Current Events > So, just found out this dude full on groped my girlfriend on New Year's.

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Not going to get into details as far as why I just found out. This dude pregamed at my house, crashed there that night and chilled there the next day. We were all beyond trashed and my girl and I have been on and off but that's not ok.

Is it wrong to confront him about it months after the fact? Like I literally want to slap the shit out of this dude. What makes it worse he asked me to join a softball league with him.
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MrDrMan posted...

What makes it worse he asked me to join a softball league with him.

You might need to call this one off
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Nah ditch the girl and move on

Life is too short amigo

REMercsChamp posted...

MrDrMan posted...

What makes it worse he asked me to join a softball league with him.

You might need to call this one off

I didn't even respond to the text. Seeing that just made me angry.

He's a little dude so even if I were to get angry and beat his ass it's almost embarrassing.
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Go to the softball game. Instead of greeting him just go up and pull his shirt over his head and start beating the shit out of him.
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my girl and I have been on and off but that's not ok.

1. Were you "on" or "off" when this happened.

2. Did she attempt to stop it?
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Like.. against her consent? Were you two together then? Was she just drunk and made out with him?
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Dustin1280 posted...

my girl and I have been on and off but that's not ok.

1. Were you "on" or "off" when this happened.

2. Did she attempt to stop it?

1. We were on but got into an argument that night after this had happened about something different.

2. It was already done. Dude came up behind and basically grabbed everything from behind. She told him she was with me and he basically shrugged it off but he knows that's my girl.
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Funkydog posted...

Like.. against her consent? Were you two together then? Was she just drunk and made out with him?

Yes we were together and yes against her consent.

She didn't do anything with him. Dude greeted her by walking up behind her and getting a handful of her ass and private area. Her response was "You know I'm with (my name) right?" to which he replied "Yeah but does that really matter?"
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Why didnt she slap the shit out of him you got me fucked up dude
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MrDrMan posted...

Her response was "You know I'm with (my name) right?" to which he replied "Yeah but does that really matter?"

lol
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Ok, he is an asshole and I support you.

But if you're girlfriend isn't bent out of shape about it then you should really stop worrying about it.

If he tries to hang out with you again just say you groped my girl, and told her it doesn't matter, so no.
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We're they trashed at this point or sober when it happened? Why is she just now telling you?
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R0ttedHorror posted...

Why didnt she slap the shit out of him you got me fucked up dude

Beats me but I'm guessing she didn't wanna cause a scene.
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MrDrMan posted...

What makes it worse he asked me to join a softball league with him.

lmao who cares what he did to ur girl u need this guy out of ur life
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MrDrMan posted...

Funkydog posted...

Like.. against her consent? Were you two together then? Was she just drunk and made out with him?

Yes we were together and yes against her consent.

She didn't do anything with him. Dude greeted her by walking up behind her and getting a handful of her ass and private area. Her response was "You know I'm with (my name) right?" to which he replied "Yeah but does that really matter?"

R0ttedHorror posted...

Go to the softball game. Instead of greeting him just go up and pull his shirt over his head and start beating the shit out of him.

This guy has the right idea

MrDrMan posted...

Funkydog posted...

Like.. against her consent? Were you two together then? Was she just drunk and made out with him?

Yes we were together and yes against her consent.

She didn't do anything with him. Dude greeted her by walking up behind her and getting a handful of her ass and private area. Her response was "You know I'm with (my name) right?" to which he replied "Yeah but does that really matter?"

Here's a question: why are you associating with trashy people like this in the first place?
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Yeah when i do that to girls they casually remind me who their boy friend is.
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--Zero- posted...

We're they trashed at this point or sober when it happened? Why is she just now telling you?

Me and the guy were black out trashed. We started drinking at my apartment at 3-4PM and this happened around 11-1AM.

Like i said before we got into a big fight that night about something unrelated and were about to break up which is why she didn't say anything. Plus she knew how I would react.
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Kick his ass, bro. Then grope his girl.
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BreezyExcursion posted...

MrDrMan posted...

What makes it worse he asked me to join a softball league with him.

lmao who cares what he did to ur girl u need this guy out of ur life

I don't even have this guy's number saved. He has my number because we have a ton of mutual friends and are in group chats but I don't fuck with him.
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Whats his mom like?
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Sounds like you need to let it go then. If it makes you feel better talk to him about it, but no reason for violence if you were both black out drunk.
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LordMarshal posted...

Yeah when i do that to girls they casually remind me who their boy friend is.

Actually, this is a good point. If your gf didn't have a freaked out reaction or get angry, don't even bother beating up the dude. Instead, you gotta drop the girl, man. Or maybe get super into exhibitionism and dogging
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Dump that guy out of your life. Publically announce why when you next meet up with friends too.
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You said you didn't want to go into the details about how you just now are finding out about this, but it's important for me to know in order to give my accurate assessment of the situation.

