Current Events > Thinking of just buying a hooker to lose my virginity (turning 29 this year)

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Long story short, I grew up in a dysfunctional environment which stunted me emotionally. Hard. Had girls show interst in me in high school and early 20s but my anxiety, depression and social skills were too bad to seal the deal and pick up on cues. This is common for dudes who struggle with women.

Right now I managed to mature and work through my issues and i'm in a much better place. I'm much happier, can manage my anxiety better and can hold conversations and bond with females ok now. I'm physically fit, have my own apartment and have quite a bit of income. The problem is that women in my age range are most likely gonna be creeped out and repulsed by a dude who is an almost 29 year old virgin. Thinking of sleeping with cheap hookers to build up some experience. I wonder if it's even worth it.

You think women are less likely to be creeped out and repulsed by I was a virgin but then I banged some cheap hookers?

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Ain't reading all that shit but do it.

Tenlaar posted...

You think women are less likely to be creeped out and repulsed by I was a virgin but then I banged some cheap hookers?

And why'd he tell them? Just say "I had some "flings", but they never resulted in anything, except HPV".

Watch yourself. Could turn out to be an undercover cop.

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Wow, virgin shaming is awful on this websight

Or you could go to Amsterdam.

Tenlaar posted...

You think women are less likely to be creeped out and repulsed by I was a virgin but then I banged some cheap hookers?

Yes.

coolguyjimmy posted...

And why'd he tell them? Just say "I had some "flings", but they never resulted in anything, except HPV".

I don't want to build a relationship on lies

As this is unregulated in many countries, there's also the possibility of you ending up raping someone if it's a trafficking situation.

You said that youre able to deal with your anxiety now and create bonds with people. If thats the case then you can just start online dating or meet people at bars and get laid there. You dont need to pay for it

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I had a buddy in TCs situation. I was hitting on some girls in a bar and mentioned to one of them that my friend over there had never had sex. She marched right over and told him she was gonna fuck him tonight and they immediately left the bar.

women are gonna think a 28 year virgin is a creepy weirdo like I said earlier

KingWhiteKnight posted...

women are gonna think a 28 year virgin is a creepy weirdo like I said earlier

Why would it come up in conversation? If the two of you like each other then you can just do it

Power move this and trick some lady into thinking its gonna actually be her power move to dominate and take away your virginity like a bo$$

then laugh like an anime villain right after and say you fool, you got what you wanted but I I got what I needed

If you do it, dont go cheap. Plan a trip somewhere its legal.

this is a non-issue. they won't think you're a creepy weirdo if you don't come off as one. just fucking find someone you like and be honest about who you are. don't be ashamed of yourself.

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also this, obviously. lots of them will be into it.

should be clear, though, THIS part:
Omnislasher posted...

if you don't come off as one

is really important.

ARE you a creepy weirdo? if so, yeah just go for the prostitute.

Don't. You might end up in jail

I'm a 40 year old virgin. Yep. Just like that movie

I dont give a fuck anymore. I'm happy being free and not in prison, playing video games and reading comics. Sex isn't worth jail

Being honest will probably be better for you in the long run than trying to smash a hooker just so you can say you been in pussy. Which in itself is definitely worse than just saying you had a real late start.

I think youre overestimating the women will think its creepy but. Will some, sure. I think its more likely that, a good woman at least, will view it as more of a blank slate situation. She can mold someone without experience into the type of partner she wants. No my ex loved when I did this habits.

Jiek_Fafn posted...

This
I had a buddy in TCs situation. I was hitting on some girls in a bar and mentioned to one of them that my friend over there had never had sex. She marched right over and told him she was gonna fuck him tonight and they immediately left the bar.

Legit this my mom's friend had a daughter a few years older and we were hanging out with a few of her friends. One of them said raise your hand if you're a virgin! I wasn't one by the end of the night.

CinderLock posted...

Legit this my mom's friend had a daughter a few years older and we were hanging out with a few of her friends. One of them said raise your hand if you're a virgin! I wasn't one by the end of the night.

That will never happen to me. I'm extremely unlucky

KingWhiteKnight posted...

That will never happen to me. I'm extremely unlucky

oh stfu

You could try one of those dating apps and just not tell them youre a virgin?

Being a virgin really isnt a big deal.

Kakapo posted...

Being a virgin really isnt a big deal.

This. TC thinks girls will care but the truth is that the only people that care about virginity are virgins and perverts.

Do it and enjoy it!

KingWhiteKnight posted...

The problem is that women in my age range are most likely gonna be creeped out and repulsed by a dude who is an almost 29 year old virgin.

Tenlaar posted...

You think women are less likely to be creeped out and repulsed by I was a virgin but then I banged some cheap hookers?

In either case: Why do you have to tell them your history?

Make sure you record it so it's legal

Laserion posted...

