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Medussa 01/28/18 12:21:10 PM #51: |
my goto answer is "no worse than usual". they usually take the hint, and no one has ever reacted as if it was rude, so winning?
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Vyrulisse 01/28/18 12:22:26 PM #52: |
I'm horrible at small talk, so much so that I usually end up saying nothing at all. It's like I'm not being rude or ignoring people I just don't know what to say and feel weird saying anything. x.x
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cuttin_in_farm 01/28/18 1:14:37 PM #53: |
Veggeta X posted...
cuttin_in_farm posted...Veggeta X posted...What is wrong with being polite? Don't know who the fuck you're talking to with your second paragraph, so I'll just ignore it. And saying "how are you" is not a genuine attempt to acknowledge people 98% of the time. As been said in this topic, if you don't say a synonym of "fine", the asker gets confused. The question is to glib. It's to the point where it's a substitute for "Hi" at this point. It's not a question anymore. It's not polite, it's lazy. It just makes people who aren't feeling well feel uncomfortable. Kinda like those people who hold doors open for people too far away, so now the other person feels obligated to speed up. It's a robotic gesture that the user rarely actually puts genuine thought into. --- A show of kindness may not do much help, but a show of cruelty may do much harm. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DevsBro 01/28/18 2:44:06 PM #54: |
What is better small talk then? "What's up" is a fairly common one, and much better. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Infinite 2003 01/28/18 3:00:14 PM #55: |
"What's up?"
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Veggeta X 01/28/18 5:22:24 PM #56: |
cuttin_in_farm posted...
It's a robotic gesture that the user rarely actually puts genuine thought into. I hope everyone ignores you for now on --- Don't like it? Don't watch it. It's that simple Capcom Defense Force ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Raikuro 01/28/18 5:27:08 PM #57: |
It's just meant to be an opener. If it's responded with a canned response and followed up with a canned response, both people are clearly not interested in talking. But it's really not hard to get it to open up to other topics.
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Joelypoely 01/28/18 6:17:22 PM #58: |
There's nothing wrong with the question, people misinterpret it. If I ask you 'how have you been lately?' and you've been having a good time, simply explain the highlights of your past month or week and maybe that will spark shared discussion. If you've been having a rough time explain what's been bothering you and maybe I can help you. It's not that complicated.
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DevsBro 01/28/18 6:20:35 PM #59: |
Joelypoely posted...
There's nothing wrong with the question, people misinterpret it. If I ask you 'how have you been lately?' and you've been having a good time, simply explain the highlights of your past month or week and maybe that will spark shared discussion. If you've been having a rough time explain what's been bothering you and maybe I can help you. It's not that complicated. Thus making it no longer small talk. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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flussence 01/28/18 6:25:20 PM #60: |
bad: "How are you"
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Joelypoely 01/28/18 6:49:36 PM #61: |
DevsBro posted...
Joelypoely posted...There's nothing wrong with the question, people misinterpret it. If I ask you 'how have you been lately?' and you've been having a good time, simply explain the highlights of your past month or week and maybe that will spark shared discussion. If you've been having a rough time explain what's been bothering you and maybe I can help you. It's not that complicated. There's no need to differentiate between 'small' and regular talk. If there is a need to differentiate between the two then what is good small talk? Can there be good small talk? --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DevsBro 01/28/18 6:53:24 PM #62: |
Joelypoely posted...
DevsBro posted...Joelypoely posted...There's nothing wrong with the question, people misinterpret it. If I ask you 'how have you been lately?' and you've been having a good time, simply explain the highlights of your past month or week and maybe that will spark shared discussion. If you've been having a rough time explain what's been bothering you and maybe I can help you. It's not that complicated. Sure there's a difference. Small talk is done out of politeness or general friendliness. For example, if you make eye contact with someone, it's awkward to not acknowledge them. Enter small talk. Bad small talk, then, is when the discussion goes beyond the surface. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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