Current Events > I'm a 37 year old enraged and bitter version.

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Why wouldn't I be salty or upset? It's been 37 years since I haven't been to the promised land.

dudes half my age have been there except me.

If I'm not upset about it then something could be wrong.
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If your lacking in sex get an escort, not expensive or difficult to do.
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what's da promised land
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A what?
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V-E-G-Y- posted...

what's da promised land

P U S S Y
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@RedWhiteBlue

Then get a girlfriend, if you cant get a girlfriend then escorts are it.
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I am 36 and same except I no longer care. I don't remember when I stopped caring. some time in the past 5 years. some part of me snapped and I just no longer have any drive to get a girlfriend. it would just bring more stress to my life anyway. so fuck it. I'm a monk without the God part. I'm fine as long as I have my games and my tv and my cat

Complaining is very unattractive

Negativity is unattractive

Bitterness is unattractive

If your goal is to get laid, youre already shooting your self in the foot.
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@Zikten

Sounds like you should have gotten an escort before just giving up, when you snapped that should have motivated you to improve yourself, hit the strip club, or hire an escort not go monk or be wizard powers.
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Offworlder1 posted...

@Zikten

Sounds like you should have gotten an escort before just giving up, when you snapped that should have motivated you to improve yourself, hit the strip club, or hire an escort not go monk or be wizard powers.

I'm too shy to approach an escort and too poor. I have a ton of different problems. I'm not just a guy who never had sex. there is a reason I never had sex. I have

autism
anxiety
depression
low self esteem

and there might be other things I can't think of right now.

People a third of your age have had sex too
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Version of what?
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Stop being such a beta version
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I been trying online to build friendships but I just been getting the door shut in my face I expand my network same thing happens

why would I expect it to be different in real life? expect other people can now see me make a fool of myself.

I need a chick that's my best friend to hook others in my network but finding that one chick is hard espically since you got other horn dogs looking for the same thing it's tough I'm not giving up but I"m not gonna go hardcore asking everyone in real life since I don't just want anyone I want that one!
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Version 2.1
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I don't bring much to the table in terms of asthetics

but I assume my 5'4 height has something to do with it.

COT DAMN Mom why didn't you make me '6'2 where I could have at least competed for the very best.
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Once girls see how tiny I am it's a huge turn off.

but what can you seriously do in my situation you play with the hand your dealt like a great poker player.

genetic aren't on my side but I'm looking to cash in a lil high whether it happens or not stay tuned.
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Offworlder1 posted...

If your lacking in sex get an escort, not expensive or difficult to do.

It is if you've never acquired their services.
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CensorErik posted...

Version of what?

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I've wanted a friend since I was seven years old.
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@EverDownward

Actually I have gotten escorts in the past, no longer need them now though, and if you look around you can find a good looking, clean escort for a fair inexpensive price.
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Offworlder1 posted...

and if you look around you can find a good looking, clean escort for a fair inexpensive price.

That's kinda the whole point. Knowing where to look, knowing what's safe.
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Dude, you won't feel any better or different after getting it in the long run. It's a temporary high.

You're not missing much.
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Reginald is that you?
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MuscleHamster0 posted...

I been trying online to build friendships but I just been getting the door shut in my face I expand my network same thing happens

I have a lot of friends. It doesn't help you get laid. Chad just goes on Tinder and gets hundreds of matches, goes to bars and nightclubs and easily pulls women, and doesn't actually need a single friend to get laid.
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when I had a serious friend in the early 2000s it actually made my mental illiness disappear I was doing a full schedule in college and almost had a job once that friend kinda backed away I digressed again.

If I ever got sex I bet it would actually cure my mental illiness to the point I would look at things clearly

clearly you don't know why I'm chasing it because it would heal me espically if it came from someone I loved or cared about .

right now I"m struggling and no one is giving me anything and I"m just in a rut in life I'd take being friendzoned right now just so I could progress a lil and then go after sex after I'm a bit more well and can do things.

but no one is giving me any chances at all I been searching lord knows I have it's just nothing is working out.

i know my mental illiness would be gone if I ever had sex if that early 2000s stretch is any indication I was actually living
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MuscleHamster0 posted...

I'd take being friendzoned right now just so I could progress a lil

Imagine thinking the friendzone is progress.
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MuscleHamster0 posted...

clearly you don't know why I'm chasing it because it would heal me espically if it came from someone I loved or cared about .

That's not how it works. It's not a magic spell, that's going to solve all your problems. If you go into a relationship without having your shit together and expecting to be "healed", it's going to be a disaster.
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CircleOfManias posted...

MuscleHamster0 posted...

clearly you don't know why I'm chasing it because it would heal me espically if it came from someone I loved or cared about .

