Current Events > Do you regret how long it took you to figure shit out?

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To get your life together?

For example, I could've been where I am now financially and emotionally much sooner if I had my shit together when I was younger. Probably could've been where I'm at now at around 22 instead of 26. Which means by 26 I'd have been even further.

I try not to let it bother me since everyone has their own time in which they wake up and realize how shit really is. I try to make it up to my future self by working my ass off and dedicating myself to achieving my goals. Maybe if I didn't go through a learning process when I was younger and messing up, I wouldn't have had the drive I do now?

I wish I could go back in time and give my 16-18 year old self a firm kick in the ass, tbqh.
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Nah. In the long run 5 years ain't a big deal. Now if I was in my 40s I'd definitely regret it. I just look at it as I got my party life over and done with and now I'm ready to be boring and lazy and I won't regret having not lived the party life
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What the fuck? That's even worse. Imagine the highlight of your life being the "party life" and not having a plan to fucking thrive through your 30s, 40s, 50s, and all the way to the 100s. That's depressing, dude.
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Nope. Regrets are useless.
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Yeah, because I'm still struggling to get things sorted and failing.
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FLUFFYGERM posted...

What the fuck? That's even worse. Imagine the highlight of your life being the "party life" and not having a plan to fucking thrive through your 30s, 40s, 50s, and all the way to the 100s. That's depressing, dude.

Maybe I didn't word that right. I lived the party life. Now my life is stable and together, I'm 28. I don't regret it. I mean what did I really miss out on in 5 years
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Hell yes, especially as it's not totally together...
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I don't think it took me a long time to figure shit out. I'd say right now I'm struggling/trying hard to make sure I keep doing well and not slow down.
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No. Should I because you say so?
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-Gavirulax- posted...

Absolutely, wasted a shit load of my life in Uni and even considered myself far-left while younger.

Much happier now I'm my own boss and free to do pretty much anything, new venture starting up in March.

Congrats on the new venture! That's super exciting. Best of luck.

glitteringfairy posted...

FLUFFYGERM posted...

What the fuck? That's even worse. Imagine the highlight of your life being the "party life" and not having a plan to fucking thrive through your 30s, 40s, 50s, and all the way to the 100s. That's depressing, dude.

Maybe I didn't word that right. I lived the party life. Now my life is stable and together, I'm 28. I don't regret it. I mean what did I really miss out on in 5 years

5 years of saving / investing / learning new shit. D:

TheCyborgNinja posted...

Hell yes, especially as it's not totally together...

Maybe no one has it all together all the time and I'm just being unfair to my past self and future self.

emblem boy posted...

I don't think it took me a long time to figure shit out. I'd say right now I'm struggling/trying hard to make sure I keep doing well and not slow down.

The only thing that would make me slow down is illness or an accident or w/e. Ain't no time for slowing down, fam.
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masticatingman posted...

No. Should I because you say so?

Uh, no? I didn't say you should.
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Yup. I just turned 22 and Im still at community college because Ive been going part-time (and working, Im not that lazy) instead of full-time. To think I could be finishing up my bachelor's instead of my associate's right now makes me feel like I let myself fall behind.

Nah I'll be alright man. I have a house with a badass man cave, gf, New car. It's on the up and up.
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FLUFFYGERM posted...

masticatingman posted...

No. Should I because you say so?

Uh, no? I didn't say you should.

Post #3.
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thrashmetal14 posted...

Yup. I just turned 22 and Im still at community college because Ive been going part-time (and working, Im not that lazy) instead of full-time. To think I could be finishing up my bachelor's instead of my associate's right now makes me feel like I let myself fall behind.

I know that feel, I graduated late. Around your age is when I started up college again after taking a break to figure shit out. Keep going, you'll make it.

CirocObama posted...

It'd be nice if I started my career earlier, but it is what it is. I'm 27 and happier than I've ever been so I focus on that.

I'm 26 and I'm happier than I've ever been as well. So that's wise. Should focus on where I'm at now and where I plan to be in the future, rather than spilled milk. Thanks!

glitteringfairy posted...

Nah I'll be alright man. I have a house with a badass man cave, gf, New car. It's on the up and up.

Congrats man. The new gf sounds really exciting. :) What car?
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masticatingman posted...

FLUFFYGERM posted...

masticatingman posted...

No. Should I because you say so?

Uh, no? I didn't say you should.

Post #3.

That wasn't in response to you, and it's my own opinion.
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When I was 14 and I did something careless and my dad told me that I'm old enough to take responsibility for my own action including my performance in HS and that I should think about my future. He said he'd support me through HS then I'm on my own, so whatever I do will determine my future.

