Current Events > Has anyone else here just completely given up on finding a girlfriend/boyfriend?

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I have. At 32 and a half years old I've hit rock bottom concerning this. I don't try anymore. Like at all. I've deleted my online dating accounts. I'm sure you guys have noticed that I don't post about it anymore. I'm tired of getting hurt. I just don't care anymore. About a month ago I lost the most important person in my life. My mother/grandmother. So my mind hasn't really been on anything else. I've realized that no girl will love you unconditionally the way that your mom would anyway. So how about you guys? Have you given up or do you still have hope of finding love?
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You should really just cry and be depressed and give up hope on everything.

No one cares if you give up. Fine, one less person to worry about if they just want to give up. Get out of the way for others trying.
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I'm married so yes.
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Yeah, my wife keeps cockblocking me.

I'm not particularly interested in finding someone. At least not now. So to an extent, yes.
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I know it's been brought up, but have you ever thought about renting out some companionship?
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Bryon25 posted...

I have. At 32 and a half years old I've hit rock bottom concerning this. I don't try anymore. Like at all. I've deleted my online dating accounts. I'm sure you guys have noticed that I don't post about it anymore. I'm tired of getting hurt. I just don't care anymore. About a month ago I lost the most important person in my life. My mother/grandmother. So my mind hasn't really been on anything else. I've realized that no girl will love you unconditionally the way that your mom would anyway. So how about you guys? Have you given up or do you still have hope of finding love?

You never did.
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Kinda.

I browse OKC, but I've only sent messages to like 2 girls.
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lol. sometimes I give up, but not totally.
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Kitt posted...

You never did.

he literally talked with girls about dating. I didnt even try that.
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Kind of, for the time being at least. Things fell apart with a girl I loved a few years ago because I wasn't really ready for that kind of commitment, and I still feel like I'm not(and maybe never will be, who knows)

there's just a lot I want to do with my life that I don't see myself doing with a girlfriend. But, you never know what's around the corner.
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Temporarily at least. Going back at it soon. Need to make up for my shitty past relationships
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AmonAmarth posted...

Kitt posted...

You never did.

he literally talked with girls about dating. I didnt even try that.

He also rejected all the advice CE gave him and made the exact same mistakes over and over again. It was like a monthly routine at a certain point.
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If an awkward ugly goober like me can get some why can't some of CE?

Put yourselves out there guys
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boxington posted...

I know it's been brought up, but have you ever thought about renting out some companionship?

What do you mean?

nayr626 posted...

Kinda.

I browse OKC, but I've only sent messages to like 2 girls.

Man, okcupid is worthless. I was there for two years. Must've messaged like 50 different girls. Out of those maybe 5 responded. We talked for a bit. Then they disappeared. Never even got a date out of it.
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Bryon25 posted...

I'm sure you guys have noticed that I don't post about it anymore.

I believe you
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Let's be boyfriends then. I have a small ____, so I can be bottom
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I kind of have. I'm just so mentally stuck on the fact I like guys and cannot come to terms with it. I think I'll just omit myself from love.
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Bryon25 posted...

boxington posted...
I know it's been brought up, but have you ever thought about renting out some companionship?

What do you mean?

He means hiring an escort which could do you some good, or you could visit a strip club and see that you giving up is not the way to go unless you can't even make an effort to go to a place to rent affection.
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Sayoria posted...

I kind of have. I'm just so mentally stuck on the fact I like guys and cannot come to terms with it. I think I'll just omit myself from love.

I'm sure any guy would feel lucky to have you.

Also there's nothing really wrong with guys.
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Man can find you a little thot. What is your height and weight?
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I dont know why people think this will solve their problem if they hire a prostitute

It really wont

you'll still feel lonely and empty inside
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Kitt posted...

AmonAmarth posted...

Kitt posted...

You never did.

he literally talked with girls about dating. I didnt even try that.

He also rejected all the advice CE gave him and made the exact same mistakes over and over again. It was like a monthly routine at a certain point.

I'm sure CE gave him excellent advice rofl.
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EdgeMaster posted...

Kitt posted...

AmonAmarth posted...

Kitt posted...

You never did.

he literally talked with girls about dating. I didnt even try that.

He also rejected all the advice CE gave him and made the exact same mistakes over and over again. It was like a monthly routine at a certain point.

I'm sure CE gave him excellent advice rofl.

Good point lol

But basic shit that he kept doing like those creepy "pls respond-esque" text messages he would keeping spamming to girls were something I'm sure most CEmen would know better to do (hopefully).
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AzNDarkSamurai posted...

I dont know why people think this will solve their problem if they hire a prostitute

It really wont

you'll still feel lonely and empty inside

What i mean by thot a is just a easy girl that he can kind of like practice with and get his confidence up, so I can get his wife.
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voldothegr8 posted...