That's not how it works. It's not a magic spell, that's going to solve all your problems. If you go into a relationship without having your shit together and expecting to be "healed", it's going to be a disaster.

Don't listen to this guy. A relationship can definitely lift your spirits and get you to live life to the fullest instead of moping in your room, feeling hopeless every day.
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You guys that agonize over sex would be totally shocked to realize how anti climatic it is. Like.. blow your world up. You'll just be laying there like.. what the fuck? I obsessed over this for my whole fucking life?! Some people are good at sex, most aren't , but everyone is fixated on it. Love isn't for everyone , oh well, get a cat. Become someone and love might find you, most guys who cry about it don't deserve love and haven't earned any.

Also average dudes would be amazed to see how much work and emotional investment a beautiful girl takes. Do you expect it to be easy to earn that princesses respect ? You are in for a rude awakening. It would probably be the straw that broke your mind.

God, someone needs to give real advice to people. Where did this shit come from? Let me give an example.

Who gives a shit if the girl enjoys sex? You know what gets chicks off irl? They like when you use their bodies for pleasure, it makes them feel valuable and sexy. Aka they enjoy sex more when you aren't asking them every 5 fuckin seconds, but rather going to town rock hard and enjoying Yourself. That mindset will help your girl finish every time.

Society now puts men in a hierarchy based on dick size wayyyyy too often . Whats it all about these days? Dick size, body rocking orgasms etc. Wake up, when society is deciding a man's value based on their ability to sexually pleasure a woman..? Something is fucked up. Who cares if you have a big dick if you don't work? Or you are abusive, or a bad father, or you're stupid and give little back to society. All the things that make a man a good human, these days are overshadowed by the size of your penis. Who the fuck thought this was a good idea? Put Pandora back in the box, when I was in hs chicks were terrified of above average dicks, now every fatso thinks she deserves a porn star.

Pepys Monster posted...

CircleOfManias posted...

MuscleHamster0 posted...

clearly you don't know why I'm chasing it because it would heal me espically if it came from someone I loved or cared about .

That's not how it works. It's not a magic spell, that's going to solve all your problems. If you go into a relationship without having your shit together and expecting to be "healed", it's going to be a disaster.

Don't listen to this guy. A relationship can definitely lift your spirits and get you to live life to the fullest instead of moping in your room, feeling hopeless every day.

He's totally right. If you seek a relationship as an incomplete, needy man, you are asking for a shitstorm. That chick will Body you.

Pepys Monster posted...

CircleOfManias posted...

MuscleHamster0 posted...

clearly you don't know why I'm chasing it because it would heal me espically if it came from someone I loved or cared about .

That's not how it works. It's not a magic spell, that's going to solve all your problems. If you go into a relationship without having your shit together and expecting to be "healed", it's going to be a disaster.

Don't listen to this guy. A relationship can definitely lift your spirits and get you to live life to the fullest instead of moping in your room, feeling hopeless every day.

If you're depressed and enter a relationship to cope, if it ends (which if you're clingy and codependent, not contributing anything to the relationship, it will), the anxiety will push you over the edge. This is the classic road from regular depression to suicidal depression.
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Sex won't fix you, and that expectation will likely only make the experience worse.

for the love darlin

@glitteringfairy
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CircleOfManias posted...

Pepys Monster posted...

CircleOfManias posted...

MuscleHamster0 posted...

clearly you don't know why I'm chasing it because it would heal me espically if it came from someone I loved or cared about .

That's not how it works. It's not a magic spell, that's going to solve all your problems. If you go into a relationship without having your shit together and expecting to be "healed", it's going to be a disaster.

Don't listen to this guy. A relationship can definitely lift your spirits and get you to live life to the fullest instead of moping in your room, feeling hopeless every day.

If you're depressed and enter a relationship to cope, if it ends (which if you're clingy and codependent, not contributing anything to the relationship, it will), the anxiety will push you over the edge. This is the classic road from regular depression to suicidal depression.

I don't duck them I replace them.
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Upgrade to version 6.9
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Pepys Monster posted...

CircleOfManias posted...

MuscleHamster0 posted...

clearly you don't know why I'm chasing it because it would heal me espically if it came from someone I loved or cared about .

That's not how it works. It's not a magic spell, that's going to solve all your problems. If you go into a relationship without having your shit together and expecting to be "healed", it's going to be a disaster.

Don't listen to this guy. A relationship can definitely lift your spirits and get you to live life to the fullest instead of moping in your room, feeling hopeless every day.

No he's right. Relationships arent a fix for mental issues because if that relationship ends then youre fucked.

