Current Events > What helpful message would you give to incels?

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I'd tell them Chad is in the eye of the beholder. For example, a girl I met at a nightclub blocked me for no reason. But a girl I met on Tinder sends me nudes.

Behaving like you are is a great way not to get chicks.

Think of others. And no I dont mean think about how you can portray yourself as a nice guy to a hot girl. Truly think about everyone and become the great guy you believe yourself to be.

i'd tell them to stop shitposting on gamefaqs.gamespot.com about how they're an alpha of the highest caliber every time a woman so much as looks in their general direction

Any "helpful" advice I give, they probably wouldn't accept or believe it anyway.

When they have a completely fictitious view on how they think their crush is as a person, how they should act, and what they "owe" them for their fake kindness, it's hard to convince them of any other mindset.

Put the Switch away for an afternoon

To stop bitching about their exes on video game forums.

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Put the Switch away for an afternoon

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Hayame_Zero posted...

Any "helpful" advice I give, they probably wouldn't accept or believe it anyway.

When they have a completely fictitious view on how they think their crush is as a person, how they should act, and what they "owe" them for their fake kindness, it's hard to convince them of any other mindset.

Well, I think we're failing as a society when we can see a mentally sick person struggling, and instead of even trying to help, dismiss them and hope the problem works itself out.

Its all marketing so if youre failing to attract customers its entirely your fault for using an incorrect strategy.

"Stop being mopey and go jerk off"

"no, wait, not right now!"

"have intercourse"

If at first you don't succeed, try again then quit. No use being a damn fool about it.

"give up entirely. maybe women will be like why has this guy given up sex or somehing"

Get therapy.

That's all.

go get some hookers, i dunno.

Date ugly chicks. Problem solved.

A better use of time would be to address those who'd engage the incel: "Disregard them completely and move along the moment you recognize one."

They've already done the required mental gymnastics to feel okay with themselves, you know? Your words aren't going to be louder than that annoying subconscious voice they're ignoring in their heads. The voice that knows better.

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How is this "patriarchy" oppressing incels? Genuinely curious.

"sometimes it be like that"

find a positive interest/hobby and a community based around it
have positive interactions with ppl in that community
can help cultivate a happier and healthier outlook on life overall which comes through in your interactions with other people, romantic interests
included

i took up painting warhammer models in 2018 when i was depressed af and i was blown away at how cool the minipainting communities are. nothing but ppl giving you praise, encouragement, and honest advice, no matter your level of skill or accomplishment. everyone wants to see your stuff, show off their stuff, talk about models, lore, etc. i have no clue how the actual game community is, but the hobby community is genuinely one of the most wholesome groups ive ever interacted with in my life.

i feel like a lot of incelly guys fall into groups of collective commiserating, which just breeds contempt and negativity, especially when youve got active members with a more radicalized bent and an itchy "post new message" finger.

im incredibly introverted and insecure. ive never been good at making friends. never asked a girl out in my life. ive gotten by on the sole fact that i was lucky enough to be born semi-good looking. so i totally get that feeling of alienation and lonliness and ive tbh always felt like i was a hairs breadth away from being an incel myself. in school making friends was as easy as "oh you like [thing]? i like [thing] too, we friends now." and its somewhat different as an adult (in person anyways) but im for real, theres tons of communities out there full of awesome accepting ppl that just wanna celebrate each other and each others accomplishments in a positive way, and cultivating that more positive mindset genuinely does shine through in your interactions with ppl youre romantically interested in

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People's personalities are formed through a combination of evolutionary genetic programming and anecdotal personal experiences. They want to have sex because it's part of their hardwired genetic code. Some get depressed, some get angry at being unable to succeed. I think it's a bit of a stretch to blame this on patriarchy.

The only advice I can give them is to stop using the internet entirely. Incel communities are not support groups they are enablers.

What can be said to them if they already decided their reality?

You deserve it

Once you actually properly comprehend what the incel gripe is you'll realize there's nothing that can actually be done about it.

Best thing people can do is stop insulting virgins, pretending everyone who can't get a date is a bad person, etc.

But people fail at decency.