Current Events > A 18 y/o girl is falling in love with me, Im 29 and I have a girlfriend.

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What should I do?

To make things clear and understandable.

Im 29, my current girlfriend (Who i started dating around 3 weeks ago) is 22 and this new girl became 18 five months ago (She is a freshman in her college)

I came out from a one year-relationship last january and well, after 1 month, i tried my luck again with women. It turned better than expected since i got a new girlfriend 1 month and half after the break up and i was even be able to keep in touch with a second one.

I met this girl last friday and well, i can tell she really liked me (Not exactly sure but i seem to be her type). She didnt mind the age difference to meet either way.

She grabbed my arm and stood very close to me during that day. I was like "Ok thats cute i guess) but then we hanged out yesterday and went for some ice cream and she suddenly said "Hey we should take a picture together" to which i said "Sure". It was just a simple selfie of both next to each other sitting. However, after some minutes i decided to check my whatsapp for a bit and noticed she uploaded the picture in her stories, followed with both ^_^ and heart emojis. She then said "Hey, a few friends of mine are already bombing me with questions about you xD"

From what she told me its been a while since she hanged out or meet with somebody.

I dont know if this is a good or bad thing, but i didnt mention having a girlfriend to her, just the part that i came off that relationship in january. The girl seems to be into me, however, there is no way i could date both, and judging from her actions and way of acting, she seems to be the type of girl who actually liked to get very commited with someone. While im not an alpha male or anything close to it, i like to be a bit more "free" or not really thaat commited on them.

Should i be clear with her before she gets the wrong message? Unless she already got it. I wouldnt mind dating her, but of course, since i am already dating the other girl, there is no way i could do both.

The girl looks pretty caring and everything, so im more than sure it would end in a heartbreak for her and i dont really want to do that.

What should i do at this point?
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Gonna need some pics bucko
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Just tell her the truth.

This happened
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Why did you go on a date with her when you already have a girlfriend?
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I dont understand.

Why are you condemning a relationship that you are contemplating starting up in the first place?
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Pics or I can't offer up advice
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you did nothing wrong at first

but what she's doing is clearly intended to send the message: "I am receptive to you making a move and initiating a romantic relationship, please do this posthaste"

it's one thing to miss these (really super obvious) messages; it's another to receive them and do nothing.

and it's another entirely to mislead both your partner and this girl and become involved with both, that's how bitter people are created.

leave the women in your life better than you found them. a gentle, honest conversation with the teen is warranted; she'll bounce back, and appreciate the fact that you were straight-up with her and did not lead her on.
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Can you keep secrets?
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SlamVook posted...

xD

SlamVook posted...

^_^

SlamVook posted...

heart emojis

cringe level maximum
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Ok i just saw her today and i had to be clear with her that while i liked her and stuff, it wasnt as the same level as her and well, as expected, she started crying and stuff.

I still feel kinda bad for her, i tried to comfort her and stuff, but there was no avail, girl was really into me just after 4 days of knowing each other.

It was very awkward but i think i dodged a bullet there. Had i gotten into a relationship with her, things would have gotten way too uncomfortable had i been found or anything.

Im definitely not trying my luck with girls under 20 (18 or 19) anytime soon again, even thought they are legal, i think nothing would have gone right due to the age difference. Guess ill just stick to girls between 21 and 22 (The usuall i get to date somehow)
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SlamVook posted...

Ok i just saw her today and i had to be clear with her that while i liked her and stuff, it wasnt as the same level as her and well, as expected, she started crying and stuff.

I still feel kinda bad for her, i tried to comfort her and stuff, but there was no avail, girl was really into me just after 4 days of knowing each other.

It was very awkward but i think i dodged a bullet there. Had i gotten into a relationship with her, things would have gotten way too uncomfortable had i been found or anything.

Im definitely not trying my luck with girls under 20 (18 or 19) anytime soon again, even thought they are legal, i think nothing would have gone right due to the age difference. Guess ill just stick to girls between 21 and 22 (The usuall i get to date somehow)

Does your girlfriend know? You should tell her about it, just to be safe. Would suck if she found out from the girl or some other way.

No, my girlfriend doesnt know. This girl didnt know that i had a girlfriend either.

They are not related to each other in anyway so im safe in that sense. I still feel very awkward about how things ended tho... i honestly didnt expect her to be into me that much and that soon. There was no way i was gonna try something with this girl. Had i been found later on, it would have been a HUGE mess.
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This sad garbage story.

When girls like me i just act like an asshole because im fucking married and they need to cut that shit out.
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