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maoriwarrior 12/15/18 11:19:44 AM #1:	As some of you may or may not remember, I fell hard asf for this girl. Weve dated for six months. Well, we more or less ended it thru text. She had brought up that she thought about asking for space/time. I took GFAQS advice and just went and did my own thing. Me and my roomie hit some clubs and had a good time. Then that night she hit me with the lets talk in person. So we did yesterday. She told me she feels awful for dragging me through her baggage. How she hates herself for it. She also told me shes has leftover feelings for an ex. Said ex has been out of her life for a while. I couldnt be mad tho, because a lot of us still have leftover feelings for an ex, including myself. So we talked and it seems kosher. Shes been incredibly depressed over the whole situation. Thoughts? --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914165550] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>As some of you may or may not remember, I fell hard asf for this girl. Weve dated for six months. Well, we more or less ended it thru text. She had brought up that she thought about asking for space/time. I took GFAQS advice and just went and did my own thing. Me and my roomie hit some clubs and had a good time. Then that night she hit me with the lets talk in person. So we did yesterday. She told me she feels awful for dragging me through her baggage. How she hates herself for it. She also told me shes has leftover feelings for an ex. Said ex has been out of her life for a while. I couldnt be mad tho, because a lot of us still have leftover feelings for an ex, including myself. So we talked and it seems kosher. Shes been incredibly depressed over the whole situation. Thoughts?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MrK3V 12/15/18 11:20:23 AM #2:	um, leave --- Bangers https://open.spotify.com/user/1226504071/playlist/3X4SSY5tgxTTgdwlkmoH9F <cite>MrK3V posted [p:914165576] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>um, leave</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
teepan95 12/15/18 11:21:17 AM #3:	Wait for a bit before getting closer to her again, imo --- I use Gameraven and you should too. http://error1355.com/ce/teepan95.html <cite>teepan95 posted [p:914165606] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>Wait for a bit before getting closer to her again, imo</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Genocet_10-325 12/15/18 11:22:39 AM #4:	MrK3V posted... um, leave --- No one triggers the Trumpanzees quite like you do - Bullet_Wing Conservatism is a plague on society. Formerly known as The_Great_Geno. <cite>Genocet_10-325 posted [p:914165660] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>MrK3V posted...</cite> <quote>um, leave</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/15/18 11:42:11 AM #5:	MrK3V posted... um, leave @MrK3V Why tho? Legit asking --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914166411] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>MrK3V posted...</cite> <quote>um, leave</quote> @MrK3V Why tho? Legit asking</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MrK3V 12/15/18 11:45:26 AM #6:	You both have left over feelings. You are clouding your judgement. It's sounding like you both are trying to fill a void with just someone, instead of someone who is right for you. --- Bangers https://open.spotify.com/user/1226504071/playlist/3X4SSY5tgxTTgdwlkmoH9F <cite>MrK3V posted [p:914166561] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>You both have left over feelings. You are clouding your judgement. It's sounding like you both are trying to fill a void with just someone, instead of someone who is right for you.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Parappa09 12/15/18 11:46:22 AM #7:	i mean my gut instinct is saying for you to leave and not speak to her until she feels more stable with how she feels about her ex without knowing more about her, it's hard to tell and it's even harder since you said you also have leftover feelings for an ex. you should get yourself more out there and have fun first, rather than getting into another relationship --- http://error1355.com/ce/Parappa09.html <cite>Parappa09 posted [p:914166598] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>i mean my gut instinct is saying for you to leave and not speak to her until she feels more stable with how she feels about her ex without knowing more about her, it's hard to tell and it's even harder since you said you also have leftover feelings for an ex. you should get yourself more out there and have fun first, rather than getting into another relationship</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/15/18 11:59:49 AM #8:	MrK3V posted... You both have left over feelings. You are clouding your judgement. It's sounding like you both are trying to fill a void with just someone, instead of someone who is right for you. Youre not wrong. Parappa09 posted... i mean my gut instinct is saying for you to leave and not speak to her until she feels more stable with how she feels about her ex without knowing more about her, it's hard to tell and it's even harder since you said you also have leftover feelings for an ex. you should get yourself more out there and have fun first, rather than getting into another relationship What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her? --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914167130] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>MrK3V posted...</cite> <quote>You both have left over feelings. You are clouding your judgement. It's sounding like you both are trying to fill a void with just someone, instead of someone who is right for you.</quote> Youre not wrong. <cite>Parappa09 posted...</cite> <quote>i mean my gut instinct is saying for you to leave and not speak to her until she feels more stable with how she feels about her ex without knowing more about her, it's hard to tell and it's even harder since you said you also have leftover feelings for an ex. you should get yourself more out there and have fun first, rather than getting into another relationship</quote> What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Parappa09 12/15/18 12:09:46 PM #9:	maoriwarrior posted... What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her? i'm not sure, it's hard to pin down exactly but i'd need to get the feel of her. i'm quite initivie when i meet people, so i'd be able to see how genuine she is, how honest she is, etc when i initially met my bf, he still had feelings for his ex. but they weren't as deep as it sounds like for the both of you. it also wasn't much of an issue since he was unhappy that he still had feelings and was 100% ready to move on. it helped since we were dating, spending lots of time together and almost about to graduate and move city, so it was in the past --- http://error1355.com/ce/Parappa09.html <cite>Parappa09 posted [p:914167552] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her?