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I haven't heard anything from David, I've messaged him and his phone is off.

Last I heard of him he was doing better, I texted him yesterday but got no answer so I assumed he had missed it and gone to bed. Texted him today again, and I know he had a doctor's appointment today so wanted to see how it went, no answer, I thought well he prob is on his usually Bridge play he'll get back to me later. But still nothing, I called him and phone is off.

It's late now, I'm in no driving condition and I have work tomorrow morning early. How can I sleep now!
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I'm just thinking of lots of bad scenarios now. I'm terrified.
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Go visit him den, you won't be able to sleep anyways
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V-E-G-Y- posted...

Go visit him den, you won't be able to sleep anyways

I legally can't drive now. And he is at 1 hour drive away, more now that it's snowing
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This is a very serious topic. I dunno what to do now. If I don't get hold of him tomorrow I may driver over to his place after work. I dunno. Maybe he is in the hospital, if so I dunno which.
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I'm sure he's fine. Worst case, he didn't get great news at the doctor and he's not in a place to tell you about it right now. Either way, he's probably ok. Phone could easily be dead.

Just make it a point to go see him tomorrow.

Is there anyone else you can contact to check on him like his family?
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Still no contact his phone is off. Im at work, this is a nightmare.

I dont know any of his family so have no one to contact. After work going to his place and see.

Im stsrting to assume the worst
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Call the cops
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Go
After u sober up
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He's at work
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I hope it goes well.
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:(

I hope he's ok. Good luck, man
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well, he is pretty old.
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Cant see if he is home. His car is still here. The path to his door was snowed. Its been snowing all day no footprints

Im seriously scared
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Get a shovel and break in
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Call the cops
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FF_Redux posted...

Cant see if he is home. His car is still here. The path to his door was snowed. Its been snowing all day no footprints

Im seriously scared

calm down. he's probably just taking a nap in the back.
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OpheliaAdenade posted...

FF_Redux posted...

Cant see if he is home. His car is still here. The path to his door was snowed. Its been snowing all day no footprints

Im seriously scared

calm down. he's probably just taking a nap in the back.

For the whole day?
I can understand that he is worried now.
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Foppe posted...

OpheliaAdenade posted...

FF_Redux posted...

Cant see if he is home. His car is still here. The path to his door was snowed. Its been snowing all day no footprints

Im seriously scared

calm down. he's probably just taking a nap in the back.

For the whole day?
I can understand that he is worried now.

he's old, old people need their rest.
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Hope he's OK.
I assume you can call law enforcement there and have them check in on someone? Try that.
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tag
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Call the police and ask them to a wellness check. Why didnt you knock on the door if you went all the way over there?

Hoping for the best man
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No message means that he probably runs around the house checking windows.

...and call an ambulance?
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Hairy-man posted...

Hoping for the best man

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Cal12 posted...

Call the police and ask them to a wellness check. Why didnt you knock on the door if you went all the way over there?

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Also someone catch me up on the David saga, was he not in good health? I didnt think he was like, OLD old.
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Mr_Biscuit posted...

Also someone catch me up on the David saga, was he not in good health? I didnt think he was like, OLD old.

he's 92.
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He is 60 and been in good health until just recent. And I did knock and look in the windows. Didnt see anything strange.
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If you stand next to a window and call his phone, can you hear it?
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Foppe posted...

If you stand next to a window and call his phone, can you hear it?

Phone is turned off
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Send another sms and hope that the phone is turned off and didnt have the battery die.
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Foppe posted...

Send another sms and hope that the phone is turned off and didnt have the battery die.

I dont get what you mean.

Either way Im home again. I dunno what to do other than wait. Possibly try to call hospitals but they wont give any info usually, and I dont know his last 4 numbers on his person number.

I could message some of his friends or daughters on facebook maybe. But thats a last resort for now
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I know your relationship is complicated, but you deserve to know if he's OK or not. Hopefully, whenever you next talk you should get some emergency contacts.
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If we ever get to talk. I know I'm dramatic now but it's how my mind is, I've seen all scenarios in my mind, most of them horrible.

I've been talking and breaking down to my parents now.

All I can do now is wait, I'm checking news and all the online things I know he is on constantly.
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Again, why not call the cops to just do a wellness check?
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You were right there i think you could have done more than just wait outside
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Mr_Biscuit posted...

Again, why not call the cops to just do a wellness check?

Calling the cops seems very extreme. And I don't really know what wellness check means (the way you mean it) and I dunno if they even do that here.

Vegy posted...

You were right there i think you could have done more than just wait outside

Like what? I wasn't gonna break in, unless I would've seen him lying on the floor or something.
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Is there any reason to believe he's just ghosting you?
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well, the most you can do is hope that if he is dead, he put you in his will. I'm not joking. You should seriously check into that if you're dating an older person.

my mom married a guy 15 years older than her and she made sure to get that shit sorted out ASAP. :v
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ROBANN_88 posted...

Is there any reason to believe he's just ghosting you?

Nope. Not at all. Just a quote from the last time I was with him. "det knns s bra och tryggt att ha dig hr"

Feels so safe and good to have you here.
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I agree, call the police and have them check on him. They can legally go in and check. Just tell them you're a concerned friend who hasn't heard from him in days and that it looked like he was home, but there was no answer.
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Just google wellness check sweden
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KogaSteelfang posted...

I agree, call the police and have them check on him. They can legally go in and check. Just tell them you're a concerned friend who hasn't heard from him in days and that it looked like he was home, but there was no answer.

Hes not in America.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

I agree, call the police and have them check on him. They can legally go in and check. Just tell them you're a concerned friend who hasn't heard from him in days and that it looked like he was home, but there was no answer.

That may not be a thing in Sweden, but I guess you could check. I had a similar experience once.

My then girl friend had been given some Lasix to help her drop some fluid. The doctor gave her too much which causes blood pressure to drop rapidly. We were Skyping at the time. She kept trying to go to sleep. I told her to call an ambulance but she refused. I had her inject herself with three epi-pens to bring her blood pressure back up. Once I had confirmed a normal BP, I let her go to sleep. The next day, she didnt answer my texts. I had the police come to her house because I lived in a different town to do a wellness check. All was well, and she got put on a different medicine.
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He is well!!

Godammit I hate my fucking mind, it goes crazy when I don't know stuff.

So. Yes he was in the hospital, called an ambulance Saturday morning. Thing was, he had ordered a new sim card, and didn't bring it with him, and it had automatically activated so the sim card he had on his phone didn't work.

He still has some infection in the gall tubes or something, it's why he needed to stay, so he is back on antibiotics.

Good news too, the hardened part in the gall tubes was not cancer or anything to worry about.

Apparently his bridge playing guys that was gonna play yesterday had called the cops that he was missing.

I'm just so happy he is well now. It's been exhausting 24 hours for me worrying.
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Good to hear, now go and get some sleep.
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I'm glad you found him safe.
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