You want to get better for yourself then enter a relationship. Its not fair to your partner for you to put that kind of pressure on them
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I4NRulez posted...

Pepys Monster posted...

CircleOfManias posted...

MuscleHamster0 posted...

clearly you don't know why I'm chasing it because it would heal me espically if it came from someone I loved or cared about .

That's not how it works. It's not a magic spell, that's going to solve all your problems. If you go into a relationship without having your shit together and expecting to be "healed", it's going to be a disaster.

Don't listen to this guy. A relationship can definitely lift your spirits and get you to live life to the fullest instead of moping in your room, feeling hopeless every day.

No he's right. Relationships arent a fix for mental issues because if that relationship ends then youre fucked.

You want to get better for yourself then enter a relationship. Its not fair to your partner for you to put that kind of pressure on them

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I4NRulez posted...

Pepys Monster posted...

CircleOfManias posted...

MuscleHamster0 posted...

clearly you don't know why I'm chasing it because it would heal me espically if it came from someone I loved or cared about .

That's not how it works. It's not a magic spell, that's going to solve all your problems. If you go into a relationship without having your shit together and expecting to be "healed", it's going to be a disaster.

Don't listen to this guy. A relationship can definitely lift your spirits and get you to live life to the fullest instead of moping in your room, feeling hopeless every day.

No he's right. Relationships arent a fix for mental issues because if that relationship ends then youre fucked.

You want to get better for yourself then enter a relationship. Its not fair to your partner for you to put that kind of pressure on them

Spoilers: Men are sad when they get dumped regardless of whether they were depressed before entering the relationship.
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Getting into a relationship with the expectation that it will "fix" you is a surefire way to poison the relationship from the start.

Think of relationships as a skill. And when you engage in one, it levels up like a video game. If you are a noob at girls, you should not be trying to look for the love of your life because you aren't ready. You need to grind to increase your skills. If you met her, you would definitely ruin it, and Then you would begin to understand true suffering.

Things like holding a conversation, being funny, learning how to be good at texting (it's an art ), how to kiss and touch, how to act normal in public, how to handle jealousy or insecurity. Then sex, all these skills will increase throughout your entire life. The higher they are, the better chance you will have when you meet the right girl.

Know how many heart breaks I had before I STARTED to be ok at women? 5 devastating break ups. Each time I picked myself back up and analyzed things. It took years, literally years, and its ongoing. Tc, your expectations are so unrealistic it is no wonder you haven't had success. You must lower your expectations and start improving Yourself asap.

You are short, if you aren't in the gym or making money, I don't what the fuck you expect in this dating climate. But when that time comes, just date an even shorter girl. Boom, natural order

Zikten posted...

I am 36 and same except I no longer care. I don't remember when I stopped caring. some time in the past 5 years. some part of me snapped and I just no longer have any drive to get a girlfriend. it would just bring more stress to my life anyway. so fuck it. I'm a monk without the God part. I'm fine as long as I have my games and my tv and my cat

I'm the opposite. I didn't care at all until I turned 30ish. Then it started weighing on me. Now it's become this big thing I'm fixated on, and I hate it.
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Keith_Valentine posted...

Think of relationships as a skill. And when you engage in one, it levels up like a video game. If you are a noob at girls, you should not be trying to look for the love of your life because you aren't ready. You need to grind to increase your skills. If you met her, you would definitely ruin it, and Then you would begin to understand true suffering.

Things like holding a conversation, being funny, learning how to be good at texting (it's an art ), how to kiss and touch, how to act normal in public, how to handle jealousy or insecurity. Then sex, all these skills will increase throughout your entire life. The higher they are, the better chance you will have when you meet the right girl.

Know how many heart breaks I had before I STARTED to be ok at women? 5 devastating break ups. Each time I picked myself back up and analyzed things. It took years, literally years, and its ongoing. Tc, your expectations are so unrealistic it is no wonder you haven't had success. You must lower your expectations and start improving Yourself asap.

You are short, if you aren't in the gym or making money, I don't what the fuck you expect in this dating climate. But when that time comes, just date an even shorter girl. Boom, natural order

I can talk to girls no one gives me a chance Didn't you see what I said?
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MuscleHamster0 posted...

Once girls see how tiny I am it's a huge turn off.

but what can you seriously do in my situation you play with the hand your dealt like a great poker player.

genetic aren't on my side but I'm looking to cash in a lil high whether it happens or not stay tuned.

But you aren't playing your hand like a great poker player. You're looking at your hand saying this hand is shit then instead of playing it anyways you're tearing up the cards and crying in your seat. Great poker players can turn a 7-2 off suit into a massive win.
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Are you a supreme gentleman?
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I'm just looking for friends right now honest....
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