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05/31/19 10:40:58 AM
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I almost feel traumatized... ugh

I can still feel him on me, omfg its so disgusting

The whole thing was horrible. Zero chemistry on my part. I was repulsed by every part of his body somehow. It doesn't make sense, I've slept with much worse looking guys, it was just so disgusting for some reason. And then he went all the way and it felt like a medical procedure, ugh ugh ugh. I should have revoked consent and just left but I was trying to be nice. I feel so disgusting

This post is incoherent because I'm that shaken up. What the fuck

I've had great sex before, I don't understand this. He even looked fine and like someone I would normally sleep with, but something about him just repulsed me.

He literally messaged me a couple minutes ago too. Wtf i really hope he doesnt want to stay in contact w me because that's not happening

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05/31/19 10:44:42 AM
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Zangulus posted...

This post makes about as much sense as my brain right now
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NeonOctopus
05/31/19 10:47:09 AM
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05/31/19 10:51:17 AM
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NeonOctopus posted...
How many inches?

He seemed average sized, like 6 inches. If it were bigger it would have been worse, though.
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eston
05/31/19 10:56:42 AM
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Zangulus posted...
He probably has diabetes and had just taken his insulin. You should have punctured the back of his skull and left the corpse in the hot tub.

Finally, a voice of reason
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Psyonix
05/31/19 10:58:36 AM
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Sorry about the experience.

Best to try and suppress the memories I suggest lots of alcohol probably a weekend binge
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NeonOctopus
05/31/19 10:59:08 AM
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If it were bigger it would have been worse, though.

*bzzt* Does not compute
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05/31/19 11:15:56 AM
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Him: "I hope it wasn't super awkward lol you are a very nice and cute guy"

He wanted me to be honest if I wasn't interested... but if I told him the full extent of how I feel now....

I guess I should just be like "Sorry, it was a bad experience and I'm not interested." Right?
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05/31/19 11:16:56 AM
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NeonOctopus posted...
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If it were bigger it would have been worse, though.

*bzzt* Does not compute

some people don't like to go deep 08
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Psyonix
05/31/19 11:17:44 AM
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Him: "I hope it wasn't super awkward lol you are a very nice and cute guy"

He wanted me to be honest if I wasn't interested... but if I told him the full extent of how I feel now....

I guess I should just be like "Sorry, it was a bad experience and I'm not interested." Right?


Better to just be upfront and honest
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NeonOctopus
05/31/19 11:21:31 AM
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Him: "I hope it wasn't super awkward lol you are a very nice and cute guy"

He wanted me to be honest if I wasn't interested... but if I told him the full extent of how I feel now....

I guess I should just be like "Sorry, it was a bad experience and I'm not interested." Right?

Just be upfront and be like "Look dawg, shit sucked and I don't want to know you anymore. Deuces, bitch!" And then block him >_>
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05/31/19 11:24:14 AM
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Makeveli_lives
05/31/19 11:24:49 AM
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Oh tc is a dude.

But yeah tell him the chemistry wasn't there. He'll be in another dude within the hour because of grinder.
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05/31/19 1:22:11 PM
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Feeling better now...

Told him the chemistry wasn't there and I wasn't interested. I feel less grossed out now that I took a shower, rinsed out my mouth, etc., and ate.

I'm actually starting to forget how grossed out I was already, but jeez....never had worse chemistry with someoke ever.
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yillin
05/31/19 1:36:03 PM
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That sounds better. I was afraid you were going to say it was a bad experience. That's not really what a person who is trying to find a relationship wants to hear. But saying there was no chemistry is really good.
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Awesome
05/31/19 1:39:49 PM
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in order to see if people are compatible they have to meet in person first, you cant tell what vibes people have through a computer screen.
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05/31/19 1:47:23 PM
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Awesome posted...
in order to see if people are compatible they have to meet in person first, you cant tell what vibes people have through a computer screen.

True I guess, it's been fine other times though. It's not like this is my first time doing this, although it has been nearly 6 months.
metallica846 posted...
How's your b-hole?

Fine I got a shower and I feel fine now. Don't get what people find so great about bottoming though, this is yet another in a long list of times where it felt like I was getting a medical procedure.
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Lost_All_Senses
05/31/19 1:52:19 PM
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If you told him all this it would probably traumatize him as well. I think most people would of rather you said something than make someone else feel the way you describe. I think the media has led people to be scared that stopping in the middle of sex will get you raped or murdered 100% of the time. When most likely it will just lead to someone maybe being upset and leaving to not stay in the awkwardness. You should communicate next time but obviously don't go into details like you did here with them.

