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Time for a new topic, post what's going on with your dating life (or lack of)

just in time for the anniversary of halloween girl

That guy from CE who messaged the 100 girls on TInder "Want to fuck?" made the Tinderfessions feed on Twitter:

https://twitter.com/tinderfessions/status/910569249063817216



@F1rstBlood
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The Admiral posted...

That guy from CE who messaged the 100 girls on TInder "Want to fuck?" made the Tinderfessions feed on Twitter:

https://twitter.com/tinderfessions/status/910569249063817216



@F1rstBlood

Lol that's not bad
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tag

Just reactivated my OKCupid account instead of waiting, got right into the game. Suddenly made me feel way less depressed, so yay rebounding?

Also I apologized to this girl who sent me a message 3 weeks ago saying my mouth was cute, when I closed my account.
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She said I made her squirt for the very first time when we had sex this morning

Hmmm
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Blue_Popo posted...

just in time for the anniversary of halloween girl

This hurts lmao

I actually almost texted her and asked her how she's been but I stopped myself real quick

I unblocked her though. We're both seeing other people. Figured it's the least I could do.
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Man, dating...
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Im messaging a girl on tinder about David Bowie

She seems cool

I still just want to be dating my friend though
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Dating is hard
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Gay dating is such a drag.

Maybe because I start falling for all the people I hook up with.

Sigh, I can be such a girl when it comes to these things
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Just opened an account in Once, just to try another website. See how it goes getting 1 assured match per day.
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Was out last night and tinder wasnt loading for me

When I got home it started working again and I had a message from the girl I had been talking to saying shes near where I was we should meet up for a drink
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ArchangelBaruch posted...

Just opened an account in Once, just to try another website. See how it goes getting 1 assured match per day.

Just got my first match, even though it's supposed to be at noon. Guess the first day it's a freebie.

Anyway, got a real cute girl who is studying vet. We'll see if we connect, but the whole being directly connected one-on-one, I feel it's nice.
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Their pro stuff sucks though. Both sides need to spend tokens to speak with eachother out of turn, so if you get requested (like I did) and don't want to spend a dime (like I do), the other person gets screwed.

On the OKC side of things, a girl who is into yoga (I'm not) sent me a message. It feels bad because it reminds me how in sync I was with my now ex since message one.

But it's a start.
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TheGoldenEel posted...

Was out last night and tinder wasnt loading for me

When I got home it started working again and I had a message from the girl I had been talking to saying shes near where I was we should meet up for a drink

Well Ive got a date set with this girl for Wednesday. She seems like my type. Maybe a little tall. I dont like how you dont know that on tinderI make it obvious from my pictures that Im short so it wont be a surprise to her, hope its not a problem
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So I had been seeing this girl off bumble. She's nice, she's cute, she's chill but there wasn't much interesting about her and she was not as attractive as the other girls I had been with in the lat 2 years (still cute). Today she messaged me with "Hey want you to know I met someone off bumble and we will see each other again"

I'm....happy with this? lol. I hate how these apps have made me no fucks given

I do respect her honesty. I met up with a cougar from OKC in the same time frame and I'm more interested in her

@ArchangelBaruch posted...

Just opened an account in Once, just to try another website. See how it goes getting 1 assured match per day.

How does Once work? I mean who decide those matches? They really want us to believe their workers hand picked it for us?
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condom slipped off just as I was pulling out

she's on birth control so im not worried about pregnancy

im more worried about the other thing...

wasnt during a breakout and im sure we didn't touch though >___>
just scary, last time im using those condoms
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Had a chick in my backseat last night. Didn't have a condom, she wasn't on birth control and my pull out game was probably weak...
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When people pull out, do you just finish on the bed or whatever?
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emblem boy posted...

When people pull out, do you just finish on the bed or whatever?

I guess. Never tried before last night lol
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Kelystic posted...

How does Once work? I mean who decide those matches? They really want us to believe their workers hand picked it for us?

