Current Events > You're more likely to get a girlfriend by approaching women than internet dating

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Women on internet dating sites get dozens of messages from men every day. Most of them will never find a man on the internet that they think is actually good enough, because the more options she has, the more bored she becomes with each individual one. If you message a girl and don't get a response, it doesn't mean you did anything wrong. Women just have waaaayyyyy too many options on the internet and consequentially are waaaaayyyy pickier than they are in person.

However, that exact same woman would be much more likely to respond positively if a man approached her confidently in public. The whole Tinder culture and normalization of online dating has conditioned many of us men to think that striking up a conversation with a woman you've never met before is creepy. The reality: Women are frustrated at the lack of men who have the balls to approach them.

"But she's hasn't made eye contact with me once. It almost feels like she's AVOIDING eye contact with me! Surely if I talked to her I would be bothering her or maybe even make her feel uncomfortable."
Go talk to her anyway. Believe it or not, women exhibit this kind of behavior towards men they're attracted to. For several reasons.
1-Making the first move is the guy's job.
2-Women instinctively hide their attraction for fear of being seen as desperate/slutty/whatever.
3-Some women just want to make you work for it.
4-She might think you're the kind of guy who will come hit on her. (Well prove her right! hehe!) Women have a natural defense mechanism that makes them nervous about being approached by a guy, even if she likes him. Possibly even ESPECIALLY if she likes him. But if you are confident and exhibit calm body language (which requires you to be comfortable, which requires practice. You will fail at this at first, but you will only get better with each attempt), then you will put her at ease. You might end up getting her number, you might not. Either way, my point is you can ease her nervousness, and she will view your conversation as a pleasant experience, whether it turns out in your favor or not.
5-Some women are just shy.

The number one thing I want you to know: Don't be scared of being seen as a creep. You know what your intentions are. Sadly, some women will think you're a creep even if you approach her with the best intentions. That's a reflection on her poor judgement, not you. You'll find that many women are less judgmental than you think.

I stopped internet dating about two years ago. I've never been more confident and felt more appreciated by women than I do now. I like talking to gorgeous women I see in public now. I don't always even ask for her number, I just enjoy the experience of talking to a beautiful woman sometimes.

Now I'm going to repeat something I already mentioned 5 times in order to really drive it home:
Women are frustrated at the lack of men who have the balls to approach them
Women are frustrated at the lack of men who have the balls to approach them
Women are frustrated at the lack of men who have the balls to approach them
Women are frustrated at the lack of men who have the balls to approach them
Women are frustrated at the lack of men who have the balls to approach them

She WANTS you to go talk to her. So love yourself, know you're a great guy and worthy of her time, and go talk to her!
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but it's 2017, what about my gender equality?
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If I approach a woman, I am more likely to get accused of sexual harassment than finding someone to date.

The X Dawg posted...

If I approach a woman, I am more likely to get accused of sexual harassment than finding someone to date.

Only if you approach her like an idiot. Which you might do at first, but you'll only get better and more comfortable every time. Plus I addressed this already:

The number one thing I want you to know: Don't be scared of being seen as a creep. You know what your intentions are. Sadly, some women will think you're a creep even if you approach her with the best intentions. That's a reflection on her poor judgement, not you. You'll find that many women are less judgmental than you think.

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BUmp
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