Current Events > Shoulda kissed this girl on our date tonightdamn it

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Third time hanging out. First time we got a beer, second we went climbing, went to a yoga class and then got dinner. This afternoon we biked like 15 miles then got a beer. We talked about hanging out again this week at the end before we hugged and said bye.

Im always so bad at this next step. Cant tell when Im supposed to kiss or try something more physical. There seems to be a connection for sure, at least personality wise. Both laugh a ton at each other, conversation feels super easy, etc. But how the hell do you figure out if theres a physical connection?

I know Im asking the wrong crowd but at least a few of you nerds gotta have decent enough game to guide me on how to make a move lmao

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Just ask her bro

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Turbam posted...

Just ask her bro

feel like some girls actually do genuinely appreciate when a guys before kissing her, but Ive def met girls who that would be a big turn off to them.

cant quite tell which way this girl is just yet. Shes very polite, well spoken, well put together, etcmaybe shed think its cute and endearing to ask. Idk

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MFBKBass5 posted...

But how the hell do you figure out if theres a physical connection?

if the sentence prior to this one is true, then you're probably in the clear.

but honestly taking it slow can be nice, and it could make you seem more well-intentioned, assuming the girl you're seeing actually wants a partner.

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Have you broken the touch barrier yet?
edit: nvm I just read that you hugged her

TC, you just gotta do it. Seriously, and soon. Youre risking being friendzoned, as you not making a move probably has her thinking that youre not interested romantically. Do it next date or dont at all.

Sit down next to her, hold her hand or something and chit chat. The moment theres moment of silence I want you to look her in the eye and kiss her

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Beefbud posted...

if the sentence prior to this one is true, then you're probably in the clear.

but honestly taking it slow can be nice, and it could make you seem more well-intentioned, assuming the girl you're seeing actually wants a partner.

my last relationship we took things very, very last. Like my ex gave me her address, I picked her up and brought her back to my place, then we fucked and she spent like 3 days straight with me hahahaha

but that also happened because I was bold and took a swing via text one drunken night.

hmmm

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MFBKBass5 posted...

Third time hanging out. First time we got a beer, second we went climbing, went to a yoga class and then got dinner. This afternoon we biked like 15 miles then got a beer. We talked about hanging out again this week at the end before we hugged and said bye.

Im always so bad at this next step. Cant tell when Im supposed to kiss or try something more physical. There seems to be a connection for sure, at least personality wise. Both laugh a ton at each other, conversation feels super easy, etc. But how the hell do you figure out if theres a physical connection?

I know Im asking the wrong crowd but at least a few of you nerds gotta have decent enough game to guide me on how to make a move lmao

Ask her how she feels about cuddling (over text) and try to secure a Netflix and cuddle session

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Harpie posted...

Have you broken the touch barrier yet?

just hugs. And I guess during that yoga class, there were a few things we helped each other with. The teacher had some partner suggestions for balance and stuff. But thats it really

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MFBKBass5 posted...

just hugs. And I guess during that yoga class, there were a few things we helped each other with. The teacher had some partner suggestions for balance and stuff. But thats it really

Yeah I edited my post once I reread yours. Do you feel a connection between you two? Any charged moments yet?
If not then uh hmm thats not good

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People literally give 0 fucks about your life unless you include pics.

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Harpie posted...

Yeah I edited my post once I reread yours. Do you feel a connection between you two? Any charged moments yet?
If not then uh hmm thats not good

hmm. I dunno, honestly. At the end of the second date, it was pouring rain as we parked next to each other and ran inside for dinner.

when we left, we were standing out in the rain and I thought I felt something but was too nervous to act on it. Maybe she wants me to just be confident and make a move

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Jiggy101011 posted...

People literally give 0 fucks about your life unless you include pics.

shes very attractive. Super in shape, and just finished a half iron man. Taller doctor lady with a killer smile. She cute

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MFBKBass5 posted...

hmm. I dunno, honestly. At the end of the second date, it was pouring rain as we parked next to each other and ran inside for dinner.

when we left, we were standing out in the rain and I thought I felt something but was too nervous to act on it. Maybe she wants me to just be confident and make a move

If you dont think you can realistically kiss her on the next date without chickening out, then your only other option is to just tell her the truth

Hey, weve been on a couple dates and I think youre a wonderful girl. To be honest, I am crushing pretty hard and I wanna know if you feel the same

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Sha la la la la la My oh my

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Lean in and go for a kiss when you greet her on your inevitable 4th date

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Returning_CEmen posted...

Lean in and go for a kiss when you greet her on your inevitable 4th date

This

Get it out of the way, at LEAST kiss her cheek

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just kiss her
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If it's the very end of the date, and she is still laughing and smiling with you, then go for it. You've been on enough dates to do it

Harpie posted...

