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Conflict posted...

You guys literally did not read what she wrote lol. You just saw "video games" and got mad

when you can predict what they write, why even bother giving it the time of day?

Gladius_ posted...

Depends on the feminist.

The, "I just want equal rights and believe woman should be just as valued as men." are fine. However the, "Screw men! We don't need them! Cheating is empowerment!" are absolutely undesirable. Radical feminists are no bueno.

You don't need to be a feminist to think or believe any of this. A few decades ago, sure, maybe, but in a modern day first world? They are very likely a extremists of the latter.

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Video games, weed and porn = bad

Social media, wine and true crime podcasta = yaas kween

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I dont really agree with this author. I mean, a keg is probably like riding a bike. Do it enough times, and you wont forget how they work. We even have them for work functions sometimes And somebody has to do it. And we have people who make their own beer

Also, for financial problems, it depends. It could be because of taking care of other family, or because of the area they live in. Many people need to roomie up or get an SO to actually pay for stuff without breaking the bank

I see n thing wrong with video games, tbh. There are even couples that play it together. And video games dont stop me from having sex or loving my bf

For being unreliable, it depends on if he promises or tries. Because some people are super busy.

And plenty of people handle stress poorly. I know some of the most organized people who handle it poorly because everything was planned out to work well, and it didnt

Freaking out about milestone events is bad. But it depends on what they mean by freak out. I personally dont want to get married or have kids. So, I would side step those conversations. That said, if were dating, they should already know

And while I know many things, certain things like tying a tie arent one of those things. I need a video every time. But I also hardly wear one Nor have I ever set a table I dont really see that done anymore, tbh

As for nagging, thats on the nagging spouse, tbh
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Well, those toxic trio shouldn't have been named. Any hobby that is spent excessively is rather bad. I mean, she doesn't mention fishing, but if the guy is fishing all the time I can't imagine that being healthy for a relationship.

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Casual reminder that successful men and women play video games

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DarkRoast posted...

Casual reminder that successful men and women play video games

Me and my girl both play video games and smoke weed. This article can gtfo

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Why do you guys keep ignoring the word 'excessive'

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Proud manchild here.

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Punished_Blinx posted...

Why do you guys keep ignoring the word 'excessive'

I think it depends more on how the article is using it, tbh Excessive amount is different per person. Some people may think an hour is excessive, where some think a couple hours of video games is normal
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Prismsblade posted...

You don't need to be a feminist to think or believe any of this. A few decades ago, sure, maybe, but in a modern day first world? They are very likely a extremists of the latter.

So you believe that more than half of women who identify as "feminist" in 2021 believe what specific extremist views?

Prismsblade posted...

You don't need to be a feminist to think or believe any of this. A few decades ago, sure, maybe, but in a modern day first world? They are very likely a extremists of the latter.

Yeah, you're definitely tainted by the internet lol

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Letron_James posted...

Me and my girl both play video games and smoke weed. This article can gtfo

You clearly don't read though

Ffs she literally said dabbling in those hobbies was okay lmfao. How are so many of you this illiterate
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Weaponized incompetence is when a man pretends like he does not know how to do something, does it really badly, or asks a million questions about how to do the task in order to get his partner to do it for him.

Pretty sure I've seen this in most comics, cartoons, and sitcoms.

Pepys Monster posted...

If a girl dislikes weed, that's a huge red flag. At least the guy isn't drinking a six pack of beer a day.

I actually prefer it when my bff drinks. He's more, umm... "affectionate" when he does.

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LinkPizza posted...

I think it depends more on how the article is using it, tbh Excessive amount is different per person. Some people may think an hour is excessive, where some think a couple hours of video games is normal

That's like saying some people might be talking about one or two drinks when talking about excessive drinking. Most people know what excessive means.

This article talks about a guy who doesn't clean his house, is irresponsible with money and is unreliable and incompetent. I really doubt it's talking about someone playing video games for an hour or so.

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Sounds like a low bar to clear but not surprised misogynyFAQs has to stick it to the queens about how it isnt fair to expect them to be functional adults.

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One_Day_Remains posted...

You clearly don't read though

Ffs she literally said dabbling in those hobbies was okay lmfao. How are so many of you this illiterate

Holy edits batman.