In either case: Why do you have to tell them your history?

Someone is gonna know if it's your first time having sex. You're gonna be horrible at it.

Just hire an escort, get it over with so it's not something hanging over your head. You'll have a good time.

As others have said, I don't think you should give up on organically losing your virginity.

But more importantly, if you do go the sex worker route, do not pick up cheap hookers off the street. What you want is a decent brothel or something along those lines, even if you have to visit another kountry to legally find one. Establishments typically have more to lose if their workers have diseases or are unhinged drug addicts, making it a lot safer than the randoms walking the streets.

Download Tinder/Bumble/Hinge and fuck a landwhale. Dont set your standards too high. You will die a virgin if you do that.

Back in my day, we called it a practice girl

itsmeaustin posted...

Download Tinder/Bumble/Hinge and fuck a landwhale. Dont set your standards too high. You will die a virgin if you do that.

Terrible advice here, he probably wont even be able to get it up with an obese land whale and why the fuck would you want him to have a horrible first time ?!

RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Terrible advice here, he probably wont even be able to get it up with an obese land whale and why the fuck would you want him to have a horrible first time ?!

Nothing wrong with fat chicks. Some people are into that shit. Me I'm some people

There is a good reason to not do this.

One day when you marry a nice woman you love with all your heart, she will be curious what your first time was.

You won't want to tell her you hired a hooker because you were desperate and thought your life would change cause you had sex.

KingWhiteKnight posted...

creeped out and repulsed by a dude who is an almost 29 year old virgin.

Tbh I was in a similar situation. I was a but younger when I finally understood myself and other things. But my first time wasn't until 22. She did not know she was my first time. Or at least ti never openly admitted it. And we were together for a yeah after

Tenlaar posted...

You think women are less likely to be creeped out and repulsed by I was a virgin but then I banged some cheap hookers?

Lol you dont tell girls you lost it to a sex worker. Just make something up. But the concept of doing this is something a lot of guys do to get sexual experience. Have her show you how to touch, which spots to kiss, etc.

Also the term hooker is degrading. Please use sex worker. They are offering you a valuable service. They have feelings too. I would recommend a classy elitr companion amd not one of the street variety.

KingWhiteKnight posted...

The problem is that women in my age range are most likely gonna be creeped out and repulsed by a dude who is an almost 29 year old virgin.

So will you tell them you paid for sex? That won't creep them out?

Or lie to them? That is a healthy way to start a relationship.

WingsOfGood posted...

There is a good reason to not do this.

One day when you marry a nice woman you love with all your heart, she will be curious what your first time was.

You won't want to tell her you hired a hooker because you were desperate and thought your life would change cause you had sex.

Why not? If you're already married and still kan't be open about something like this, it sounds like you already fucked up.

The_Korey posted...

Why not? If you're already married and still kan't be open about something like this, it sounds like you already fucked up.

Because imagine telling your wife you felt like a loser because you never had sex before so you paid a hooker because you thought once you banged a hooker you would become a chad. She will cringe so hard no matter who she is.

Meanwhile, if you tell her she was your first, she will be like "so romantic!"

Or if it was another girl, basically neutral as long as said woman is no longer in your life.

On one hand, do it, virginity isn't what it's cracked up to be.

But on the other, don't do it, because virginity isn't what it's cracked up to be and being one isn't likely to repulse too many women. I have a friend who didn't end up having sex until he was like 35-36.

KingWhiteKnight posted...

women are gonna think a 28 year virgin is a creepy weirdo like I said earlier

My 34yo friend just lost his virginity. No one thought he was a creepy weirdo. He is just an awkward weirdo (but really nice guy)

Basically, what is creepy is you believing it matters. And fyi, losing it won't change that mindset.

You need to tell yourself how stupid the idea of having sex makes you more of a catch or whatever is a false construct. People always build up these ideas like "oh no, when I finally have sex she will know and OH NO!"
Like, that is last thing that will be on her mind when you are having sex. Fyi, some guys who have tons of sex are terrible in bed. She won't care how many girls you banged before, just how good it feels.

KingWhiteKnight posted...

women are gonna think a 28 year virgin is a creepy weirdo like I said earlier

I don't think it's creepy or weird, you're reading too much into this, however I do think it's creepy and weird that you're so obsessed with it to the point of wanting to hire a sex worker so badly

pogo_rabid posted...

Someone is gonna know if it's your first time having sex. You're gonna be horrible at it.

Just hire an escort, get it over with so it's not something hanging over your head. You'll have a good time.

Is this why so many men are terrible at sex? Because they learn how to have sex from hookers?

Fyi, paying a hooker to please you will not teach you how to please a woman.
That is the #1 complaint women have to, that men don't know how to give, just receive.
And a hookers job isn't to let you please her, but to give you what you paid for.