Current Events > Have you ever met a real life person who identifies as assexual?

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I know a girl who said she is and has basically no desire to have sex and feels freed of such "useless" feelings as she put it.

And no this wasn't after I asked her out, so that insult won't work. It wasn't a response to me at all actually, or even a response to being hit on.
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Do asexual people tell you they are asexual when they meet someone?
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Medz8606 posted...

Do asexual people tell you they are asexual when they meet someone?

no, it was not first meeting

another girl brought up sex things is why this girl commented on her being assexual
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Never, I only heard it from people online, though they could be lying.
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Yeah. I met a girl once who I hung out with a few times but didn't go any further than that who identified as asexual. I didn't find out until months after we stopped hanging out. We started talking again when we were both in America on separate trips and just chatting about our experiences.

I was really confused and didn't understand how she wasn't attracted to anyone but it's been a few years since and I don't think I've ever seen her have a boyfriend or anything. I invited her over my house once for a BBQ a few months back and she turned up after years of not seeing each other and it was real weird and she went home after about an hour or two.

Somehow though I think she came over because she was keen.
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Pretty sure "asexual" means you reproduce through budding as opposed to having a mate.

God, what is it with progressives and their unrelenting war on the dictionary
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I think eunuch is a more proper term?

Worked with a FtM transgender at my last job. Good guy, really sensitive to a lot of topics though.

Him and his boyfriend made out a lot but they both identified as completely abstaining from sex.
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kel854 posted...

I think eunuch is a more proper term?

Naw Eunuch means castrated male and was a role back in ancient times.
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I have to say it was first time I saw person irl say that they were assexual.
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kel854 posted...

I think eunuch is a more proper term?

...no. Not at all.

Sephiroth1288 posted...

Pretty sure "asexual" means you reproduce through budding as opposed to having a mate.

God, what is it with progressives and their unrelenting war on the dictionary

Oh no, asexual reproduction and asexual orientation are different things, whatever will we do?

Virus731 posted...

I was really confused and didn't understand how she wasn't attracted to anyone but it's been a few years since and I don't think I've ever seen her have a boyfriend or anything.

Asexual doesn't mean they can't be in a loving relationship or anything, they're just not really interested in sex.
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Yeah. One of my best buddies is ace.
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Lightsasori posted...

Never, I only heard it from people online, though they could be lying.

I watched a documentary about asexuality, which filmed the leaders of AVEN, the big asexual movement organization. It was fine until the producer said, "So, none of you have ever had sex?" and the head of the organization said, "Well, actually, we all have sex, all the time, with each other. It's purely a social thing, instead of a biological thing. And if we're all asexual, there's no 'cheating.' We can all have several boyfriends and girlfriends and just all love each other."

That really painted my view of the entire thing, honestly.
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deupd_u posted...

Lightsasori posted...

Never, I only heard it from people online, though they could be lying.

I watched a documentary about asexuality, which filmed the leaders of AVEN, the big asexual movement organization. It was fine until the producer said, "So, none of you have ever had sex?" and the head of the organization said, "Well, actually, we all have sex, all the time, with each other. It's purely a social thing, instead of a biological thing. And if we're all asexual, there's no 'cheating.' We can all have several boyfriends and girlfriends and just all love each other."

That really painted my view of the entire thing, honestly.

Consider my mind blown.
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Yes, I had a friend who identified as asexual (this was years ago). He met an asexual girl and they have been together since. I think they're getting married soon.
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I feel like I am what would be considered asexual, but I also wonder if it is just a result of my mental/developmental problems. Not saying anyone asexual is sick, just that I am.
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deupd_u posted...

Lightsasori posted...

Never, I only heard it from people online, though they could be lying.

I watched a documentary about asexuality, which filmed the leaders of AVEN, the big asexual movement organization. It was fine until the producer said, "So, none of you have ever had sex?" and the head of the organization said, "Well, actually, we all have sex, all the time, with each other. It's purely a social thing, instead of a biological thing. And if we're all asexual, there's no 'cheating.' We can all have several boyfriends and girlfriends and just all love each other."

That really painted my view of the entire thing, honestly.

So then "asexual" is basically a load of crap
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dolomedes posted...

Sephiroth1288 posted...

So then "asexual" is basically a load of crap

according to one group of people within the 'asexual community,' sure

It's almost like you can join any movement without being the thing the movement is about.
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Are children asexual?
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dolomedes posted...