Pitlord_Special posted...

Sounds like a low bar to clear but not surprised misogynyFAQs has to stick it to the queens about how it isnt fair to expect them to be functional adults.

In summation though, definitely this lol.

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HylianFox posted...

I actually prefer it when my bff drinks. He's more, umm... "affectionate" when he does.

I haven't seen my BF drunk before. But I normally don't drink with him. It's usually with friends...

Punished_Blinx posted...

That's like saying some people might be talking about one or two drinks when talking about excessive drinking. Most people know what excessive means.

Except they don't most of the time. I've seen/heard of many wives/GFs (and it's not always wives, but usually is) who get mad at their husband/BF for excessive gaming, when they barely got in an hour. And on their free time when they had no chores or anything... Many people think any time is excessive when it should be based on pretty much everything else going on in life... If I didn't hear those stories all the time, then I'd agree with you. But I hear it so often...

Punished_Blinx posted...

This article talks about a guy who doesn't clean his house, is irresponsible with money and is unreliable and incompetent. I really doubt it's talking about someone playing video games for an hour or so.

This article goes through 12 different signs, of which the GF (I presume) only mentioned like 3 or 4. Maybe he does more, but that wasn't what was written...

Even then, it could be different for him. For example, if he's playing games for a few hours a day after work during free time when there's nothing else for him to have to do while his GF is out, that would be fine. But maybe not to his GF. Which is why I think it depends on a lot more than just the amount of time they spend on it to figure out excessive amounts...
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CE simply can't read. That's the only conclusion available for this topic.

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pogo_rabid posted...

Just glanced through it and the article sounds like she just got dumped and is lashing out by writing a passive aggressive article about her ex under the guise of something else.

pretty much

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My apartment is messy, but that's only because I'm the only one who lives here. If I moved in with someone else I'd make more of an effort to keep it tidy. But if it's just me I don't see the need for constant maintenance.

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trappedunderice posted...

Holy edits batman.

Yeah, all two of them
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LinkPizza posted...

Except they don't most of the time. I've seen/heard of many wives/GFs (and it's not always wives, but usually is) who get mad at their husband/BF for excessive gaming, when they barely got in an hour. And on their free time when they had no chores or anything... Many people think any time is excessive when it should be based on pretty much everything else going on in life... If I didn't hear those stories all the time, then I'd agree with you. But I hear it so often...

I know a guy who stayed at home to look after the kids while his partner worked and played PUBG while telling his kids he was working. I know guys who played online games all night and ignored their partner who they live with.

If the article is "Signs that your Girlfriend/Wife are too controlling" then yeah your anecdotes would fit. But the article is clearly not talking about someone who plays games for an hour or two.

LinkPizza posted...

This article goes through 12 different signs, of which the GF (I presume) only mentioned like 3 or 4. Maybe he does more, but that wasn't what was written...

Wut?

1. Messy Home
2. Behaves like a frat boy
3. Always has an excuse for his behaviour
4. Has constant financial problems
5. Toxic trio
6. Unreliable
7. Can't handle criticism
8. Does not handle stress well
9. Freaks out when you talk about milestone events
10. Does not know how to do age appropriate tasks
11. Uses weaponized incompetence to get you to do things for him
12. You find yourself nagging him

Did you read the article? If so why are you making excuses for this list? This is objectively a terrible partner to have.


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This has been an entertaining topic

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Lots of well adjusted and mature people hit multiple of those checklists

Punished_Blinx posted...

I know a guy who stayed at home to look after the kids while his partner worked and played PUBG while telling his kids he was working. I know guys who played online games all night and ignored their partner who they live with.

If the article is "Signs that your Girlfriend/Wife are too controlling" then yeah your anecdotes would fit. But the article is clearly not talking about someone who plays games for an hour or two.

Wut?
1. Messy Home
2. Behaves like a frat boy
3. Always has an excuse for his behaviour
4. Has constant financial problems
5. Toxic trio
6. Unreliable
7. Can't handle criticism
8. Does not handle stress well
9. Freaks out when you talk about milestone events
10. Does not know how to do age appropriate tasks
11. Uses weaponized incompetence to get you to do things for him
12. You find yourself nagging him
Did you read the article? If so why are you making excuses for this list? This is objectively a terrible partner to have.

