Current Events > How do you feel about parents asking their kids for money?

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A friend of mine became a qualified vet and ever since she started earning a vet salary her parents are treating her like a bank.

The stickler to me isn't that they're struggling as a family. It seems more like they're just really shitty, irresponsible spenders. The kind of people that keep their credit cards maxed out all the time.

On one hand I'm thinking fair enough, you treated them like a bank for 20 years.

On the other hand that doesn't seem like something a parent should do.
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it's fine as long as it's okay
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Just depends on the context of the situation. My parents are poor and I grew up poor, so I wouldnt mind helping them out when possible.
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Forgettable posted...

That's literally the whole point of raising kids.

I don't think that's why most people raise kids
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literally nothing wrong with it

It's annoying because it goes from being a need to situation. Say bills land at the wrong time and you keep their electricity from getting shut off or something.

Then it turns out you've opened the flood gates and there's always some reason more is needed. I've stopped arguing. Just toss my wallet toward my girlfriend and tell her to give them whatever. Fuck it.

Forgettable posted...

That's literally the whole point of raising kids.

For narcissists
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_Lyonidias posted...

Just depends on the context of the situation. My parents are poor and I grew up poor, so I wouldnt mind helping them out when possible.

This. We all try to help each other tbh. Sometimes I need money too.
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depends on the situation and why its needed
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_Lyonidias posted...

Just depends on the context of the situation

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my dad lives with my sister in nyc. she makes 190k and he makes like 40k.

pinky0926 posted...

Forgettable posted...

That's literally the whole point of raising kids.

I don't think that's why most people raise kids

They absolutely do so they'll have someone to look out for them when they're older.
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Favorite posted...

my dad lives with my sister in nyc. she makes 190k and he makes like 40k.

Well I mean in that case, fair enough. Sounds like your sister would probably be happy to help too.

In this case though, we're talking about a girl who's getting her first ever salary paycheck at $25k internship salary, being asked by her parents (one of which is a senior architect) for cash because they keep buying silly shit they don't have actual money for.

I think it's pretty shameless.
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Makeveli_lives posted...

pinky0926 posted...

Forgettable posted...

That's literally the whole point of raising kids.

I don't think that's why most people raise kids

They absolutely do so they'll have someone to look out for them when they're older.

I'm pretty sure most people don't decide to have kids primarly as a financial backup plan for old age.

Shitty investment really, you'd be better off starting a pension fund.
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Nothing wrong with it, especially if the parents raised the kid and helped the kid out here and there over the years.
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pinky0926 posted...

Favorite posted...

my dad lives with my sister in nyc. she makes 190k and he makes like 40k.

Well I mean in that case, fair enough. Sounds like your sister would probably be happy to help too.

In this case though, we're talking about a girl who's getting her first ever salary paycheck at $25k internship salary, being asked by her parents (one of which is a senior architect) for cash because they keep buying silly shit they don't have actual money for.

I think it's pretty shameless.

That's what the world wants. That's why people throw a hyphen and shaming onto every word so they don't have to feel the slightest air of judgement.

same as anything, as long as its not excessive and they're using their kids for luxuries. I don't ask my mom for money, she doesn't ask me for money.
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