Current Events > My husband is going to lose his job any day now

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He started a new job 3 months ago at this really shitty company. It's a small software company but they're run by idiots. Someone quits or is fired every day. My husband is IT but he's the only one and so no one understands why he can't immediately respond to every single case (which are 100s).

So one chick quit (went for lunch and never came back). While cleaning up her laptop, he found an email from the CEO asking her to find his replacement.

If he loses his job, we're pretty much losing half our income. I haven't been able to sleep in days. He's been looking since he found out but nothing yet.

Honestly, I'm a bit angry at him too. Because his attitude to them has been shitty from the start and I kept warning him that he was making it worse. I told him to try and be friends with people and he didn't listen, they tried asking him for a beer once and he ignored them. He's been complaining every day since he started and I kept telling him to look for something else and he didn't. We already weren't in a good spot prior to this (some other shit he did). And now I dunno...

I'm super worried, we have a mortgage to pay and stuff :(

I know CE isn't the best place to post this but I have no one to talk to and just need to vent.

Cleo_II posted...

they tried asking him for a beer once and he ignored them

that's pretty weird and awkward tbh
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drunkmuggle posted...

Cleo_II posted...

they tried asking him for a beer once and he ignored them

that's pretty weird and awkward tbh

I know! And I told him that. That's why I'm pissed. To be fair, they were total assholes to him before they asked him that and he took it as a fake invite so they didn't look bad. But I told him he should just decline politely. He said he'd rather get fired. Well here we are.

Cleo_II posted...

Someone quits or is fired every day

I doubt fake enthusiasm for a job he hates is going to help much
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Cleo_II posted...

He said he'd rather get fired. Well here we are.

lol

Do you guys live in any sort of urban area where he could easily find another IT job? Any city would allow him to find a new job within a few weeks. My strategy is to create accounts with resume info on Indeed, Dice, and LinkedIn. Recruiters search those job engines just like we would. I get constant emails with IT offers because of this. Don't seek them out, let them come to you.
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Yeah, it sucks when companies don't understand that they need larger IT departments to cover demand. They've only got 1 person right now because they don't want to pay for more and that's going to cripple their organization when s*** hits the fan.
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Well them let fire him and then he can get unemployment until he finds a job
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@Cleo_II do you live in an at-will employment state?
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BlazinBlue88 posted...

Cleo_II posted...

He said he'd rather get fired. Well here we are.

lol

Do you guys live in any sort of urban area where he could easily find another IT job? Any city would allow him to find a new job within a few weeks. My strategy is to create accounts with resume info on Indeed, Dice, and LinkedIn. Recruiters search those job engines just like we would. I get constant emails with IT offers because of this. Don't seek them out, let them come to you.

We do live in an urban area so there are jobs. The problem is he's very senior and well paid. A lot of the jobs pay crap even though the cost of living is super high. He'll find something I'm sure, it will just take a while.

He's working with a few recruiters now. He's gotten a couple of interviews but they haven't panned out. That's a good idea though about creating profiles. I still get recruiters messaging me on indeed.

I'm just angry at him for causing us additional stress. This will be the second time I have to take over as the bread winner (last time it was a mass layoff, not at all his fault). It took him a year to find a job and it was crazy hard to live off my income (which was like half of what it is now). I'm so stressed thinking that will happen again :(

everyone faces that situation all the time.... i have to bail my family out so many damn times.

this is while living in a low income scenario.
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are you still married to that fat quebec guy from like 9 years ago or what

CableZL posted...

Yeah, it sucks when companies don't understand that they need larger IT departments to cover demand. They've only got 1 person right now because they don't want to pay for more and that's going to cripple their organization when s*** hits the fan.

Oh no doubt. They are total morons. They've been bleeding cash too. They think he can and should just do everything alone and fast. And if he doesn't respond fast enough, they start bitching to the CEO. Even when they replace him, it will be the same issue.

The problem is, his actual boss (aka the guy who hired him) quit a week after my husband started lol. They don't have anyone else who is technical and understands.

Romulox28 posted...

@Cleo_II do you live in an at-will employment state?

Yes. They can fire him any time. For anything.

We booked vacation prior to finding out everything. We leave Saturday. I have a feeling they might just fire him tomorrow to avoid paying for the time off.

Easier to find a job while you already have one, so make sure he's actively looking.
Don't quit, if he can't find a job before then, just get fired and collect unemployment.