</quote> i'm not sure, it's hard to pin down exactly but i'd need to get the feel of her. i'm quite initivie when i meet people, so i'd be able to see how genuine she is, how honest she is, etc when i initially met my bf, he still had feelings for his ex. but they weren't as deep as it sounds like for the both of you. it also wasn't much of an issue since he was unhappy that he still had feelings and was 100% ready to move on. it helped since we were dating, spending lots of time together and almost about to graduate and move city, so it was in the past</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/15/18 1:35:38 PM #10:	Parappa09 posted... maoriwarrior posted... What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her? i'm not sure, it's hard to pin down exactly but i'd need to get the feel of her. i'm quite initivie when i meet people, so i'd be able to see how genuine she is, how honest she is, etc when i initially met my bf, he still had feelings for his ex. but they weren't as deep as it sounds like for the both of you. it also wasn't much of an issue since he was unhappy that he still had feelings and was 100% ready to move on. it helped since we were dating, spending lots of time together and almost about to graduate and move city, so it was in the past Shes very genuine and honest. She said she feels so awful because she feels like she was hiding it that she still cared about him. --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914170941] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>Parappa09 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her?</quote> i'm not sure, it's hard to pin down exactly but i'd need to get the feel of her. i'm quite initivie when i meet people, so i'd be able to see how genuine she is, how honest she is, etc when i initially met my bf, he still had feelings for his ex. but they weren't as deep as it sounds like for the both of you. it also wasn't much of an issue since he was unhappy that he still had feelings and was 100% ready to move on. it helped since we were dating, spending lots of time together and almost about to graduate and move city, so it was in the past</quote> Shes very genuine and honest. She said she feels so awful because she feels like she was hiding it that she still cared about him.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
refmon 12/15/18 1:37:03 PM #11:	maoriwarrior posted... Parappa09 posted... maoriwarrior posted... What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her? i'm not sure, it's hard to pin down exactly but i'd need to get the feel of her. i'm quite initivie when i meet people, so i'd be able to see how genuine she is, how honest she is, etc when i initially met my bf, he still had feelings for his ex. but they weren't as deep as it sounds like for the both of you. it also wasn't much of an issue since he was unhappy that he still had feelings and was 100% ready to move on. it helped since we were dating, spending lots of time together and almost about to graduate and move city, so it was in the past Shes very genuine and honest. She said she feels so awful because she feels like she was hiding it that she still cared about him. --- If you read this signature, then that meant that I had control of what you read for 5 SECONDS!! <cite>refmon posted [p:914170986] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Parappa09 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her?</quote> i'm not sure, it's hard to pin down exactly but i'd need to get the feel of her. i'm quite initivie when i meet people, so i'd be able to see how genuine she is, how honest she is, etc when i initially met my bf, he still had feelings for his ex. but they weren't as deep as it sounds like for the both of you. it also wasn't much of an issue since he was unhappy that he still had feelings and was 100% ready to move on. it helped since we were dating, spending lots of time together and almost about to graduate and move city, so it was in the past</quote> Shes very genuine and honest. She said she feels so awful because she feels like she was hiding it that she still cared about him.</quote></quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/15/18 2:21:57 PM #12:	refmon posted... maoriwarrior posted... Parappa09 posted... maoriwarrior posted... What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her? i'm not sure, it's hard to pin down exactly but i'd need to get the feel of her. i'm quite initivie when i meet people, so i'd be able to see how genuine she is, how honest she is, etc when i initially met my bf, he still had feelings for his ex. but they weren't as deep as it sounds like for the both of you. it also wasn't much of an issue since he was unhappy that he still had feelings and was 100% ready to move on. it helped since we were dating, spending lots of time together and almost about to graduate and move city, so it was in the past Shes very genuine and honest. She said she feels so awful because she feels like she was hiding it that she still cared about him. Youre right. God Im fucked up. --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914172917] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>refmon posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Parappa09 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her?</quote> i'm not sure, it's hard to pin down exactly but i'd need to get the feel of her. i'm quite initivie when i meet people, so i'd be able to see how genuine she is, how honest she is, etc when i initially met my bf, he still had feelings for his ex. but they weren't as deep as it sounds like for the both of you. it also wasn't much of an issue since he was unhappy that he still had feelings and was 100% ready to move on. it helped since we were dating, spending lots of time together and almost about to graduate and move city, so it was in the past</quote> Shes very genuine and honest. She said she feels so awful because she feels like she was hiding it that she still cared about him.</quote></quote> Youre right. God Im fucked up.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Parappa09 12/15/18 2:24:05 PM #13:	maoriwarrior posted... refmon posted... maoriwarrior posted... Parappa09 posted... maoriwarrior posted... What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her? i'm not sure, it's hard to pin down exactly but i'd need to get the feel of her. i'm quite initivie when i meet people, so i'd be able to see how genuine she is, how honest she is, etc when i initially met my bf, he still had feelings for his ex. but they weren't as deep as it sounds like for the both of you. it also wasn't much of an issue since he was unhappy that he still had feelings and was 100% ready to move on. it helped since we were dating, spending lots of time together and almost about to graduate and move city, so it was in the past Shes very genuine and honest. She said she feels so awful because she feels like she was hiding it that she still cared about him. Youre right. God Im fucked up. its cool man, youre allowed to be after tough break ups play the field, go clubbing with friends, sleep around, etc. but i would strongly advice against her or getting into another relationship rn --- http://error1355.com/ce/Parappa09.html <cite>Parappa09 posted [p:914173004] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote><cite>refmon posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Parappa09 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her?