Yeah, paid matchmakers. People rate their matches and get paid if both people like eachother I think.
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emblem boy posted...

When people pull out, do you just finish on the bed or whatever?

lmao wtf no

finish on her.
i like to do it on the face, boobs, or belly or ass.
Some girls like to swallow it. I dated two girls that preferred to swallow.....god damn
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gna647 posted...

emblem boy posted...

When people pull out, do you just finish on the bed or whatever?

lmao wtf no

finish on her.
i like to do it on the face, boobs, or belly or ass.
Some girls like to swallow it. I dated two girls that preferred to swallow.....god damn

Yeah lol

it's so much to clean off a human body than sheets.

Even better if she swallows... and for fuck sake don't put it in her hair

@ArchangelBaruch posted...

Kelystic posted...

How does Once work? I mean who decide those matches? They really want us to believe their workers hand picked it for us?

Yeah, paid matchmakers. People rate their matches and get paid if both people like eachother I think.

I'm confused. Who is paying them? I ain't paying for a dating app lol
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Kelystic posted...

@ArchangelBaruch posted...

Kelystic posted...

How does Once work? I mean who decide those matches? They really want us to believe their workers hand picked it for us?

Yeah, paid matchmakers. People rate their matches and get paid if both people like eachother I think.

I'm confused. Who is paying them? I ain't paying for a dating app lol

The app makers, using some pro money I guess? I imagine pay is not great, like a few cents per match.

... The more I describe it the worse it sounds. Oh well, it's a free match per day so I won't complain.
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i just got a message in my phone that i matched with a girl on tinder and she sent a message.
klicked to open it, but the app wasn't loading.
so i backed out and opened it again.

this time the app loaded just fine, but there is no message, nothing about a new match or anything.
what happened?
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ROBANN_88 posted...

i just got a message in my phone that i matched with a girl on tinder and she sent a message.
klicked to open it, but the app wasn't loading.
so i backed out and opened it again.

this time the app loaded just fine, but there is no message, nothing about a new match or anything.
what happened?

She was probably spam and got deleted

So im starting to suspect that my girlfriend might be bisexual, and her "friend" bisexual as well.

Shes been friends with this girl she met this semester in chemistry and they seem to be getting pretty close. But here's the thing, her friend is inviting her out on all these vacations and what not on her expense. She wants to take my girl to san francisco and hawaii using some kind of point system that she has? Idk.

Its just weird how she invites my girlfriend out to these places, like why not bring family or something?
Anyways i took a jab at it and said to my girlfriend "Maybe she likes you huh?"
and my girlfriend looked at me and was like "I'd never leave you for a girl."

what also makes me suspicious is how often my girl comments on girls we pass by on campus and how she checks them out, like there was this hot blonde wearing booty shorts and she commented on it "wow her ass is basically out." Or when we see a pretty girl she'd be like "that girl was super pretty."

They're going out to eat at Chili's right now, she invited me but i had to study for exams.

If they were down for a threesome i'd be 1000% down for that
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Welp. I sent a super lame feelings text to my friend Im into after shes dodged my admittedly not very good attempts to have a conversation about what our status is

I have this date with tinder girl Wednesday and Id really just like to know where its all at, because the truth is Id rather be with the friend and I feel dumb going out and trying to meet someone else if this is something worth pursuing

idk. Feelings suck. Dating sucks
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So this girl I met over 2 years ago wants a second date. Her body is banging, her face is ok. She came to our first date high and acted completely uninterested, and even came off as rude sometimes. She recently told me that date was a week after she broke up with a guy she dated for 4 years.

I haven't decided yet if I'll go through with this but I do accept people can change

TheGoldenEel posted...