I'm married so yes.

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You've posted your pics before TC and I definitely think you could get a GF. It's just a numbers game, you've gotta spray 'n pray as the kids call it. Send lots of messages and pray that a few of them stick. It will eventually work.
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Sativa_Rose posted...

You've posted your pics before TC and I definitely think you could get a GF. It's just a numbers game, you've gotta spray 'n pray as the kids call it. Send lots of messages and pray that a few of them stick. It will eventually work.

Spray and pray was a term that was made for the uzi back when it was in military/Secret service and CIA.
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Bryon25 posted...

I have. At 32 and a half years old I've hit rock bottom concerning this. I don't try anymore. Like at all. I've deleted my online dating accounts. I'm sure you guys have noticed that I don't post about it anymore. I'm tired of getting hurt. I just don't care anymore. About a month ago I lost the most important person in my life. My mother/grandmother. So my mind hasn't really been on anything else. I've realized that no girl will love you unconditionally the way that your mom would anyway. So how about you guys? Have you given up or do you still have hope of finding love?

Sorry to hear about your mom/grandma man
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psvitantifail posted...

Sativa_Rose posted...

You've posted your pics before TC and I definitely think you could get a GF. It's just a numbers game, you've gotta spray 'n pray as the kids call it. Send lots of messages and pray that a few of them stick. It will eventually work.

Spray and pray was a term that was made for the uzi back when it was in military/Secret service and CIA.

Oh I thought it came from kids playing counterstrike or quake or something, was that really from the military? Lmao
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You probably have no game. Online dating is meant for women a lot of em just like the attention and validation. Plus the ones online are usually low quality (looks and personality) anyway. I don't want a relationship and have given up on relationships as well but not cuz I can't get women. I gave up cuz western women are mainly just useless degenerates now who sleep around all the time, are narcissistic and self absorbed into social media, and have few redeeming qualities.

I just have sex with women now. I would not enter a relationship with any of the women I've slept with recently or the one I'm sleeping with now.

A lot of guys with girlfriends are underappreciated, undersexed, mistreated, and/or getting cheated on anyways. I actually pity guys with girlfriends these days.
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VandorLee posted...

You should really just cry and be depressed and give up hope on everything.

No one cares if you give up. Fine, one less person to worry about if they just want to give up. Get out of the way for others trying.

Yeah, you could have not been a dick.
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CrimsonAngeI posted...

Sayoria posted...

I kind of have. I'm just so mentally stuck on the fact I like guys and cannot come to terms with it. I think I'll just omit myself from love.

I'm sure any guy would feel lucky to have you.

Also there's nothing really wrong with guys.

Thank you for that.

Honestly, I know there isn't, but I'm a Taurus on my sun and an Aries on my moon. I am so freaking stubborn when it comes to things. This is one of the bigger pictures and I can't help it.
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Kitt posted...

EdgeMaster posted...

Kitt posted...

AmonAmarth posted...

Kitt posted...

You never did.

he literally talked with girls about dating. I didnt even try that.

He also rejected all the advice CE gave him and made the exact same mistakes over and over again. It was like a monthly routine at a certain point.

I'm sure CE gave him excellent advice rofl.

Good point lol

But basic shit that he kept doing like those creepy "pls respond-esque" text messages he would keeping spamming to girls were something I'm sure most CEmen would know better to do (hopefully).

I'm not familiar with his story, but I believe it. CE is one of the last places I would take advice from, but that said many guys have piss poor game and still manage to get something (though not necessarily quality lol), so obviously TC is doing something very wrong.

De Evolution posted...

You probably have no game. Online dating is meant for women a lot of em just like the attention and validation. Plus the ones online are usually low quality (looks and personality) anyway. I don't want a relationship and have given up on relationships as well but not cuz I can't get women. I gave up cuz western women are mainly just useless degenerates now who sleep around all the time, are narcissistic and self absorbed into social media, and have few redeeming qualities.

I just have sex with women now. I would not enter a relationship with any of the women I've slept with recently or the one I'm sleeping with now.

A lot of guys with girlfriends are underappreciated, undersexed, mistreated, and/or getting cheated on anyways. I actually pity guys with girlfriends these days.

Kind of a grim outlook on things. There are still good girls around (although very rare), but I can't disprove anything you said lol. Good post.
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i'm 25, and with you TC

i havent given up hope, but i've given up trying

i just dont got what it takes to attract a mate or sustain a relationship
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Conflict posted...

EdgeMaster posted...

De Evolution posted...

You probably have no game. Online dating is meant for women a lot of em just like the attention and validation. Plus the ones online are usually low quality (looks and personality) anyway. I don't want a relationship and have given up on relationships as well but not cuz I can't get women. I gave up cuz western women are mainly just useless degenerates now who sleep around all the time, are narcissistic and self absorbed into social media, and have few redeeming qualities.

