Poll of the Day > The older I get, the more comfortable I get with being alone and single

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At first I was scared that I was doing something wrong, and I was lonely. And that maybe no one loved me.

But the older I get and the more bills I pay, the brighter my future feels. I don't have to worry about paying for any kids or buying stuff for my significant other (although I'm sure I wouldn't have minded that if I had either of those). But now I just get to spend money on myself yahoo :) still feel a bit lonely though but eh atleast not any money problems
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How old are you?
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31
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Personally I try and see the good sides to my life rather than dwell on the negative side of things. Although where possible I spend my life trying to fix the problems in it because ultimately I defiantly want to achieve my long term goals. Those being getting a job, moving out, starting my own family and controlling this anxiety disorder I seem to have developed without medication. Until I achieve those goals though the life I lead is one I have to put up with and it will not do me any good living my life miserably.
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Enjoy the lingering fear of having no one to care for you if something goes wrong or you become frail in old age.

thebestestbest posted...

Enjoy the lingering fear of having no one to care for you if something goes wrong or you become frail in old age.

Well at least I'd have made it to old age.
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thebestestbest posted...

Enjoy the lingering fear of having no one to care for you if something goes wrong or you become frail in old age.

Having kids to support you is the lowest of the low. If I became frail enough to not be able to support myself, I'd want to be euthanised.
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28, and I don't mind being single. My life is happy enough as it is.
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thebestestbest posted...

Enjoy the lingering fear of having no one to care for you if something goes wrong or you become frail in old age.

Nah i plan on dying early. My worst fear is having to worry about a loved one having to take care of me while I slip into an insanity that isn't actually me, and I slowly break the heart of everyone that has loved me.

You've clearly never had to take care of an old person you've loved before
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Hmm. Do you have a close relationship with your family, or no?
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jramirez23 posted...

Hmm. Do you have a close relationship with your family, or no?

I guess. My older sister was never SUPER close, but friendly, and was determined to start her own family and separate herself emotionally from our initial family.

My younger brother is friendly with me as well, but has always hated that I'm older than him, and has fought competitively his entire life to be better than me. I've let him win for most of my life, but over the past 5+ years, I've grown to like myself more and he's hated seeing me be confident. He's also thrilled to start his own life with his new fianc and seperate himself from our initial family and start his own.
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This is inspiring
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FrozenBananas posted...

31

That's not old. In fact, you're still at your prime.

And feeling confident and happy atm is perfectly normal. Having relationships and not being single isn't planned. We'd like it to be but it isn't the case. It happens when it happens. There's no rush.
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Alexandra_Trent posted...

FrozenBananas posted...

31

That's not old. In fact, you're still at your prime.

And feeling confident and happy atm is perfectly normal. Having relationships and not being single isn't planned. We'd like it to be but it isn't the case. It happens when it happens. There's no rush.

I dunno. Everyone I talk to in a relationship says "I wouldn't know what I'd do if I didn't have *so and so* in my life" Every single one. Like they wouldn't be able to live by themselves. And every "single" girl I meet is panicking the fuck out that they aren't married yet.

And when I'm single, everyone looks at me like I'm a freak. Like there must be something wrong with me that I'm not married or have kids at my age
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1) youre 31, not old
2) not positive to say you dont plan on living til old anyway, thats no bueno; if you actually think that theres still no reason to say it
3) dating sites are chock full of 50-60 somethings, either from divorces or adventurous singles...a lot of those people could be your parents
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FrozenBananas posted...

Alexandra_Trent posted...

FrozenBananas posted...

31

That's not old. In fact, you're still at your prime.

And feeling confident and happy atm is perfectly normal. Having relationships and not being single isn't planned. We'd like it to be but it isn't the case. It happens when it happens. There's no rush.

I dunno. Everyone I talk to in a relationship says "I wouldn't know what I'd do if I didn't have *so and so* in my life" Every single one. Like they wouldn't be able to live by themselves. And every "single" girl I meet is panicking the fuck out that they aren't married yet.

And when I'm single, everyone looks at me like I'm a freak. Like there must be something wrong with me that I'm not married or have kids at my age

Haha. Yes. I understand this and see this all the time. But this shouldn't faze you. Only time will tell whether or not any relationship will succeed. And I'm not saying or hoping that your friends will fail. No. What I'm trying to say is that you should take everything you are told with a pinch of salt. Everyone will always rave about how their lives are interesting, perfect and enviable and how their partners are such.

But really there's no such thing.

So just keep being your confident and happy self.

Love happens when you least expect it. Happy and confident people attract happy and confident people.
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I'm 26 and I feel similarly TC. I'm open to a relationship. But to find someone with similar interests, around my age, single, without kids, where we have some mutual attraction..it's like aligning the planets lol. I'm just doing my own thing, enjoying life. Forcing it is not a good idea imo.

Kyuubi4269 posted...

If I became frail enough to not be able to support myself, I'd want to be euthanised.

That's what I'm planning on. There's assisted suicide if you have something terminal. Much cheaper. I don't want to live to an excessively old age. Nursing home life is not living. I've taken care of folks in them. Not for me.
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I always felt like I had a gun to my head to find a girl to settle down with. Even when I was in high school, it's really all I wanted. The stupidest part about it was I was too immature and oblivious to realize it had been possible. It wasn't until I stopped caring and kept myself out there than everything fell into place. Maybe now that you're so "meh" about it, you'll stumble into love.
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