Poll of the Day > should a gf or wife have guy friends?

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MICHALECOLE
04/05/21 6:15:47 PM
#52:


Also I am not the paranoid and controlling guy that I seem to be defending, Im just high and decided to empathize with this imaginary controlling boyfriend
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EvilMegas
04/05/21 6:37:29 PM
#54:


I'm not the warden of my girlfriends social life.

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Joshs Name
04/05/21 6:38:33 PM
#55:


gf or wife should have more guy friends so i have more bois to hang out with

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teddy241
04/05/21 7:05:31 PM
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streamofthesky
04/05/21 7:10:37 PM
#57:


BADoglick posted...
If you're that paranoid and controlling then you deserve to be cheated on
Cheating is never justified, your attitude is honestly pretty fucking disgusting.
If you're not happy in a relationship, do the honorable thing and just break up.
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OhhhJa
04/05/21 7:33:21 PM
#58:


EvilMegas posted...
I'm not the warden of my girlfriends social life.
No but it's also not wrong to expect certain boundaries in relationships and that will obviously differ from person to person
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Yellow
04/05/21 7:35:17 PM
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Yes and if you think otherwise you are incredibly sexist thanks for coming for my Ted talk try using your brain before clicking the new topic button

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HornedLion
04/05/21 7:42:44 PM
#60:


Yellow posted...
Yes and if you think otherwise you are incredibly sexist thanks for coming for my Ted talk try using your brain before clicking the new topic button

I love you, yellow, but I must disagree.

You say this because youre thinking to yourself, I have the ability to have female friends and not view them as anything more. And not let it progress into anything more. And youre right.

But women are different. They only stay with a guy for as long as they feel that guy is the best they can do. Doesnt matter if they have been with the guy for 20years. If Robert Pattinson shows up and is willing to date her, she will leave you. Those 20 years dont mean anything to her.

I wont ever trust a woman 100%. Never. Ever.

The hypergamy is real.

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DeathMagnetic80
04/05/21 7:47:43 PM
#61:


Yes. What the fuck? My wife has guy friends, I have female friends. It's pretty crazy how when you have open communication and trust each other, these things aren't an issue. This is incel logic "Oh, if your wife is friends with guys, they're gonna cuck you!" Lot of small dick energy in this thread.
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EvilMegas
04/05/21 11:51:35 PM
#62:


OhhhJa posted...
No but it's also not wrong to expect certain boundaries in relationships and that will obviously differ from person to person
That sounds mighty controlling of you, dawg.

If you can't have faith in a person you're dating seriously, then why are you dating them?

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LinkPizza
04/05/21 11:52:46 PM
#63:


EvilMegas posted...
If you can't have faith in a person you're dating seriously, then why are you dating them?

This is true. You need to be able to trust you partner to have a healthy relationship, IMO...
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Ferron
04/06/21 12:12:52 AM
#64:


HornedLion posted...
Heres some straight truth in 2021, idgaf what soft modern men & women think of it...

NO! The same way I must be careful not to overly chat with a female coworker in fear of it being misconstrued as an emotional affair. So must females be careful not to spend time alone with any males, in fear of it being misconstrued as a physical affair.

This may be 2021 but hormones are a thing. Yeah. Ovulation happens. Temptation... happens. Especially when in a monogamous relationship, which takes fucking work. Idiots these days believe the Disney hype of happily ever after. Dont work like that.
So true
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OhhhJa
04/06/21 12:17:27 AM
#65:


EvilMegas posted...
That sounds mighty controlling of you, dawg.

