Current Events > So... my girlfriend and I confessed our love for each other this weekend

(+) Yeah! (+)

some no-no's i'm aware of...

-we were both drunk
-i put her on the spot by accident. we were on the topic of what love means and then i just asked if she loved me. she then said yes, and that is when i said it back

all in alll, feels good man
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congrats

alcohol sometimes does amazing things
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Only girl to tell me she loved me was some nut job I went on one date with.
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LittleBirdy posted...

Only girl to tell me she loved me was some nut job I went on one date with.

thats happened to me too, but on the second date


Parappa09 posted...

congrats

alcohol sometimes does amazing things

yeah i was gonna hold it in to tell her on her bday in august but it just came out
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i am officially a beta now
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fwiw there is a not-zero possibility that when someone is put on the spot like that they say yes even though they arent actually there yet, but know they are on the way to that point (which is why they don't respond with frustration/anger/whatever)

i do not recommend bringing it up again or making a point of it to say it nonstop

instead i recommend some sort of romantic gesture that shows your appreciation for her.
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Darkman124 posted...

fwiw there is a not-zero possibility that when someone is put on the spot like that they say yes even though they arent actually there yet, but know they are on the way to that point (which is why they don't respond with frustration/anger/whatever)

Unless you can read minds, surely you're always putting someone on the spot though?
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Bringit posted...

Unless you can read minds, surely you're always putting someone on the spot though?

there is a certain point where you can be relatively confident that you're not

you can never be certain and these sorts of things happen in perfectly reasonable environments

it's only an issue if they react poorly
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Darkman124 posted...

fwiw there is a not-zero possibility that when someone is put on the spot like that they say yes even though they arent actually there yet, but know they are on the way to that point (which is why they don't respond with frustration/anger/whatever)

i do not recommend bringing it up again or making a point of it to say it nonstop

lmao this fucking guy
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Darkman124 posted...

fwiw there is a not-zero possibility that when someone is put on the spot like that they say yes even though they arent actually there yet, but know they are on the way to that point (which is why they don't respond with frustration/anger/whatever)

i do not recommend bringing it up again or making a point of it to say it nonstop

instead i recommend some sort of romantic gesture that shows your appreciation for her.

i was going to wait for her birthday in august to tell her but i explicitly remember her telling me "i would have definitely blurted it out before then"

she also said she was trying really hard to hold it in so i have reason to believe she was feeling it the whole time too.

i've just been saying the l-word once before i leave or if i'm not with her, in a text good night.. seems reasonable to me

i have a few ideas in mind to show my appreciation for her. i just want to spoil her like she spoils me lol
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Coolppl Owns posted...

she also said she was trying really hard to hold it in so i have reason to believe she was feeling it the whole time too.

then no worries

though if you want to play it safe let her say it first the next couple times while you say it with your actions
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Darkman124 posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

she also said she was trying really hard to hold it in so i have reason to believe she was feeling it the whole time too.

then no worries

though if you want to play it safe let her say it first the next couple times while you say it with your actions

that is a good idea.
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once it's out it's kinda out, no need to beat around the bush, just don't change too much
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Darkman124 posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

she also said she was trying really hard to hold it in so i have reason to believe she was feeling it the whole time too.

then no worries

though if you want to play it safe let her say it first the next couple times while you say it with your actions

or how about you stop acting like 13 year olds having your first kiss and just stand by your actions

if you said you love your gf that you are dating for X amount of months, and you mean it, and she is deciding she no longer reciprocates after she told you she has the same feelings, why waste your time with this chick?

stupid shit like this should be left for middle school tbh, it really has no place in an adult relationship. you are only young for so long, shit or get off the pot (and this goes for all parties involved). dont waste your time with people who have to wait for the fucking second coming of Christ to understand their emotions.
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green butter posted...

Darkman124 posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

she also said she was trying really hard to hold it in so i have reason to believe she was feeling it the whole time too.

then no worries

though if you want to play it safe let her say it first the next couple times while you say it with your actions

or how about you stop acting like 13 year olds having your first kiss and just stand by your actions

if you said you love your gf that you are dating for X amount of months, and you mean it, and she is deciding she no longer reciprocates after she told you she has the same feelings, why waste your time with this chick?

stupid shit like this should be left for middle school tbh, it really has no place in an adult relationship. you are only young for so long, shit or get off the pot (and this goes for all parties involved). dont waste your time with people who have to wait for the fucking second coming of Christ to understand their emotions.

i see what you're saying

but at the same time it's a common thing for people to be nervous about saying love. in an earlier relationship i felt forced into saying it too early. so even when i started feeling it with my current gf, i felt like i had to hold out as long to be sure of my feelings

but this time i know i'm sure and i trust that she's sure as well.
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green butter posted...

Darkman124 posted...

Coolppl Owns posted...

she also said she was trying really hard to hold it in so i have reason to believe she was feeling it the whole time too.

then no worries

though if you want to play it safe let her say it first the next couple times while you say it with your actions

or how about you stop acting like 13 year olds having your first kiss and just stand by your actions

if you said you love your gf that you are dating for X amount of months, and you mean it, and she is deciding she no longer reciprocates after she told you she has the same feelings, why waste your time with this chick?

stupid shit like this should be left for middle school tbh, it really has no place in an adult relationship. you are only young for so long, shit or get off the pot (and this goes for all parties involved). dont waste your time with people who have to wait for the fucking second coming of Christ to understand their emotions.

Very good advice from a guy who hasn't been in a relationship in ages to give to a married man with kids
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i do not have kids
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and you don't want them, right?
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lol may want to say "professed" over "confessed" going forward-- you didn't do anything wrong!
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prince_leo posted...

and you don't want them, right?

if my wife changed her position on kids we would be getting a divorce.

i had surgery at age 25 to ensure i would never be a father.

no, i do not want kids
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she said it first yesterday @Darkman124

feels good man
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You're fucked now, confessing your love to a woman is the worst thing you can do. She probably with some other guy right now.
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How long have you been together now?
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LotrMorgoth posted...

lol may want to say "professed" over "confessed" going forward-- you didn't do anything wrong!

Heh, yeah. I was gonna make some smarmy remark about witness testimony. >_>
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trappedunderice posted...

You're fucked now, confessing your love to a woman is the worst thing you can do. She probably with some other guy right now.

lol

AvlButtslam posted...

How long have you been together now?

just about 6 months. but we have been spending a lot of time together, like at least 4x a week.




Kineth posted...

LotrMorgoth posted...

lol may want to say "professed" over "confessed" going forward-- you didn't do anything wrong!

Heh, yeah. I was gonna make some smarmy remark about witness testimony. >_>

i totally forgot that profess was a word
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