Current Events > Are you 30+ years old and still single?

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And have resigned youll never settle down with anyone? like its too late now?

Yep

I'm 41. I had a high school girlfriend in 1997. That's it. I know that I have missed my window. But I'm ok with it. I gave up a long time ago.

Pretty much, yeah.

And I dont mean that as a put-down or telling myself Im not good enough.

Just being realistic. This is an issue thats plagued me all my life. Girls just dont like me romantically. I never even had dates until senior year of high school, and those were always disastrous.

Zero luck in my 20s. Could barely get girls to even look at me, or if I did end up dating someone, they couldnt stand being with me for more than a few months at the most.

Its been about five years since I last saw someone. Ive tried, but still no luck. No matches on dating apps, friends tell me that if they suggest me to girls looking for dates, girls make a eugh yuck face, I have an incredibly difficult time getting damn texts back, etc.

And the worst part is, I dont even know whats really wrong with me. Im not THAT unattractive and Ive never tried to hide or be ashamed of who I am (which I was always told was the key to finding a romantic partner) so, yeah, I dont see it turning around. What girl is going to want some dude in his mid-30s who has the dating experience of a middle schooler?

https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/5/9/5/AAOjRaAADnlz.jpg

It's never too late.

Anyone who tries to tell you otherwise is a foreveraloner. Don't give up like they have.

(Granted there's little hope for the people who have 50+ banned accounts on ab ancient website...)

40+ & single. Thankfully.

36, Single, never really looked. I'm probaby aromantic.

PMarth2002 posted...

Single, never really looked. I'm probaby aromantic.

Hey, not if you shower daily.

Do y'all bring anything to the table?
In a giant world full of single woman, where they are the choosers, wat do you bring to them?
Women want financially security and to be protected. They want someone who can fight for them.
Not all women mind you. But the ones I meet want that. When I didn't give a shit in my younger days I heard time and time again, " I don't know if your worth fighting for."
It was a wake up call.
Love comes to everyone.
Don't give up hope.

Big_Nabendu posted...

Do y'all bring anything to the table?

I am the table.

*Room full of women claps for me*

*Asks each one out and gets rejected by all of them*

Yes

Im 35 but have spent very little of my life as an adult single.

35 single and have never been on a date or anything. Never really socialized much as I was always really shy.

Big_Nabendu posted...

Do y'all bring anything to the table?
In a giant world full of single woman, where they are the choosers, wat do you bring to them?
Women want financially security and to be protected. They want someone who can fight for them.
Not all women mind you. But the ones I meet want that. When I didn't give a shit in my younger days I heard time and time again, " I don't know if your worth fighting for."
It was a wake up call.
Love comes to everyone.
Don't give up hope.

This is like the opposite of being an incel. Instead of hating women because they won't date you, you instead portray them as prizes that need to be fought for and won. Men and women are both just people. Relationships are built on trust and compatibility. A wife or girlfriend is a life partner, not a trophy or a princess.

Yep and proud of it, I enjoy my quiet single life to be honest

Will be killing myself if I'm single by the age of 41or so. Life is not worth a damn thing alone imo.

Zikten posted...

Yep

I'm 41. I had a high school girlfriend in 1997. That's it. I know that I have missed my window. But I'm ok with it. I gave up a long time ago.

Have you ever felt like looking her up? Seeing what she's up to these days?

@Zikten

Ivynn posted...

Have you ever felt like looking her up? Seeing what she's up to these days?

@Zikten

A few times but she probably got married and changed her name. Also, after thinking about it more, I think that I dont really want to know. It would probably just upset me

The last time I saw her was at graduation in 2001. But we didn't speak to each other

Recently became single 4 months ago after a 6 year relationship.

33 years old.

I think I've only been single over a total of 2 years since I was 16.

I'm 52 and still love coming to GameFaQS. Never needed women in my life ever as long as I'm with like-minded folks

This topic makes CE make sense.

Never too late u guys.

I'll help get u guys on the right path.

1. Your hair. Are you balding? Gotta shave it all off.
2. The gym. Hit it.
3. Read a fucking book so you have some thing to talk about.

No I have a gf

I've been married 12 years and am low key kind of jealous of my friends who are still single and childless

This topic is depressing.

Ivynn posted...

Have you ever felt like looking her up? Seeing what she's up to these days?

@Zikten

I feel like that could only lead to depression. Unless theres a slim chance shes worse off (which people shouldnt take pleasure in ANYway), youre just going to upset yourself.

No good comes from seeing how better off someone has been without you.

Don't you look down on me.

DipDipDiver posted...

I've been married 12 years and am low key kind of jealous of my friends who are still single and childless

i dont have kids, my life is awesome!

rexcrk posted...

Pretty much, yeah.

And I dont mean that as a put-down or telling myself Im not good enough.

Just being realistic. This is an issue thats plagued me all my life. Girls just dont like me romantically. I never even had dates until senior year of high school, and those were always disastrous.

Zero luck in my 20s. Could barely get girls to even look at me, or if I did end up dating someone, they couldnt stand being with me for more than a few months at the most.

Its been about five years since I last saw someone. Ive tried, but still no luck. No matches on dating apps, friends tell me that if they suggest me to girls looking for dates, girls make a eugh yuck face, I have an incredibly difficult time getting damn texts back, etc.

And the worst part is, I dont even know whats really wrong with me. Im not THAT unattractive and Ive never tried to hide or be ashamed of who I am (which I was always told was the key to finding a romantic partner) so, yeah, I dont see it turning around. What girl is going to want some dude in his mid-30s who has the dating experience of a middle schooler?