The guy did this knowingly she was "with you" and said "Why does it matter"--- That's not good.

But there's more to this story.
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Give him what he deserves, dump your so called girlfriend, then move on man. Its a loss. Im very sorry. But really. This is no bueno for the soul.
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BuckVanHammer posted...

Whats his mom like?

His mom works at my high school. She's a nice lady and everyone where I'm from knows her.

--Zero- posted...

Sounds like you need to let it go then. If it makes you feel better talk to him about it, but no reason for violence if you were both black out drunk.

I want to let it go but the dude still tries to act like we're cool. He doesn't know that I know. I don't know if he even remembers doing that though honestly.

I'm just heated. I let a lot of shit slide but don't touch my girl man.
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I'm just heated. I let a lot of shit slide but don't touch my girl man.

You should be focusing more on why your girl was so okay with getting touched.
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Capn Circus posted...

You said you didn't want to go into the details about how you just now are finding out about this, but it's important for me to know in order to give my accurate assessment of the situation.

The guy did this knowingly she was "with you" and said "Why does it matter"--- That's not good.

But there's more to this story.

I was black out drunk to the point I was kicked out of the venue. My girlfriend took me home and that night some girl that I had a past relationship with called my phone. I was passed out and she answered the phone and the other girl basically made it seem like we had an ongoing relationship when we didn't.

I'll be 100% honest I did fool around with this girl after we had broken up but at that point it was done. She was drunk and just trying to get some.
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MrDrMan posted...

BuckVanHammer posted...

Whats his mom like?

His mom works at my high school. She's a nice lady and everyone where I'm from knows her.

--Zero- posted...

Sounds like you need to let it go then. If it makes you feel better talk to him about it, but no reason for violence if you were both black out drunk.

I want to let it go but the dude still tries to act like we're cool. He doesn't know that I know. I don't know if he even remembers doing that though honestly.

I'm just heated. I let a lot of shit slide but don't touch my girl man.

Let him know that you know. Then tell him to stay away from her and threaten that if he ever does that shit again to anyone, you'll make sure everyone knows.

MrDrMan posted...

What makes it worse he asked me to join a softball league with him.

CHARGE THE MOUND
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MrDrMan posted...

Capn Circus posted...

You said you didn't want to go into the details about how you just now are finding out about this, but it's important for me to know in order to give my accurate assessment of the situation.

The guy did this knowingly she was "with you" and said "Why does it matter"--- That's not good.

But there's more to this story.

I was black out drunk to the point I was kicked out of the venue. My girlfriend took me home and that night some girl that I had a past relationship with called my phone. I was passed out and she answered the phone and the other girl basically made it seem like we had an ongoing relationship when we didn't.

I'll be 100% honest I did fool around with this girl after we had broken up but at that point it was done. She was drunk and just trying to get some.

This is Jerry Springer shit dude. You're basically attracting this trashy shit in your life.
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If he was blacked out drunk, he wouldn't remember. Not defending the guy but it would make sense he assumes you guys are cool if he doesn't know it even happened.
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CommonStar posted...

MrDrMan posted...

BuckVanHammer posted...

Whats his mom like?

His mom works at my high school. She's a nice lady and everyone where I'm from knows her.

--Zero- posted...

Sounds like you need to let it go then. If it makes you feel better talk to him about it, but no reason for violence if you were both black out drunk.

I want to let it go but the dude still tries to act like we're cool. He doesn't know that I know. I don't know if he even remembers doing that though honestly.

I'm just heated. I let a lot of shit slide but don't touch my girl man.

Let him know that you know. Then tell him to stay away from her and threaten that if he ever does that shit again to anyone, you'll make sure everyone knows.

My friends know. They basically said the guy is a joke and I should just let it go but that's trash logic.

So because the guy is a loser he gets a pass to touch my girlfriend?
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no. you just said you are 'off and on'

no reason for him to think shes not fair game.
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REMercsChamp posted...

MrDrMan posted...

Capn Circus posted...

You said you didn't want to go into the details about how you just now are finding out about this, but it's important for me to know in order to give my accurate assessment of the situation.

The guy did this knowingly she was "with you" and said "Why does it matter"--- That's not good.

But there's more to this story.

I was black out drunk to the point I was kicked out of the venue. My girlfriend took me home and that night some girl that I had a past relationship with called my phone. I was passed out and she answered the phone and the other girl basically made it seem like we had an ongoing relationship when we didn't.

I'll be 100% honest I did fool around with this girl after we had broken up but at that point it was done. She was drunk and just trying to get some.

This is Jerry Springer shit dude. You're basically attracting this trashy shit in your life.

Dude I'm not perfect just like nobody else is. I was blacked out drunk and went home with my girl and didn't even contact the other girl.

