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D_K 09/29/22 3:54:46 PM #1:	I want to buy a house soon, but not yet. Maybe in mid-2023. Currently, I live with my parents and my girlfriend is renting. Her lease expires in March 2023. After it expires, we plan to live together. Thing is, I don't know if I'll be able to buy a house by March 2023. House prices are still high. I don't want to find a place to rent. I fucking hate renting. I hate the thought of throwing $1000 or more down the drain per month. My parents suggest my girlfriend to move in with them for a few months until I buy a house. They have spare rooms. I'm not opposed to this idea, in fact, I think it's brilliant. We can each save $2000/month! But sadly, my girlfriend is against this idea. She likes my parents but she doesn't want to live with them. She wants to live with me and only me. I wouldn't mind if it were the other way around. Me living at my girlfriend's parents house for a few months? Sure, better than fucking renting! I'm not looking for advice here. Just wanted to share my situation. --- I am Koopatrol. Dark_Koopatrol. <cite>D_K posted [p:968379036] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>I want to buy a house soon, but not yet. Maybe in mid-2023. Currently, I live with my parents and my girlfriend is renting. Her lease expires in March 2023. After it expires, we plan to live together.Thing is, I don't know if I'll be able to buy a house by March 2023. House prices are still high. I don't want to find a place to rent. I fucking hate renting. I hate the thought of throwing $1000 or more down the drain per month. My parents suggest my girlfriend to move in with them for a few months until I buy a house. They have spare rooms. I'm not opposed to this idea, in fact, I think it's brilliant. We can each save $2000/month! But sadly, my girlfriend is against this idea. She likes my parents but she doesn't want to live with them. She wants to live with me and only me.I wouldn't mind if it were the other way around. Me living at my girlfriend's parents house for a few months? Sure, better than fucking renting!I'm not looking for advice here. Just wanted to share my situation.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Scohen 09/29/22 3:55:46 PM #2:	I mean itd be awkward to smash. whos gonna clean the sheets, and when? --- The Artist has a duty, to seduce the ear and delight the spirit. So say goodbye to those two goobies, and hello to an evening with Sander Cohen. <cite>Scohen posted [p:968379061] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>I mean itd be awkward to smash.whos gonna clean the sheets, and when? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
samsungsalt 09/29/22 3:57:18 PM #3:	Maybe she just doesnt like your parents enough to want to live with them? --- my old computer died and i didn't feel like resetting the password to my original account, so i created this one instead. yeah, i know, what a shocker >_> <cite>samsungsalt posted [p:968379096] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>Maybe she just doesnt like your parents enough to want to live with them?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TotACon 09/29/22 3:57:47 PM #4:	D_K posted... I want to buy a house soon, but not yet. Maybe in mid-2023. Currently, I live with my parents and my girlfriend is renting. Her lease expires in March 2023. After it expires, we plan to live together. Thing is, I don't know if I'll be able to buy a house by March 2023. House prices are still high. I don't want to find a place to rent. I fucking hate renting. I hate the thought of throwing $1000 or more down the drain per month. My parents suggest my girlfriend to move in with them for a few months until I buy a house. They have spare rooms. I'm not opposed to this idea, in fact, I think it's brilliant. We can each save $2000/month! But sadly, my girlfriend is against this idea. She likes my parents but she doesn't want to live with them. She wants to live with me and only me. I wouldn't mind if it were the other way around. Me living at my girlfriend's parents house for a few months? Sure, better than fucking renting! I'm not looking for advice here. Just wanted to share my situation. I like my in-laws but wouldn't live with them, wtf. <cite>TotACon posted [p:968379107] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>D_K posted... </cite><quote>I want to buy a house soon, but not yet. Maybe in mid-2023. Currently, I live with my parents and my girlfriend is renting. Her lease expires in March 2023. After it expires, we plan to live together.Thing is, I don't know if I'll be able to buy a house by March 2023. House prices are still high. I don't want to find a place to rent. I fucking hate renting. I hate the thought of throwing $1000 or more down the drain per month. My parents suggest my girlfriend to move in with them for a few months until I buy a house. They have spare rooms. I'm not opposed to this idea, in fact, I think it's brilliant. We can each save $2000/month! But sadly, my girlfriend is against this idea. She likes my parents but she doesn't want to live with them. She wants to live with me and only me.I wouldn't mind if it were the other way around. Me living at my girlfriend's parents house for a few months? Sure, better than fucking renting!I'm not looking for advice here. Just wanted to share my situation.