Current Events > Would you forgive a cheating girlfriend/wife of 5+ years?

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She cheated.

I'd honestly take it as a license to fuck other people >_>

divorce is messy and expensive and I think I'd try to make it work but I also wouldn't feel guilty if I banged my secretary on the side or somethign.
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Chances are if she's cheating on me than our relationship is already total shit and this would be the point of no return.
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No. Better to end it then rather than waste more time on a person who obviously isn't the one I thought I fell for.

Honestly, I would ask her who she loved more, and if she said the other person, I would let her go.
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Nope.
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ChromaticAngel posted...

Chances are if she's cheating on me than our relationship is already total shit and this would be the point of no return.

This.
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We'll talk and determine a cause. If it's not egregious, maybe there's a chance to salvage the relationship. But it'd better be a damn good reason; there's a low chance of things continuing.
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Why would I? She'd have to apologize for me for not being there for her, It's my fault and I hope she still keeps me and forgives me.
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Would you forgive a cheating girlfriend

No

Under any circumstances.
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sunk costs fallacy, etc
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Nope. I'm a pretty understanding person, but I have a strict no cheating policy.

Luckily enough, my girlfriend has the same policy, so I'm not too worried about that happening.

I never understood how someone can cheat on someone else.
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rexcrk posted...

Nope. I'm a pretty understanding person, but I have a strict no cheating policy.

Luckily enough, my girlfriend has the same policy, so I'm not too worried about that happening.

I never understood how someone can cheat on someone else.

There are plenty of marriage books that gI over this. It's not difficult to understand the cause of such things.

BalisticWarri0r posted...

There are plenty of marriage books that gI over this. It's not difficult to understand the cause of such things.

the cause of cheating is your selfishness exceeds your empathy for your partner

the causes of your empathy for your partner declining are many but those are not the cause of cheating.
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This has come up over the course of my relationship. I basically said that my position on it is that if she tells me about it, there is a possibility that we could work it out since that could possibly indicate that she is remorseful. If I find out on my own, it's over no matter what.

Seems like a decent plan, but it's a ruse. I'd bail either way.

No

ex cheated on me a year into the relationship, guilt tripped me into staying with some self harm and suicide threats, and i ended up doing the same to her

not proud of it but it was easy to rationalize it by thinking well she already did this to me so fair is fair

either way this is an immature line of thinking and i should have just broken it off the second i found out. instead i stayed in the relationship a year too long and wasted everyone's time. but now i know better
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Probably not.
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I'm the one that ends up cheating.
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I'm in it now at almost 18 years. I honestly don't know how I'd react to finding out my wife had sex with another person. I love her. She's a friend, a lover, a mother and my wife. I would be pretty devestated.
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