

I feel the same way.

I knew I didn't want kids when I was 11 and I've never ever ever gotten even close to changing my mind.

Same here, though I was 12. (I used to babysit a lot. It's enough to put you off for life if you have any leanings that way!)

I couldn't carry a pregnancy to term even if I wanted to, between PCOS & hEDS, I'd be paralysed from the waist down if I did manage it. I'm already sufficiently disabled to need help with basic tasks for myself, not to mention MH issues, so I have no qualms in admitting I know I'd make a lousy parent. I get tired of people claiming I'll change my mind, though.

I have PCOS too. I also don't have periods unless I'm taking birth control and it's really likely that I don't even ovulate. Sometimes when people got rude while trying to convince me I'll change my mind, I brought that out to make them feel bad. You want me to want kids that I probably can't have, huh?

Even if I did want kids, I knew I was not mentally well enough to do so. Long before I ever got diagnosed with anything, long before most people who knew me would admit that I was unwell. Now that I've been diagnosed with severe bipolar and have been in the mental hospital because of it, I feel like... Yup, told you so.

And then of course there's the multiple sclerosis now. It would be ludicrous and moronic to try to raise any child the way I am.

Though I haven't had anyone try to convince me to have kids in a long time. It probably has to do with the fact that I'm 37, and even the baby crazy don't necessarily encourage having kids near or after 40. LOL.

All sounds so familiar...!

On top of PCOS, I too have bipolar disorder - NOS, with psychotic episodes and auditory hallucinations - plus OCD & PTSD. I don't have MS, but I do have hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, and given that that tends to get worse when passed from parent to child (with 50% heritability) I wouldn't care to take that risk. Especially since it's severe enough in my own generation (my one bio sibling also has it) that I was a wheelchair user by 25... Isn't it so fun working these things out?
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I already have a daughter, but I'm horribly lazy and don't think I could handle another.

I already have kids.


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