</quote>I like my in-laws but wouldn't live with them, wtf.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sputnik1337 09/29/22 4:01:39 PM #5:	How old are you guys? Theres nothing wrong with staying with your parents to save for a house and youre lucky thats an option for you tbh. --- a <cite>Sputnik1337 posted [p:968379219] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>How old are you guys? Theres nothing wrong with staying with your parents to save for a house and youre lucky thats an option for you tbh.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
R1masher 09/29/22 4:03:25 PM #6:	House prices gonna about to drop --- R1R1R1R1R1R1 <cite>R1masher posted [p:968379255] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>House prices gonna about to drop</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jupiter 09/29/22 4:08:31 PM #7:	My gf's parents are super nice, but her mom is super religious and prudish (she calls "fart" the f word). I would HATE to have to live with them. I'd rather rent. --- Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/kid_prodigy23 <cite>Jupiter posted [p:968379375] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>My gf's parents are super nice, but her mom is super religious and prudish (she calls "fart" the f word). I would HATE to have to live with them. I'd rather rent.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NoxObscuras 09/29/22 4:18:21 PM #8:	Honestly, I thought for sure this scenario would be about your parents being against the idea, not your gf. That's pretty cool that your parents would suggest that. My mom was always vehemently against girls sleeping over, even for just 1 night ("there will be no sex under my roof!") Anyway, I won't offer any advice since you said you're just venting. But I hope you guys are able to work something out by next March. --- PSN - NoxObscuras Z490 \| i9-10900K \| EVGA 3080 FTW3 Ultra \| 32GB DDR4 3600 \| 4TB SSD <cite>NoxObscuras posted [p:968379568] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>Honestly, I thought for sure this scenario would be about your parents being against the idea, not your gf. That's pretty cool that your parents would suggest that. My mom was always vehemently against girls sleeping over, even for just 1 night ("there will be no sex under my roof!")Anyway, I won't offer any advice since you said you're just venting. But I hope you guys are able to work something out by next March. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
D_K 09/29/22 4:20:57 PM #9:	Sputnik1337 posted... How old are you guys? 26-27 samsungsalt posted... Maybe she just doesnt like your parents enough to want to live with them? Can't be. Her current roommates are some of the most insufferable human beings on the planet. She can't wait to move away from them. If I was her, I'd take living with anyone at this point. So why not my super nice parents? --- I am Koopatrol. Dark_Koopatrol. <cite>D_K posted [p:968379624] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>Sputnik1337 posted... </cite><quote>How old are you guys?</quote>26-27samsungsalt posted... </cite><quote>Maybe she just doesnt like your parents enough to want to live with them?</quote>Can't be. Her current roommates are some of the most insufferable human beings on the planet. She can't wait to move away from them. If I was her, I'd take living with anyone at this point. So why not my super nice parents?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Robot2600 09/29/22 4:24:34 PM #11:	You're being a baby. suck it up and eat the 3x months of month-to-month renting it'll take to buy a house. 3,000 is a drop in the bucket of a house. just dont sweat it. OR you risk losing your girl. Just get a place with her. --- The spell complete It is permanent <cite>Robot2600 posted [p:968379711] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>You're being a baby.suck it up and eat the 3x months of month-to-month renting it'll take to buy a house.3,000 is a drop in the bucket of a house. just dont sweat it.OR you risk losing your girl. Just get a place with her.