Current Events > CE, what kind of parents did you have growing up?

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did you have s***ty mothers/fathers or were they good and caring to you?

Father who spent all day sitting on his chair doing nothing and unable to have a conversation outside of just giving one word answers and just repeating what you just said by putting it in other words

Mom who is super paranoid and thinks everyone is trying to murder her

I'm not even kidding
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Fantastic parents tbh, they are the best
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I had busy and strict parents who didn't like to put up with shit.

Hated them when I was a child but now I'm super happy I'm not a liability to society. Good job mom and dad!
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Both of my parents were biologists who took me around the world on their research adventures. Once I was old enough, they kind of let me do my own thing while they worked. We lived in Africa for about 3 years where I befriended a monkey.
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my parents mostly did their own thing and because of that, I was mostly able to do my own thing.

it was only really annoying when they arbitrarily tried to establish some limits but then would go back to not really enforcing them

but besides that, they were good parents. they're loving people
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frozenshock posted...

Mom who is super paranoid and thinks everyone is trying to murder her

A lot of people feel this way.
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frozenshock posted...

Father who spent all day sitting on his chair doing nothing and unable to have a conversation outside of just giving one word answers and just repeating what you just said by putting it in other words

At least he didn't mimic you in a high pitched voice.
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My mother tried to be good, but my father was very abusive to her and to me(not to my brother though). She'd often end up hurting me herself so he wouldn't, as a way to "protect" us both from him. Tons of emotional and mental abuse, with a healthy dose of physical tossed in too. Was taught that I'm worthless scum from early childhood, that I don't deserve to live, and that I'll never be good enough for anyone to love or care about me.

...so far he's been right, and I hate myself for it.
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Mom was great, an absolute angel. Shed take care of me and give me freedom but also set some laws and disciplined me accordingly because she knew it would help me out in the long run. We have similar personalities so she knew right away how to handle whatever situation I threw at her. Everyone from teachers to friends to strangers would tell me how good of a job my mom was doing from the way she treated me.

Dad has been absent for the most part.
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Both good.

Dad left some emotional scars but he did his best.
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Try their best for me but dont always understand our differences. I love them.

My siblings are much better st bridging things.

Parents didnt move for me, or help with accommodations, so life was hard but I think Im better this way?

Idk.

I still have a semester of high school so I still have them gladly!
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KogaSteelfang posted...

My mother tried to be good, but my father was very abusive to her and to me(not to my brother though). She'd often end up hurting me herself so he wouldn't, as a way to "protect" us both from him. Tons of emotional and mental abuse, with a healthy dose of physical tossed in too. Was taught that I'm worthless scum from early childhood, that I don't deserve to live, and that I'll never be good enough for anyone to love or care about me.

...so far he's been right, and I hate myself for it.

bro, that's not how it works. You've been raised on that mentality but it's your choice on conforming to it...

My parents have both been fantastic and have truly set me up for success in my life.
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Mom was no nonsense. Not real strict, but consequences were real and if you fucked up you had them. She did a great job.

Dad wasnt around, drunk that ditched when i was too young to remember.
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Very intelligent and caring but usually stoned dad, didn't really pull his weight around the house but also did far too much for me that I should have been learning to do myself. He's changed a lot for the better and we have a great relationship, one of my favourite people.

Mother with anger issues but also really caring at the same time, sadly she had cancer for most of my childhood before dying when I was 14.

Both of my parents had tough lives and wanted to do their best for me, but I was a difficult child (aspergers, depression, psychotic episodes). Still I love them both dearly and miss my mum a lot.

My parents were pretty awful growing up.

Mother was emotionally and verbally abusive to me. Even told me to go kill myself.
I only have one memory of her not constantly being angry and screaming (which brings me to tears even thinking about it; Id give anything for her to be that person today)
Never knew if something I said wrong would piss her off; there were many times where I would feel intense fear because I conveyed the wrong tone and she took it as me being disrespectful
Blamed me for how she treated me.
I remember once she accidentally slammed my leg in a car door and she said it was my fault because I was rude and usually jumped out first. Once when I was little I backed into her lit cigarette and she got mad. Another gem of hers is claiming I wanted a pet to be put down so I could get another one. I was like 10, maybe 11? I was deeply attached to all of my pets (they were all I had) and that stung so bad. Also told my niece ever since she was little that I hated her. Not true at all.
They always threatened to put me in juvie which seemed tangible given my father was in law enforcement.
I hid my mental illness because they always threatened to have me committed and that scared me so bad - I thought I would never see the outside world if that happened. So I suffered silently.
I was also homeschooled, the burden of teaching me lied on my mother so....that was awful. Plus I never got out of the house to make friends and anytime I would complain she would tell me that running errands with them (which was pretty much just going to the store from time to time) was enough socializing. Called me a slut at the age of 14 for talking to boys the same age online (at this point nothing was sexual)
I had no privacy until I was like 18. They even removed my door at one point.
My father enables her abusiveness.
I still live with them and she regularly threatens to kick me out knowing full well I have no where to go and no car at the moment, so i try to hide in my room and avoid her in case I breathe the wrong way (not exaggerating) and she threatens to kick me out.
Trying to get out by mid February or so.
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My dad bounced right before I turned 3 so I don't remember him as a dad. I just remember him as the person who helped make me. Met him about once a year and he was usually good about child support AFAIK.

My mom raised me wholesale. She basically had to fill both roles of mom and dad, best she could. She wasn't perfect but she did about as well as one could expect, given what she had. She wasn't super strict but she was far from a pushover. She was big on "all actions have consequences, whatever they may be and you have to suffer the consequences of your actions instead of shirking them"
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Mackorov posted...

KogaSteelfang posted...

My mother tried to be good, but my father was very abusive to her and to me(not to my brother though). She'd often end up hurting me herself so he wouldn't, as a way to "protect" us both from him. Tons of emotional and mental abuse, with a healthy dose of physical tossed in too. Was taught that I'm worthless scum from early childhood, that I don't deserve to live, and that I'll never be good enough for anyone to love or care about me.

...so far he's been right, and I hate myself for it.

bro, that's not how it works. You've been raised on that mentality but it's your choice on conforming to it...

That just proves it further. My life sucks and I'm too pathetic to make the changes I need. It's all my fault, and I'm living the life I deserve because of that. There's just a few things I want out of life, and I can't even seem to get close to any of it. It all feels pointless.
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Amazing parents of which my only gripe is that they were too sheltering.
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parents did their thing which allowed my siblings and i to figure it out on our own pretty much - just as a previous post pointed out. dad did his thing too much for mom so they ended up separating while i was in high school.

never questioned if they loved the family though.

today my parents are back together again despite being legally divorced. dad never had eyes for anyone else, just mom. my dad is supercharming af though. he can lighten the mood in a room with ease. hes the guy everyone likes. my mom cant stand him for his bad habit but she laughs with my dad a lot.
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Mine weren't perfect (they both made mistakes in their lives and weren't particularly successful) but I think they did the best that they could. We didn't always see eye to eye on everything, but I didn't have any reason to doubt that they cared for me.
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i had really good parents. i was given room to explore and make mistakes and grow. they were active in my life but not suffocating.
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They were ignorant and suffocating, and pretty much only kept me around as uneducated free labor until they died.

As a result I've ended up mentally and emotionally stunted to the point of being worthless because I don't really know how to act with effective autonomy, I literally can not adult.
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