Then again I wasn't there so you might of read something in the room Im not aware of
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Chicken
05/31/19 1:55:04 PM
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This is why youre supposed to take time to actually get to know someone before letting them deposit their seed in your rear.
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Psyonix
05/31/19 2:06:07 PM
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Chicken posted...
This is why youre supposed to take time to actually get to know someone before letting them deposit their seed in your rear.


Wheres the fun and adventure in that tho
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05/31/19 2:07:22 PM
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Chicken posted...
This is why youre supposed to take time to actually get to know someone before letting them deposit their seed in your rear.

Wasn't my idea to fuck the first time we met... he kind of pressured me into it, but I should have communicated.

I probably won't ever do it on the first meeting again after this
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NeonOctopus
05/31/19 2:20:07 PM
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Chicken posted...
This is why youre supposed to take time to actually get to know someone before letting them deposit their seed in your rear.

Nah fuck that
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Coastal_elite
05/31/19 3:19:33 PM
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I almost feel traumatized... ugh

I can still feel him on me, omfg its so disgusting

The whole thing was horrible. Zero chemistry on my part. I was repulsed by every part of his body somehow. It doesn't make sense, I've slept with much worse looking guys, it was just so disgusting for some reason. And then he went all the way and it felt like a medical procedure, ugh ugh ugh. I should have revoked consent and just left but I was trying to be nice. I feel so disgusting

This post is incoherent because I'm that shaken up. What the fuck

I've had great sex before, I don't understand this. He even looked fine and like someone I would normally sleep with, but something about him just repulsed me.

He literally messaged me a couple minutes ago too. Wtf i really hope he doesnt want to stay in contact w me because that's not happening

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Changing your mind is 100% fine. It's a right you have and totally fine to do it.

The way you said it, though, it makes it sound like you considered getting the guy in trouble and get him into the sex offender list or something.

Your message reeks of... disgust towards the poor guy. Chemistry is a thing. But he did nothing wrong, and he probably has no idea you hate him.

You're acting as if you were some sort of sexual assault victim here.... it's scary. It sucks to be a guy, I guess, you can be as nice as you can and you'll still be hated and probably end in trouble because people have weird thoughts like this.
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Lost_All_Senses
05/31/19 3:22:07 PM
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Coastal_elite posted...
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I almost feel traumatized... ugh

I can still feel him on me, omfg its so disgusting

The whole thing was horrible. Zero chemistry on my part. I was repulsed by every part of his body somehow. It doesn't make sense, I've slept with much worse looking guys, it was just so disgusting for some reason. And then he went all the way and it felt like a medical procedure, ugh ugh ugh. I should have revoked consent and just left but I was trying to be nice. I feel so disgusting

This post is incoherent because I'm that shaken up. What the fuck

I've had great sex before, I don't understand this. He even looked fine and like someone I would normally sleep with, but something about him just repulsed me.

He literally messaged me a couple minutes ago too. Wtf i really hope he doesnt want to stay in contact w me because that's not happening

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Changing your mind is 100% fine. It's a right you have and totally fine to do it.

The way you said it, though, it makes it sound like you considered getting the guy in trouble and get him into the sex offender list or something.

Your message reeks of... disgust towards the poor guy. Chemistry is a thing. But he did nothing wrong, and he probably has no idea you hate him.

You're acting as if you were some sort of sexual assault victim here.... it's scary. It sucks to be a guy, I guess, you can be as nice as you can and you'll still be hated and probably end in trouble because people have weird thoughts like this.


If you pump one extra time before it registers that the person took back consent, is it rape?
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KStateKing17
05/31/19 3:29:00 PM
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I had a similar experience the other night. It was with an older guy that wanted to hookup with me for a long time. I was horny and drunk enough that night to go ahead but it was so bad. He kept pushing for anal after multiple times I told him no. The oral was terrible. I left without an orgasm and contemplated sprinkling rat poison on my cereal for going through that.
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05/31/19 3:33:16 PM
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Coastal_elite posted...
The way you said it, though, it makes it sound like you considered getting the guy in trouble and get him into the sex offender list or something.

No, I never considered anything like this. He didn't do anything wrong, it was me who 'did something wrong' if anything. I just never have been so repulsed by someone. I literally wanted to throw up multiple times during the experience and I just felt so dirty and gross. I guess I did have some ill will towards the guy at first because he kept pointing out how unhappy I was but didn't think of stopping. However, I was the one who should have communicated that I was unhappy.

Afterward I honestly kind of wondered if anyone has felt that way towards me before (they probably have lol).
Coastal_elite posted...
Your message reeks of... disgust towards the poor guy. Chemistry is a thing. But he did nothing wrong, and he probably has no idea you hate him.

I did feel a lot of disgust toward him, and I don't know why. That's the thing... I have no idea why. I don't hate him, I was just so repulsed by him... I felt bad that I was so repulsed.