Tmaster148 posted...

It's almost like you can join any movement without being the thing the movement is about.

asexuality isn't a movement?

but yeah, you can ascribe to a group without adhering to any of its principles - christian capitalists for example.

There is a movement that exists to represent the asexual community. AVEN. Although they don't appear to be doing a good job as people still misunderstand what asexuality is and many people still don't think it's a real thing.
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My sister. She was about 14 when she told me, so I dunno if that's still the case. But she's about to turn 18 and she still doesn't have any interest in dating.

I know myself, does that count?
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dolomedes posted...

i've never heard of AVEN until this topic, in which dudes are legit mad at other people for not wanting to have sex.

who itt is mad?
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That's just Mal being Mal. I wouldn't look too much into it.
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Guy I went to high school with is asexual
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I like ass and am sexual

So you could say I am assexual
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And as for what was said in that documentary, that is both true and untrue.

Like sexuality, asexuality is also a spectrum. Some asexuals are completely sex repulsed and never want to have it. Some are okay with having it, but lack that special motivation to do so. To them it is no different than any other activity one might do for entertainment. Others would rather not have it or are indifferent to it, but are willing to because they want the intimacy from it, rather than the sexual gratification. And these things are not mutually exclusive.

So yes, there are asexuals like that, but they are certainly not representative of all of them.
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dolomedes posted...

Sephiroth1288 posted...

Pretty sure "asexual" means you reproduce through budding as opposed to having a mate.
God, what is it with progressives and their unrelenting war on the dictionary

that isn't him being mad at the idea of people not wanting to have sex

he is mad that they used a term he thought only applied to like frogs
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To be fair, I think the term was first used to mean lack of sexual interest like 40-60 years ago.

I'll see about checking this since I'm not entirely sure I'm remembering right.

Edit: Okay, it seems there was a book in 1977 that used asexual in in that way. Not sure if the first though.
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I dated one.

I am not asexual.

The relationship did not end well.
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DrizztLink posted...

I dated one.

I am not asexual.

The relationship did not end well.

I assume based on how you stated this that it was at least largely because of the sexual interest discrepancy?
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Sephiroth1288 posted...

Pretty sure "asexual" means you reproduce through budding as opposed to having a mate.

God, what is it with progressives and their unrelenting war on the dictionary

because no other words have multiple meanings.
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HitTheGroundWal posted...

DrizztLink posted...

I dated one.

I am not asexual.

The relationship did not end well.

I assume based on how you stated this that it was at least largely because of the sexual interest discrepancy?

It was a factor, but she makes it seem like a much larger factor than it was.

That relationship ended with her burning the bridge, poisoning the river under it, and salting the earth for a mile in every direction.
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HitTheGroundWal posted...

And as for what was said in that documentary, that is both true and untrue.

Like sexuality, asexuality is also a spectrum. Some asexuals are completely sex repulsed and never want to have it. Some are okay with having it, but lack that special motivation to do so. To them it is no different than any other activity one might do for entertainment. Others would rather not have it or are indifferent to it, but are willing to because they want the intimacy from it, rather than the sexual gratification. And these things are not mutually exclusive.

So yes, there are asexuals like that, but they are certainly not representative of all of them.

Thanks for this, I'm learning new shit every day
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Yes. Kid I went to high school with. I don't doubt him either, he never gave any indication he was sexually attracted to anybody. And to this day, I think he's still a virgin and single.
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No because asexual is a silly snowflake title and doesnt exist

I'm Asexual, but I do find some people attractive. I also love hugging/cuddling. But I have absolutely no desire to have sex.
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dolomedes posted...

Drrobotniks posted...

No because asexual is a silly snowflake title and doesnt exist

millions of silly snowflakes disagree bro

thats nice

dolomedes posted...

Tmaster148 posted...

It's almost like you can join any movement without being the thing the movement is about.

asexuality isn't a movement?

but yeah, you can ascribe to a group without adhering to any of its principles - christian capitalists for example.

heavily underrated post
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A dude that I used to work with said that he was asexual. He was actually a good looking guy, but he thought that sex was gross. He had a friend talk him into it in hs to try it, but he didn't enjoy it even though he said the girl was pretty. He claimed not to deed or anything. He also thought that human nipples were gross for some reason.
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