</quote> i'm not sure, it's hard to pin down exactly but i'd need to get the feel of her. i'm quite initivie when i meet people, so i'd be able to see how genuine she is, how honest she is, etc when i initially met my bf, he still had feelings for his ex. but they weren't as deep as it sounds like for the both of you. it also wasn't much of an issue since he was unhappy that he still had feelings and was 100% ready to move on. it helped since we were dating, spending lots of time together and almost about to graduate and move city, so it was in the past</quote> Shes very genuine and honest. She said she feels so awful because she feels like she was hiding it that she still cared about him.</quote></quote> Youre right. God Im fucked up.</quote> its cool man, youre allowed to be after tough break ups play the field, go clubbing with friends, sleep around, etc. but i would strongly advice against her or getting into another relationship rn</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/15/18 3:05:25 PM #14:	Parappa09 posted... maoriwarrior posted... refmon posted... maoriwarrior posted... Parappa09 posted... maoriwarrior posted... What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her? i'm not sure, it's hard to pin down exactly but i'd need to get the feel of her. i'm quite initivie when i meet people, so i'd be able to see how genuine she is, how honest she is, etc when i initially met my bf, he still had feelings for his ex. but they weren't as deep as it sounds like for the both of you. it also wasn't much of an issue since he was unhappy that he still had feelings and was 100% ready to move on. it helped since we were dating, spending lots of time together and almost about to graduate and move city, so it was in the past Shes very genuine and honest. She said she feels so awful because she feels like she was hiding it that she still cared about him. Youre right. God Im fucked up. its cool man, youre allowed to be after tough break ups play the field, go clubbing with friends, sleep around, etc. but i would strongly advice against her or getting into another relationship rn All I feel is pain rn tbh. And I have to fucking work today. --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914174863] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>Parappa09 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote><cite>refmon posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Parappa09 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>What would be some of the things that would change your thoughts if you knew more about her?</quote> i'm not sure, it's hard to pin down exactly but i'd need to get the feel of her. i'm quite initivie when i meet people, so i'd be able to see how genuine she is, how honest she is, etc when i initially met my bf, he still had feelings for his ex. but they weren't as deep as it sounds like for the both of you. it also wasn't much of an issue since he was unhappy that he still had feelings and was 100% ready to move on. it helped since we were dating, spending lots of time together and almost about to graduate and move city, so it was in the past</quote> Shes very genuine and honest. She said she feels so awful because she feels like she was hiding it that she still cared about him.</quote></quote> Youre right. God Im fucked up.</quote> its cool man, youre allowed to be after tough break ups play the field, go clubbing with friends, sleep around, etc. but i would strongly advice against her or getting into another relationship rn</quote> All I feel is pain rn tbh. And I have to fucking work today.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TheMikh 12/15/18 3:06:04 PM #15:	drop her --- https://imgur.com/A0TAfek <cite>TheMikh posted [p:914174901] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>drop her</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/15/18 6:10:28 PM #16:	TheMikh posted... drop her Ive been thinking about it. Like a lot. I mean, for fucks sake. She told me she loves me but she still loves the other guy. God damn did that hurt. I knew she did but just hearing her vocalize it has wrecked me. --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914183005] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>TheMikh posted...</cite> <quote>drop her</quote> Ive been thinking about it. Like a lot. I mean, for fucks sake. She told me she loves me but she still loves the other guy. God damn did that hurt. I knew she did but just hearing her vocalize it has wrecked me.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TheMikh 12/15/18 6:38:45 PM #17:	maoriwarrior posted... TheMikh posted... drop her Ive been thinking about it. Like a lot. I mean, for fucks sake. She told me she loves me but she still loves the other guy. God damn did that hurt. I knew she did but just hearing her vocalize it has wrecked me. She is human garbage and the sooner you sever all contact and move on, the better off you'll be. --- https://imgur.com/A0TAfek <cite>TheMikh posted [p:914184229] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote><cite>TheMikh posted...</cite> <quote>drop her</quote> Ive been thinking about it. Like a lot. I mean, for fucks sake. She told me she loves me but she still loves the other guy. God damn did that hurt. I knew she did but just hearing her vocalize it has wrecked me.</quote> She is human garbage and the sooner you sever all contact and move on, the better off you'll be.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bulletproofvita 12/15/18 6:41:32 PM #18:	TheMikh posted... maoriwarrior posted... TheMikh posted... drop her Ive been thinking about it. Like a lot. I mean, for fucks sake. She told me she loves me but she still loves the other guy. God damn did that hurt. I knew she did but just hearing her vocalize it has wrecked me. She is human garbage and the sooner you sever all contact and move on, the better off you'll be. Tend to agree.she doesn't respect you. It doesn't matter to her how much you care..... Sever, all, contact. --- Signatures are overrated. <cite>bulletproofvita posted [p:914184355] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>TheMikh posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote><cite>TheMikh posted...