Current Events > broke up with my gf of 6.5 months today

(+) Yeah! (+)

kind of sucks. i was/still am crazy about her, but we argue too much. like every other day something is an issue.

i told her to go home tonight to think about what we can change in our relationship, and even that was met with dissension. i sent her an article from webmd i was reading about 7 common relationship problems and how to fix them, and her response was, "i don't have any of these, you do"

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feels bad man. great girl when we're doing well, but i just got fed up with the constant bickering. like i'm over there 95% of my time, and when i suggested i bring my pc so that i can do things i want while still being around her, it became an issue too.

don't date 32 year old women who have never been in a relationship--it's some high school shit
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organicbamf posted...

don't date 32 year old women who have never been in a relationship--it's some high school s***

That should have been your red flag right there lol
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I4NRulez posted...

organicbamf posted...

don't date 32 year old women who have never been in a relationship--it's some high school s***

That should have been your red flag right there lol

*shrug*

she was born and raised in iran and has only been here 3 years

different culture and background
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No one cares
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ManWithGun posted...

No one cares

yeah
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I guess you could say it was





Cultural differences
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DezCaughtIt posted...

I guess you could say it was





Cultural differences

i'm not sure i really get your joke here. like yeah, that was part of it, but what's the deeper meaning behind this remark?
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Lol .5 months
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Khalpz posted...

Lol .5 months

yeh idk, it was almost 7, but i didn't want to say 7

like i've been in relationships that were twice this, and i'm 28 now, so i get why that's kind of "lol"

not sure why i phrased it that way
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organicbamf posted...

DezCaughtIt posted...

I guess you could say it was





Cultural differences

i'm not sure i really get your joke here. like yeah, that was part of it, but what's the deeper meaning behind this remark?

I'm just shit posting. It was a thing a couple years ago on here because of some stupid shit someone said.

But yeah sounds like she was unwilling to grow in the relationship, so you pretty much made the right call. Sucks, but right
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DezCaughtIt posted...

organicbamf posted...

DezCaughtIt posted...

I guess you could say it was





Cultural differences

i'm not sure i really get your joke here. like yeah, that was part of it, but what's the deeper meaning behind this remark?

I'm just shit posting. It was a thing a couple years ago on here because of some stupid shit someone said.

But yeah sounds like she was unwilling to grow in the relationship, so you pretty much made the right call. Sucks, but right

ah, a CE meme i missed in my time off from here i suppose (wasn't browsing the last ~2 years)
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Congrats. Enjoy your freedom and strange pussy.
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organicbamf posted...

ah, a CE meme i missed in my time off from here i suppose (wasn't browsing the last ~2 years)

What was your old username because you seem p familiar
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I recently cut it off with a chick that I've been seeing for about 3 months. At the end of the day, I felt like I was investing too much money into the relationship and not getting a good return on my investment. She also sucked up most of my time and prevented me from working the hours that I wanted to. So not only was I wasting my time and money on her, but she was also preventing me from making my required monies. I'd consistently tell her that I need to have at least $6K saved up these past two months to make it through the summer and she's agree and then go on with her stupidity. She also pissed me off because she was 26, but acted like she was 12. Didn't have a job and still lived at home. It was really hard for me to keep my cool when breaking up w/ her.
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DezCaughtIt posted...

organicbamf posted...

ah, a CE meme i missed in my time off from here i suppose (wasn't browsing the last ~2 years)

What was your old username because you seem p familiar

NilesCraneMD

and before that roryne (same as my LL/ETI username), which was a name change from Hucks Friend
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Sounds like she isn't feeling you and you need to give some space, and bust out the freaky thangs behind the scenes asap

Putting weird shit where it doesn't "belong"

organicbamf posted...

don't date 32 year old women who have never been in a relationship-

lol

please share some stories on what dating her was like

Was she hot? also did it get sexual at that age? how old are oyu

Apex_Predator posted...