I just have sex with women now. I would not enter a relationship with any of the women I've slept with recently or the one I'm sleeping with now.

A lot of guys with girlfriends are underappreciated, undersexed, mistreated, and/or getting cheated on anyways. I actually pity guys with girlfriends these days.

Kind of a grim outlook on things. There are still good girls around (although very rare), but I can't disprove anything you said lol. Good post.

That's the exact opposite of a good post.

That's literally something you would see on r/red pill
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33. Been single my whole life.

I have been pretty depressed about it the last 6 months or so.

I still try to date for God knows what reason.

Though I think I might just retire and give up soon.

Putting effort into people/relationships that go nowhere is exhausting.
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I have a question:

Did your mom and grandma pass or
Did your grandma who you think of as a mother pass or
Did your grandma who is also your mom pass???

Not trying to be insensitive...
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22, yep. The disappointment of hoping something, anything will happen, it not happening, then realising how far off your goal you are is just too much to bear. As an aside, the advice "It will happen when you least expect it" is complete nonsense.

Stop the online. Hang out with friends and family members. Family members have friends that are not related. (I do not want to get modded so I must say love is love who are we to judge) Anyway your friends and family want you to hang out with you as long as you are not over the top and annoying. Keep calm. Let others makes fool if themselves. They have friends you will connect with. Also the book How to Win Friends and Influence People is a great read. The tips are simple yet for some reason we do not use them. I highlighted the best parts and typed them into my phone notes so I can read it often.
Example text
Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.


God Bless
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Joelypoely posted...

22, yep. The disappointment of hoping something, anything will happen, it not happening, then realising how far off your goal you are is just too much to bear. As an aside, the advice "It will happen when you least expect it" is complete nonsense.

You sound like you don't get out often. You are literally only 22.
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Never give up. Every guys goes through this. One day mom isn't gonna be there, and you'll be all alone. There's nothing wrong with being alone, but...

...it's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.
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Conflict posted...

Offworlder1 posted...

Bryon25 posted...

boxington posted...
I know it's been brought up, but have you ever thought about renting out some companionship?

What do you mean?

He means hiring an escort which could do you some good, or you could visit a strip club and see that you giving up is not the way to go unless you can't even make an effort to go to a place to rent affection.

You're not going to get any sense of companionship from an escort.

Strip club girls know how to make loners feel comfortable talking to women.

Not gonna say it's a solution or anything but anything sounds more fun than whatever TC is going through. But I know when you're at that stage any interaction feels like it should be important. I think that's half the problem.
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I have for now, but after relocating to Houston metro, I'll look into it.
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Bryon25 posted...

boxington posted...

I know it's been brought up, but have you ever thought about renting out some companionship?

What do you mean?

nayr626 posted...

Kinda.

I browse OKC, but I've only sent messages to like 2 girls.

Man, okcupid is worthless. I was there for two years. Must've messaged like 50 different girls. Out of those maybe 5 responded. We talked for a bit. Then they disappeared. Never even got a date out of it.

It's not worthless, you're just doing it wrong. Getting dates is easy assuming you live somewhere with a moderate to high population. If I had time I could get at least one date or more each week and I'm probably below average looking. For me, the hard part is getting from dates to relationships. Either the girl loses interest, I lose interest, they decide they don't want a boyfriend at the moment, they decide to get back with their ex, they're moving, etc. Also, finding time to date is hard as f*** in med school and that can put a strain on things.

I think guys who have no experience and feel anxiety over it are self-sabotaging themselves and they don't even realize it.

Imagine you meet a guy who's desperate to be your best friend. He'll take it personally and feel devastated if you don't become his best friend. That's a lot of pressure for both you and him to feel when you barely know him right? It's completely changed the dynamic you would have if you otherwise just met him normally. It changes how he approaches you and that in turn changes how you react to him. Perhaps if he didn't feel so much pressure you would become best friends but there's no chance that would feel right starting right away with expectations like that. In comparison someone who can make a best friend out of anyone feels no pressure at all.
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psvitantifail posted...

Man can find you a little thot. What is your height and weight?

5'10" 165lbs

Sativa_Rose posted...

You've posted your pics before TC and I definitely think you could get a GF.

Thanks man.

emblem boy posted...

Sorry to hear about your mom/grandma man

Thanks emblem boy.

iosifsvoboda posted...

I have a question:

Did your mom and grandma pass or
Did your grandma who you think of as a mother pass or
Did your grandma who is also your mom pass???

Not trying to be insensitive...

Well biologically she was my grandma. But I called her mom. Because she raised me from an infant up. My real mother died when I was 4 months old. I never knew her.

JerickoX posted...

Never give up. Every guys goes through this. One day mom isn't gonna be there, and you'll be all alone.

This has already happened.
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