</cite> <quote>drop her</quote> Ive been thinking about it. Like a lot. I mean, for fucks sake. She told me she loves me but she still loves the other guy. God damn did that hurt. I knew she did but just hearing her vocalize it has wrecked me.</quote> She is human garbage and the sooner you sever all contact and move on, the better off you'll be.</quote> Tend to agree.she doesn't respect you. It doesn't matter to her how much you care..... Sever, all, contact.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AlisLandale 12/15/18 6:48:10 PM #19:	Who initiated the break up? Were you officially broken up when she approached you? Did you two get back together, or is it still in the air? Curious on these details. --- Since I'm not popular, I'll post on GameFAQs. https://i.imgtc.com/tRY2coU.gif <cite>AlisLandale posted [p:914184684] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>Who initiated the break up? Were you officially broken up when she approached you? Did you two get back together, or is it still in the air? Curious on these details.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/15/18 7:07:58 PM #20:	AlisLandale posted... Who initiated the break up? I more or less did. Were you officially broken up when she approached you? No. Did you two get back together, or is it still in the air? It never officially ended per se. but I feel like I at least accepted it. Curious on these details. @AlisLandale --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914185561] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>AlisLandale posted...</cite> <quote>Who initiated the break up? I more or less did. Were you officially broken up when she approached you? No. Did you two get back together, or is it still in the air? It never officially ended per se. but I feel like I at least accepted it. Curious on these details.</quote> @AlisLandale</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/15/18 7:08:30 PM #21:	TheMikh posted... maoriwarrior posted... TheMikh posted... drop her Ive been thinking about it. Like a lot. I mean, for fucks sake. She told me she loves me but she still loves the other guy. God damn did that hurt. I knew she did but just hearing her vocalize it has wrecked me. She is human garbage and the sooner you sever all contact and move on, the better off you'll be. Reasoning? Besides the above based on everything Ive said. Legit curious. --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914185588] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>TheMikh posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote><cite>TheMikh posted...</cite> <quote>drop her</quote> Ive been thinking about it. Like a lot. I mean, for fucks sake. She told me she loves me but she still loves the other guy. God damn did that hurt. I knew she did but just hearing her vocalize it has wrecked me.</quote> She is human garbage and the sooner you sever all contact and move on, the better off you'll be.</quote> Reasoning? Besides the above based on everything Ive said. Legit curious.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
smoke_break 12/15/18 7:17:49 PM #22:	Honestly I've heard this exact story like a million times and I've also experienced it myself. It's never going to work out. Just stop talking to her and move on with your life. Just saying this for your own good. The stress of dealing with a person like her will literally drive you mad. --- https://imgur.com/WTmIPt8 <cite>smoke_break posted [p:914186001] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>Honestly I've heard this exact story like a million times and I've also experienced it myself. It's never going to work out. Just stop talking to her and move on with your life. Just saying this for your own good. The stress of dealing with a person like her will literally drive you mad.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/15/18 7:26:17 PM #23:	smoke_break posted... Honestly I've heard this exact story like a million times and I've also experienced it myself. It's never going to work out. Just stop talking to her and move on with your life. Just saying this for your own good. The stress of dealing with a person like her will literally drive you mad. It already is. Sat in my room and cried like a bitch for an hour. Are there no success stories with something like this? --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914186370] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>smoke_break posted...</cite> <quote>Honestly I've heard this exact story like a million times and I've also experienced it myself. It's never going to work out. Just stop talking to her and move on with your life. Just saying this for your own good. The stress of dealing with a person like her will literally drive you mad.</quote> It already is. Sat in my room and cried like a bitch for an hour. Are there no success stories with something like this?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DanHarenChamp 12/15/18 7:37:53 PM #24:	Leftover feelings is not "baggage" so don't admit to having that, TC. If she still had some leftover feelings and those are slowly going away as she's realizing theres better out there, that logically that old relationship didn't work out, and that person is genuinely happy. Thats all normal and not "baggage". If she's constantly thinking bout him, can't get over him, feelings aren't downtrending, and its putting more stress on you and your current relationship. That is baggage and that is super annoying and you shouldn't have to deal with it. Like above posters, I have also been in this situation. "baggage" never goes away and drives you crazy over time. And even if you have a very high tolerance to bullshit like I did, she will drive herself crazy with all this bullshit and it will wear down on your relationship. What you once thought was happy and amazing ends up slowly going downhill. You'll find that she is doing more and more bullshit like not trusting you as she once did. (Its not that shes trusting you less, its that she was previously keeping it to herself to not seem crazy and now she can't hold it in). It'll wear you down to a breaking point inevitably. There are plenty of fish in the sea. If you have good friends, they'll know how to take care of you. Its not about going to a strip club or tryna have 1 night stands. Its just about spending quality time with your friends and quality time to yourself to just work on your own life and career. --- literally the pacers <cite>DanHarenChamp posted [p:914186935] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>Leftover feelings is not "baggage" so don't admit to having that, TC. If she still had some leftover feelings and those are slowly going away as she's realizing theres better out there, that logically that old relationship didn't work out, and that person is genuinely happy. Thats all normal and not "baggage". If she's constantly thinking bout him, can't get over him, feelings aren't downtrending, and its putting