Is this a cool sig you have or where did you get it from

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The funny thing about this list is that it doesn't even apply to the sensitive losers here anyway. It's talking about those dudes who still live like they're in high school and play COD all night. People here would likely dislike these guys too.

I think guys here are focused on the gamer stereotype they encounter on message boards and don't know about these guys as much but they exist. Guys who are social enough to get friends and dates but still live like a manchild.

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Punished_Blinx posted...

I know a guy who stayed at home to look after the kids while his partner worked and played PUBG while telling his kids he was working. I know guys who played online games all night and ignored their partner who they live with.

If the article is "Signs that your Girlfriend/Wife are too controlling" then yeah your anecdotes would fit. But the article is clearly not talking about someone who plays games for an hour or two.

Again, like I said, "Even then, it could be different for him. For example, if he's playing games for a few hours a day after work during free time when there's nothing else for him to have to do while his GF is out, that would be fine. But maybe not to his GF. Which is why I think it depends on a lot more than just the amount of time they spend on it to figure out excessive amounts..." So, what you said doesn't matter as I already said it could be different for him. But we also don't know how much time is actually spent on playing video games. The article didn't say. For all we know, he is only playing for a couple of hours. Unless the article explicitly states otherwise, which is doesn't. It says, "He spends a lot of time on the couch playing video games" which can mean anything depending on the person saying it... Again, some people would call and hour or two a lot...

Punished_Blinx posted...

Wut?
1. Messy Home
2. Behaves like a frat boy
3. Always has an excuse for his behaviour
4. Has constant financial problems
5. Toxic trio
6. Unreliable
7. Can't handle criticism
8. Does not handle stress well
9. Freaks out when you talk about milestone events
10. Does not know how to do age appropriate tasks
11. Uses weaponized incompetence to get you to do things for him
12. You find yourself nagging him
Did you read the article? If so why are you making excuses for this list? This is objectively a terrible partner to have.

I think it depends on the reason for those things, like I said in my first post of this topic. Many of those things could have valid reasons. And I said that the BF of this article may not have all those things about him. The article is about 12 different signs. But the GF who wrote the original letter only mention her BF having about 3 or 4 of them. Did you even read what I wrote?
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Also I can't tie a tie but that's because my motor skills are abysmal and I struggle at mimicking physical demonstrations.

People have flaws and trying to seek out a real life mary or marty stu is a terrible idea. Any healthy relationship will have two partners who realize that the other one has blindspots and love each other anyway even if they each have a few traits that bug each other.

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I dunno why yall are having such a hard time accepting you are a manchild.

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Damn, this was boosting my confidence until 10 and 11.

"11. ... Or, he uses weaponized incompetence to get you to do things for him. "

How dare they out me like that.


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ForsakenHermit posted...

Also I can't tie a tie but that's because my motor skills are abysmal and I struggle at mimicking physical demonstrations.

She is not referring to you lmao. She's talking about people who don't want to learn how to do adult tasks and would rather come up with bullshit excuses so their partner would do everything
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LinkPizza posted...

Again, like I said, "Even then, it could be different for him. For example, if he's playing games for a few hours a day after work during free time when there's nothing else for him to have to do while his GF is out, that would be fine. But maybe not to his GF. Which is why I think it depends on a lot more than just the amount of time they spend on it to figure out excessive amounts..." So, what you said doesn't matter as I already said it could be different for him. But we also don't know how much time is actually spent on playing video games. The article didn't say. For all we know, he is only playing for a couple of hours. Unless the article explicitly states otherwise, which is doesn't. It says, "He spends a lot of time on the couch playing video games" which can mean anything depending on the person saying it... Again, some people would call and hour or two a lot...

Combine this with a sloppy and lazy lifestyle you're focusing on the wrong thing here. It's not about video games.

LinkPizza posted...

I think it depends on the reason for those things, like I said in my first post of this topic. Many of those things could have valid reasons. And I said that the BF of this article may not have all those things about him. The article is about 12 different signs. But the GF who wrote the original letter only mention her BF having about 3 or 4 of them. Did you even read what I wrote?

So she looks at those signs and see what applies to her to see if it is indeed as bad as she says. The list wasn't the article writer listing what's wrong in her relationship. It's signs to look for the letter writer to look for to see if she is dating a manchild.

