Current Events > Had my first ever second date. It was interesting to say the least!

(+) Yeah! (+)

I just feel really bummed out. She seemed like someone Id really want to date and now shes just....gone.

I redownloaded my Tinder account but I didnt any have any luck last time, so I doubt I will this time either.
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Every experience, good or bad, is still experience TC.

You did great for your first time in this area. You have constructive criticism(too eager) to take with you into your future attempts.
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So you guys are sure I shouldnt have isnt text her again asking how her night is going?
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No. You need to guard your dignity more carefully. She hasnt responded to your texts thus far so you should let it go. If she truly wanted to see you she would have already texted back.
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PaulWalker posted...

So you guys are sure I shouldnt have isnt text her again asking how her night is going?

Yes, enough talking for a while. Give her space. Maybe she isn't truly interested at all. Maybe she needs more time to decide if she wants you more in her life. Either way, you need to put a bit of distance between you both.
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Okay. Ill take that advice and just let her be. If its mean to be, Ill hear from her.

As for tinder, and tips on how to make my profile more enticing?
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Bump
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Just be you, broh

rhklce posted...

Just be you, broh

That didnt work with this past girl though, apparently.
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PaulWalker posted...

rhklce posted...

Just be you, broh

That didnt work with this past girl though, apparently.

Not all chicks are the same

Edit: last girl could also just be a dummy \_()_/. You know your worth and what you can bring to the table. Someone that doesnt appreciate that isnt worth your time.

BlazinBlue88 posted...

You did great for your first time in this area.

lmao
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And just as I suspected - TC hit the gas way too fast and wound up crashing.
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Renraku_San posted...

BlazinBlue88 posted...

You did great for your first time in this area.

lmao
And just as I suspected - TC hit the gas way too fast and wound up crashing.

What's so funny? He did do a great job.

Yeah his eagerness is going to screw him his first few girls until he gets it under control but so what? Everyone is going to make mistakes at first. Compare his experience to all the other cringy shit you've read on this board. He's nowhere close to that stuff.
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pretty rookie mistake, appearing too eager & texting too often. But everyone goes through this, which is the point.

Not too surprised at the result though, given she didn't want to kiss on the 2nd date. Looks like ship has sailed with this girl, just move onto the next one TC.
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PaulWalker posted...

As for tinder, and tips on how to make my profile more enticing?

Just pick your best pictures, no group shots (people hate trying to figure out which one you are), and make sure your bio is nice and compact. Be truthful, maybe a few interesting things you enjoy and what you do, and maybe a dorky pun if you can manage one in organically. Basically, no more than a few sentences.

Anyways yeah if you want to go for the hail mary with this current chick, just wait a few days, and then text something like "hey I know this is weird, but since it seems like things aren't going to work out with us, would you mind if I asked where I messed up so I don't screw up things with people in the future?" or something like that (use your own wording, of course). Worst case scenario, you get no reply since you're all but giving up on this one anyways. Best case scenario, something like "you've done nothing wrong and I've just been busy but let's do something next week."
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I GOT A TINDER MATCH.

She looks cute as heck. Ive never really used an opener on a girl. What do I say??
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Screenshots, my man.
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Ok. Im trying to be nice, but you need to stop getting so damn excited over every little thing. This is a numbers game. You got a match, so what? You need to not care what happenes and stop being so eager. Play it cool, stop overthinking everything because theyre just women, and then you will find success.
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alphagamerXXL posted...

Ok. Im trying to be nice, but you need to stop getting so damn excited over every little thing. This is a numbers game. You got a match, so what? You need to not care what happenes and stop being so eager. Play it cool, stop overthinking everything because theyre just women, and then you will find success.

Im sorry. I know Im being ridiculous and that these arent big deals for people. But for me this feels like a chance to finally fit in with the people around me and to me it is a big deal. So I understand that Im being dumb getting so excited over this stuff but I just really dont want to mess this up.
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Yeah, if she isn't interested, don't force it.

I haven't used Tinder in several years, but when I did, it was flooded with bots, so don't get too excited over a match if it's some excessively hot chick in a scantily-clad outfit with a blank or near-blank profile.

That said, tinder openers are the worst for guys. You're expected to say something that isn't boring like "hey what's up?" but you can't do any googled pickup lines or anything like that. Your best bet is to find something in their profile about which you're knowledgeable or interested, and try to get them talking about that.
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