more stress on you and your current relationship. That is baggage and that is super annoying and you shouldn't have to deal with it. Like above posters, I have also been in this situation. "baggage" never goes away and drives you crazy over time. And even if you have a very high tolerance to bullshit like I did, she will drive herself crazy with all this bullshit and it will wear down on your relationship. What you once thought was happy and amazing ends up slowly going downhill. You'll find that she is doing more and more bullshit like not trusting you as she once did. (Its not that shes trusting you less, its that she was previously keeping it to herself to not seem crazy and now she can't hold it in). It'll wear you down to a breaking point inevitably. There are plenty of fish in the sea. If you have good friends, they'll know how to take care of you. Its not about going to a strip club or tryna have 1 night stands. Its just about spending quality time with your friends and quality time to yourself to just work on your own life and career.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/15/18 8:40:01 PM #25:	DanHarenChamp posted... Leftover feelings is not "baggage" so don't admit to having that, TC. If she still had some leftover feelings and those are slowly going away as she's realizing theres better out there, that logically that old relationship didn't work out, and that person is genuinely happy. Thats all normal and not "baggage". If she's constantly thinking bout him, can't get over him, feelings aren't downtrending, and its putting more stress on you and your current relationship. That is baggage and that is super annoying and you shouldn't have to deal with it. Like above posters, I have also been in this situation. "baggage" never goes away and drives you crazy over time. And even if you have a very high tolerance to bullshit like I did, she will drive herself crazy with all this bullshit and it will wear down on your relationship. What you once thought was happy and amazing ends up slowly going downhill. You'll find that she is doing more and more bullshit like not trusting you as she once did. (Its not that shes trusting you less, its that she was previously keeping it to herself to not seem crazy and now she can't hold it in). It'll wear you down to a breaking point inevitably. There are plenty of fish in the sea. If you have good friends, they'll know how to take care of you. Its not about going to a strip club or tryna have 1 night stands. Its just about spending quality time with your friends and quality time to yourself to just work on your own life and career. Very good point. She liked a picture today that a few months ago she wouldve sent to me as something sweet on IG. It read something like I cant I love you. I think of you all day long, morning, afternoon and night or something like that. Thats when I cried my face off. Because I knew she wasnt referencing me. So I sent her a text and asked who she had been thinking more about. Him or I. Yeah, I know, not ALPHA shit but I needed to know. She then followed up with why does it matter? What good will it do? Im with you. So I guess that answered my question. --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914189837] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>DanHarenChamp posted...</cite> <quote>Leftover feelings is not "baggage" so don't admit to having that, TC. If she still had some leftover feelings and those are slowly going away as she's realizing theres better out there, that logically that old relationship didn't work out, and that person is genuinely happy. Thats all normal and not "baggage". If she's constantly thinking bout him, can't get over him, feelings aren't downtrending, and its putting more stress on you and your current relationship. That is baggage and that is super annoying and you shouldn't have to deal with it. Like above posters, I have also been in this situation. "baggage" never goes away and drives you crazy over time. And even if you have a very high tolerance to bullshit like I did, she will drive herself crazy with all this bullshit and it will wear down on your relationship. What you once thought was happy and amazing ends up slowly going downhill. You'll find that she is doing more and more bullshit like not trusting you as she once did. (Its not that shes trusting you less, its that she was previously keeping it to herself to not seem crazy and now she can't hold it in). It'll wear you down to a breaking point inevitably. There are plenty of fish in the sea. If you have good friends, they'll know how to take care of you. Its not about going to a strip club or tryna have 1 night stands. Its just about spending quality time with your friends and quality time to yourself to just work on your own life and career.</quote> Very good point. She liked a picture today that a few months ago she wouldve sent to me as something sweet on IG. It read something like I cant I love you. I think of you all day long, morning, afternoon and night or something like that. Thats when I cried my face off. Because I knew she wasnt referencing me. So I sent her a text and asked who she had been thinking more about. Him or I. Yeah, I know, not ALPHA shit but I needed to know. She then followed up with why does it matter? What good will it do? Im with you. So I guess that answered my question.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bulletproofvita 12/15/18 8:59:13 PM #26:	Move on --- Signatures are overrated. <cite>bulletproofvita posted [p:914190745] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>Move on</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SpiralDrift 12/15/18 9:08:17 PM #27:	maoriwarrior posted... Very good point. She liked a picture today that a few months ago she wouldve sent to me as something sweet on IG. It read something like I cant I love you. I think of you all day long, morning, afternoon and night or something like that. Thats when I cried my face off. Because I knew she wasnt referencing me. So I sent her a text and asked who she had been thinking more about. Him or I. Yeah, I know, not ALPHA shit but I needed to know. She then followed up with why does it matter? What good will it do? Im with you. So I guess that answered my question. That's incredibly sad. It sounds like you already understand that she has nothing to offer you but heartache and feelings of inadequacy. If I were you I would cut her out of my life completely. It might seem drastic but you need to cut off those little moments of hope that keep pulling you back in. --- Bears are my spirit animal. The kings of the desert. No natural predators in water. They have fur sometimes. <cite>SpiralDrift posted [p:914191205] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>Very good point. She liked a picture today that a few months ago she wouldve sent to me as something sweet on IG. It read something like I cant I love you. I think of you all day long, morning, afternoon and night or something like that. Thats when I cried my face off. Because I knew she wasnt referencing me. So I sent her a text and asked who she had been thinking more about. Him or I. Yeah, I know, not ALPHA shit but I needed to know. She then followed up with why does it matter? What good will it do? Im with you. So I guess that answered my question.