Current Events > wait...most of you guys here DON'T have sex on the first date...?

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Nope. Never have.

why the fuck not lol

I did and he ended up marrying me.

I have but I generally dont. Im 62 and over 250 pounds; asking someone to put themselves in a vulnerable position with someone they barely know just doesnt seem like its reasonable, to me. If my date suggests it then thats one thing, but Im not eager to pressure someone into a position they might not be comfortable with.

I don't call those "dates"

for the record, i never said anything about pressuring

Herpes.

what...? is that some misogynstic bs

Lol no. Those are hookups or smash n go's

sounds misogynistic to me...

No because I have morals, something most people these days lack.

Christian morals? Serious question. Because in 2022, expressing your sexuality consensually isn't really seen as immoral to a lot of people. I'll respect your personal preference of sexual activities. But saying it's immoral is a whole different conversation

I know this is a joke but.. Over the last year, I've gone out with four women on 1st dates that there was no sex, and it fizzled out from a little bit of texting afterward and we never went on a 2nd date..

Then I hear about my friends who are sleeping on the first date and it makes me wonder if this is really the expectation now? Does the girl think you're weak or not a man because you didn't make the first move and show her you like her? I thought a girl wouldnt wanna be with you because it's disrespectful to move that quick so it might turn them off. Maybe it's the opposite, they think you wasted their time because they got none that night and they think you don't like them.. Stupid.

1 girl I did sleep with the first date and we were together for a while. She never wanted to leave me. So what the hell is going on.. I broke us off later because she had an addiction to marijuana and it became unattractive for me.

It actually really bothers me because one of the girls (1 of 4 that a 2nd date never happened) I went on a date on, I had a massive crush on her. I dropped her off home after a fancy date, and when i was driving off she texted me: "I wish i invited you to meet my doggie". She was implying she wanted to ask me to go back in her apartment with her, but she didn't ask me because she was probably scared and maybe there was an expectation that I shouldve done it? But how do you do that without coming off like a creep? "Hey I'm dropping you off from our date, do you mind if I go in your home?" What the fuck.. Her interest seemed to fade because we didnt hang out the day after or go to her apartment after the 1st date. It's like you have to lock them in by showing them physically you do like them or some shit. It's weird and I've noticed all my friends who slept on the 1st date are still with those women. The one that doesn't, it usually doesn't go anywhere. The world is backwards.

Are you showing some intent on the first date at least? Smiling at them, offering to pay etc

I know this is a joke but.. Over the last year, I've gone out with four women on 1st dates that there was no sex, and it fizzled out from a little bit of texting afterward and we never went on a 2nd date..

Then I hear about my friends who are sleeping on the first date and it makes me wonder if this is really the expectation now? Does the girl think you're weak or not a man because you didn't make the first move and show her you like her? I thought a girl wouldnt wanna be with you because it's disrespectful to move that quick so it might turn them off. Maybe it's the opposite, they think you wasted their time because they got none that night and they think you don't like them.. Stupid.

1 girl I did sleep with the first date and we were together for a while. She never wanted to leave me. So what the hell is going on.. I broke us off later because she had an addiction to marijuana and it became unattractive for me.

It actually really bothers me because one of the girls (1 of 4 that a 2nd date never happened) I went on a date on, I had a massive crush on her. I dropped her off home after a fancy date, and when i was driving off she texted me: "I wish i invited you to meet my doggie". She was implying she wanted to ask me to go back in her apartment with her, but she didn't ask me because she was probably scared and maybe there was an expectation that I shouldve done it? But how do you do that without coming off like a creep? "Hey I'm dropping you off from our date, do you mind if I go in your home?" What the fuck.. Her interest seemed to fade because we didnt hang out the day after or go to her apartment after the 1st date. It's like you have to lock them in by showing them physically you do like them or some shit. It's weird and I've noticed all my friends who slept on the 1st date are still with those women. The one that doesn't, it usually doesn't go anywhere. The world is backwards.

gonna ignore most of these, but these are the most common reasons i use to get girls back to my place:

1. want to have another drink at my luxury condo?
2. want to have a hot tea at my luxury condo?
3. i just bought a luxury condo, would you like to see the view?

i prefer going back to my place instead of the girls, but if you have to go to the girls place, there's a multitude of reasons, including seeing her aforementioned dog (if you went on an entire date you should know it existed)

YES. I am very touchy and a confident/social person. And they're laughing with me and generally having a good night. I'm flirty, I just never seal the deal at the end of the night, because I'm scared a girl will think you just want to bang her and you don't want a relationship. I was taught that was a big no no, but it seems it's an unwritten rule that the woman actually wants that.......

he said "without coming off like a creep" tho

I'm not religious, so not really. It's more of a case that it's demonstrably proven to cause issues down the line when the relationship is founded on sex. It's a large part of the reason why the divorce rate is so high and so many people are in unhealthy/unhappy relationships. It also speaks to impulse control and how much value they place on instant gratification rather than stability.

This is a weird brag topic

im not bragging about having sex on first dates, im more shocked how many ppl don't even go for it. it's one thing to feel it out and determine it's not on the table...but it seems like 99.9% of topics i read about first dates, it's not even something that the poster considers conceivable

I agree with the bolded. I generally didn't on a first date, but I always kissed them if it was a good date. That often turned into more, occasionally sex, but I let them push for that then. I never pushed for it.

No because I have morals, something most people these days lack.

for the record, once again, i never said to "push" anything

just don't have sex when you have your outbreaks

Fine, but I cant control theirs.

sounds misogynistic to me...

The irony.

The irony.

Well, the comment he responded to was misogynistic.

But I think TC is likely just a joke account, who pretends to be a rich playboy. Not 100% about this though because these people do exist. I would say they don't exist on CE, but then I question why I am on CE and then maybe my entire existence lol