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Suolevram 09/29/22 4:27:34 PM #12:	My wife and I lived with my mom for about a year, moved to her parents for about a year then rented for 3 before deciding to buy. It definitely helps save money staying with family. --- fay ce que vouldras <cite>Suolevram posted [p:968379763] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>My wife and I lived with my mom for about a year, moved to her parents for about a year then rented for 3 before deciding to buy. It definitely helps save money staying with family. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Priere 09/29/22 4:28:17 PM #13:	She doesnt want to live under someone elses rules who could possibly flip out and kick her to the curb without warning. --- https://imgur.com/iQep35u https://i.imgur.com/PmX8smn.gif https://i.imgur.com/mwTy0iF.gif https://i.imgur.com/FCER80e.gif <cite>Priere posted [p:968379785] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>She doesnt want to live under someone elses rules who could possibly flip out and kick her to the curb without warning.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
rexcrk 09/29/22 4:29:59 PM #14:	Theres nothing necessarily wrong with it, but I can absolutely see why its not appealing. --- Fifty years from now when you're looking back on your life, don't you want to say you had the guts to get in the car? <cite>rexcrk posted [p:968379827] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>Theres nothing necessarily wrong with it, but I can absolutely see why its not appealing. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TheSavageDragon 09/29/22 4:33:40 PM #15:	Priere posted... She doesnt want to live under someone elses rules who could possibly flip out and kick her to the curb without warning. This along with the potential of any possible discussion/arguments/fights between you being lopsided in your favor <cite>TheSavageDragon posted [p:968379908] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>Priere posted... </cite><quote>She doesnt want to live under someone elses rules who could possibly flip out and kick her to the curb without warning.</quote>This along with the potential of any possible discussion/arguments/fights between you being lopsided in your favor</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
AsucaHayashi 09/29/22 4:39:56 PM #16:	lmao this reminded me of a female co-worker's struggle to cope with her bf's parents who they agreed to live with while their own home was being renovated. every week i would hear about how the relationship deteriorated to the point it had gotten so badwhere they only paid attention to their kid and completely ignored her unless the bf was with in the same room. sorry TC. maybe you should grow a pair and suck up the cost unless it's you with the separation anxiety. --- http://abload.de/img/pcgamingxtuvt.jpg http://i.imgur.com/9Yv0R2Z.jpg <cite>AsucaHayashi posted [p:968380043] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>lmao this reminded me of a female co-worker's struggle to cope with her bf's parents who they agreed to live with while their own home was being renovated.every week i would hear about how the relationship deteriorated to the point it had gotten so badwhere they only paid attention to their kid and completely ignored her unless the bf was with in the same room.sorry TC. maybe you should grow a pair and suck up the cost unless it's you with the separation anxiety.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Perfectinsanity 09/29/22 4:42:53 PM #17:	My wife and I found ourselves in a very similar situation. We were dating at the time, I was away in college and she was back home, her lease ended and her parents were unfortunately in the process of losing their house. She moved into my parents house, and lived in my room for probably a year while I finished up school, and then we lived together there for another year before we moved out. No, it wasn't ideal, but we saved a ton of money and moved out on our own with no worries. Your girlfriend is being weird. If she gets along with your family, there's no reason not to do it for a time. Just have a goal on how much you want to save to get out of there, and meet it. There's an end in sight. Tell her to settle down. --- Those who live are those who fight. <cite>Perfectinsanity posted [p:968380092] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>My wife and I found ourselves in a very similar situation.We were dating at the time, I was away in college and she was back home, her lease ended and her parents were unfortunately in the process of losing their house. She moved into my parents house, and lived in my room for probably a year while I finished up school, and then we lived together there for another year before we moved out. No, it wasn't ideal, but we saved a ton of money and moved out on our own with no worries.Your girlfriend is being weird. If she gets along with your family, there's no reason not to do it for a time. Just have a goal on how much you want to save to get out of there, and meet it. There's an end in sight. Tell her to settle down.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
