Current Events > I get some pretty decent matches on Tinder but i have no idea what to say.

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So obviously I came straight to CE for advice.

So anyway, I have no idea how Tinder convos work. You'd think itd be easier than real life but its not for me. Knowledge that people screenshot these things and post them to laugh at is always in the back of my mind.

Sometimes they even message me first and I still can't make anything happen. Its like the fish jumped in the boat and I cant hit it with the oar.

What do I say? :V

no idea. there is no winning anymore. women laugh at guys who type a bunch and say they try too hard. then they say in their profile "make sure u can carry a convo", even tho they hardly contribute. if ur not a chad, dont reply.

also, even if u r a chad, u need 2 be an alpha chad, becuz the average 6/10 girl that isnt overweight is talking to over 10 chads at any given moment. thats just on that dating app and not including all the guys in her facebook messenger, instagram, twitter dm's, etc.

spanky1 posted...

You'd think itd be easier than real life

Lmao.

Just say whatever comes to mind. Think practice if you're so scared. More will come.

Don't let them drag out too long. Establish some basic interest, then just cut to the chase and ask for an in-person date. That's what works best for me.

TheOnionKnight posted...

Don't let them drag out too long. Establish some basic interest, then just cut to the chase and ask for an in-person date. That's what works best for me.

Man I need an earpiece with you in it like a sitcom.

spanky1 posted...

Man I need an earpiece with you in it like a sitcom.

lol you don't need an earpiece for texting people! And also I think Tinder is a horrible dehumanizing time-sink, even when I am getting real dates out of it. But yeah, in my experience, you want to ask for a date within the first few hours of texting. Within the first day at the very most. If you're texting for multiple days, forget it, move on, it's a waste of time and the woman probably just wants a pen pal for the attention.

You say DTF? If they respond yes, you win. If they respond with some variation of no, you lose.

Start with hello
Compliment them
Ask for their number

From my experience I found it best not to have long conversations on the app and get straight to the point.

When in doubt, just plagiarize CE topics to start conversations

Jiek_Fafn posted...

When in doubt, just plagiarize CE topics to start conversations

"Reasons why boobs are better than ass."

Got it. :)

Just ask a question about something they like on their profile and tease what your reply would be to the same question so they want to know more. Like if they like travel, "What has been your favorite country to visit? I had a great European cruise last year." Note I did not list the countries.

Every single message back and forth make sure you ask a question. It will keep them talking.

5 or 6 messages each is enough to ask them out. Don't drag it out! They will move on.

I would always say, "It has been great chatting, but let's keep the conversation going in person. Are you available after work next week for a drink or something? I am open Monday, Wednesday and Thursday." Worked every single time.

The key to any tinder or dating app conversation is this:

dont try to text a ton or carry on a conversation for days. Its exhausting and youre wasting your own time and the girls. Try and hit it off, then suggest a drink or something.

I always tell people its easier to catch a vibe in person. Most people appreciate that. Wayyyyy more men on apps than women, so theyre always getting messaged. Just meet up and person and see if yall hit it off.

thats the key. Dont waste your time carrying on convos for days.

Hi

I'm spanky

I want to lick your teeth

I feel you TC. I usually match then just never say anything at all. Needless to say, Bumble has been more successful for me. Im going to meet up with someone this weekend for the first time. Im not entirely convinced that shes a real person, but well see. Conversation is so fucking hard.

AloneIBreak posted...

I feel you TC. I usually match then just never say anything at all. Needless to say, Bumble has been more successful for me. Im going to meet up with someone this weekend for the first time. Im not entirely convinced that shes a real person, but well see. Conversation is so fucking hard.

Why do you not message at all? What is the point of even matching then?

Good luck on your date btw

"y halo thar buttseckz?"

bsp77 posted...

Why do you not message at all? What is the point of even matching then?

Good luck on your date btw

I really dont know tbh. And thanks. If its a scam, Im going to be annoyed.