What else was I supposed to do? Like I said it had been done with at that point.
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E32005 posted...

no. you just said you are 'off and on'

no reason for him to think shes not fair game.

Even if they ain't together, he shouldn't be groping people without consent.

Beat his ass.

And don't be with her if that's her only reaction to being groped.
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E32005 posted...

no. you just said you are 'off and on'

no reason for him to think shes not fair game.

1. We were 'on' at the time.

2. Even if we were completely done that's not ok. You don't make a move on your friend's exes. That is common sense. If you're going to then you have to at least discuss it with the friend.

3. Groping anyone without consent is WRONG and ILLEGAL.
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MrDrMan posted...

Not going to get into details as far as why I just found out. This dude pregamed at my house, crashed there that night and chilled there the next day. We were all beyond trashed and my girl and I have been on and off but that's not ok.

Is it wrong to confront him about it months after the fact? Like I literally want to slap the shit out of this dude. What makes it worse he asked me to join a softball league with him.

He's probably forgotten about it and might've changed since then. So don't confront him aggressively. Ask him if he did it in a civil manner and see if he apologizes first.
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MrDrMan posted...

E32005 posted...

no. you just said you are 'off and on'

no reason for him to think shes not fair game.

1. We were 'on' at the time.

2. Even if we were completely done that's not ok. You don't make a move on your friend's exes. That is common sense. If you're going to then you have to at least discuss it with the friend.

3. Groping anyone without consent is WRONG and ILLEGAL.

>Hangs out with guys you'd find on Jerry Springer
>Shocked at illegal activities
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MrDrMan posted...

2. Even if we were completely done that's not ok. You don't make a move on your friend's exes. That is common sense. If you're going to then you have to at least discuss it with the friend.

Eh, just because you were with someone doesn't mean you now have dibs on them forever more and they need to "go through you" to get with them. That shit is stupid.
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Funkydog posted...

MrDrMan posted...

2. Even if we were completely done that's not ok. You don't make a move on your friend's exes. That is common sense. If you're going to then you have to at least discuss it with the friend.

Eh, just because you were with someone doesn't mean you now have dibs on them forever more and they need to "go through you" to get with them. That shit is stupid.

If it had been years ago then I get you but we had been together. There's a code to the game.

There's so many women out here that IMO to go after someone's ex is just kinda disrespectful. That's just how I feel. I have like maybe 4 or 5 really good friends so that's only a handful of girls then everyone is else fair game. I don't see how that's unreasonable and I would never do it.
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REMercsChamp posted...

MrDrMan posted...

E32005 posted...

no. you just said you are 'off and on'

no reason for him to think shes not fair game.

1. We were 'on' at the time.

2. Even if we were completely done that's not ok. You don't make a move on your friend's exes. That is common sense. If you're going to then you have to at least discuss it with the friend.

3. Groping anyone without consent is WRONG and ILLEGAL.

>Hangs out with guys you'd find on Jerry Springer
>Shocked at illegal activities

My friends are all college graduates. You're just wrong man.
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He challenged your manhood TC, time to throw down.
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MrDrMan posted...

If it had been years ago then I get you but we had been together. There's a code to the game.

There's so many women out here that IMO to go after someone's ex is just kinda disrespectful. That's just how I feel. I have like maybe 4 or 5 really good friends so that's only a handful of girls then everyone is else fair game. I don't see how that's unreasonable and I would never do it.

The heart wants who the heart wants. Just gotta accept that and not block off someone just because you fucked once.
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Funkydog posted...

MrDrMan posted...

2. Even if we were completely done that's not ok. You don't make a move on your friend's exes. That is common sense. If you're going to then you have to at least discuss it with the friend.

Eh, just because you were with someone doesn't mean you now have dibs on them forever more and they need to "go through you" to get with them. That shit is stupid.

Not to mention TC has said they aren't even really friends

That said, I agree with the people saying if it makes you feel better, confront him non aggressively. You should really let it go beyond that. He's absolutely wrong doing what he did, but it's weird that your girl didn't make a big deal about it. I know you're probably feeling possessive and protective, but don't go doing something that you might regret when your girlfriend apparently isn't even making a big deal about it. You can still let the dude know he was wrong without being aggressive, and maybe he'll learn he can't do that to others too.

Are you in high school?
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College graduates but this is all some high school level shit.

Funkydog posted...

MrDrMan posted...

If it had been years ago then I get you but we had been together. There's a code to the game.

There's so many women out here that IMO to go after someone's ex is just kinda disrespectful. That's just how I feel. I have like maybe 4 or 5 really good friends so that's only a handful of girls then everyone is else fair game. I don't see how that's unreasonable and I would never do it.

The heart wants who the heart wants. Just gotta accept that and not block off someone just because you fucked once.

I've been with this chick over 2 years. This isn't a fling or some chick I "fucked once".
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