Current Events > Girl Who Has A Long Term BF, Wants To Go On A Date With Me. Should I Do It?

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CopyMan1 07/04/20 4:10:14 PM #1:	Recently been talking with a Girl who I met on an online dating website. Looks wise, she's above average looking. In her profile, she mentioned she doesn't know what she's looking for, but she also said she's looking for a deep emotional connection. After some conversations, we exchanged Snapchats and conversed even further. She's a great texter. Usually responds immediately and doesn't take 2-3 days to respond or text back(like other women i've met in the past). We also had a public Meet and Greet that went successful, as we had a lot of common interests. She informed me that she wants to hang out and go on a date with me in a few days and that she's open to intimate stuff when she becomes more comfortable. Anyway, two days ago she posted a snap(which is now deleted, ) about having had a good time with a guy, and tagging the dude's instagram username . Being curious and looking the username of the guy up: It turns out he's a long term BF of her. The dude has been with her for 4 years now and he has several pics of her and him kissing/hanging out, etc in his instagram. A lot of which are recent. As of now, I haven't said anything to her about it , and we are still set to go out on a date in a few days. With that said: What would you guys suggest I do? Still go on a date? Never been in this type of situation before where a Girl I met on an online dating website, has a bf and wants to hang out <cite>CopyMan1 posted [p:941671750] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>Recently been talking with a Girl who I met on an online dating website. Looks wise, she's above average looking. In her profile, she mentioned she doesn't know what she's looking for, but she also said she's looking for a deep emotional connection. After some conversations, we exchanged Snapchats and conversed even further. She's a great texter. Usually responds immediately and doesn't take 2-3 days to respond or text back(like other women i've met in the past). We also had a public Meet and Greet that went successful, as we had a lot of common interests. She informed me that she wants to hang out and go on a date with me in a few days and that she's open to intimate stuff when she becomes more comfortable. Anyway, two days ago she posted a snap(which is now deleted, ) about having had a good time with a guy, and tagging the dude's instagram username . Being curious and looking the username of the guy up: It turns out he's a long term BF of her. The dude has been with her for 4 years now and he has several pics of her and him kissing/hanging out, etc in his instagram. A lot of which are recent. As of now, I haven't said anything to her about it , and we are still set to go out on a date in a few days. With that said: What would you guys suggest I do? Still go on a date? Never been in this type of situation before where a Girl I met on an online dating website, has a bf and wants to hang out </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Dragon239 07/04/20 4:11:35 PM #3:	I'd ask her about it and depending on her response inform the guy. --- https://imgur.com/nkZgO <cite>Dragon239 posted [p:941671792] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>I'd ask her about it and depending on her response inform the guy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Tenlaar 07/04/20 4:12:01 PM #4:	Find out if they have an open relationship kind of agreement. If not, tell the guy. <cite>Tenlaar posted [p:941671812] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>Find out if they have an open relationship kind of agreement. If not, tell the guy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CopyMan1 07/04/20 4:20:12 PM #5:	shockthemonkey posted... Has she mentioned being poly at all or does it seem like shes just cheating and youre the other guy? When I talked with her IRL(this was before finding out she has a bf) , she told me she's looking for something more in the casual side. She said she hasn't been in a relationship in a long time because she's been really busy with work. On the guys instagram, he's posted pics of him and her kissing. And he's tagged her, in which she says the typical "i love you" type of comments under the posts. On her instagram, both have recent pics of them kissing, hugging, etc So long story short: She informed me she's looking for something casual, she hasn't been in a real relationship in a long time and has no interest in it. But on their instagrams, they are kissing each other, posing, both are saying they love each other, etc <cite>CopyMan1 posted [p:941672141] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>shockthemonkey posted... </cite> <quote>Has she mentioned being poly at all or does it seem like shes just cheating and youre the other guy?</quote>When I talked with her IRL(this was before finding out she has a bf) , she told me she's looking for something more in the casual side. She said she hasn't been in a relationship in a long time because she's been really busy with work. On the guys instagram, he's posted pics of him and her kissing. And he's tagged her, in which she says the typical "i love you" type of comments under the posts. On her instagram, both have recent pics of them kissing, hugging, etc So long story short: She informed me she's looking for something casual, she hasn't been in a real relationship in a long time and has no interest in it. But on their instagrams, they are kissing each other, posing, both are saying they love each other, etc </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Extreme_Liberal 07/04/20 4:23:04 PM #6:	do it --- The one way to deal with PC gamers is to treat them how developers treat them. Which is ignoring them completely and giving them scraps every now and then <cite>Extreme_Liberal posted [p:941672271] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>do it </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Northlane 07/04/20 4:23:51 PM #7:	As someone who's been the other guy before Go on that date --- An NFL Haiku Bosa dreams broken. Like records set by Mahomes. Gruden is a bust. <cite>Northlane posted [p:941672298] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>As someone who's been the other guy before Go on that date </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ohiostate124 07/04/20 4:24:26 PM #8:	Not only should you not do it, you should inform the Bf. <cite>ohiostate124 posted [p:941672315] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>Not only should you not do it, you should inform the Bf. