Current Events > I'm 27 and I have never had a gf, never been in a relationship.

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It doesn't bother me but....I sort of wish it did. I don't want a gf but I want to want one.
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Lucky

Bet ya got a superb vertical twist though
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Verdekal posted...

It doesn't bother me but....I sort of wish it did. I don't want a gf but I want to want one.

huh? what do you mean? so you have like a really really low sex drive? is that what you're trying to say?

don't worry. I've had plenty of girlfriends, and I wish I hadn't.
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CwebbMichSac4 posted...

Verdekal posted...

It doesn't bother me but....I sort of wish it did. I don't want a gf but I want to want one.

huh? what do you mean? so you have like a really really low sex drive? is that what you're trying to say?

I guess. I just don't get turned on.

I can think women are pretty but it's like she's pretty like a painting.
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Don't make it an age thing...it'll happen when it does. there is no time limit for this....just put yourself out there...you have to be ok with the fact that you'll potentially get rejected, and while that's tough it comes with the territory....shrug it off and ask the next...

TheVipaGTS posted...

there is no time limit for this.

there is though. dating only gets harder the longer you wait. expectations grow the older you get. experience becomes more necessary.

tough truths, but truths nonetheless.
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CwebbMichSac4 posted...

Verdekal posted...

It doesn't bother me but....I sort of wish it did. I don't want a gf but I want to want one.

huh? what do you mean? so you have like a really really low sex drive? is that what you're trying to say?

It could mean he's been used to living alone and/or without relationship responsibilities for so long he couldn't imagine anything different.

Doesn't necessarily mean he's not getting laid. But it could mean that, too.
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Verdekal posted...

CwebbMichSac4 posted...

Verdekal posted...

It doesn't bother me but....I sort of wish it did. I don't want a gf but I want to want one.

huh? what do you mean? so you have like a really really low sex drive? is that what you're trying to say?

I guess. I just don't get turned on.

I can think women are pretty but it's like she's pretty like a painting.

there's nothing wrong with that, i know a lot of guys will throw shade your way thinking if you don't get a lot of chicks that you're somehow less of a man, but they don't know shit. What they think doesn't matter, as long as you're happy with no woman. You are aren't you?

CwebbMichSac4 posted...

Verdekal posted...

CwebbMichSac4 posted...

Verdekal posted...

It doesn't bother me but....I sort of wish it did. I don't want a gf but I want to want one.

huh? what do you mean? so you have like a really really low sex drive? is that what you're trying to say?

I guess. I just don't get turned on.

I can think women are pretty but it's like she's pretty like a painting.

there's nothing wrong with that, i know a lot of guys will throw shade your way thinking if you don't get a lot of chicks that you're somehow less of a man, but they don't know shit. What they think doesn't matter, as long as you're happy with no woman. You are aren't you?

I don't know if I'm happy and I don't know if a gf would make a difference.
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verd. you haven't been diagnosed with depression have you? you kinda remind me of the user kogasteelfang, but that dude is a very extreme case. Do you have low confidence and really struggle to make friends?

CwebbMichSac4 posted...

but that dude is a very extreme case

he milks it. sad as it sounds. all you see is "people say I'm handsome but I don't think they're truthful.. wana agree? anybody?"

insecure? 100%. depressed? pushing it.
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so how many times a day do you bea
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CwebbMichSac4 posted...

verd. you haven't been diagnosed with depression have you? you kinda remind me of the user kogasteelfang, but that dude is a very extreme case. Do you have low confidence and really struggle to make friends?

I have no anxiety with people but I'm just not very interested in socializing. I get satisfaction from doing stuff by myself.
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juicebox4 posted...

TheVipaGTS posted...

there is no time limit for this.

there is though. dating only gets harder the longer you wait. expectations grow the older you get. experience becomes more necessary.

tough truths, but truths nonetheless.

Only if you let your age define you.

Honestly what is different between current you and a you that is exactly the same in every way but is 5 years younger?
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joe40001 posted...

Honestly what is different between you and you that is exactly the same in every way but is 5 years younger?

the difference is that me and five years from now me have seen 5 years worth of shit, changed opinions, got experience in god knows what, and also maybe formed some wrinkles. :P
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I'm the same way. It would be nice probably but relationships tend to seem like way more effort than they're worth tbqh
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WizardPowers posted...