If you dont think you can realistically kiss her on the next date without chickening out, then your only other option is to just tell her the truth

Hey, weve been on a couple dates and I think youre a wonderful girl. To be honest, I am crushing pretty hard and I wanna know if you feel the same

nah I think I can. Just gotta invite her over to make dinner or something together. Idk if Im crushing hard just yet, but shes very cute and seems like a genuinely good person. Shes a doctor who delivers babies for a living. Her sense of empathy is super high like mine. We like a lot of the same things. Idk.

but does all that stuff mean we have a romantic connection? Idk. I hate that there always seems to be a rush for meto try and find that romantic spark or whatever. I dont necessarily think it has to happen instantly.whats wrong with just spending time together and slowly discovering that side of a relationship?


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MFBKBass5 posted...

shes very attractive. Super in shape, and just finished a half iron man. Taller doctor lady with a killer smile. She cute

where are the god damn PICS

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Literally send the text "how do you feel about cuddling " and see where it goes

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MFBKBass5 posted...

shes very attractive. Super in shape, and just finished a half iron man. Taller doctor lady with a killer smile. She cute

How's her boobs?

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If she laughs when you say things that aren't even funny and keeps looking at you with a shy-smile that's usually the sign to make a light physical move. I'm bad with girls too and my first 2 dates I was horrible, didn't make a move and never got a second date. On my third ever date the girl gave me all the signs and kept calling me adorable while sitting next to her so I put my arm around her and took her hand with the other while talking. She didn't pull away and it felt good.

This almost always happens on the first date.

Maybe judge it by smell...if her smell doesn't drive you wild and make you think about her deeply and affectionately you may not be attracted to her. Almost sounds like you may just be good friends for each other....nothing wrong with that if you enjoy her company.

KneeOnBest posted...

How's her boobs?

G Cup

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2naim9F4010
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Fuck it just text her and ask if she wants to kick it right now

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I would have asked her around hugging time. Probably would have done it. The first time you went out. If she's turned off by it. Then you know that she's not physically attracted to you. I don't think I ever waited till the third date.

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Did yall hold hands at all? Thats a bigger sign than hugging.

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Hugging > hand holding
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kingdrake2 posted...

Hugging > hand holding

well yeah it feels better but I dont think Ive ever not kissed a woman I held hands with

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CountDog posted...

I would have asked her around hugging time. Probably would have done it. The first time you went out. If she's turned off by it. Then you know that she's not physically attracted to you. I don't think I ever waited till the third date.

lol I think this is bad advice. Kissing doesnt always have to happen first date. If she wasnt interested physically why would she hang out 3 times?

I told her I wanted to meet her dog, and she suggested we do hot yoga and meet her puppy soooo I guess shes interested still ;)

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You call a date hanging out?

WingsOfGood posted...

You call a date hanging out?

I mean she did soooo

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MFBKBass5 posted...

I mean she did soooo

so to her it was not a date?

Aight man here's how i tell.

If shes having a good time with you. She makes little excuses to extend the date a bit. Don't ask and just go for it. If she moves aways or rejects you just kinda laugh it off and apologize.

If it works you get the kiss if it doesnt just say like "oh, my bad. I was reading this a little different. No big deal"

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WingsOfGood posted...

so to her it was not a date?

shes called our hang outs dates

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I4NRulez posted...

Aight man here's how i tell.

If shes having a good time with you. She makes little excuses to extend the date a bit. Don't ask and just go for it. If she moves aways or rejects you just kinda laugh it off and apologize.

If it works you get the kiss if it doesnt just say like "oh, my bad. I was reading this a little different. No big deal"

weve already extended the 2nd and 3rd date. Didnt plan to grab dinner or beers but kept hanging out more after our work outs basically

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Sounds like you're overthinking it.

Either way, just make your move or it won't happen. Sounds like she's waiting on you, tbh.

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Wii_Shaker posted...

Sounds like you're overthinking it.

Either way, just make your move or it won't happen. Sounds like she's waiting on you, tbh.

100% overthinking it. Thats the brain in a nutshell.

Just gotta make a move next time and shoot my shot. My problem is that I just try and be too damn respectful. Idk why Im like that

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MFBKBass5 posted...

100% overthinking it. Thats the brain in a nutshell.

Just gotta make a move next time and shoot my shot. My problem is that I just try and be too damn respectful. Idk why Im like that

You've already demonstrated that you can be a gentleman. Demonstrate to her next that you can be an effective lover. Let the mood decide the time.


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THIRD DATE! She has already agreed to meet not once, but twice after the initial date. She must clearly like you at some level.

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The last few women I've dated I've always asked if I could kiss them. If I felt the connection and we were vibing really well I'd look them in the eye and straight up say "I find you extremely attractive, and would like to kiss you right now," or something to that affect.

It's worked every time I've tried it, but you have to know the right situation when you see it.

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Eat More Beef posted...

The last few women I've dated I've always asked if I could kiss them. If I felt the connection and we were vibing really well I'd look them in the eye and straight up say "I find you extremely attractive, and would like to kiss you right now," or something to that affect.

It's worked every time I've tried it, but you have to know the right situation when you see it.

yeah asking at the wrong time can definitely be a buzz kill lol


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JuanCarlos1 posted...

THIRD DATE! She has already agreed to meet not once, but twice after the initial date. She must clearly like you at some level.

good point. Well and weve already made plans for a 4th so youre right. Definitely some level of interest there I guess I should assume.

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