Current Events > Ok. So you hyphenate the last name of your SO with your own when you get married

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So the new family last name that you're starting is Smith-Lee.

What if when your children grown up and become men and women who meet the one, they get married, and their partner also has a hyphenated last name, say Tucker-Pritchett.

So in order to compromise they decide to combine both hyphenated names to make Tucker-Pritchett-Smith-Lee?

Where the hell does it end? The combine last names for a hyphenated last name thing was a novel idea to get rid of "outdated" gender roles of the woman taking the man's last name and bring about equality, but at some point...

I dunno. I'm not saying there is another solution for the whole equality last names thing, only that the hyphenated name business runs out. And yes others make up a whole new name to combine the two, but that might not always work and a lot of families like to have consistency because of the whole genes passing on legacy thing.
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This is such a non-issue that it hurts.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IztOtBljubw

the real issue is why don't married couple invent their own last name to use, that would be way more modern and progressive
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saspa posted...

because of the whole genes passing on legacy thing.

this isn't the 1200s rofl
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I guess this isn't really a thing in your culture.
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LysistrataMedea posted...

the real issue is why don't married couple invent their own last name to use, that would be way more modern and progressive

Some do.
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http://perez.cs.vt.edu/twolastnames

hispanics got it down bruh. my wife still uses her maiden name because why the fuck would you want to change your last name (plus mines super common and hers isn't). kids will have both and they can figure that shit out when they have kids.
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Old NoiseTank posted...

http://perez.cs.vt.edu/twolastnames

hispanics got it down bruh. my wife still uses her maiden name because why the fuck would you want to change your last name (plus mines super common and hers isn't). kids will have both and they can figure that shit out when they have kids.

My wife is Hispanic and she uses my last name.

It's just a matter of preference. I prefer just one last name to make it easier for everyone in the long run.
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Mernardi posted...

Old NoiseTank posted...

http://perez.cs.vt.edu/twolastnames

hispanics got it down bruh. my wife still uses her maiden name because why the fuck would you want to change your last name (plus mines super common and hers isn't). kids will have both and they can figure that shit out when they have kids.

My wife is Hispanic and she uses my last name.

It's just a matter of preference. I prefer just one last name to make it easier for everyone in the long run.

agreed.

would you be upset if she told you she didn't want to take your last name though? just asking out of curiosity.
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my fiancée is hispanic and she really likes her last name. she'll end up keeping it and i'll keep mine
didn't even think it was a big deal when we told our families. they were more upset over that than the idea of no kids

I guess they figured we'll change our mind on the kids thing, but the name thing will just get more and more complicated as time goes on
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There's sort of an "Arrow's Impossibility Triangle" with last names. It's hard to satisfy:

1. Gender Equity
2. Short Last Names
3. Last Names generally continue on.
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my wife just added her maiden name to her middle name and hyphenated it

I would never tolerate hyphenating.

I would rather take her last name than have her hyphenate hers. No joke.

Hyphenating is absolute cuckery.
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my parents gave me and my sisters both of their last names... and didn't hyphenate them.

non-hyphenation is way worse than hyphenation unless there's a specific system to work it out, like what they do in Spain
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People should just make up a new last name that they both agree on

Anteaterking posted...

There's sort of an "Arrow's Impossibility Triangle" with last names. It's hard to satisfy:

1. Gender Equity
2. Short Last Names
3. Last Names generally continue on.

Pretty much
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It pertains to certain cultures moreso than others.
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Just take the name that sounds less like ass.


And there are last names that just sound awful. People should take the first chance they get to dump terrible sounding names and upgrade. It's one of those situations where I say fuck heritage if it sounds butt ugly...
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