NoxObscuras 09/29/22 4:46:17 PM #18:	Perfectinsanity posted... Your girlfriend is being weird. If she gets along with your family, there's no reason not to do it for a time. Just have a goal on how much you want to save to get out of there, and meet it. There's an end in sight. Tell her to settle down. I wouldn't say she's being weird. We have no way of knowing what her concerns are, but there are definitely valid reasons to not want to live with your partner's parents. And people have pointed out several of them in this topic. Everyone's experiences are different. --- PSN - NoxObscuras Z490 \| i9-10900K \| EVGA 3080 FTW3 Ultra \| 32GB DDR4 3600 \| 4TB SSD <cite>NoxObscuras posted [p:968380157] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>Perfectinsanity posted... </cite><quote>Your girlfriend is being weird. If she gets along with your family, there's no reason not to do it for a time. Just have a goal on how much you want to save to get out of there, and meet it. There's an end in sight. Tell her to settle down.</quote>I wouldn't say she's being weird. We have no way of knowing what her concerns are, but there are definitely valid reasons to not want to live with your partner's parents. And people have pointed out several of them in this topic. Everyone's experiences are different. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
XxZiomaxX 09/29/22 4:51:02 PM #19:	I've shared her experience somewhat 26-27 is plenty old enough to not wanna 'waste' any of your life living in a way that makes you even a little uncomfortable She probably feels she will have to live differently or censor herself in some way, and no amount of telling her that your parents don't give a fuck (assuming they are actually that cool) will change those mental hurdles D_K posted... Her current roommates are some of the most insufferable human beings on the planet. She can't wait to move away from them. This makes her reaction somewhat strange, but could also contribute to her feelings of not wanting to just gain different roommates. She wants to be alone, with you. No advice, but a bit of time living together (alone) may be a good idea before buying a house together anyway, coming home for me is meant to be the most relaxing, freeing thing. Definitely is not that way with in-laws or roommates around. --- LAL - PSN: Deuce-Cuatro - @DeuceCuatroD2 <cite>XxZiomaxX posted [p:968380255] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>I've shared her experience somewhat26-27 is plenty old enough to not wanna 'waste' any of your life living in a way that makes you even a little uncomfortableShe probably feels she will have to live differently or censor herself in some way, and no amount of telling her that your parents don't give a fuck (assuming they are actually that cool) will change those mental hurdlesD_K posted... </cite><quote>Her current roommates are some of the most insufferable human beings on the planet. She can't wait to move away from them.</quote>This makes her reaction somewhat strange, but could also contribute to her feelings of not wanting to just gain different roommates. She wants to be alone, with you.No advice, but a bit of time living together (alone) may be a good idea before buying a house togetheranyway, coming home for me is meant to be the most relaxing, freeing thing. Definitely is not that way with in-laws or roommates around.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
XxZiomaxX 09/29/22 4:56:41 PM #20:	Perfectinsanity posted... Your girlfriend is being weird. If she gets along with your family, there's no reason not to do it for a time. Just have a goal on how much you want to save to get out of there, and meet it. There's an end in sight. Tell her to settle down. Money isn't everything The stress / uncomfortableness may impact health or ability to perform, which actually can affect your money/career in the long run It could cause a needless rift w/ their partner's immediate family, which may have repercussions years down the line. --- LAL - PSN: Deuce-Cuatro - @DeuceCuatroD2 <cite>XxZiomaxX posted [p:968380372] in Why is it ... [t:80182258]...</cite> <quote>Perfectinsanity posted... </cite><quote>Your girlfriend is being weird. If she gets along with your family, there's no reason not to do it for a time. Just have a goal on how much you want to save to get out of there, and meet it. There's an end in sight. Tell her to settle down.</quote>Money isn't everythingThe stress / uncomfortableness may impact health or ability to perform, which actually can affect your money/career in the long runIt could cause a needless rift w/ their partner's immediate family, which may have repercussions years down the line.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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