I recently cut it off with a chick that I've been seeing for about 3 months. At the end of the day, I felt like I was investing too much money into the relationship and not getting a good return on my investment. She also sucked up most of my time and prevented me from working the hours that I wanted to. So not only was I wasting my time and money on her, but she was also preventing me from making my required monies. I'd consistently tell her that I need to have at least $6K saved up these past two months to make it through the summer and she's agree and then go on with her stupidity. She also pissed me off because she was 26, but acted like she was 12. Didn't have a job and still lived at home. It was really hard for me to keep my cool when breaking up w/ her.

yeah, this girl literally moved from oppressive iran to be an independent woman, then got pissy when i didn't pay for everything and treat her like some 50's style shit. fuck that

Keith_Valentine posted...

Sounds like she isn't feeling you and you need to give some space, and bust out the freaky thangs behind the scenes asap

Putting weird shit where it doesn't "belong"

nah, it isn't that she isn't feeling me--she's quite clingy. i wanted space and she had a melty from that.
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ssj-ahmed posted...

organicbamf posted...

don't date 32 year old women who have never been in a relationship-

lol

please share some stories on what dating her was like

Was she hot? also did it get sexual at that age? how old are oyu

it was like when i was 17 in my relationship, except the roles were reversed. dunno how to describe it other than that. extremely passive aggressive, expected everything to be some straight disney shit.

yeah, she's attractive (obviously i think so). she got raped when she came here, before ever having any kind of consensual intimacy. we did get intimate tho, at her behest. i was really hesitant to do anything with her before that

i'm 28
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organicbamf posted...

she had a melty

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organicbamf posted...

DezCaughtIt posted...

organicbamf posted...

ah, a CE meme i missed in my time off from here i suppose (wasn't browsing the last ~2 years)

What was your old username because you seem p familiar

NilesCraneMD

and before that roryne (same as my LL/ETI username), which was a name change from Hucks Friend

I thought that was you. I quit CE for a little over a year and ended up coming back in December because I was bored to tears back home on Christmas break
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organicbamf posted...

she got raped when she came here

damn...wtf. story?

moose_knuckle posted...

organicbamf posted...

she had a melty

yes, this is modern popular meme vernacular
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organicbamf posted...

moose_knuckle posted...

organicbamf posted...

she had a melty

yes, this is modern popular meme vernacular

Haven't heard it. Funny.
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DezCaughtIt posted...

I thought that was you. I quit CE for a little over a year and ended up coming back in December because I was bored to tears back home on Christmas break

oh i just saw in your sig who you were. i recognize the name for sure. yeah, this site has had its grips on me for going on 17 years now. dunno why

ssj-ahmed posted...

organicbamf posted...

she got raped when she came here

damn...wtf. story?

something about when she first got here she was lonely so she hung out with people she shouldn't have. a dude in her department (she's a physics phd candidate) invited her over, kept insisting she drink (which she doesn't do because of her background), and then raped her.

p fucked
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moose_knuckle posted...

organicbamf posted...

moose_knuckle posted...

organicbamf posted...

she had a melty

yes, this is modern popular meme vernacular

Haven't heard it. Funny.

ah, i see. afaik it originated from the_donald on reddit. i like it for sure
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ManWithGun posted...

No one cares

I care dammit
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Who broke it off, you or her?

Would you consider getting back with her?

Was she materialistic?

Are you arab too?

Is she muslim?

ssj-ahmed posted...

Who broke it off, you or her?

Would you consider getting back with her?

Was she materialistic?

Are you arab too?

Is she muslim?

i did

yes, i would consider it if she gave some serious thought to what we can change in our toxic relationship to make it better. so far it doesn't seem promising that she wants to change anything.

yeah, a little bit.

no, i'm white af fam.

she claims she's muslim, but in the same way people say they're jewish without it being a religious thing. they have to put their religion on their birth certificates, so she's like culturally muslim, but doesn't practice.

edit: btw, persians aren't arab and they will get pissy if you call them that
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was she a mail order bride?