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Jabodie 07/04/20 4:25:59 PM #11:	Is she hot? --- <insert sig here> <cite>Jabodie posted [p:941672372] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>Is she hot? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CopyMan1 07/04/20 4:26:35 PM #13:	The funny thing is that the BF is much better looking than me. I'm a manlet(5'6) and she's 5'9 and the BF is 6'2 and atleast a 7/10 in looks. While I'm a 5 or 6 on my best day. <cite>CopyMan1 posted [p:941672401] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>The funny thing is that the BF is much better looking than me. I'm a manlet(5'6) and she's 5'9 and the BF is 6'2 and atleast a 7/10 in looks. While I'm a 5 or 6 on my best day. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
CopyMan1 07/04/20 4:27:46 PM #14:	Jabodie posted... Is she hot? She's above average looking/decent. 21 Years old. Blond Hair, Blue Eyes, Skinny, Caucasian. <cite>CopyMan1 posted [p:941672450] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>Jabodie posted... </cite> <quote>Is she hot?</quote> She's above average looking/decent. 21 Years old. Blond Hair, Blue Eyes, Skinny, Caucasian. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DumbQuestion 07/04/20 4:31:05 PM #15:	Northlane posted... As someone who's been the other guy before Go on that date <cite>DumbQuestion posted [p:941672587] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>Northlane posted... </cite> <quote>As someone who's been the other guy before Go on that date</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
WhySoMean 07/04/20 5:12:18 PM #16:	pump and dump <cite>WhySoMean posted [p:941674140] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>pump and dump </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Zanzenburger 07/04/20 5:21:31 PM #17:	I was in a sorta similar situation. I started seeing a girl who had a boyfriend. She was dating him for almost three years. We started flirting and hanging out, then got a little closer like holding hands watching a movie and kisses on the cheek. I knew she had a boyfriend, and she knew I knew, but we both just played it off as innocent social interaction. Once things seemed to be progressing romantically, I confronted her and asked her what she wanted. I told her I knew she was dating someone and I didn't want to be a fling. I wanted a relationship but she would have to leave that guy for me if she was serious. She did say she wanted a relationship and her other relationship was deteriorating. She liked the fun we were having and just didn't have the energy to break it off with the guy at the time. But our talk seemed to make her confront her own feelings and wants. The next day she broke up with her bf and we started officially dating. In your case, it's a little different though in that it appears she is hiding her relationship from you. Mine didn't hide it, she just didn't acknowledge it. It may benefit you to see what she wants and whether that is what you want. Perhaps she is also hating her relationship and is looking for something better before she breaks it off. Or maybe she just wants a casual fling. Either way, I'd say it's in your best interest to find out. --- Congratulations! Your post was deemed response-worthy. <cite>Zanzenburger posted [p:941674491] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>I was in a sorta similar situation. I started seeing a girl who had a boyfriend. She was dating him for almost three years. We started flirting and hanging out, then got a little closer like holding hands watching a movie and kisses on the cheek. I knew she had a boyfriend, and she knew I knew, but we both just played it off as innocent social interaction. Once things seemed to be progressing romantically, I confronted her and asked her what she wanted. I told her I knew she was dating someone and I didn't want to be a fling. I wanted a relationship but she would have to leave that guy for me if she was serious. She did say she wanted a relationship and her other relationship was deteriorating. She liked the fun we were having and just didn't have the energy to break it off with the guy at the time. But our talk seemed to make her confront her own feelings and wants. The next day she broke up with her bf and we started officially dating. In your case, it's a little different though in that it appears she is hiding her relationship from you. Mine didn't hide it, she just didn't acknowledge it. It may benefit you to see what she wants and whether that is what you want. Perhaps she is also hating her relationship and is looking for something better before she breaks it off. Or maybe she just wants a casual fling. Either way, I'd say it's in your best interest to find out. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ohiostate124 07/04/20 5:24:45 PM #18:	Imagine dating someone who is in the process of cheating on someone. What makes you think she wont do it to you too? <cite>ohiostate124 posted [p:941674620] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>Imagine dating someone who is in the process of cheating on someone. What makes you think she wont do it to you too? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AloneIBreak 07/04/20 5:32:08 PM #19:	Well, she obviously cant be trusted, so dont go looking for a relationship with her unless youre willing to gamble. That being said, it feels a bit wrong but tbh Id probably take the L on ethics and bang her. Whether you tell the bf is up to you. --- "Brief and powerless is Man's life; on him and all his race the slow, sure doom falls pitiless and dark." <cite>AloneIBreak posted [p:941674867] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>Well, she obviously cant be trusted, so dont go looking for a relationship with her unless youre willing to gamble. That being said, it feels a bit wrong but tbh Id probably take the L on ethics and bang her. Whether you tell the bf is up to you. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Flockaveli 07/04/20 5:34:30 PM #20:	Bang her. Let the guy know. You're not her first. --- I'm in Chicago, I'm shaking my head. <cite>Flockaveli posted [p:941674948] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>Bang her. Let the guy know. You're not her first. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Guide 07/04/20 5:37:34 PM #21:	Fuck her, then tell the guy. --- formerly evening formerly guide https://youtu.be/Acn5IptKWQU <cite>Guide posted [p:941675052] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>Fuck her, then tell the guy. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