At that point I realized, I needed to work hard and build my own future.
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DanHarenChamp posted...

When I was 14 and I did something careless and my dad told me that I'm old enough to take responsibility for my own action including my performance in HS and that I should think about my future. He said he'd support me through HS then I'm on my own, so whatever I do will determine my future.

At that point I realized, I needed to work hard and build my own future.

And how did things go?
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You realize it doesnt matter dog shit if you got everything figured out when youre 19-20 and proceed to fuck it all up down the line, right? Life is a marathon, not a sprint to respectability.
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I regret taking work too seriously and beating myself up about not being "normal" from 18-25. I really wanted to get out on my own and be an ambitious, independent go-getter but I starting having a lot of stress-related health problems because that's just not what I was built for in this world. Once I stopped trying to impress employers or my family and gave up on keeping up with everyone else, life became considerably more enjoyable and easier. That was a lot of time to be miserable and directionless.
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masticatingman posted...

You realize it doesnt matter dog shit if you got everything figured out when youre 19-20 and proceed to fuck it all up down the line, right? Life is a marathon, not a sprint to respectability.

Right, but if you don't fuck it all up down the line...the earlier you start living the better. Skills, money, exercise, etc, all compounds.
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FLUFFYGERM posted...

DanHarenChamp posted...

When I was 14 and I did something careless and my dad told me that I'm old enough to take responsibility for my own action including my performance in HS and that I should think about my future. He said he'd support me through HS then I'm on my own, so whatever I do will determine my future.

At that point I realized, I needed to work hard and build my own future.

And how did things go?

pretty good, got into a decent college, went to a decent med school, now i'm at a decent residency program, and I've already been promised a decent fellowship spot for pulmonary and critical care.
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to answer your question

i would need to have actually figured anything out

and not be a colossal fuck up

nahmeen
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Millennials posted...

I regret taking work too seriously and beating myself up about not being "normal" from 18-25. I really wanted to get out on my own and be an ambitious, independent go-getter but I starting having a lot of stress-related health problems because that's just not what I was built for in this world. Once I stopped trying to impress employers or my family and gave up on keeping up with everyone else, life became considerably more enjoyable and easier. That was a lot of time to be miserable and directionless.

I personally find a lot of satisfaction in rocking at my career and achieving my goals. I feel depressed and miserable if I don't see progress over the months.
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DanHarenChamp posted...

FLUFFYGERM posted...

DanHarenChamp posted...

When I was 14 and I did something careless and my dad told me that I'm old enough to take responsibility for my own action including my performance in HS and that I should think about my future. He said he'd support me through HS then I'm on my own, so whatever I do will determine my future.

At that point I realized, I needed to work hard and build my own future.

And how did things go?

pretty good, got into a decent college, went to a decent med school, now i'm at a decent residency program, and I've already been promised a decent fellowship spot for pulmonary and critical care.

That's really fucking awesome. Congratulations! Keep it up man.

Vulgorn posted...

to answer your question

i would need to have actually figured anything out

and not be a colossal fuck up

nahmeen

Are you taking steps towards fixing yourself so that you don't regret not doing so sooner?
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I regret that I'm almost 23 and don't really have it figured out

That said, I'm on track to finish my bachelor's this year. After that it's my master's and then either s PhD or the big bad world of work.
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teepan95 posted...

I regret that I'm almost 23 and don't really have it figured out

That said, I'm on track to finish my bachelor's this year. After that it's my master's and then either s PhD or the big bad world of work.

Bachelor's degree at 22/23 is not bad at all
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Absolutely.

I dropped out of highschool at 16 and spent 10 years being a professional couch potato. My grandfather (who had outstanding work ethic) passed away. He always lectured me about doing something with my life, and when that happened I went back and got my highschool diploma. I then went to college and graduated from civil engineering at 32 years old.

It worked out in the end, but I can't help to think how much further in life I'd be if I hadn't dropped out.
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@KILBOTz

Super interested in your perspective since you mentioned in a different topic that you grew up in a fundamentalist evangelical home. If you don't mind sharing.
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FLUFFYGERM posted...

teepan95 posted...

I regret that I'm almost 23 and don't really have it figured out

That said, I'm on track to finish my bachelor's this year. After that it's my master's and then either s PhD or the big bad world of work.

Bachelor's degree at 22/23 is not bad at all

It's a three year course here. My friends back in the UK got their degrees over a year ago, my friends here back in September. Had I not started from scratch in the middle of it, I would have been among them <_<
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Damien747 posted...

Absolutely.

I dropped out of highschool at 16 and spent 10 years being a professional couch potato. My grandfather (who had outstanding work ethic) passed away. He always lectured me about doing something with my life, and when that happened I went back and got my highschool diploma. I then went to college and graduated from civil engineering at 32 years old.