Welp. I sent a super lame feelings text to my friend Im into after shes dodged my admittedly not very good attempts to have a conversation about what our status is

I have this date with tinder girl Wednesday and Id really just like to know where its all at, because the truth is Id rather be with the friend and I feel dumb going out and trying to meet someone else if this is something worth pursuing

idk. Feelings suck. Dating sucks

This sounds like pretty much my situation with Halloween girl

My advice:
Be upfront with your friend and tell her you have feelings for her and see what she feels about it. If she's not interested, you're gonna have to move on.

Then you have a choice to just go on the date with tinder girl or tell her you're not really into dating at the moment for personal reasons and just cancel the date. But i mean if you feel comfortable enough and you think you might like her, give her a shot.

Take a break from dating altogether so you can get over your friend.

I went through the same thing you did. I was still getting over halloween girl but I kept going on tinder dates. I scheduled my last one and said im not going to date anyone anymore for while because i needed to get over halloween girl. My last tinder date ended up being my current girlfriend. You never know. I still have lingering feelings for halloween girl but this girlfriend is better in every way and im glad I went on that date and met her.
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Met up with the girl I mentioned last topic (finally). Wasn't really a date, we just chatted in her school's student center before she had an assignment she had to get done. Cool chick, wants to come to my school to visit me sometime lol
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I'm debating on whether I should try one last time, or just close my okcupid account.

Reading of you guys being successful makes me feel interested in trying, but also just makes me feel kind of sick with envy.

I'll try my best not to bog this topic down with my usual complaining though, if I keep posting in here anyway.
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I have a third date scheduled this week with a girl from JSwipe. The problem for me is that I showed up drunk to our last two dates (she had no idea) and really don't remember a single thing we talked about. We somehow ended up having sex on Friday -- which I do remember -- but everything before that is basically remembered like a silent movie in my head.

She keeps texting me things that she claims we discussed on Friday, and I don't really know how to respond. Probably going to cut it off after this week.
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KogaSteelfang posted...

I'm debating on whether I should try one last time, or just close my okcupid account.

Reading of you guys being successful makes me feel interested in trying, but also just makes me feel kind of sick with envy.

I'll try my best not to bog this topic down with my usual complaining though, if I keep posting in here anyway.

I'm not good at dating, but I say keep it up. I remember what you look like and you're much better looking than I am.

Try Plenty of fish if you aren't already. In the last week and a half I was with two girls off of there. One was kinda off, but she was hot and the sex was awesome. The girl I'm seeing now is sweet and wants what I want. A relationship.
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Is messaging girls you don't at least match with on OKC and POF just completely pointless? I always seem to get ignored unless I've at least matched with the girl. Sending messages to random women just seems to not work.
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Tanoomba posted...

Is messaging girls you don't at least match with on OKC and POF just completely pointless? I always seem to get ignored unless I've at least matched with the girl. Sending messages to random women just seems to not work.

If you have a high compatibility % and your message is witty, it may work. But at the end of the day being attractive is what works best.

From past experience I'd say I have about a 10% chance of getting an answer if it's me who speaks first to a high-compatibility girl, though those convos tend to be short. So for me at least I just shotgun messages to girls I liked when I'm really bored, without expecting anything in return.
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ArchangelBaruch posted...

From past experience I'd say I have about a 10% chance of getting an answer if it's me who speaks first to a high-compatibility girl, though those convos tend to be short. So for me at least I just shotgun messages to girls I liked when I'm really bored, without expecting anything in return.

So you've only gone on dates with girls who have matched you, or messaged you first?

This is just so discouraging. I don't see how you guys keep your positivity even when nothing is nibbling, and you basically don't get any girl you find cute responding.
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Current girlfriend I didn't message her for a good two weeks after matching her
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Tanoomba posted...

So you've only gone on dates with girls who have matched you, or messaged you first?

Just gone to a couple dates with one girl, but yeah she messaged first. When they are on the offensive is waaaaaay easier.

Tanoomba posted...

This is just so discouraging. I don't see how you guys keep your positivity even when nothing is nibbling, and you basically don't get any girl you find cute responding.