</quote> That's incredibly sad. It sounds like you already understand that she has nothing to offer you but heartache and feelings of inadequacy. If I were you I would cut her out of my life completely. It might seem drastic but you need to cut off those little moments of hope that keep pulling you back in.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DrizztLink 12/15/18 9:11:25 PM #28:	maoriwarrior posted... So we talked and it seems kosher. Shes been incredibly depressed over the whole situation. Thoughts? If you dump her now you'll disappoint that poor rabbi. --- http://guidesmedia.ign.com/guides/9846/images/slowpoke.gif https://imgur.com/6ezFwG1 <cite>DrizztLink posted [p:914191362] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>So we talked and it seems kosher. Shes been incredibly depressed over the whole situation. Thoughts?</quote> If you dump her now you'll disappoint that poor rabbi.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/15/18 9:12:17 PM #29:	bulletproofvita posted... Move on Easier said than done my friend. SpiralDrift posted... maoriwarrior posted... Very good point. She liked a picture today that a few months ago she wouldve sent to me as something sweet on IG. It read something like I cant I love you. I think of you all day long, morning, afternoon and night or something like that. Thats when I cried my face off. Because I knew she wasnt referencing me. So I sent her a text and asked who she had been thinking more about. Him or I. Yeah, I know, not ALPHA shit but I needed to know. She then followed up with why does it matter? What good will it do? Im with you. So I guess that answered my question. That's incredibly sad. It sounds like you already understand that she has nothing to offer you but heartache and feelings of inadequacy. If I were you I would cut her out of my life completely. It might seem drastic but you need to cut off those little moments of hope that keep pulling you back in. I think youre right. Ive gone through a divorce before that wasnt half as painful as this. --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914191389] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>bulletproofvita posted...</cite> <quote>Move on</quote> Easier said than done my friend. <cite>SpiralDrift posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>Very good point. She liked a picture today that a few months ago she wouldve sent to me as something sweet on IG. It read something like I cant I love you. I think of you all day long, morning, afternoon and night or something like that. Thats when I cried my face off. Because I knew she wasnt referencing me. So I sent her a text and asked who she had been thinking more about. Him or I. Yeah, I know, not ALPHA shit but I needed to know. She then followed up with why does it matter? What good will it do? Im with you. So I guess that answered my question.</quote> That's incredibly sad. It sounds like you already understand that she has nothing to offer you but heartache and feelings of inadequacy. If I were you I would cut her out of my life completely. It might seem drastic but you need to cut off those little moments of hope that keep pulling you back in.</quote> I think youre right. Ive gone through a divorce before that wasnt half as painful as this.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DanHarenChamp 12/15/18 10:31:25 PM #30:	maoriwarrior posted... She then followed up with why does it matter? What good will it do? Im with you. yea...that pretty much seals the deal tbqh bro. You could respond with, of course it matters, loyalty matters. I'll also tell you this, man. This is one of the very rare times that I've seen CE give actual good relationship advice and the person asking for advice is actually using the advice. I think you should take control of it and break this one off. I mean you dont have to be a douche about it and ghost her. But I would talk to her on the phone and break it off. You can explain yourself in as much detail as you want, but the end result is non-negotiable. --- literally the pacers <cite>DanHarenChamp posted [p:914195061] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>She then followed up with why does it matter? What good will it do? Im with you. </quote> yea...that pretty much seals the deal tbqh bro. You could respond with, of course it matters, loyalty matters. I'll also tell you this, man. This is one of the very rare times that I've seen CE give actual good relationship advice and the person asking for advice is actually using the advice. I think you should take control of it and break this one off. I mean you dont have to be a douche about it and ghost her. But I would talk to her on the phone and break it off. You can explain yourself in as much detail as you want, but the end result is non-negotiable.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ryuko_Chan 12/15/18 10:40:37 PM #31:	she seems like she doesnt love you bro Its like shes hungry, her ex is food, and youre a cigarette you can make her stomach stop hurting but you wont fill what she wants its not your fault though. and yeah like someone else said leftover feelings isnt the same as baggage --- https://i.imgtc.com/LCLKlZX.gif Life Fiber Kamui SENKETSU! <cite>Ryuko_Chan posted [p:914195499] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>she seems like she doesnt love you bro Its like shes hungry, her ex is food, and youre a cigarette you can make her stomach stop hurting but you wont fill what she wants its not your fault though. and yeah like someone else said leftover feelings isnt the same as baggage</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ultima Dragon 12/15/18 11:03:54 PM #32:	There's "leftover feelings," then there's still being clearly obsessed with the guy and being unable to reconcile that fact. I mean, I'm pretty sure we all have at least one ex we were heavily invested in where we really wish that things would have worked out. But we typically get over it, understand why it couldn't work, and push those thoughts way down until they're mostly forgotten about. Then if we do meet someone, it's a fresh start and we give 100% to that new person. Nobody wants to feel like they're just being settled for or whatever, you know? You want to feel like she wants you as much as you want her. If you can't have that, you're just asking for a metric fuckton of heartache. --- "We know things can move faster than the speed of light because liberal tears are on the ground before something offensive even happens" - Coffeebeanz <cite>Ultima Dragon posted [p:914196531] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>There's "leftover feelings," then there's still being clearly obsessed with the guy and being unable to reconcile that fact. I mean, I'm pretty sure we all have at least one ex we were heavily invested in where we really wish that things would have worked out. But we typically get over it, understand why it couldn't work, and push those thoughts way down until they're mostly forgotten about. Then if we do meet someone, it's a fresh start and we give 100% to that new person. Nobody wants to feel like they're just being settled for or whatever, you know? You want to feel like she wants you as much as you want her. If you can't have that, you're just asking for a metric fuckton of heartache.