Current Events > Female co-worker invited me to go out for drinks. Should I bail?

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Balnazarr 02/21/24 1:59:25 AM #1:	She's married. I'm not into her but, I do see her as a friend. We work out together and carpool. I've never seen her have any feeling towards me other then friend. I just don't want this too look bad. Single male friend going to a bar after work with married female co-worker. <cite>Balnazarr posted [p:978956857] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>She's married. I'm not into her but, I do see her as a friend. We work out together and carpool. I've never seen her have any feeling towards me other then friend. I just don't want this too look bad. Single male friend going to a bar after work with married female co-worker. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
YoBlazer 02/21/24 2:02:14 AM #2:	Balnazarr posted... I just don't want this too look bad. Single male friend going to a bar after work with married female co-worker. This is more common than what you're already doing (single male friend carpooling and working out with married female coworker). --- Burnin, Blazin <cite>YoBlazer posted [p:978956873] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Balnazarr posted... </cite><quote>I just don't want this too look bad. Single male friend going to a bar after work with married female co-worker.</quote>This is more common than what you're already doing (single male friend carpooling and working out with married female coworker). </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
boomgetchopped3 02/21/24 2:05:57 AM #3:	Sounds like youre glued to each other all day. --- More to do with the humidity than heat <cite>boomgetchopped3 posted [p:978956901] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Sounds like youre glued to each other all day. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
itachi15243 02/21/24 2:06:11 AM #4:	Yeah, it won't look any worse than what you're currently doing. As long as she isn't getting drunk falling all over you or something. Unless she is, no reason to bail. --- I do drawings and stuff https://www.fiverr.com/blueblitz <cite>itachi15243 posted [p:978956903] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Yeah, it won't look any worse than what you're currently doing. As long as she isn't getting drunk falling all over you or something. Unless she is, no reason to bail. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balnazarr 02/21/24 2:09:24 AM #5:	boomgetchopped3 posted... Sounds like youre glued to each other all day. We really aren't. We don't really see or talk to one another at work. I say friend very loosely. We don't really hang out. We go working out because we go to the same gym, at the same times. But, even working out together we don't really talk. I wouldn't say we were close. <cite>Balnazarr posted [p:978956921] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>boomgetchopped3 posted... </cite><quote>Sounds like youre glued to each other all day.</quote>We really aren't. We don't really see or talk to one another at work. I say friend very loosely. We don't really hang out. We go working out because we go to the same gym, at the same times. But, even working out together we don't really talk. I wouldn't say we were close. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Rotterdammerung 02/21/24 2:12:23 AM #6:	Yeah, what youre doing now already looks strange. --- Evil begins when you begin to treat people as things. GNU STP They/them <cite>Rotterdammerung posted [p:978956939] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Yeah, what youre doing now already looks strange. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balnazarr 02/21/24 2:14:03 AM #7:	Rotterdammerung posted... Yeah, what youre doing now already looks strange. But, her husband also joins us on certain days when he's off. Though i always feel like a third wheel. They pay me no mind when that happens. So I'm kinda off by myself and have to ask for strangers to spot me or something. <cite>Balnazarr posted [p:978956949] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Rotterdammerung posted... </cite><quote>Yeah, what youre doing now already looks strange.</quote>But, her husband also joins us on certain days when he's off. Though i always feel like a third wheel. They pay me no mind when that happens. So I'm kinda off by myself and have to ask for strangers to spot me or something. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Dio 02/21/24 2:17:07 AM #8:	Only in your wildest fantasies would it ever be anything more than just a friendly hang out. --- Holy Diver. <cite>Dio posted [p:978956967] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Only in your wildest fantasies would it ever be anything more than just a friendly hang out. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Corbenik 02/21/24 2:18:06 AM #9:	tc braggin --- The power it holds can bring either salvation or destruction at the whim of the user - Aura <cite>Corbenik posted [p:978956974] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>tc braggin </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Enclave 02/21/24 2:18:33 AM #10:	If you're just friends it's no problem. There's always going to be people who think men and women can't just be friends, they're wrong. --- The commercial says that Church isn't for perfect people, I guess that's why I'm an atheist. <cite>Enclave posted [p:978956978] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>If you're just friends it's no problem. There's always going to be people who think men and women can't just be friends, they're wrong. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balnazarr 02/21/24 2:28:15 AM #11:	Dio posted... Only in your wildest fantasies would it ever be anything more than just a friendly hang out. I wasn't trying to sleep with her. That thought didn't cross my mind. I let my anxiety and fear of being judged effect my judgement. I was afraid people would think I was or trying. <cite>Balnazarr posted [p:978957045] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Dio posted... </cite><quote>Only in your wildest fantasies would it ever be anything more than just a friendly hang out.</quote>I wasn't trying to sleep with her. That thought didn't cross my mind. I let my anxiety and fear of being judged effect my judgement. I was afraid people would think I was or trying. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