Having valid reasons for negative behavior doesn't mean it's worth tolerating in a relationship. If you can't take care of yourself properly why should someone else?

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One_Day_Remains posted...

Yeah, all two of them

That's two too many dawg, you need to slow down.

ForsakenHermit posted...

People have flaws and trying to seek out a real life mary or marty stu is a terrible idea. Any healthy relationship will have two partners who realize that the other one has blindspots and love each other anyway even if they each have a few traits that bug each other.

It was something like, "Perfect love isn't about having a partner with no flaws, but about accepting their flaws and looking beyond their imperfections." There was another shorter way I once saw, but can't remember it exactly. But that's basically the gist of it... Haha...

Punished_Blinx posted...

Combine this with a sloppy and lazy lifestyle you're focusing on the wrong thing here. It's not about video games.

It's about the whole picture. But one part of my post was about video games specifically... Hence why i talked about it when you mentioned more about that part... But it is one of the things she's complaining about...

Punished_Blinx posted...

So she looks at those signs and see what applies to her to see if it is indeed as bad as she says.

Having valid reasons for negative behavior doesn't mean it's worth tolerating in a relationship. If you can't take care of yourself properly why should someone else?

I wouldn't just look at the signs and decide. If anything, she should look past just the signs, and the reasons for them. That would be a better solution, I would think. Or see if something actually changed. Like he obviously did laundry before they met. So did he stop because she's there? Or did he wait longer before she came, but she does it more frequently? Did his house have clothes on the floor the first time, or only after you started hanging out there more? Or did he use to gather them all up when it was time for laundry? The problem here is that we only get a vague understanding of them and their problems. And we don't know enough about them...

And having valid reasons kind of does make it so it's possible to tolerate them. It can be a deal breaker for some, but not for all... It depends on the person... I mean, most people aren't going to find someone with no flaws. Maybe most of their partners will have more flaws. Who knows. But instead of just looking at the signs, maybe look for the reasons. And if you find the reason, you may even find a solution...
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LinkPizza posted...

It's about the whole picture. But one part of my post was about video games specifically... Hence why i talked about it when you mentioned more about that part... But it is one of the things she's complaining about...

Yes because excessive video game playing is a sign. Your only retort is...maybe it's not actually excessive?

LinkPizza posted...

I wouldn't just look at the signs and decide. If anything, she should look past just the signs, and the reasons for them. That would be a better solution, I would think. Or see if something actually changed. Like he obviously did laundry before they met. So did he stop because she's there? Or did he wait longer before she came, but she does it more frequently? Did his house have clothes on the floor the first time, or only after you started hanging out there more? Or did he use to gather them all up when it was time for laundry? The problem here is that we only get a vague understanding of them and their problems. And we don't know enough about them...

And having valid reasons kind of does make it so it's possible to tolerate them. It can be a deal breaker for some, but not for all... It depends on the person... I mean, most people aren't going to find someone with no flaws. Maybe most of their partners will have more flaws. Who knows. But instead of just looking at the signs, maybe look for the reasons. And if you find the reason, you may even find a solution...

It's not the responsibility of someone in a relationship to find the solution for their partners problem. That can lead to very toxic behavior and bad relationships. It's up an individual to improve themselves for their partner. She's not his Mother.

The list isn't specifically about their relationship anyway. It's specifically the 12 signs you're dating a manchild.

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If a woman complains about dating a man child, is she outing herself as a pedophile?

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They're getting better at hiding. My last girlfriend turned out to be three manchildren in a trenchcoat.

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CE is acting like they've been seen by the article writer.

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Punished_Blinx posted...

Yes because excessive video game playing is a sign. Your only retort is...maybe it's not actually excessive?

That's the whole point. It's only bad because it's excessive. The problem is that excessive changes person to person, and based on literally everything else in life. Like I said earlier...

Punished_Blinx posted...

It's not the responsibility of someone in a relationship to find the solution for their partners problem. That can lead to very toxic behavior and bad relationships. It's up an individual to improve themselves for their partner. She's not his Mother.

The list isn't specifically about their relationship anyway. It's specifically the 12 signs you're dating a manchild.