If you can't have faith in a person you're dating seriously, then why are you dating them?
I was rather vague about said boundaries and you're saying that's controlling? Lol. Hell of an assumption my man. Every relationship has boundaries. It's called mutual respect. For instance, most relationships have a boundary involving not fucking other people. Wow so controlling!
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Kanatteru
04/06/21 12:18:25 AM
#66:


OhhhJa posted...
I was rather vague about said boundaries and you're saying that's controlling? Lol. Hell of an assumption my man. Every relationship has boundaries. It's called mutual respect. For instance, most relationships have a boundary involving not fucking other people. Wow so controlling!

nobody was talking about fucking other people though? we're talking about having male friends

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OhhhJa
04/06/21 12:19:05 AM
#67:


Kanatteru posted...
nobody was talking about fucking other people though? we're talking about having male friends
Yeah but I said every relationship has boundaries and he's disputing that as being too controlling
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Kanatteru
04/06/21 12:21:50 AM
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it kind of is too controlling in the context of whether your gf/wife can have male friends (which... again... is what we were talking about)

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OhhhJa
04/06/21 12:22:03 AM
#69:


My point is that... having certain expectations involving your partner hanging out with the opposite sex isn't necessarily controlling. As I said previously, my SO has guy friends and we're all cool and hang out regularly. They're all good dudes and I get along with them. But they're also not calling her at midnight every night to have a heart to heart for an hour. It's normal to expect at least some level of distance is all I'm saying
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FatalAccident
04/06/21 1:14:33 AM
#70:


magemaximus posted...
i am not in a relationship.
how strange

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EvilMegas
04/06/21 7:41:08 AM
#71:


OhhhJa posted...
My point is that... having certain expectations involving your partner hanging out with the opposite sex isn't necessarily controlling. As I said previously, my SO has guy friends and we're all cool and hang out regularly. They're all good dudes and I get along with them. But they're also not calling her at midnight every night to have a heart to heart for an hour. It's normal to expect at least some level of distance is all I'm saying
So you don't want to control your gf/wife, you just want to control of when and who she talks to?

Cool.

And again, why are you with that person if you are afraid of them talking to other people?


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BlazeAndBlade
04/06/21 7:58:38 AM
#72:


Jen0125 posted...
The insecurity in this topic already is palpable


Maybe it was a trick to get you a post so he can add this to his diary

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HornedLion
04/06/21 8:02:34 AM
#73:


EvilMegas posted...
And again, why are you with that person if you are afraid of them talking to other people?

Thats the way he wants to dictate his life. This topic is always touchy because everyone has their own views and are dug in.

If guys are okay with their girls going out with guy friends, and that works for them then fine. But Ive been that guy friend before and we didnt go out to buy crochet supplies.

Ive also have said the type of shit Ohhhja has said on other sites and all the thumbs up Ive received have been from women. Women love honest and assertive men. They also respect men who have and are clear with boundaries.

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EvilMegas
04/06/21 8:07:17 AM
#74:


That's cool, I'm glad you...ruined relationships and women with daddy issues like you?
Are you sure you're the right person to be explaining relationships to people?

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streamofthesky
04/06/21 8:09:01 AM
#75:


HornedLion posted...
Thats the way he wants to dictate his life. This topic is always touchy because everyone has their own views and are dug in.

If guys are okay with their girls going out with guy friends, and that works for them then fine. But Ive been that guy friend before and we didnt go out to buy crochet supplies.

Ive also have said the type of shit Ohhhja has said on other sites and all the thumbs up Ive received have been from women. Women love honest and assertive men. They also respect men who have and are clear with boundaries.
Pretty much. And it's important to speak up about it, b/c a whole generation of guys has been brainwashed and bullied into thinking there's something wrong w/ them if they have sensible boundaries. Just look at some of the shit in this topic trying to belittle any position short of, "let her do whatever she wants and just blindly trust it'll all be ok or else you're a controlling jerk that deserves to be cheated on."

Having respect for yourself and not being a total doormat is important. Just in general, but also b/c if your SO doesn't respect you, it leads to all sorts of bad places...
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MeteoricBurst
04/06/21 8:16:09 AM
#76:


HornedLion posted...
Thats the way he wants to dictate his life. This topic is always touchy because everyone has their own views and are dug in.

If guys are okay with their girls going out with guy friends, and that works for them then fine. But Ive been that guy friend before and we didnt go out to buy crochet supplies.

Ive also have said the type of shit Ohhhja has said on other sites and all the thumbs up Ive received have been from women. Women love honest and assertive men. They also respect men who have and are clear with boundaries.