boomgetchopped3 02/21/24 2:32:03 AM #12:	Are you physically attracted to her at least? --- More to do with the humidity than heat <cite>boomgetchopped3 posted [p:978957074] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Are you physically attracted to her at least? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Enclave 02/21/24 2:32:24 AM #13:	Balnazarr posted... I wasn't trying to sleep with her. That thought didn't cross my mind. I let my anxiety and fear of being judged effect my judgement. I was afraid people would think I was or trying. Ignore them, you put forth a reasonable thread, stuff that happens to plenty of people. Some guys on this site seem to think any time somebody has an interaction with a woman that it's either fake or something else along those lines. --- The commercial says that Church isn't for perfect people, I guess that's why I'm an atheist. <cite>Enclave posted [p:978957078] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Balnazarr posted... </cite><quote>I wasn't trying to sleep with her. That thought didn't cross my mind. I let my anxiety and fear of being judged effect my judgement. I was afraid people would think I was or trying.</quote>Ignore them, you put forth a reasonable thread, stuff that happens to plenty of people. Some guys on this site seem to think any time somebody has an interaction with a woman that it's either fake or something else along those lines. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Enclave 02/21/24 2:33:49 AM #14:	boomgetchopped3 posted... Are you physically attracted to her at least? That seems fairly irrelevant. --- The commercial says that Church isn't for perfect people, I guess that's why I'm an atheist. <cite>Enclave posted [p:978957088] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>boomgetchopped3 posted... </cite><quote>Are you physically attracted to her at least?</quote>That seems fairly irrelevant. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balnazarr 02/21/24 2:40:13 AM #15:	boomgetchopped3 posted... Are you physically attracted to her at least? Of course. So what? I don't care if she was ugly or hot. It's irrelevant. <cite>Balnazarr posted [p:978957112] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>boomgetchopped3 posted... </cite><quote>Are you physically attracted to her at least?</quote>Of course. So what? I don't care if she was ugly or hot. It's irrelevant. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
boomgetchopped3 02/21/24 2:58:22 AM #16:	Balnazarr posted... Of course. So what? I don't care if she was ugly or hot. It's irrelevant. So whats keeping you apart is entirely her being married, and not a lack of chemistry? --- More to do with the humidity than heat <cite>boomgetchopped3 posted [p:978957204] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Balnazarr posted... </cite><quote>Of course. So what? I don't care if she was ugly or hot. It's irrelevant.</quote>So whats keeping you apart is entirely her being married, and not a lack of chemistry? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Glob 02/21/24 3:03:29 AM #17:	Balnazarr posted... She's married. I'm not into her but, I do see her as a friend. We work out together and carpool. I've never seen her have any feeling towards me other then friend. I just don't want this too look bad. Single male friend going to a bar after work with married female co-worker. I literally do that all the time. Its fine. <cite>Glob posted [p:978957233] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Balnazarr posted... </cite><quote>She's married. I'm not into her but, I do see her as a friend. We work out together and carpool. I've never seen her have any feeling towards me other then friend. I just don't want this too look bad. Single male friend going to a bar after work with married female co-worker.</quote>I literally do that all the time. Its fine.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GuerrillaSoldier 02/21/24 3:10:47 AM #18:	itachi15243 posted... Yeah, it won't look any worse than what you're currently doing. --- Disclaimer: There's a good chance the above post could be sarcasm. Die-hard Oakland A's fan --- Keep the A's in Oakland! <cite>GuerrillaSoldier posted [p:978957272] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>itachi15243 posted... </cite><quote>Yeah, it won't look any worse than what you're currently doing.</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Balnazarr 02/22/24 11:09:39 AM #20:	Update: was not as fun as we thought. Turns out we have no chemistry. We have nothing in common. Nothing to talk about. Don't think this is going to be a friendship. She also just wanted to talk about her sister in-law and how her marriage is failing. I just politely nodded while looking for an exit. <cite>Balnazarr posted [p:978980408] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Update: was not as fun as we thought. Turns out we have no chemistry. We have nothing in common. Nothing to talk about. Don't think this is going to be a friendship. She also just wanted to talk about her sister in-law and how her marriage is failing. I just politely nodded while looking for an exit. