Poll of the Day > Pls help me understand men, he is so confusing

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TheCyborgNinja posted...

Setsunahenry posted...

Seem like no idea for me.

Anyway, I have a crush but she has a boyfriend already. Should I give up?

1. how old is everyone involved, roughly?
2. how long has their relationship been going for?
3. how closely do you and her match up on an attractiveness scale of 1-10?

Those factors do matter to varying degrees, and the chances of anything succeeding are slim. You don't want to be a rebound guy or a creeper, for instance, nor a charity case. There would probably be signs of emotion if she saw you as a potential future option, even if she's in a generally happy relationship. If there are no signs, then you're not on her radar and probably never will be.

For #1 & #2, I don't really know much that well but all I know is they have a long distance relationship.
For #3, I can't even tell that for sure. Sorry that I am really a clueless guy.

So how am I suppose to know if there is a signs or not. Because I can't even tell. But most likely there are no signs.
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Setsunahenry posted...

TheCyborgNinja posted...

Setsunahenry posted...

Seem like no idea for me.

Anyway, I have a crush but she has a boyfriend already. Should I give up?

1. how old is everyone involved, roughly?
2. how long has their relationship been going for?
3. how closely do you and her match up on an attractiveness scale of 1-10?

Those factors do matter to varying degrees, and the chances of anything succeeding are slim. You don't want to be a rebound guy or a creeper, for instance, nor a charity case. There would probably be signs of emotion if she saw you as a potential future option, even if she's in a generally happy relationship. If there are no signs, then you're not on her radar and probably never will be.

For #1 & #2, I don't really know much that well but all I know is they have a long distance relationship.
For #3, I can't even tell that for sure. Sorry that I am really a clueless guy.

So how am I suppose to know if there is a signs or not. Because I can't even tell. But most likely there are no signs.

First and foremost: nothing will probably come of this if it hasn't already.

It's tricky because you don't want to read too much into things but also avoid being oblivious at the same time. Long distance stuff can really go either way, but usually fails. I know a couple that met on Xbox Live (an American and a Brit) back when we all used to play Halo 2 a lot and they're still together 10+ years later (one of them moved to the other)... So you never know... Is your crush IRL or online? That makes things way more difficult if it's the latter and I wouldn't even bother wasting another minute of stress over it, honestly. The odds aren't in your favour.

People tend to be different online much of the time, but the anonymity sometimes also makes them more honest if they like/trust you. There's a huge difference between being nice and having romantic feelings for somebody. Guys misinterpret the first for the second a lot and make things creepy due to wishful thinking. Not being in the situation personally, it's hard to give you any helpful information, it's all so vague... Ultimately, if she is the kind of person willing to throw him aside for you, she'd probably throw you away for the next guy too. There's no guarantees, but it could easily happen.

If it's online, veiled comments about hanging out with you or something could be a hint, perhaps. If she's around you in person, just wanting to be with you a lot and her making a clear effort to look good while with you could mean something if it's not just her typical MO all the time anyway. Again, it's too hard to say with such little information to go off.

An educated guess says it's probably best to move on because there's likely nothing there on her end.
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