AugustAdoulin posted...

was she a mail order bride?

no
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organicbamf posted...

Apex_Predator posted...

I recently cut it off with a chick that I've been seeing for about 3 months. At the end of the day, I felt like I was investing too much money into the relationship and not getting a good return on my investment. She also sucked up most of my time and prevented me from working the hours that I wanted to. So not only was I wasting my time and money on her, but she was also preventing me from making my required monies. I'd consistently tell her that I need to have at least $6K saved up these past two months to make it through the summer and she's agree and then go on with her stupidity. She also pissed me off because she was 26, but acted like she was 12. Didn't have a job and still lived at home. It was really hard for me to keep my cool when breaking up w/ her.

yeah, this girl literally moved from oppressive iran to be an independent woman, then got pissy when i didn't pay for everything and treat her like some 50's style shit. fuck that

I feel you on that bro. Sounds like the chicks were similar. Mine was clingy af too which really bothered me. She didn't really have any plan for what she wanted to do with herself in the future either. Then again, it's kinda hard to have a plan when you don't have an income. And she'd consistently bitch about how she can't hold a regular job. Which was true because she was lazy and had this entitled boss bitch attitude. She tried running it on me a few times, it didn't work. I believe that many girls are so confused nowadays. They think they want that independence and then when it comes time to be independent, they turn to you. It's either get a job or get on your knees. Honestly, I don't have any sympathy for them either. I grew up w/ a single parent and my mom worked 80 hour weeks to provide for me and my brother. So yeah, get a job hoe.
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yeah like, she refuses to understand that i live on student loans which means it's borrowed money, meanwhile she's actually getting income from her stipend. but it's my "job" to pay for everything... and she cites it's because i have my parents nearby if run into financial trouble, while her parents are still in iran and are poor. like what is that. i don't go to my parents to just buy me things unless it were a legitimate emergency.

she's the most stubborn woman i have ever dated. that has some real merit to it in some areas, but also causes so many problems in interpersonal relationships. i know, because it's something i've been improving on my entire life.
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so after insisting i block her on facebook, i finally did and she lost it and started texting me

wtf homies
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sounds confusing
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Apex_Predator posted...

I recently cut it off with a chick that I've been seeing for about 3 months. At the end of the day, I felt like I was investing too much money into the relationship and not getting a good return on my investment. She also sucked up most of my time and prevented me from working the hours that I wanted to. So not only was I wasting my time and money on her, but she was also preventing me from making my required monies. I'd consistently tell her that I need to have at least $6K saved up these past two months to make it through the summer and she's agree and then go on with her stupidity. She also pissed me off because she was 26, but acted like she was 12. Didn't have a job and still lived at home. It was really hard for me to keep my cool when breaking up w/ her.

was she chinese?
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organicbamf posted...

so after insisting i block her on facebook, i finally did and she lost it and started texting me

wtf homies

Post screenshots of your convos.
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ThyCorndog posted...

sounds confusing

yeah i guess so

after begging her to go home and think about it and write out a list, she did none of it

then expected me to have something, even tho i only suggested the list because she implored that she didn't know where to start.

like i had plenty of things to talk about already. but because i didn't have a physical list, she got pissy. despite not doing it herself.

32 year old women without relationship experience are too much man, i don't think i can do it
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kewldude475 posted...