If you want to be a good SO, it can be helpful to help find solutions to problems. Any SO who leaves at the first sign of a flaw is a bad SO, IMO. Or anyone who doesn't want to help their SO is a bad SO... Relationships are about overcoming problems together... So, you don't need to help them. But an actual good SO would, at the very least, try... And if it gets toxic from trying to help, then leave. But trying to help is usually the opposite of toxic... Unless you're trying to help is something like screaming at them...

And I know it wasn't specifically about them. I use them as an example for one of the things she mentioned about her relationship, though... Earlier, I even said, "Punished_Blinx posted...

Yes because excessive video game playing is a sign. Your only retort is...maybe it's not actually excessive?

That's the whole point. It's only bad because it's excessive. The problem is that excessive changes person to person, and based on literally everything else in life. Like I said earlier...

Punished_Blinx posted...

It's not the responsibility of someone in a relationship to find the solution for their partners problem. That can lead to very toxic behavior and bad relationships. It's up an individual to improve themselves for their partner. She's not his Mother.

The list isn't specifically about their relationship anyway. It's specifically the 12 signs you're dating a manchild.

If you want to be a good SO, it can be helpful to help find solutions to problems. Any SO who leaves at the first sign of a flaw is a bad SO, IMO. Or anyone who doesn't want to help their SO is a bad SO... Relationships are about overcoming problems together... So, you don't need to help them. But an actual good SO would, at the very least, try... And if it gets toxic from trying to help, then leave. But trying to help is usually the opposite of toxic... Unless you're trying to help is something like screaming at them...

And I know it wasn't specifically about them. I use them as an example for one of the things she mentioned about her relationship, though... Earlier, I even said, "This article goes through 12 different signs, of which the GF (I presume) only mentioned like 3 or 4. Maybe he does more, but that wasn't what was written..." So, I didn't think it was about him since it wasn't based on specifically what she said. Just extra signs that she says are bad. I was just saying that I do agree with all of them... And even then, I would think you would need a bunch of them to be a manchild, anyway...
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LinkPizza posted...

That's the whole point. It's only bad because it's excessive. The problem is that excessive changes person to person, and based on literally everything else in life. Like I said earlier...

If you want to be a good SO, it can be helpful to help find solutions to problems. Any SO who leaves at the first sign of a flaw is a bad SO, IMO. Or anyone who doesn't want to help their SO is a bad SO... Relationships are about overcoming problems together... So, you don't need to help them. But an actual good SO would, at the very least, try... And if it gets toxic from trying to help, then leave. But trying to help is usually the opposite of toxic... Unless you're trying to help is something like screaming at them...

And I know it wasn't specifically about them. I use them as an example for one of the things she mentioned about her relationship, though... Earlier, I even said, "

That's the whole point. It's only bad because it's excessive. The problem is that excessive changes person to person, and based on literally everything else in life. Like I said earlier...

If you want to be a good SO, it can be helpful to help find solutions to problems. Any SO who leaves at the first sign of a flaw is a bad SO, IMO. Or anyone who doesn't want to help their SO is a bad SO... Relationships are about overcoming problems together... So, you don't need to help them. But an actual good SO would, at the very least, try... And if it gets toxic from trying to help, then leave. But trying to help is usually the opposite of toxic... Unless you're trying to help is something like screaming at them...

And I know it wasn't specifically about them. I use them as an example for one of the things she mentioned about her relationship, though... Earlier, I even said, "This article goes through 12 different signs, of which the GF (I presume) only mentioned like 3 or 4. Maybe he does more, but that wasn't what was written..." So, I didn't think it was about him since it wasn't based on specifically what she said. Just extra signs that she says are bad. I was just saying that I do agree with all of them... And even then, I would think you would need a bunch of them to be a manchild, anyway...

lol again you're not talking about things anyone is saying. A man excessively playing video games isn't one first bad sign or little flaw. It's constant behavior that strains the relationship.

Now I know you're going to focus again on maybe it's not excessive. Maybe it's not. If he's playing 1 hour a day or 8 hours a day and neither of them will compromise what makes you think this is a relationship worth sticking around in? Either the guy barely gets to do anything and he's still being nagged at or he's prioritizing video games over his partner. Either they talk about it and figure it out or it's not going to work. This is minor stuff to figure out long term. If they can't find common ground on something like video games how is it gonna be when they start talking about mortgages or raise a child?