If you want to hit on girls, go to a bar. IMO if you date online (because you can't in person or because you can't be bothered to) you need to be ready to either really up your game, to really lower your standards or to be ready to play the long game.
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ArchangelBaruch posted...

If you want to hit on girls, go to a bar. IMO if you date online (because you can't in person or because you can't be bothered to) you need to be ready to either really up your game, to really lower your standards or to be ready to play the long game.

Alright. You guys just make it seem like it's so easy lol, but I guess I'm just super impatient.
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Tanoomba posted...

ArchangelBaruch posted...

If you want to hit on girls, go to a bar. IMO if you date online (because you can't in person or because you can't be bothered to) you need to be ready to either really up your game, to really lower your standards or to be ready to play the long game.

Alright. You guys just make it seem like it's so easy lol, but I guess I'm just super impatient.

For information I got my first date beginning of September, I created my OKC account in December.

Not that it's not partially my fault for going really slowly.
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gna647 posted...

This sounds like pretty much my situation with Halloween girl

My advice:
Be upfront with your friend and tell her you have feelings for her and see what she feels about it. If she's not interested, you're gonna have to move on.

Then you have a choice to just go on the date with tinder girl or tell her you're not really into dating at the moment for personal reasons and just cancel the date. But i mean if you feel comfortable enough and you think you might like her, give her a shot.

Take a break from dating altogether so you can get over your friend.

I went through the same thing you did. I was still getting over halloween girl but I kept going on tinder dates. I scheduled my last one and said im not going to date anyone anymore for while because i needed to get over halloween girl. My last tinder date ended up being my current girlfriend. You never know. I still have lingering feelings for halloween girl but this girlfriend is better in every way and im glad I went on that date and met her.

not at all like your halloween girl tbh

this girl has been one of my closest friends for like six years, even as we've dated other people. we're both single right now and spend a ton of time together and have hooked up a few times and she sleeps over a lot and we're de facto at least casually dating but whenever i try to talk about what exactly it is we're doing she gets all weird about it

i think part of it is she's still recovering from her last, 4+ year relationship and this is weird for her.

i've been in this situation with this girl before her last boyfriend and i can "move on" if I have to while still being her friend. i just feel like dating other people is a waste of time if this is something good for both of us
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Tanoomba posted...

Is messaging girls you don't at least match with on OKC and POF just completely pointless? I always seem to get ignored unless I've at least matched with the girl. Sending messages to random women just seems to not work.

Pointless. Try messaging girls that did view your profile though...stupid okc removed that feature

Just sent my "It's Complicated" a message saying she needed to be my girlfriend or leave me alone to get over it. I hate ultimatums, but this has been going on for 20 months and it's never not complicated.

I told her if she had anything to say to me, she needed to say it to my face. She messaged me 4 hours later asking if she could call me. Did I message a brick wall? I was pissed, getting drunk, and had my phone off, so I never got any call. Haha.
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Blue_Popo posted...

Tanoomba posted...

Is messaging girls you don't at least match with on OKC and POF just completely pointless? I always seem to get ignored unless I've at least matched with the girl. Sending messages to random women just seems to not work.

Pointless. Try messaging girls that did view your profile though...stupid okc removed that feature

Thanks. I guess it makes sense, women who are actually combing profiles are most serious about talking and meeting with someone.
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OpShaft posted...

KogaSteelfang posted...

I'm debating on whether I should try one last time, or just close my okcupid account.

Reading of you guys being successful makes me feel interested in trying, but also just makes me feel kind of sick with envy.

I'll try my best not to bog this topic down with my usual complaining though, if I keep posting in here anyway.

I'm not good at dating, but I say keep it up. I remember what you look like and you're much better looking than I am.

Try Plenty of fish if you aren't already. In the last week and a half I was with two girls off of there. One was kinda off, but she was hot and the sex was awesome. The girl I'm seeing now is sweet and wants what I want. A relationship.

Posting here might've been a mistake. Seeing all these posts about sex is really messing with me.
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