Current Events > Protip: don't get a gf who has a lot of male friends (or any for that matter)

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Reason being, there's a high chance one of her male will secretly have the hots for her. Or she will have suppressed romantic feelings for one of her male friends. This has happened to me twice.

The first girl I met on okcupid. Her name was Tiffany. We hit it off. We got along well. We talked every day. We flirted. I liked her a lot. I thought she felt the same. Especially since she told me in detail what she wanted to do with me. But then she started being distant suddenly. Not talking to me as much. I asked her about it. She said that she knows now we can only be friends. I didn't understand. I kept questioning her, but she avoided me. Finally I just asked if there was another guy. She said yes. There was a guy she had known for 3 years. She secretly had a crush on him, but she didn't know how he felt about her. He recently confessed that he liked her too. So of course I get brushed aside, neglected, ignored. She had never mentioned him before.

The second girl was named sara. I talked to her awhile. She said she liked me and wants to be with me. But then eventually she mentioned another guy that she talks to. She said that she has feelings for him. And that it would bother her if he has sex with other girls. Even though they aren't technically in a relationship. Now tell me, how the fuck an I supposed to feel? I can't date her cause I know she'll just end up cheating on me.
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Meh, don't go into relationships expecting exclusivity. You've gotta earn that right nowadays.
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So you never met either of them? Or? Just a bit confused. Don't bother dating extrovert girls in general. Yet another daily reminder of how grateful I am for my introvert girlfriend with zero guy friends.
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Or just don't get a gf who's such a whore that you can't trust her around other men? Who gives a fuck if some friend of hers has the hots for her? She wants to and has chosen to be with you, not him. And if you have to worry about her fucking around with them instead of just being an adult and breaking up with you first because she realized you're not what she wants, then you shouldn't be with her anyways.

I trust my gf enough to know if someone tried to pull some moves on her she would shut their ass down immediately and she knows I'd do the same. If you don't have that kind of trust with your partner you shouldn't be with them, and if you do have it, don't be so insecure.

And that's why you should really just try to build a general friendship and relationship before immediately going for a romantic relationship. Just get to know each other first, learn if you're at the same places in life, and wanting the same things.
Don't just dive head first into the deep end like "I love this person and we're going to be together forever' then realizing she's just some ho.
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Gamer99z posted...

Or just don't get a gf who's such a whore that you can't trust her around other men? Who gives a fuck if some friend of hers has the hots for her? She wants to and has chosen to be with you, not him. And if you have to worry about her fucking around with them instead of just being an adult and breaking up with you first because she realized your not what she wants, then you shouldn't be with her anyways.

I trust my gf enough to know if someone tried to pull some moves on her she would shut their ass down immediately and she knows I'd do the seen. If you don't have that kind of trust with your partner you shouldn't be with them, and if you do have it, don't be so insecure.

Yeah, just be exactly like this guy. You can always tell if a girl is going to cheat, so quite frankly, if it happens to you it's your fault.
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shnangyboos posted...

Gamer99z posted...

Or just don't get a gf who's such a whore that you can't trust her around other men? Who gives a fuck if some friend of hers has the hots for her? She wants to and has chosen to be with you, not him. And if you have to worry about her fucking around with them instead of just being an adult and breaking up with you first because she realized your not what she wants, then you shouldn't be with her anyways.

I trust my gf enough to know if someone tried to pull some moves on her she would shut their ass down immediately and she knows I'd do the seen. If you don't have that kind of trust with your partner you shouldn't be with them, and if you do have it, don't be so insecure.

Yeah, just be exactly like this guy. You can always tell if a girl is going to cheat, so quite frankly, if it happens to you it's your fault.

I don't necessarily agree with how you evaluated that, but Gamer is right. If you're gonna be in a relationship with someone, you have to be able to trust them. If you can't, you're either in a bad relationship or too insecure.
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Yeah, nowadays you have to be cautious.

Gotta make them go crazy over you for the best results.
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TC neither of those girls were your GF tho.
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Gamer99z posted...

.And that's why you should really just try to build a general friendship and relationship before immediately going for a romantic relationship. Just get to know each other first, learn if you're at the same places in life, and wanting the same things.
Don't just dive head first into the deep end like "I love this person and we're going to be together forever' then realizing she's just some ho.

This is what I was trying to do. But they already had male friends who they had crushes on before they met me. If I had known that, I wouldn't have bothered talking to them.
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Not everyone who has friends of the opposite sex are going to hop into bed with them--it depends on the individual (obviously). If you've been stung too many times and want to lower the chances then yeah, I don't see anything wrong in wanting to date someone that doesn't have close opposite sex friends.

shnangyboos posted...

You can always tell if a girl is going to cheat, so quite frankly, if it happens to you it's your fault.

And don't listen to this horseshit lol
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Didn't even read the first post but just gonna sum this up for you.

1) loyalty is too much to ask for these days. Doesn't matter if you're rich, a fitness model or a PhD student.
2) don't worry so much about your gf's guy friends she met before you, however, the new ones are definitely something to worry about.
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Oh and any girl who has mostly male friends has something wrong with them and there's a good reason other girls don't hang out with her.
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The second girl messaged me today. She said that she decided not to talk to her male friend anymore. Since he really doesn't need her since she was trying to help him get over his ex. Which she already did since he is feeling good enough to go on dates again.

Not sure if I should believe this or not.
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Tadamoto15 posted...

Reason being, there's a high chance one of her male will secretly have the hots for her. Or she will have suppressed romantic feelings for one of her male friends. This has happened to me twice.

The first girl I met on okcupid. Her name was Tiffany. We hit it off. We got along well. We talked every day. We flirted. I liked her a lot. I thought she felt the same. Especially since she told me in detail what she wanted to do with me. But then she started being distant suddenly. Not talking to me as much. I asked her about it. She said that she knows now we can only be friends. I didn't understand. I kept questioning her, but she avoided me. Finally I just asked if there was another guy. She said yes. There was a guy she had known for 3 years. She secretly had a crush on him, but she didn't know how he felt about her. He recently confessed that he liked her too. So of course I get brushed aside, neglected, ignored. She had never mentioned him before.

The second girl was named sara. I talked to her awhile. She said she liked me and wants to be with me. But then eventually she mentioned another guy that she talks to. She said that she has feelings for him. And that it would bother her if he has sex with other girls. Even though they aren't technically in a relationship. Now tell me, how the fuck an I supposed to feel? I can't date her cause I know she'll just end up cheating on me.

but you were never with either of those girls, you were just talking with them. I've dated girls with mostly guy friends before and had no problems. Most of those dudes are usually dudes who are neckbeards that have no chance
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Gamer99z posted...

Or just don't get a gf who's such a whore that you can't trust her around other men? Who gives a fuck if some friend of hers has the hots for her? She wants to and has chosen to be with you, not him. And if you have to worry about her fucking around with them instead of just being an adult and breaking up with you first because she realized you're not what she wants, then you shouldn't be with her anyways.

I trust my gf enough to know if someone tried to pull some moves on her she would shut their ass down immediately and she knows I'd do the same. If you don't have that kind of trust with your partner you shouldn't be with them, and if you do have it, don't be so insecure.

And that's why you should really just try to build a general friendship and relationship before immediately going for a romantic relationship. Just get to know each other first, learn if you're at the same places in life, and wanting the same things.
Don't just dive head first into the deep end like "I love this person and we're going to be together forever' then realizing she's just some ho.

This guy gets it.
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were either of those girls actually your girlfriend?
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Heed the wise words of the great Biz Markie:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9aofoBrFNdg

This is why I ALWAYS cheat first. Don't trust anyone.
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