Poll of the Day > I figured out today that the key to having a relationship is to be interested.

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Judgmenl posted...

Of all the people to say this, I'm surprised it was you. Yes, I Know all of this, but I am just not a very social person.

I've learned it the hard way. I had to lose a job and have a lot of thinking before everything started to make sense. And some tips and counselling from PotD of course ; )
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Judgmenl posted...

Now how do I find someone who is remotely interesting?

I generally don't find many people interesting. Small talk bores me too and I just don't have the attention span to 'chase' girls. It's probably why I suck at it. Still the few girls I've found to be interesting have always had boyfriends. We have nice conversations though so although nothing would happen between us I at least get some decent conversation. Every cloud and all that.
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How do you know you don't like doing things with people when you clearly never bother to try doing them? You haven't been outside of a 15-mile-radius so I doubt you've really even attempted to venture out much. You seem to have this contradictory outlook on life where you insist that you enjoy being in your bubble, yet are looking to meet more people and experience new things. You're clearly confused.


Do you really dislike social interaction, or are you just afraid of it because you've lived your whole live without really developing those abilities? You can't let that fear rule you or you'll never get out of that funk. If you have people asking you to do stuff with them, then obviously you must be doing something right with your outward social image. Just give it a shot and don't worry too much about screwing up and making a social faux pas. If you do something stupid, just use it as a learning experience for next time. You probably have a long way to go, but it's better to learn social skills late than never.

Smarkil posted...

Judgmenl posted...

http://store.steampowered.com/app/436670/The_Legend_of_Heroes_Trails_in_the_Sky_the_3rd/

Kiseki isn't some weeb bait shit. It is a very solid JRPG series with 7 entries with a ton of world building.

He said, sounding extremely weebish.

My thoughts exactly.

Being single isn't as bad as some people make it out to be. And relationships aren't always bliss either. Just do what makes you happy instead of changing yourself for other people who have different interests or personalities. I'm an introvert and people treat it like it's a disease. I prefer being alone or around a few close friends and not much else. I don't have much in common with most people. So when I do find someone who shares my interests I go the distance and see if we can hang out or be friends. Not everyone is the party type or a social butterfly and by extension you may have other traits that compliment others who are different from you. Maybe you are a good listener or maybe you are not afraid to speak the truth. Just work on you and improve yourself for your own sake and not just to fit in but to be proud of the person you see in the mirror every day.
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^Agreed. I'm in a relationship and I like to be alone sometimes just to do stuff by myself.
Being in a relationship isn't an automatic solution to happiness.
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