Current Events > AITAH for not paying for my sister's bday dinner when BIL accidentally paid?

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per usual, for any bdays in the family our parents take us out for a big family dinner to celebrate

however, my parents are notoriously terrible tippers and will tip a max of 10% if they loved the service

so my brother in law, who has worked in the service industry went to discretely pay for the tip

however, when it came time to pay the bill, the server must have misunderstood because she said that my BIL has paid for the dinner already

he said "I did...?" and i thought he was being sarcastic, but the look on his face made it seem like he was dying on the inside

my sister later told me he only meant to pay the tip. the dinner bill came out to $300 after tip

i felt awful. since my sister and BIL share a bank account, she essentially paid for her own bday dinner

i guess it's true no good deed goes unpunished. i thought about venmoing them all of it or half, but i don't see why i should be punished for his mistake in communication with the server.

my sister hasn't suggested that i should pay them, but i feel bad for them. i gave my sister $50 as a gift for her bday earlier in the day

my parents weren't even appreciative, they just kept complaining that now they don't get the credit card points

Why are you feeling guilty about it? This is really between your BIL and your parents. Don't insert yourself into it unless you really have to.

You're not guilty of anything, but it would be a nice gesture at least.

Is your sister hot and single

tb;Dr

(Too bait, doctor)

Your sister not your daughter she should take care of herself she picked him he should be ready

he AITAH, she AITAH, were all AITAH

So your parents aren't willing to venmo your sister the cost of the dinner despite the mistake?

A_Good_Boy posted...

So your parents aren't willing to venmo your sister the cost of the dinner despite the mistake?

they don't know it was a mistake, they think he intended to do it. he's not going to say otherwise

Sounds like a shitty situation created in it's entirety by the bil.

A_Good_Boy posted...

Sounds like a shitty situation created in it's entirety by the bil.

Like I said no good deed etc

Take him on a guided tour of your luxury condo, that will make up for the cost

Shishiwakamaru posted...

Take him on a guided tour of your luxury condo, that will make up for the cost

We had the cake at my luxury condo down the street after