Coastal_elite posted...
You're acting as if you were some sort of sexual assault victim here.... it's scary. It sucks to be a guy, I guess, you can be as nice as you can and you'll still be hated and probably end in trouble because people have weird thoughts like this.

I don't hate him, I wasn't a sexual assault victim, but it did feel horrible. I was so shaken up afterwards because of how horrible it was. I didn't think I was capable of feeling so repulsed by someone. I'm not exaggerating when I say that I nearly threw up twice during it and then again after I left his place. There was no reason for me to feel repulsed, and I don't get why I was. It's possible that there is some underlying issue with me, it's been a few months since I've been with anyone, so idk.

When I said I should have 'revoked consent' i just meant that I should have asked to stop. Sorry to frame it in that way, I guess it does sound like I was a rape victim or something, which I wasn't.

I wouldn't get him in trouble, everything was consensual, I just failed to communicate because I was trying to be nice.
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05/31/19 3:34:57 PM
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KStateKing17 posted...
I had a similar experience the other night. It was with an older guy that wanted to hookup with me for a long time. I was horny and drunk enough that night to go ahead but it was so bad. He kept pushing for anal after multiple times I told him no. The oral was terrible. I left without an orgasm and contemplated sprinkling rat poison on my cereal for going through that.

I don't get it. I thought this guy looked decent enough, I'm not sure why I was so repulsed... He's basically the same type of guy I normally fuck
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Lost_All_Senses
05/31/19 3:36:09 PM
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I've been framed
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KStateKing17
05/31/19 3:38:31 PM
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KStateKing17 posted...
I had a similar experience the other night. It was with an older guy that wanted to hookup with me for a long time. I was horny and drunk enough that night to go ahead but it was so bad. He kept pushing for anal after multiple times I told him no. The oral was terrible. I left without an orgasm and contemplated sprinkling rat poison on my cereal for going through that.

I don't get it. I thought this guy looked decent enough, I'm not sure why I was so repulsed... He's basically the same type of guy I normally fuck

Sometimes just having your boxes checked isn't enough. If you both don't click and you just kind of get ot over with you feel bad afterwards.
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Steve Nick
05/31/19 3:43:09 PM
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It was probably an odor issue. You probably didn't like the way he smelled.
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05/31/19 3:45:27 PM
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Lost_All_Senses posted...
I've been framed

sorry, I fixed it
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Coastal_elite
05/31/19 9:36:55 PM
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Lost_All_Senses posted...
Coastal_elite posted...
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I almost feel traumatized... ugh

I can still feel him on me, omfg its so disgusting

The whole thing was horrible. Zero chemistry on my part. I was repulsed by every part of his body somehow. It doesn't make sense, I've slept with much worse looking guys, it was just so disgusting for some reason. And then he went all the way and it felt like a medical procedure, ugh ugh ugh. I should have revoked consent and just left but I was trying to be nice. I feel so disgusting

This post is incoherent because I'm that shaken up. What the fuck

I've had great sex before, I don't understand this. He even looked fine and like someone I would normally sleep with, but something about him just repulsed me.

He literally messaged me a couple minutes ago too. Wtf i really hope he doesnt want to stay in contact w me because that's not happening

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Changing your mind is 100% fine. It's a right you have and totally fine to do it.

The way you said it, though, it makes it sound like you considered getting the guy in trouble and get him into the sex offender list or something.

Your message reeks of... disgust towards the poor guy. Chemistry is a thing. But he did nothing wrong, and he probably has no idea you hate him.

You're acting as if you were some sort of sexual assault victim here.... it's scary. It sucks to be a guy, I guess, you can be as nice as you can and you'll still be hated and probably end in trouble because people have weird thoughts like this.


If you pump one extra time before it registers that the person took back consent, is it rape?


according to Lena Dunham,if you're done having sex, you both kiss each other good night, then a month later she decided she didn't feel like giving consent retroactively it's rape too... for real
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Guy_Fieri
05/31/19 9:37:55 PM
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Steve Nick posted...
It was probably an odor issue. You probably didn't like the way he smelled.

He probably farted during it.
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Coastal_elite
05/31/19 9:39:24 PM
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@0-0-0-0-0-0-0-0 posted...
I did feel a lot of disgust toward him, and I don't know why. That's the thing... I have no idea why. I don't hate him, I was just so repulsed by him... I felt bad that I was so repulsed.


Gotcha.

What happened to you is a thing, it's called "sexual incompatibility". The term has been over-used to the term it's lost meaning, but in reality it is reserved for cases like this.

Basically your chemistry with him is highly incompatible. He could look like the guy who played Thor and you'd still be disgusted by him, this reaction happens in the chemical/biological level.

Sorry to hear it happened to you
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