smoke_break 07/04/20 5:37:42 PM #22:	Copy_X_Mk_ll posted... If shes lying about not being in a relationship, dont do it. Ethics aside, you dont want to incur his wrath. This, it's playing with fire. People kill for this, easily. I'll never mess with another man's woman. There's no reason to be thirsty like that, too many other women in the world. --- https://imgur.com/mOCFlRv <cite>smoke_break posted [p:941675058] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>Copy_X_Mk_ll posted... </cite> <quote>If shes lying about not being in a relationship, dont do it. Ethics aside, you dont want to incur his wrath.</quote>This, it's playing with fire. People kill for this, easily. I'll never mess with another man's woman. There's no reason to be thirsty like that, too many other women in the world. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
sk8r_ryan 07/04/20 5:41:11 PM #23:	CopyMan1 posted... she also said she's looking for a deep emotional connection. CopyMan1 posted... she told me she's looking for something more in the casual side. She said she hasn't been in a relationship in a long time because she's been really busy with work. She a lying ho. --- 'I will now punch my professor in the face because whatever punishment I will receive will not surpass the happiness I get when team salty mid loses' -Crows <cite>sk8r_ryan posted [p:941675172] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>CopyMan1 posted... </cite> <quote>she also said she's looking for a deep emotional connection.</quote> CopyMan1 posted... </cite> <quote>she told me she's looking for something more in the casual side. She said she hasn't been in a relationship in a long time because she's been really busy with work.</quote>She a lying ho. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
garan 07/04/20 5:53:06 PM #24:	If you just want to try to get laid with her, then go for it. If you're thinking of an actual relationship, then turn your brain on & realize that she's a liar & likely cheater. Red flags galore with this chick. <cite>garan posted [p:941675618] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>If you just want to try to get laid with her, then go for it. If you're thinking of an actual relationship, then turn your brain on & realize that she's a liar & likely cheater. Red flags galore with this chick.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Unite 07/04/20 8:59:07 PM #25:	If you don't mind turning her long term bf into a cuck <cite>Unite posted [p:941682436] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>If you don't mind turning her long term bf into a cuck </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
assassingriskel 07/04/20 9:04:44 PM #26:	She's monkey branching --- Confirmed racists boards: PC, PS4 Vincent from FF7 is the OG Simp <cite>assassingriskel posted [p:941682621] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>She's monkey branching </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
assassingriskel 07/04/20 9:04:51 PM #27:	sk8r_ryan posted... She a lying ho. --- Confirmed racists boards: PC, PS4 Vincent from FF7 is the OG Simp <cite>assassingriskel posted [p:941682625] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>sk8r_ryan posted... </cite> <quote>She a lying ho.</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
assassingriskel 07/04/20 9:06:26 PM #28:	Guide posted... Fuck her, then tell the guy. Probably the way too go TC. It may seem.wrong but she is a hoe so you might well use that too your advantage before doing the right thing and telling the BF. If she doesn't cheat with you she will cheat with someone else that's just how women are --- Confirmed racists boards: PC, PS4 Vincent from FF7 is the OG Simp <cite>assassingriskel posted [p:941682682] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>Guide posted... </cite> <quote>Fuck her, then tell the guy.</quote>Probably the way too go TC. It may seem.wrong but she is a hoe so you might well use that too your advantage before doing the right thing and telling the BF. If she doesn't cheat with you she will cheat with someone else that's just how women are </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MajesticFerret 07/04/20 9:11:27 PM #29:	I second the fuck her and tell the guy. Also, you will need toie to guy and tell him you didn't know until after you slept with her. If you tell him that, it is 100% on her. She is a hoe and if it's not you, it'll be someone else. Might as well be you as you're a nice enough guy to actually rat her out. Also, if you don't sleep with her, it's a big fat nothing burger and the guy might not even break up with her. --- Sanity is a one trick pony, all you get with it is rational thought, but with crazy the sky's the limit. <cite>MajesticFerret posted [p:941682822] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>I second the fuck her and tell the guy. Also, you will need toie to guy and tell him you didn't know until after you slept with her. If you tell him that, it is 100% on her. She is a hoe and if it's not you, it'll be someone else. Might as well be you as you're a nice enough guy to actually rat her out. Also, if you don't sleep with her, it's a big fat nothing burger and the guy might not even break up with her. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
toyota 07/04/20 9:17:37 PM #30:	CopyMan1 posted... I met on an online dating website + has a long term bf? GTAB <cite>toyota posted [p:941683028] in Girl Who H... [t:78824476]...</cite> <quote>CopyMan1 posted... </cite> <quote>I met on an online dating website</quote> + has a long term bf? GTAB </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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