So do you still like her? Sounds like this is your chance to get her back tbh. If she doesn't like you on your PC just bring your phone instead lol. Unless she's at your place or something I dunno. Anyways, don't take the arguments too seriously, just because you guys argue doesn't mean it's time to break up. Try to use it as a make-up sex excuse or make a joke out of it or something lol

yeah, i'm crazy about her. but i've been in numerous relationships, and this is one of two where we argued every other day about the stupidest shit. the first being my high school relationship, where i was at fault most the time (in reflection--didn't think that at the time obv)

but like, i'm on my phone all the time there. the fact i want to play wow and still be around her is a problem. why? she says "it's been 6 months and this wasn't an issue before". but yeah... because not only do relationships evolve, but so do individual interests. i had a ton of hobbies before, none of which i do now. other than the past couple of days, i haven't played piano in months. why? because i'm always over there and i just don't have physical access. but this is all somehow a problem. her response? move in together lol. as tho that will solve our foundational problems (terrible communication). she doesn't *get* that it's a super important thing. i legit miss my last relationship if only for that fact. we talked everything out
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and like, she was even sitting on my couch the other day crying that she couldn't get along with anyone, even her family

and then insists nothing is wrong with her

what in actual fuck
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Do you think it's worth it to try and salvage it? Or is it just all too much?

If you get back with her, definitely bring your pc or whatever. You have hobbies too and she doesn't get to dictate them

Sounds like she doesn't want to admit to her own flaws tho so idk
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ThyCorndog posted...

Do you think it's worth it to try and salvage it? Or is it just all too much?

If you get back with her, definitely bring your pc or whatever. You have hobbies too and she doesn't get to dictate them

Sounds like she doesn't want to admit to her own flaws tho so idk

her lack of admittance is the whole problem. i said numerous times we *both* had things to work on, but she tries to spin it like i'm saying "get better, and the i'll come back!". which is patently false.

i've tried salvaging it... for months i told myself it'd get better, things would change

but if she doesn't want to, then there's nothing else i can do :\
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kewldude475 posted...

I dunno mayne. Is WoW that much better than banging her?

letting your partner do things on occasion is a big part of a mature relationship tho

like, i get wanting to be together all the time, but there's a time where that ends. that happened for us. now i'm trying to find a way to do things i want while still being around her. that is not at all unreasonable.

pussy isn't so great that you should sacrifice everything else for it. it's a nice benefit, but it's not everything in life
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kewldude475 posted...

I dunno mayne. Is WoW really that much better than banging your gf?

Having hobbies and being in a relationship shouldn't be mutually exclusive

But maybe you're just baiting in which case 8.5/10
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TC, sounds pretty similar to the situation I'm in. Involved with this girl, have been on again off again constantly because we fight so much. But neither of us can move on. We've been stuck like this for almost 2.5 years. I wish I had the courage to just block her number. I really do.
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MFBKBass5 posted...

TC, sounds pretty similar to the situation I'm in. Involved with this girl, have been on again off again constantly because we fight so much. But neither of us can move on. We've been stuck like this for almost 2.5 years. I wish I had the courage to just block her number. I really do.

Do it right now.
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kewldude475 posted...

organicbamf posted...

kewldude475 posted...

I dunno mayne. Is WoW that much better than banging her?

letting your partner do things on occasion is a big part of a mature relationship tho

like, i get wanting to be together all the time, but there's a time where that ends. that happened for us. now i'm trying to find a way to do things i want while still being around her. that is not at all unreasonable.

pussy isn't so great that you should sacrifice everything else for it. it's a nice benefit, but it's not everything in life

Sex/relationships ain't all about da pussy mayne. Spending time with people you genuinely like/love is important too. Hang with her during the day/night game when one of you leaves/goes to bed. Otherwise just tell her straight up that day you have plans to game, and won't be available during certain times.

i've tried that. it doesn't go over well. she tries to tell me that "i can do anything i want", but then she throws a fit when i try to do so.

like saying "talk to you tomorrow" and getting back "maybe"

wtf is that

she constantly tells me i don't care about her and i don't love her, but then will straight up deny saying so. when she was here last, she told me she never said that shit, so i said i'm gonna get my phone and show her, and then she was like "what happens when you don't find it?". but guess what, i did. her response was silence. she doesn't trust me or believe me about how i feel and constantly insists the worst possible outcome about fucking everything.

and you say it's about spending time, but that's literally what i was trying to find a way to do. still met with dissension.
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