It sucks but consider a side hustle, a guy at work here (also a software company) delivers pizzas at nights and on weekends. Decent money, a lot of under the table.
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KhlavicLanguage posted...

are you still married to that fat quebec guy from like 9 years ago or what

lol I was never with a fat Quebec guy. I was engaged to a white guy (European) but he wasn't fat. If that's who you're thinking of, we called off the wedding. Like two days before it was supposed to happen.

Take yourself and get a job or 2. Seems like he hated that shit and you forced him to work there.
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sounds like the company will fail. even the CEO will be out of a job within a few years I bet, then you can laugh at him

Wait cleo is married? ;(




Good luck, tell him to start applying to everything now
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Cleo_II posted...

KhlavicLanguage posted...

are you still married to that fat quebec guy from like 9 years ago or what

lol I was never with a fat Quebec guy. I was engaged to a white guy (European) but he wasn't fat. If that's who you're thinking of, we called off the wedding. Like two days before it was supposed to happen.

how did your family feel about that

"habibti how could you do this" lmao

Cleo_II posted...

drunkmuggle posted...

Cleo_II posted...

they tried asking him for a beer once and he ignored them

that's pretty weird and awkward tbh

I know! And I told him that. That's why I'm pissed. To be fair, they were total assholes to him before they asked him that and he took it as a fake invite so they didn't look bad. But I told him he should just decline politely. He said he'd rather get fired. Well here we are.

Hard to sympathize when he wouldn't make the effort. Sometimes you gotta let go of your pride especially when it comes to your livelihood

Shadowstrike007 posted...

Take yourself and get a job or 2. Seems like he hated that shit and you forced him to work there.

lol you have no idea what you're taking about.

1. I have a job. I make 6 figures thanks.
2. I'm looking at additional contract work. It can maybe bring in an additional $1500 a month but I have to clear it with my company first and make sure there's nothing against my employment terms
3. I never forced him to work there. His last company even counter offered to keep him and he refused because they refused to use new tech

KhlavicLanguage posted...

Cleo_II posted...

KhlavicLanguage posted...

are you still married to that fat quebec guy from like 9 years ago or what

lol I was never with a fat Quebec guy. I was engaged to a white guy (European) but he wasn't fat. If that's who you're thinking of, we called off the wedding. Like two days before it was supposed to happen.

how did your family feel about that

"habibti how could you do this" lmao

They were heart broken for me. They felt horrible about everything. It was extremely traumatizing to call off a wedding right before. But more than anything, they were relieved. My ex was an ass and they all kept warning me.

Who are you btw? You remember way too much lol.

Cleo_II posted...

Shadowstrike007 posted...

Take yourself and get a job or 2. Seems like he hated that shit and you forced him to work there.

lol you have no idea what you're taking about.

1. I have a job. I make 6 figures thanks.
2. I'm looking at additional contract work. It can maybe bring in an additional $1500 a month but I have to clear it with my company first and make sure there's nothing against my employment terms
3. I never forced him to work there. His last company even counter offered to keep him and he refused because they refused to use new tech

Sure you do honey.
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Cleo_II posted...

Honestly, I'm a bit angry at him too. Because his attitude to them has been shitty from the start

Sounds like he's doing a bad job then.
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Cleo_II posted...

Shadowstrike007 posted...

Take yourself and get a job or 2. Seems like he hated that shit and you forced him to work there.

lol you have no idea what you're taking about.

1. I have a job. I make 6 figures thanks.
2. I'm looking at additional contract work. It can maybe bring in an additional $1500 a month but I have to clear it with my company first and make sure there's nothing against my employment terms
3. I never forced him to work there. His last company even counter offered to keep him and he refused because they refused to use new tech

If you make so much money why do you need him to work?
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They get accustomed to a certain lifestyle. More than enough people here make 6 figs guys
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Cleo_II posted...

Shadowstrike007 posted...

Take yourself and get a job or 2. Seems like he hated that shit and you forced him to work there.

lol you have no idea what you're taking about.

1. I have a job. I make 6 figures thanks.
2. I'm looking at additional contract work. It can maybe bring in an additional $1500 a month but I have to clear it with my company first and make sure there's nothing against my employment terms
3. I never forced him to work there. His last company even counter offered to keep him and he refused because they refused to use new tech

If you're making that much and stressed about your SO losing their job, live more within your fucking means. God damn.
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Cleo_II posted...

Who are you btw? You remember way too much lol.

pm'd

V-E-G-Y- posted...

Wait cleo is married? ;(




Good luck, tell him to start applying to everything now

Thanks vegy <3

He has been. Hopefully he will find something soon...

Is TC a boy or a girl?
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Godnorgosh posted...

