Current Events > So is there any cool way to tell our maid of honor we're cool with her pit hair?

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Me and my fiance are getting married next September. The maid of honor is like an alternative kinda scene chick with a pixie cut and she doesn't shave her armpits, which we actually respect the fuck out of.
But I feel like she'll feel obligated to shave for the wedding cuz it's generally expected that bridesmaids do that since weddings as a concept are kinda tacky.

How do we let her know that we're fine with her not shaving? Do we just flat out tell her? Brides end up dictating every other nuance of how the bridesmaids look that day, so I guess this isn't any different?
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she's your fiance's friend? let her tell her.
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how can you have a friend you're willing to ask her be a bridesmaid but not comfortable just telling her something like that?
jfc
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Why do you respect that? It's literally just her being lazy and gross

I respect women who take the time to take care of myself. That's like if your little brother shit his pants and you were like good job buddy, I respect you not taking the time to go to the bathroom
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Each of you lick one of her armpits *shrugs*
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Yeah, if it were me those pits wouldnt be ruining my wedding photos
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monkmith posted...

she's your fiance's friend? let her tell her.

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I'll bet she doesn't wear deodorant or brush her teeth either
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Oh duh yeah 100% I would not bring it up, my fiancee would side they've been friends since they were like 12.

On my end of things I already told two of my groomsmen that they're free to do whatever they want with their beards. (One has a really sick handlebar mustache that I hope he hangs onto lol)
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Do you think she'll feel obligated? I don't think she would. Your fiance is her friend and picked her knowing she has armpit hair. If she picks a dress that shows the pits I feel like that's your fiance's choice.

If your fiance really wants to tell her and they're close friends why can't she just say, don't shave your pits for me?

Are they not close close friends?

Edit: just saw your last post. I don't really think your fiance would need your advice on how to bring it up lmao I think you just want everyone to know the bridesmaid doesn't shave her armpits
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Why say anything at all? If she wants to shave she will, if she doesn't then she won't. If it makes no difference to you then who cares
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Millennials.
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How about you don't bring it up at all, and she can do whatever the fuck she wants with her body hair?
I could see you bringing it up if it did bother you, but if it doesn't bother you that she usually doesn't shave, then don't say a thing.
Or as others said, she's the maid of honor, so your fiance should be the one to bring it up to her, if at all.
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Jorep posted...

Why do you respect that? It's literally just her being lazy and gross

I respect women who take the time to take care of myself. That's like if your little brother shit his pants and you were like good job buddy, I respect you not taking the time to go to the bathroom

What do you think of men with armpit hair?
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Jorep posted...

Why do you respect that? It's literally just her being lazy and gross

I respect women who take the time to take care of myself. That's like if your little brother shit his pants and you were like good job buddy, I respect you not taking the time to go to the bathroom

Do you think men should shave their armpits too? Most men don't. Expecting women to shave their body hair and calling them lazy and gross for not doing it is hugely sexist.

stone posted...

How about you don't bring it up at all, and she can do whatever the fuck she wants with her body hair?
I could see you bringing it up if it did bother you, but if it doesn't bother you that she usually doesn't shave, then don't say a thing.
Or as others said, she's the maid of honor, so your fiance should be the one to bring it up to her, if at all.

Men don't shave their armpit hair because they're men

That's like saying it's sexist to expect a woman to wear a tampon
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Girls that dont shave their pits dont usually shave their legs either.

*vomits*
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Jorep posted...

Men don't shave their armpit hair because they're men

That's like saying it's sexist to expect a woman to wear a tampon

*tips fedora*
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Jorep posted...

Men don't shave their armpit hair because they're men

Lol.

Jorep posted...

Men don't shave their armpit hair because they're men

That's like saying it's sexist to expect a woman to wear a tampon

TIL men have periods
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hockeybub89 posted...

Jorep posted...

Men don't shave their armpit hair because they're men

That's like saying it's sexist to expect a woman to wear a tampon

TIL men have periods

Seeing all the meltdowns on here, that would explain a lot.
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> cuts hair off of her head
> refuses to cut it off her pit

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Hairistotle posted...

man you guys sure make a big deal out of armpit hair on women

Yeah its real weird
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I don't mind pit hair. It's just silly that she'll chop her hair off of her head and then make a political statement out of leaving her pit hair intact.

FortuneCookie posted...

I don't mind pit hair. It's just silly that she'll chop her hair off of her head and then make a political statement out of leaving her pit hair intact.

How many dudes do you know with short hair or buzzed heads who shave their armpits?
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casually slip into conversation that you're not shaving your pubes for the wedding day.
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It's not about making a statement.

It's about making people think she's unique.

Ask who who her favorite underground hip hop artist is
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King_Hellebuyck posted...

FortuneCookie posted...

I don't mind pit hair. It's just silly that she'll chop her hair off of her head and then make a political statement out of leaving her pit hair intact.

How many dudes do you know with short hair or buzzed heads who shave their armpits?

I've seen it.

In one particular case, the dude probably didn't want pit hair taking the focus away from his under-arm swastika tattoo.

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Jorep posted...

It's not about making a statement.

It's about making people think she's unique.

Ask who who her favorite underground hip hop artist is

Oh are you friends with TC?
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stone posted...

How about you don't bring it up at all, and she can do whatever the fuck she wants with her body hair?
I could see you bringing it up if it did bother you, but if it doesn't bother you that she usually doesn't shave, then don't say a thing.
Or as others said, she's the maid of honor, so your fiance should be the one to bring it up to her, if at all.

Well first of all I never said I wanted to be the one that says something, and I even said it would 100% be my fiancee bringing it up if we did.

Second, I completely agree that she should do whatever she wants. But because weddings are weddings, I'm worried she won't do that she wants, she'll do what she thinks is expected of her at a wedding.

Like, when I was a groomsman once, I've been flat out told by a groom to shave my sideburns, which bothered me, because the whole time I assumed it wasn't a big deal. I don't want anyone in our bridal party to feel that kinda pressure because, as I said above, even if we don't bring it up to get there's always the societal expectation for her to do so on top of the expectation that comes with the culture of weddings.
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ForestLogic posted...

stone posted...

How about you don't bring it up at all, and she can do whatever the fuck she wants with her body hair?
I could see you bringing it up if it did bother you, but if it doesn't bother you that she usually doesn't shave, then don't say a thing.
Or as others said, she's the maid of honor, so your fiance should be the one to bring it up to her, if at all.

Well first of all I never said I wanted to be the one that says something, and I even said it would 100% be my fiancee bringing it up if we did.

Second, I completely agree that she should do whatever she wants. But because weddings are weddings, I'm worried she won't do that she wants, she'll do what she thinks is expected of her at a wedding.

Like, when I was a groomsman once, I've been flat out told by a groom to shave my sideburns, which bothered me, because the whole time I assumed it wasn't a big deal. I don't want anyone in our bridal party to feel that kinda pressure because, as I said above, even if we don't bring it up to get there's always the societal expectation for her to do so on top of the expectation that comes with the culture of weddings.

Well, if no one mentions anything about it to her, then it's a big sign it's totally fine with you guys.
If you had specific things you want or don't want at a wedding, you tell the concerned people. If nothing is said, them it's of no concern.
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stone posted...

Well, if no one mentions anything about it to her, then it's a big sign it's totally fine with you guys.
If you had specific things you want or don't want at a wedding, you tell the concerned people. If nothing is said, them it's of no concern.

Yeah, bringing it up would be weird. If she wants to shave, she'll shave. If she doesn't then she won't. If she doesn't want to but thinks there's an expectation on her to, she should be the one to bring it up and ask.
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