A relationship isn't a problem to solve. It's two people gradually combining their lives together. Compromises need to be made and both sides need to accommodate. If this doesn't happen it's not a good relationship. The signs in this article show a man who wants someone to take care of him and doesn't want any responsibility so he's a bad partner to have. If the woman who wrote the letter finds that her partner fits most of the signs chances are she's not in for a good time. I don't need to speculate on what their relationship is actually like or make excuses for him. That's up to her to figure out.

Sometimes people just aren't compatible regardless anyway. A lot of relationships aren't worth saving or 'solving'

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12 signs you're dating a toxic woman

1. She writes passive-aggressive articles about men she's definitely dated

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RchHomieQuanChi posted...

12 signs you're dating a toxic woman

1. She writes passive-aggressive articles about men she's definitely dated

Lol. Damn

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Am I the only person who takes no offense to being a manchild?

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Punished_Blinx posted...

lol again you're not talking about things anyone is saying. A man excessively playing video games isn't one first bad sign or little flaw. It's constant behavior that strains the relationship.

That's if it is straining the relationship at all in the first place... The article says, "he uses them to zone out for many hours at a time. They are also used to avoid intimacy emotionally and sexually." But that's not always the case. I play many hours at a time because I bored with nothing to do, and the video games are fun. But it doesn't stop my intimacy with my BF. One time, I was playing and he came up behind me and started kissing. And when I went to move my switch, he pulled it back and told me to keep playing... It just depends...

Punished_Blinx posted...

Now I know you're going to focus again on maybe it's not excessive. Maybe it's not. If he's playing 1 hour a day or 8 hours a day and neither of them will compromise what makes you think this is a relationship worth sticking around in? Either the guy barely gets to do anything and he's still being nagged at or he's prioritizing video games over his partner. Either they talk about it and figure it out or it's not going to work. This is minor stuff to figure out long term. If they can't find common ground on something like video games how is it gonna be when they start talking about mortgages or raise a child?

And the reason I focus on whether it's excessive or not is because that is a main problem. This article isn't just for the person who wrote in, but everyone. And many of those people probably won't know what excessive means. That will say a couple hours is excessive, when it's may not be for their SO... Compromising is a way of finding a solution. So, if they actually tried that and it doesn't work, then leave. But at least they tried in that scenario. Which is what I said earlier. At least try to find a solution... That said, playing a lot doesn't mean that he's prioritizing games over her. It just means he's playing a lot. I play a ton, but don't prioritize games over my BF. I have played games nearly all day before without it being a problem... And stuff like mortgages and child-rearing is a whole different ballpark, anyway. Even if they agree on most things, they may totally disagree with how to raise a child. Or they may disagree on most thing, but agree on how to raise a child... That, of course, depends on the parents...

Punished_Blinx posted...

A relationship isn't a problem to solve. It's two people gradually combining their lives together. Compromises need to be made and both sides need to accommodate. If this doesn't happen it's not a good relationship. The signs in this article show a man who wants someone to take care of him and doesn't want any responsibility so he's a bad partner to have. If the woman who wrote the letter finds that her partner fits most of the signs chances are she's not in for a good time. I don't need to speculate on what their relationship is actually like or make excuses for him. That's up to her to figure out.

A relationship isn't a problem to solve, but will usually have some problems to solve. Living together is not something that's easily done by most people. You're changing you whole life around... And I agree that compromises need to be made. But that is a form of problem solving, which I said was needed earlier... And again, just because he fits the signs doesn't mean he's not a goof fit for her. It depends on more than they fit those signs. Why they fit those signs are important. Like the stuff I described in my first post in this topic...

Punished_Blinx posted...

Sometimes people just aren't compatible regardless anyway. A lot of relationships aren't worth saving or 'solving'

Sometimes people aren't compatible. But trying to make it work or trying to find solutions is better than running at the first sign of trouble...
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Pepys Monster posted...

If a girl dislikes weed, that's a huge red flag. At least the guy isn't drinking a six pack of beer a day.

This has to be a joke post. Drinking is legal (for those of age) and less dangerous than weed.