I would love to see a pic of you. I have seen quite a few guys here who could look good with a little proper grooming. You don't seem like a lot cause to me.

no offense but that word is dead to the world now.

Robot2600 posted...

3. Read a fucking book so you have some thing to talk about.

what? lol

Just turned 30 a month ago... Been single the whole time... Never even been on a date...

Already resigned myself to being alone the rest of my life some time ago...

FaytlessHearts posted...

Will be killing myself if I'm single by the age of 41or so. Life is not worth a damn thing alone imo.

Please do not think this way, relationships are not the end all, be all. Having friends and family you like in your life matters as well and being alone against the world is not as terrible as you think. Some of the most influential and innovative people have been single, they would not have been able to change the world the way they did if they had a wife and children.

Discover your passion or dream that you want to impact the world with and go after it.

yep and i think i always will be

i cant stand myself

Big_Nabendu posted...

Do y'all bring anything to the table?
In a giant world full of single woman, where they are the choosers, wat do you bring to them?
Women want financially security and to be protected. They want someone who can fight for them.
Not all women mind you. But the ones I meet want that. When I didn't give a shit in my younger days I heard time and time again, " I don't know if your worth fighting for."
It was a wake up call.
Love comes to everyone.
Don't give up hope.

Women are trophies, got it.

Yes. I've known since I was about 10 y/o that I didn't want to "settle" down, get married and have kids. I enjoy solitude, I enjoy living by myself and I enjoy the freedom to come and go as I please

If I wanted to go wild camping in Scotland tomorrow I could do just that, if I wanted to go on a fishing trip to Amsterdam tomorrow I could do just that with no nagging s/o asking "how long will I be gone" or having to arrange my trips away around school holidays

Never had any luck in getting into any relationships. I'll just pin it on reasons on me being short and bald

I am kind of used to it at this point and in some ways it lets me do whatever I want. I can't even imagine what having a gf would be like at this stage in my life, and one that fits the life I want to live (as little working as possible, small living space, no kids, no car somewhere downtown in a city, not a whole lot of going out) is just unlikely to find. The only downside is I have no one to share my life with, which I guess there's usually a downside.

I'm mid 30s and not currently single. But I've been single for most of my life, with just an endless string of fuck buddies. Only had a handful of more serious relationships.

I think a lot of it's related to self-esteem. The older I get, the more I get to know myself, and the more confident I become. I used to feel like I didn't "deserve" a "real" relationship. Hence all the casual sex. But now I'm finally unpacking lots of commitment issues and emotional trauma from the past, and I'm more open to something potentially significant. Although it still seems weird for me to imagine "settling down" since I've cultivated such a slutty approach to dating.

So I can somewhat relate to the more pessimistic posts in this thread. But I do think it's never too late. Psychedelics helped me a lot personally. My whole life improved once I got into those. Better self-image, better social life, better understanding of the world, etc.

wasnt until a couple weeks ago when my 6 year relationship ended

Yes never had a significant other or gf simultaneously still a virgin at 34 given to me there is way more to life than vice gender or women defined more simplistic terminology

BlockAddition posted...

Yes. I've known since I was about 10 y/o that I didn't want to "settle" down, get married and have kids. I enjoy solitude, I enjoy living by myself and I enjoy the freedom to come and go as I please

If I wanted to go wild camping in Scotland tomorrow I could do just that, if I wanted to go on a fishing trip to Amsterdam tomorrow I could do just that with no nagging s/o asking "how long will I be gone" or having to arrange my trips away around school holidays

But do you realize that there are women out there who would want the same exact lifestyle with no kids?

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Exactly

being single the cool shit right now

FaytlessHearts posted...

Will be killing myself if I'm single by the age of 41or so. Life is not worth a damn thing alone imo.

Pfft I enjoy being alone, don't have to answer to anyone or act a certain way.

bulletproofvita posted...

Pfft I enjoy being alone, don't have to answer to anyone or act a certain way.

When you find the right person, this isn't an issue. I can completely be myself with my gf, which is not necessarily true with past women.

Going to be 31 soon Never been on a date before or even been kissed and I feel like it's too late. Everybody or close to most people seem married now. Sure I can wait for divorces, but then, I have to worry about stepkids.

That or I could try the "Nacho Parenting" method.

bulletproofvita posted...

Pfft I enjoy being alone, don't have to answer to anyone or act a certain way.

Yeah alot of people say that. I dead ass want nothing to do with the world or life though if it means I'm alone. I've got my exit strategy all planned out unfortunately.

""RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

Please do not think this way, relationships are not the end all, be all. Having friends and family you like in your life matters as well and being alone against the world is not as terrible as you think. Some of the most influential and innovative people have been single, they would not have been able to change the world the way they did if they had a wife and children.

Discover your passion or dream that you want to impact the world with and go after it.""

Right but none of that is worth anything to me if I can't be happy. I truly don't care about other people's feelings or who would 'miss' me. Really don't. This life is not meant to be lived alone, and I want no part in it if that's going to be how it is. I hope others can do what you say, find passion, live for their loved ones, etc. My personal happiness is not being alone, no matter how successful I may be.

Don't give up hope guys, my wife's dad has a brother who was a single virgin into his late 40s, met a woman, got married and had 3 kids. Age is a number, don't throw in the towel just because it hasn't panned out yet. People find their partners and happiness at all variations of ages.

My wife is currently someone else's wife right now. I'm waiting for them to get a divorce first.