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/16/18 3:19:24 AM #33:	DanHarenChamp posted... maoriwarrior posted... She then followed up with why does it matter? What good will it do? Im with you. yea...that pretty much seals the deal tbqh bro. You could respond with, of course it matters, loyalty matters. I'll also tell you this, man. This is one of the very rare times that I've seen CE give actual good relationship advice and the person asking for advice is actually using the advice. I think you should take control of it and break this one off. I mean you dont have to be a douche about it and ghost her. But I would talk to her on the phone and break it off. You can explain yourself in as much detail as you want, but the end result is non-negotiable. Yeah we broke it off tonight. She finally told me she loved me back and she doesnt want me to suffer any more pain. This hurts. And it hurts bad. Ryuko_Chan posted... she seems like she doesnt love you bro Its like shes hungry, her ex is food, and youre a cigarette you can make her stomach stop hurting but you wont fill what she wants its not your fault though. and yeah like someone else said leftover feelings isnt the same as baggage For sure. But fuck how can I live with myself knowing she LOVES another person? Ultima Dragon posted... There's "leftover feelings," then there's still being clearly obsessed with the guy and being unable to reconcile that fact. I mean, I'm pretty sure we all have at least one ex we were heavily invested in where we really wish that things would have worked out. But we typically get over it, understand why it couldn't work, and push those thoughts way down until they're mostly forgotten about. Then if we do meet someone, it's a fresh start and we give 100% to that new person. Nobody wants to feel like they're just being settled for or whatever, you know? You want to feel like she wants you as much as you want her. If you can't have that, you're just asking for a metric fuckton of heartache. Which is exactly how I felt man. I felt like I was a second choice despite her saying otherwise. --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914204794] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>DanHarenChamp posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>She then followed up with why does it matter? What good will it do? Im with you. </quote> yea...that pretty much seals the deal tbqh bro. You could respond with, of course it matters, loyalty matters. I'll also tell you this, man. This is one of the very rare times that I've seen CE give actual good relationship advice and the person asking for advice is actually using the advice. I think you should take control of it and break this one off. I mean you dont have to be a douche about it and ghost her. But I would talk to her on the phone and break it off. You can explain yourself in as much detail as you want, but the end result is non-negotiable.</quote> Yeah we broke it off tonight. She finally told me she loved me back and she doesnt want me to suffer any more pain. This hurts. And it hurts bad. <cite>Ryuko_Chan posted...</cite> <quote>she seems like she doesnt love you bro Its like shes hungry, her ex is food, and youre a cigarette you can make her stomach stop hurting but you wont fill what she wants its not your fault though. and yeah like someone else said leftover feelings isnt the same as baggage</quote> For sure. But fuck how can I live with myself knowing she LOVES another person? <cite>Ultima Dragon posted...</cite> <quote>There's "leftover feelings," then there's still being clearly obsessed with the guy and being unable to reconcile that fact. I mean, I'm pretty sure we all have at least one ex we were heavily invested in where we really wish that things would have worked out. But we typically get over it, understand why it couldn't work, and push those thoughts way down until they're mostly forgotten about. Then if we do meet someone, it's a fresh start and we give 100% to that new person. Nobody wants to feel like they're just being settled for or whatever, you know? You want to feel like she wants you as much as you want her. If you can't have that, you're just asking for a metric fuckton of heartache.</quote> Which is exactly how I felt man. I felt like I was a second choice despite her saying otherwise.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bulletproofvita 12/16/18 3:20:50 AM #34:	Cut all ties to survive man. It's the only way. --- Signatures are overrated. <cite>bulletproofvita posted [p:914204822] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>Cut all ties to survive man. It's the only way.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/16/18 3:31:15 AM #35:	bulletproofvita posted... Cut all ties to survive man. It's the only way. I did. Theres still a part of me thats overwhelmed with self doubt tho I wont lie. A mini panic attack if you will. A voice is saying what if shes right? What if you stuck it out with her and everything works out well? --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914205005] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>bulletproofvita posted...</cite> <quote>Cut all ties to survive man. It's the only way.</quote> I did. Theres still a part of me thats overwhelmed with self doubt tho I wont lie. A mini panic attack if you will. A voice is saying what if shes right? What if you stuck it out with her and everything works out well?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bulletproofvita 12/16/18 3:33:35 AM #36:	maoriwarrior posted... bulletproofvita posted... Cut all ties to survive man. It's the only way. I did. Theres still a part of me thats overwhelmed with self doubt tho I wont lie. A mini panic attack if you will. A voice is saying what if shes right? What if you stuck it out with her and everything works out well? Youre brain is lieing to you. The right one for you will never put you through this turmoil. I understand the panic attack, I had one too it's natural. --- Signatures are overrated. <cite>bulletproofvita posted [p:914205030] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote><cite>bulletproofvita posted...