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And they would plan on fully transitioning?

id stay with them, idk how people could not (but i know it does happen)

Robot2600 posted...

id stay with them, idk how people could not (but i know it does happen)

Are you monosexual?

epik_fail1 posted...

Are you monosexual?

of course not

I would support him, but I seem pretty hardcore sapphic, so I'm not sure he would remain attractive to me. I would wait and see though.

Ecstatic

Yes, I'm already aware my partner is trans

My partner literally did this, a few years back. Still got married later and have been happily so for 4 years. They have gotten the top surgery and socially transitioned, with legal name change. The only thing they haven't gotten and still aren't sold on getting is the bottom surgery, but I wouldn't care if they decided later on doing that too.

I'm asexual and also don't really care about gender, due to having somewhat of a weird relationship with my own gender (mainly in that I don't view myself to have a gender). My partner was ultimately still the same person I got to know and fell in love with. It's not like that suddenly changed because I found out they're trans.

Robot2600 posted...

of course not

Some people are attracted by only one sex and tried with the opposite sex and never "felt" it

I'd support them but wouldn't stay in the relationship.

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This. I'm just not into dudes. We'd probably end up just being bestest bro friends I guess.

i am not attracted to women so i dont think it would work for me. i would probably want to stay friends if possible though

I'd wish them well as our romantic relationship transformed into a traditional friendship.

Just pretend I knew all along, promise advanced lessons writing in cursive with pee in snow

Don't think I could comprehend that tbh. It's like those Unfair topics.

Give them support and tell them to go for it and live their best life, but I wouldn't want to be with them.

"I have a partner?"

Well we can be friends... Because
I want kids so... You going to have to give me that ring back fam.

Wish him well on his newfound identity and end the relationship. As long as it's self-discovery after the fact and not the willful manipulation of someone, nothing to be angry about, but that's not a relationship I'd want to be in any longer.

I'd like her even more

Id give them the huggiest hug

I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors

High five

Robot2600 posted...

id stay with them, idk how people could not (but i know it does happen)

You don't see it at all huh

I guess it depends on how much both of us are willing to compromise about different things?
It would just involve a lot of talking.

What's their ideal masculine physique that they're aiming for.

What are their expectations for sexual things and what are they willing to compromise on
.

what do they expect from me?

epik_fail1 posted...

How would you react if your partner announced you they were trans

And they would plan on fully transitioning?

Been down this road. It's not an uncommon situation for gay men to encounter at least once. Broke up with an ex on what I felt was good terms once "they" started seriously considering transitioning after a year of being together. We agreed that the changes my ex wanted to undergo were understandably going to be a dealbreaker for both of us. "She" just felt like asking if there was a possibility I could still be on board with it as an intimate partner. I gently, but firmly said no and that I was still open to being friends. My ex said she understood and apologized for "flipping the game board" while we had already spent so much time having fun together.

Initially we seemed mutually comfortable with our relationship as gay men, but my ex's trans journey was unprecedented for me after so much investment. She admitted realizing this as someone who formerly identified as a gay man and bore no grudge over my rejection. She just felt it was worth a shot to ask. Most (anatomically male) gay men say no to the proposition, because we ideally want anatomically male partners.

We still touch base with each other on social media, but we've naturally grown apart over the separation and I'm glad to hear my ex is living more comfortably as a woman. I think I handled the news pretty well compared to a lot of other awkward breakups I've heard about. I didn't want my ex to be another horror story to gossip about. I was disappointed, but felt no resentment. She just wanted to go down a different path I wasn't interested in following. People break up over less.