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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WingsOfGood 02/22/24 11:47:35 AM #24:	Balnazarr posted... Update: was not as fun as we thought. Turns out we have no chemistry. We have nothing in common. Nothing to talk about. Don't think this is going to be a friendship. She also just wanted to talk about her sister in-law and how her marriage is failing. I just politely nodded while looking for an exit. Balnazarr posted... I do see her as a friend. huh? <cite>WingsOfGood posted [p:978981143] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Balnazarr posted... </cite><quote>Update: was not as fun as we thought. Turns out we have no chemistry. We have nothing in common. Nothing to talk about. Don't think this is going to be a friendship. She also just wanted to talk about her sister in-law and how her marriage is failing. I just politely nodded while looking for an exit.</quote>Balnazarr posted... </cite><quote>I do see her as a friend.</quote>huh?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Guide 02/22/24 11:48:25 AM #25:	BoomerKuwanger posted... Man I hate topics like this. Gives off big "in denial you have feelings for her" vibes the way you're freaking out like you can't be friends with a woman. Or you have some weird insecurities about being seen as a lesser man or something if the woman you're seen with isn't your partner... either way something off about it Seems more like you coloring what you read. Balnazarr posted... how her marriage is failing. Seems like there was a flag. --- evening main 2.4356848e+91 https://youtu.be/Acn5IptKWQU <cite>Guide posted [p:978981157] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>BoomerKuwanger posted... </cite><quote>Man I hate topics like this. Gives off big "in denial you have feelings for her" vibes the way you're freaking out like you can't be friends with a woman. Or you have some weird insecurities about being seen as a lesser man or something if the woman you're seen with isn't your partner... either way something off about it</quote>Seems more like you coloring what you read.Balnazarr posted... </cite><quote>how her marriage is failing.</quote>Seems like there was a flag. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cocytus 02/22/24 11:48:56 AM #26:	Just go. --- You're never ever fully dressed without a smile! <cite>Cocytus posted [p:978981164] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Just go. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
boomgetchopped3 02/22/24 11:53:53 AM #27:	Balnazarr posted... Update: was not as fun as we thought. Turns out we have no chemistry. We have nothing in common. Nothing to talk about. Don't think this is going to be a friendship. She also just wanted to talk about her sister in-law and how her marriage is failing. I just politely nodded while looking for an exit. Yea this is clearly her signaling here. I mean I dont know you two, but if a coworker brought me out for drinks and talked about her failed marriage, Id smell some suss. --- More to do with the humidity than heat <cite>boomgetchopped3 posted [p:978981248] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Balnazarr posted... </cite><quote>Update: was not as fun as we thought. Turns out we have no chemistry. We have nothing in common. Nothing to talk about. Don't think this is going to be a friendship. She also just wanted to talk about her sister in-law and how her marriage is failing. I just politely nodded while looking for an exit.</quote>Yea this is clearly her signaling here. I mean I dont know you two, but if a coworker brought me out for drinks and talked about her failed marriage, Id smell some suss. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Balnazarr 02/22/24 12:55:30 PM #29:	boomgetchopped3 posted... Yea this is clearly her signaling here. I mean I dont know you two, but if a coworker brought me out for drinks and talked about her failed marriage, Id smell some suss. Not hers; her sister in law. Her SIS is like 43ish. Guide posted... Seems more like you coloring what you read. Seems like there was a flag. Poor grammar: I meant her sister in law's marriage. BoomerKuwanger posted... I mean, the dude admitted he is physically attracted to her, and reported back on their outing like it was a fucking date. Not that hard to read between the lines. Imagine if he was meeting up with a guy coworker, you think he'd be so unsure of himself over all of it? I mean. yes? It's not as weird to go with male co-workers. <cite>Balnazarr posted [p:978982378] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>boomgetchopped3 posted... </cite><quote>Yea this is clearly her signaling here. I mean I dont know you two, but if a coworker brought me out for drinks and talked about her failed marriage, Id smell some suss.</quote>Not hers; her sister in law. Her SIS is like 43ish.Guide posted... </cite><quote>Seems more like you coloring what you read.Seems like there was a flag.</quote>Poor grammar: I meant her sister in law's marriage.BoomerKuwanger posted... </cite><quote>I mean, the dude admitted he is physically attracted to her, and reported back on their outing like it was a fucking date. Not that hard to read between the lines. Imagine if he was meeting up with a guy coworker, you think he'd be so unsure of himself over all of it?</quote>I mean. yes? It's not as weird to go with male co-workers. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Guide 02/22/24 1:09:44 PM #30:	Balnazarr posted... Poor grammar: I meant her sister in law's marriage. Well that changes everything yeah idk what to call it, never had this situation --- evening main 2.4356848e+91 https://youtu.be/Acn5IptKWQU <cite>Guide posted [p:978982664] in Female co-... [t:80701904]...</cite> <quote>Balnazarr posted... </cite><quote>Poor grammar: I meant her sister in law's marriage.</quote>Well that changes everythingyeah idk what to call it, never had this situation </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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