</cite> <quote>Cut all ties to survive man. It's the only way.</quote> I did. Theres still a part of me thats overwhelmed with self doubt tho I wont lie. A mini panic attack if you will. A voice is saying what if shes right? What if you stuck it out with her and everything works out well?</quote> Youre brain is lieing to you. The right one for you will never put you through this turmoil. I understand the panic attack, I had one too it's natural.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SpiralDrift 12/16/18 4:06:57 AM #37:	maoriwarrior posted... Yeah we broke it off tonight. She finally told me she loved me back and she doesnt want me to suffer any more pain. This hurts. And it hurts bad. That's rough and is exactly the kind of carrot dangling that says you need to cut her off completely. It's going to suck really bad but try to think ahead. Imagine there's a girl you'll meet who you have these same strong feelings for but she puts you first. You'll be much happier than this girl is capable of making you. --- Bears are my spirit animal. The kings of the desert. No natural predators in water. They have fur sometimes. <cite>SpiralDrift posted [p:914205591] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>Yeah we broke it off tonight. She finally told me she loved me back and she doesnt want me to suffer any more pain. This hurts. And it hurts bad.</quote> That's rough and is exactly the kind of carrot dangling that says you need to cut her off completely. It's going to suck really bad but try to think ahead. Imagine there's a girl you'll meet who you have these same strong feelings for but she puts you first. You'll be much happier than this girl is capable of making you.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bulletproofvita 12/16/18 4:08:59 AM #38:	SpiralDrift posted... maoriwarrior posted... Yeah we broke it off tonight. She finally told me she loved me back and she doesnt want me to suffer any more pain. This hurts. And it hurts bad. That's rough and is exactly the kind of carrot dangling that says you need to cut her off completely. It's going to suck really bad but try to think ahead. Imagine there's a girl you'll meet who you have these same strong feelings for but she puts you first. You'll be much happier than this girl is capable of making you. Listen to this. The one you're in love with now likes to play games, even if she won't admit it. --- Signatures are overrated. <cite>bulletproofvita posted [p:914205624] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>SpiralDrift posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>Yeah we broke it off tonight. She finally told me she loved me back and she doesnt want me to suffer any more pain. This hurts. And it hurts bad.</quote> That's rough and is exactly the kind of carrot dangling that says you need to cut her off completely. It's going to suck really bad but try to think ahead. Imagine there's a girl you'll meet who you have these same strong feelings for but she puts you first. You'll be much happier than this girl is capable of making you.</quote> Listen to this. The one you're in love with now likes to play games, even if she won't admit it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DanHarenChamp 12/16/18 9:36:37 AM #39:	as hard as it is, im glad TC is making the right decisions --- literally the pacers <cite>DanHarenChamp posted [p:914211267] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote>as hard as it is, im glad TC is making the right decisions</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
maoriwarrior 12/16/18 3:32:01 PM #40:	SpiralDrift posted... maoriwarrior posted... Yeah we broke it off tonight. She finally told me she loved me back and she doesnt want me to suffer any more pain. This hurts. And it hurts bad. That's rough and is exactly the kind of carrot dangling that says you need to cut her off completely. It's going to suck really bad but try to think ahead. Imagine there's a girl you'll meet who you have these same strong feelings for but she puts you first. You'll be much happier than this girl is capable of making you. I guess its because its been so amicable is why its making it much more difficult for me. bulletproofvita posted... SpiralDrift posted... maoriwarrior posted... Yeah we broke it off tonight. She finally told me she loved me back and she doesnt want me to suffer any more pain. This hurts. And it hurts bad. That's rough and is exactly the kind of carrot dangling that says you need to cut her off completely. It's going to suck really bad but try to think ahead. Imagine there's a girl you'll meet who you have these same strong feelings for but she puts you first. You'll be much happier than this girl is capable of making you. Listen to this. The one you're in love with now likes to play games, even if she won't admit it. I dont think shes doing it on purpose but objectively speaking she is. Its killing me. DanHarenChamp posted... as hard as it is, im glad TC is making the right decisions Its the self doubt thats killing me. Like fuck maybe it could work out you know? --- PSN: NihilismKills <cite>maoriwarrior posted [p:914226347] in My old top... [t:77304489]...</cite> <quote><cite>SpiralDrift posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>Yeah we broke it off tonight. She finally told me she loved me back and she doesnt want me to suffer any more pain. This hurts. And it hurts bad.</quote> That's rough and is exactly the kind of carrot dangling that says you need to cut her off completely. It's going to suck really bad but try to think ahead. Imagine there's a girl you'll meet who you have these same strong feelings for but she puts you first. You'll be much happier than this girl is capable of making you.</quote> I guess its because its been so amicable is why its making it much more difficult for me. <cite>bulletproofvita posted...</cite> <quote><cite>SpiralDrift posted...</cite> <quote><cite>maoriwarrior posted...</cite> <quote>Yeah we broke it off tonight. She finally told me she loved me back and she doesnt want me to suffer any more pain. This hurts. And it hurts bad.</quote> That's rough and is exactly the kind of carrot dangling that says you need to cut her off completely. It's going to suck really bad but try to think ahead. Imagine there's a girl you'll meet who you have these same strong feelings for but she puts you first. You'll be much happier than this girl is capable of making you.</quote> Listen to this. The one you're in love with now likes to play games, even if she won't admit it.</quote> I dont think shes doing it on purpose but objectively speaking she is. Its killing me. <cite>DanHarenChamp posted...</cite> <quote>as hard as it is, im glad TC is making the right decisions</quote> Its the self doubt thats killing me. Like fuck maybe it could work out you know?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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