Poll of the Day > rate your parents from a score of 1 to 100

(+) Yeah! (+)

1 being the lowest

and why you give them the score you posted
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90. They've mostly been great. I often thought my mom put her career ambitions ahead of me and my brothers' wishes, and my dad always sided with her and not us, even when on the dl he did agree with us. But other than that no major complaints come to mind.
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43

Mom genuinely cares for her kids but is damages goods who lept relying on abusive men amd getting too caught up in personal dramas to properly plan for her childrens futures.

She never had a chance to be a good mom and medically had more kids than she intemded where abortion wasnt the option, ao she did the best she could with what little knowledge and experience she has.

She keeps making fd up life decisions that negatively impact family and relying on others for financial support, so every year since the decade or so shes been getting 2 points removed each year, but I doubt they will do anything bad enough to go in the 25 and below range (I would save that for outright purposeful abuse and theft in its various forms)
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85

Both are pretty great, but neither is perfect
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Mom a 95

Dad a 5
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Ogurisama posted...

80

Both are pretty great, but neither is perfect

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90 for each. No one's perfect, but they've been able to provide everything I've ever needed or wanted in life. They are very supportive of their children. -10 for their individual flaws, but all things considered we're a close family.
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90+ for both.

Mum is doting on her children. She's loving, tender and fun at the same time. She can be your stern mum when you need guidance and direction and at the same time be your girlfriend when you need to chill and hang out. She's got great fashion sense that she can relate to a lot of things even in this generation; makes for great conversation. She's my best friend and a very empathic person. Love her.

Dad is serious, protective and corny and cheesy at the same time. He's well versed in a lot of things; medical, pharmaceutical, electrical. He's very handy and well-read. So he always has something interesting to say. He's trilingual and I always thought it's awesome. He's a great conversationalist and quite charming. However, he's a know it all and can be sarcastic. He can be overprotective. He's very conservative and has very strong opinions on what roles a man or woman should have.

Both are deeply religious and devoted to God. But they aren't saints and they know it. Despite this, they always try to be the best person they can be; the best parent they can be.

Both consider family to be the most important thing in the world; second only to God of course. The values they stress on are sacrifice, perseverance, faith, hope, love, humility and patience. And they lead by example.

I couldn't have asked or hoped for better parents. I consider myself blessed to have been born into their household.
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40.
Dad - Far from perfect as he was handy with his fists but not to the extreme some folk have it. He also is a single parent and has been for most of my life. Although my childhood has some bad times I've had good times too and those memories are with him.

Mum - as Good as dead to me so get's no score at all.
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95. They're not perfect, but they've been far better than normal.
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Mom - 90 at being a mom, 40 as a friend
Dad - 30 at being a dad, 70 as a friend
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100

They have/had some flaws but it's impossible to take off any points because of how amazing they are/were
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5 for dad.
30 for mom.

Dad gets a 5 because he sucks, is a lying, cheating, abusive bastard. He never once cared about me, and made it well known that he'd rather me just die so he wouldn't have to deal with me. He's not lower because he did work to provide the basics, and despite him trying a couple of times, he didn't actually kill me. So he has some slight room to have been a worse father.

Mom would be much higher, she gets a 30 because of my dad too. She was often forced to hurt me to prevent him from doing worse. I understand now, but as a kid it just felt like they both hated me. Like myself, she's developed some mental health issues from him and his abuse, which hurt her parenting ability. She became manipulative, and needy, along with my dad being controlling she was too. I've almost never actually been given the option to choose anything for myself because it'd be taking control from her and causes issues.

Don't get me wrong, I love my mom dearly, but I feel I was broken and smothered by them. I wasn't given much room to grow as a person, so I ended up this weak, pathetic, insecure mess of a person. I wish I knew how to fix things, but I think we're all beyond fixing at this point.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

5 for dad.
30 for mom.

Dad gets a 5 because he sucks, is a lying, cheating, abusive bastard. He never once cared about me, and made it well known that he'd rather me just die so he wouldn't have to deal with me. He's not lower because he did work to provide the basics, and despite him trying a couple of times, he didn't actually kill me. So he has some slight room to have been a worse father.

Mom would be much higher, she gets a 30 because of my dad too. She was often forced to hurt me to prevent him from doing worse. I understand now, but as a kid it just felt like they both hated me. Like myself, she's developed some mental health issues from him and his abuse, which hurt her parenting ability. She became manipulative, and needy, along with my dad being controlling she was too. I've almost never actually been given the option to choose anything for myself because it'd be taking control from her and causes issues.

Don't get me wrong, I love my mom dearly, but I feel I was broken and smothered by them. I wasn't given much room to grow as a person, so I ended up this weak, pathetic, insecure mess of a person. I wish I knew how to fix things, but I think we're all beyond fixing at this point.

All you can do when coming from a broken family is accept it and learn to focus on enjoying the rest of your years that werent wasted, or learn from experience and raise a better family, so you feel vindicated for your poor start.
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I cant land on a number. They were way too young and immature to have a kid, but I think they did their best given what they knew and their substance abuse problems.

Still they taught me a lot about life, even if half of it was from seeing the consequences of their mistakes. I used to dwell on how gross our living conditions were or how often I would have to change schools because we were being kicked out, but Ive learned to let that go, they did the best that they were capable of doing and they kept me fed and safe.

Theyve both told me that they wish they could go back and do things differently with how they raised me since theyve grown up somewhat, but I have a pretty good life and I get along with both parents so I wouldnt change a thing.
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bulbinking posted...

All you can do when coming from a broken family is accept it and learn to focus on enjoying the rest of your years that werent wasted, or learn from experience and raise a better family, so you feel vindicated for your poor start.

I want a family of my own so badly. More than anything else. The thing is, I'm too unfit to be a dad, and too pathetic to get a gf. So it doesn't even matter.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

bulbinking posted...

All you can do when coming from a broken family is accept it and learn to focus on enjoying the rest of your years that werent wasted, or learn from experience and raise a better family, so you feel vindicated for your poor start.

I want a family of my own so badly. More than anything else. The thing is, I'm too unfit to be a dad, and too pathetic to get a gf. So it doesn't even matter.

Then maybe try to help others so they dont suffer the same fate? Even if you choose to live in a way thats just waiting for the end as anything you ever loved or wanted to do is now an impoosible pursuit or no longer exists, doesnt mean you cant try to help others not meet the same terrible fate.

And even if you never feel personally vindicated or validated for your stuggles you can die happy still knowing you made the world a better place, even if fleeting.
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mom - 80-ish. Caring, struggling and kind. Not always supportive and sure as hell not always agreeable

dad - dead and as far as I'm concerned forgotten. I have attended the funeral but haven't visited his grave since
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My mom: 85, she be trippin sometimes but she has my back when it counts.

Dad: N/a he was in jail almost my whole life 26 years for a contact killing(which i think is awesome) but when we spoke for the first time you could tell we would never get along, we've lived 2 different lives and we dont know how to connect, so I just shut him out.
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5 to dad

-50 to mom

Dont have communication with either

75

We argue a bit, and their constant arguing with one another is annoying. I definitely love them, though.
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