It worked out in the end, but I can't help to think how much further in life I'd be if I hadn't dropped out.

I hear ya man. Time to kick it into overdrive! You can easily be a millionaire by the time you're 40 if you work like hell and save/invest every dime. That'd be a very nice present to 40 year old you, wouldn't it?
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I just try to enjoy what I'm doing week to week, thats been working well so i think I'll keep doing that
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Honestly most people in life, in general, are lazy af. Too many people are unwilling to sacrifice a little bit of short term happiness for long term success, security and happiness. People tend to think short team hard work can lead to sustained success but it really can't.
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FLUFFYGERM posted...

The only thing that would make me slow down is illness or an accident or w/e. Ain't no time for slowing down, fam.

Yep. These are the best years to hustle
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emblem boy posted...

FLUFFYGERM posted...

The only thing that would make me slow down is illness or an accident or w/e. Ain't no time for slowing down, fam.

Yep. These are the best years to hustle

When we're rich and enjoying drinks and babes on a yacht, we can think back to these years.
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FLUFFYGERM posted...

I personally find a lot of satisfaction in rocking at my career and achieving my goals. I feel depressed and miserable if I don't see progress over the months.

I feel you. That's how I thought I needed to be but it just wasn't for me and that's why I had such a horrible disposition when I was younger. Got all worked up over work and trying to be happier than I was with a paycheck that everyone, including myself, tied to my worth as a person. All the health problems I got from trying to be like that weren't worth it.
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Not really, I started working at 19 as a student, eventually moved into a permanent position at 21 with LA County, still working there albeit a few positions up. Aside from working with some terrible people in the past, I enjoy where I'm at, making a livable wage, paying to a home, have a car, etc. My brothers were the ones fucking up, I was the one that had to actually step up and not spend money on dumb shit and actually help my mom and get the family to where we're at now.
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Millennials posted...

FLUFFYGERM posted...

I personally find a lot of satisfaction in rocking at my career and achieving my goals. I feel depressed and miserable if I don't see progress over the months.

I feel you. That's how I thought I needed to be but it just wasn't for me and that's why I had such a horrible disposition when I was younger. Got all worked up over work and trying to be happier than I was with a paycheck that everyone, including myself, tied to my worth as a person. All the health problems I got from trying to be like that weren't worth it.

That's interesting.

I don't find satisfaction in money itself. I just find deep satisfaction in seeing myself succeed, because I never thought I could and a lot of people always put me down and told me I'd never amount to anything. So it's pretty damn amazing to me that I'm actually making it. O.o
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UrCa1988 posted...

Not really, I started working at 19 as a student, eventually moved into a permanent position at 21 with LA County, still working there albeit a few positions up. Aside from working with some terrible people in the past, I enjoy where I'm at, making a livable wage, paying to a home, have a car, etc. My brothers were the ones fucking up, I was the one that had to actually step up and not spend money on dumb shit and actually help my mom and get the family to where we're at now.

That's really cool man. Family is everything, and I understand very well what it is like to be part of the glue that holds family together emotionally and financially. It's a tough thing to be, but you're a very important person and what you're doing is something amazing.
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Joke's on you, I'm 31 and have precisely fuck-all figured out.
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booboy posted...

Joke's on you, I'm 31 and have precisely fuck-all figured out.

You've got a shit ton amount of karma though. O.o
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Yes, yes I do.
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FLUFFYGERM posted...

booboy posted...

Joke's on you, I'm 31 and have precisely fuck-all figured out.

You've got a shit ton amount of karma though. O.o

Doesn't matter. I still have nothing IRL figured out, aside from that my degree and my ex were both fucking expensive wastes of time.
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All the time. I still dont have it together. Fuck.
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FLUFFYGERM posted...

That's interesting.

I don't find satisfaction in money itself. I just find deep satisfaction in seeing myself succeed, because I never thought I could and a lot of people always put me down and told me I'd never amount to anything. So it's pretty damn amazing to me that I'm actually making it. O.o

I see. Money and career satisfaction were always tied together in my mind growing up, so I always felt like I had to bring in money to be something. I forget that some people just like to work for the thrill.

People also told me I'd never be anything but at some point, I considered the source and stopped caring. I might not be something but I'm not as bad off as them and I'm overall very happy in life, so meh.
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I'm 24 and I don't have anything figured out.
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Eh, a lot of my path to figuring shit out was simply because of lack of opportunities at certain points in my life. I just had to be patient/create those opportunities and then try to pounce on them.

A lot of success relies on luck. Other things just help to put the odds in your favor.
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