I was about to ask if relocating was an option, but then re-read your post and remembered you have a mortgage to pay.

It seems like renting is becoming a more viable option even for older adults nowadays.

more like the only viable option. the prevalence and ease of home-ownership in north america was a historical anomaly. self-correction has been in gear for the past decade :v

This is why you have to have a strong network. I haven't applied to any jobs but since I told a few people I am looking for a new job a couple of weeks ago I have already had 3 interviews. I have my 2nd interview at my preferred place tomorrow afternoon.
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I always found it pretty easy to get unemployment

I've never been fired though, just let go for downsizing or whatever
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Anarchy_Juiblex posted...

If you're making that much and stressed about your SO losing their job, live more within your fucking means. God damn.

You know what they say about people who assume right?

We don't live in the boonies. It's a high cost city. We just bought a house a few months back.

We also have zero debt other than that. No credit card debt or student loans. His two cars are fully paid any my car payment is low ($280 per month). We have some savings. Along with the unemployment, we will be ok for several months. I'm worried it will take longer. And I'm upset he wasn't more collaborative with his coworkers.

One day when you grow up and enter the real world, you will understand that losing half your income suddenly is scary shit even when you're doing ok.

MegaTech posted...

They get accustomed to a certain lifestyle. More than enough people here make 6 figs guys

Thanks MegaTech <333

KILBOTz posted...

This is why you have to have a strong network. I haven't applied to any jobs but since I told a few people I am looking for a new job a couple of weeks ago I have already had 3 interviews. I have my 2nd interview at my preferred place tomorrow afternoon.

I wish he did lol. He's a super introvert. He hasn't made a ton of friends. He did make some friends but at his last company. If anything, they might take him back. He'd just be in the same situation where his career would continue to stagnate.

Does he have goals for moving upward? Going back to a former company doesn't seem like a bad option for the short term
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MegaTech posted...

Does he have goals for moving upward? Going back to a former company doesn't seem like a bad option for the short term

He wants to learn some new technology. His last company only wanted to use old tech. So he didn't get to learn or grow. Companies that already use new tech want people who know it. So he's looking at companies that use older tech but would let him explore new ones. There's a couple of certifications he can get too. They will cost a lot of money but will be worth it I think.

As if things couldn't get worse. I got a call from the dr. I was supposed to get a nerve block for an extremely painful condition I have but my insurance blocked it. I've been in chronic pain for months and I was looking forward to relief. They want me to try additional physical therapy first.

I'm gonna go home and cry now.

Depending on the certs they will definitely be worth it. Getting in a company that will help you improve is the right idea too. I need to make the same moves as he does tbh.

There isn't a way to call the insurance company to possibly, i don't know what you'd say, but at least some kind of compromise? Maybe see how long you'd have to wait.

I know you offered to take me out for a steak but I think you two are due for a couple. My treat : )
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Hey, I am sorry to hear. If you ever need to let your emotions out, but don't trust CE, just shoot me a pm.

I get it, life can be great with periods of just great, but life can pile up one bad thing with another at other periods too.
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Cleo_II posted...

As if things couldn't get worse. I got a call from the dr. I was supposed to get a nerve block for an extremely painful condition I have but my insurance blocked it. I've been in chronic pain for months and I was looking forward to relief. They want me to try additional physical therapy first.

I'm gonna go home and cry now.

insurance company's always like to kick someone when they're down and in need of help :(.
it fucking sucks.
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ur married...?? :<:<:<
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MegaTech posted...

Depending on the certs they will definitely be worth it. Getting in a company that will help you improve is the right idea too. I need to make the same moves as he does tbh.

There isn't a way to call the insurance company to possibly, i don't know what you'd say, but at least some kind of compromise? Maybe see how long you'd have to wait.

I know you offered to take me out for a steak but I think you two are due for a couple. My treat : )

Well it should be about 5-6 physical therapy sessions. If I do 2 a week, then we're looking at 3 weeks there. I'm out of town next week, so it's more like another month before I get relief. It sucks because I'm basically struggling to get out of bed every morning.

And you are too sweet ;)

PiOverlord posted...

Hey, I am sorry to hear. If you ever need to let your emotions out, but don't trust CE, just shoot me a pm.

I get it, life can be great with periods of just great, but life can pile up one bad thing with another at other periods too.

Thanks that's very kind of you.

If you can't make it work on 6 figures you spend too much money.
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KiwiTerraRizing posted...

If you can't make it work on 6 figures you spend too much money.

not everyone lives in boomerville, ohio