I'm the same way. It would be nice probably but relationships tend to seem like way more effort than they're worth tbqh

i kinda feel the same way, i'm kinda happy with no g/f. But i know a lot of guys will look down on other guys who feel this way

juicebox4 posted...

joe40001 posted...

Honestly what is different between you and you that is exactly the same in every way but is 5 years younger?

the difference is that me and five years from now me have seen 5 years worth of shit, changed opinions, got experience in god knows what, and also maybe formed some wrinkles. :P

You are misunderstanding my point.

Let's say there was a genie that just tapped you magically and you became 5 years younger. You are now your age minus 5 years but nothing about you or your body or your mind has changed. What would really be different?

Nothing. Which means that all the implicative weight we put on age is unnecessary. You don't need to feel all down and mopey about dating and age because character not age defines a person. There are some cynical old as fuck acting teens and some childlike 80 year olds.
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I'm trying to understand your point, but I feel the only way you can gain knowledge of certain things is through age. and at certain ages, certain things are more likely. I was a late bloomer. I only had my first kiss at 18. I've only fucked about 5 girls, maybe 6 since. not all of them were beauty queens. I'm not trying to seem like gallileo-in-terms-of-women version or anything.

but I have learned one thing, and that is; the older you get, the more women expect you to act a certain way. I still go out, get shitfaced with my buddies, play video games, etc. but at 28 NONE of that is turning a fresh woman, who I know nothing about, on. if I act the way I do with my bros, at a bar or something, I'm going home empty handed. I'm still grasping this, cuz it's taking me a while to fully grow up.

it's lame but it's true.
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I doubt it matters honestly. A lot of people date and date and date and never have a successful marriage. So whether or not you are worse off or better off in today's dating climate is questionable.
If it bothers you, try to find a girl

juicebox4 posted...

I'm trying to understand your point, but I feel the only way you can gain knowledge of certain things is through age. and at certain ages, certain things are more likely. I was a late bloomer. I only had my first kiss at 18. I've only fucked about 5 girls, maybe 6 since. not all of them were beauty queens. I'm not trying to seem like gallileo-in-terms-of-women version or anything.

but I have learned one thing, and that is; the older you get, the more women expect you to act a certain way. I still go out, get shitfaced with my buddies, play video games, etc. but at 28 NONE of that is turning a fresh woman, who I know nothing about, on. if I act the way I do with my bros, at a bar or something, I'm going home empty handed. I'm still grasping this, cuz it's taking me a while to fully grow up.

it's lame but it's true.

And that's the point though you are defining it as "shoulds of behavior" and "growing up" as opposed to choices about how you want to live. You don't owe society or women any 'shoulds" when it comes to you being true to who you are and what you value, and those values, interests, and passions can and should be entirely independent of age. Live your life how you want it, not how an otherwise meaningless number tells you to.

You keep going to this "It's lame but true" thing, and that sounds a lot more like code for "I want to be cynical". And whatever, you can be cynical, but that's only going to get you so far in the end.

Want to feel sorry for yourself? You can. Seriously you can, I've done it. I do it all the time, but it does have limited utility. So when you want to move past that feeling of defeat, just realize you are whoever you want to be regardless of your age.
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joe40001 posted...

Live your life how you want it, not how an otherwise meaningless number tells you to.

you're right. I feel what you're saying here. I'm probably explaining it wrong here, and I'm not trying to sound like some 28y/o forever alone; cuz I'm not.

all I meant is, at least in my case, I have to realize the things I'm doing "wrong" aren't garnering women to come knocking on my door. I have a bit of a booze problem that makes me do stupid shit, so that's some of it, but it wasn't always this way.

you are correct though, and I wasn't trying to come off cynical. hell at this point I'd just say "TC, take @joe40001's advice, lol"
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MegaButterfree posted...

At least you don't have to suffer the feeling of heartbreak. It's absolutely painful. :/

yeah, but it's also, along with it's co-dependent; "love":

The BEST drug imaginable. high or low, they both make you feel like you have never felt before.

no synthetic can touch that, or give you more inspiration.
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juicebox4 posted...

CwebbMichSac4 posted...

but that dude is a very extreme case

he milks it. sad as it sounds. all you see is "people say I'm handsome but I don't think they're truthful.. wana agree? anybody?"

insecure? 100%. depressed? pushing it.

v_v
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Same TC. Well, I've had a gf for like a month before, but that was 4 years ago when I was 23. Never went beyond making out.

I'm hoping to do something before the end of the year
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