I think the problem is consistency. If the guy does the same thing that's fine, as long as they have a clear agreement. I'm not sure how practical or sustainable it is though. The problem with jealous types whether its men or women, is that they are never truly satisfied. So it starts off as you not being able to hang with men/women but they still thinking you do and checking on you. Soon it's you can't be hanging with other people period without their suffocating presence.

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Clench281
04/06/21 8:40:36 AM
#77:


Jen0125 posted...
The insecurity in this topic already is palpable

No kidding. I can't imagine me or my husband not being allowed to have friends of any sex or sexuality combination.

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rexcrk
04/06/21 8:46:13 AM
#78:


All your wifes / girlfriends male friends want to f*** her

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hockey7318
04/06/21 9:00:17 AM
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rexcrk posted...
All your wifes / girlfriends male friends want to f*** her
That could very well be. One of my wife's friends that we hang out with literally asked her to marry him in the past. I assume he would still love to fuck her. I also trust that she wouldn't fuck him. You either trust your partner or you don't. They don't necessarily hang out alone, but that is because we hang out with him and his wife as a couple. I can't blame him for wanting her though, she's an amazing person.
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LaggnFragnLarry
04/06/21 9:14:22 AM
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ive cucked a lot of guys who thought i was just there wife/gfs friend so i can understand why they might be worried
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OhhhJa
04/06/21 9:19:27 AM
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MeteoricBurst posted...
I think the problem is consistency. If the guy does the same thing that's fine, as long as they have a clear agreement
And that's why I mentioned mutual respect. I know my SO wouldn't want me staying up late talking a lady friend either and I completely understand and respect that boundary. This idea that that is over controlling is ridiculous and not grounded in reality for most relationships. To each their own
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OhhhJa
04/06/21 9:24:42 AM
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I'm kinda not surprised the men here are ok with "their girl" staying up late talking to other guys lol
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OhhhJa
04/06/21 9:28:43 AM
#83:



Guys on gfaqs
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hockey7318
04/06/21 9:29:05 AM
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If there is a late night phone call that is important enough to take I'm more concerned with what the person on the other end of that call must be going through because there is no way my wife is staying up late for anything short of a disaster going on.
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HornedLion
04/06/21 9:44:59 AM
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Just this past week I was talking to a lady that was in a 15+ year relationship. Is past her prime and by her OWN admission said that her husband was, really good to me, and showered me with gifts. But she cheated on him with his friend, not even her friend, HIS friend... because... he wasnt emotionally available. Whatever the fuck that means. And she said it with such confident, as if that was the trump card. As if I was going to be like, WHAT!? NO WAY!? Giiiiiirl, I wouldve cheated too.

Now this friend that she banged is married, and admitted to her that his wife is better looking than her. Eventually his wife found out, and theyre working things out. The guy that got cucked has a new GF too. And the cheating chick, like usual, ended up alone. But she still is holding out hope for the married guy, that insulted her body, and has been waiting for his return after being ghosted almost a year and a half ago(thats when all this happened).

I heard this story as she was telling it and was just appalled. But there was so much to take away and dissect.

1) The time and equity the man put into the relationship meant shit to her. Absolutely nada.

2) The bond of friendship he had with his friend meant nothing to her, and apparently him either. Poor dude got double betrayed.

3) Women never say what they mean. They say they want the nice guy but then leave them for the Chads. Fucker admitted his wife at home was hotter and had no intention of leaving her and yet this idiot still holds out hope.

4) Women will never admit they want new dick. Theyll just deflect and make excuses like, He wasnt emotionally available. And as we all know, first thing they make you do at an AA meeting is to admit you have a problem. They cant do that so theres no hope.

5) She also couldnt do math. Thats okay, though, many people suck at it. But it doesnt take a math genius to figure out the probability of this blowing up in her face was rather high and almost a certainty. And so it was.


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Jen0125
04/06/21 9:46:25 AM
#86:


Just as I predicted the insecurity is absolutely throbbing just like my male best friend's penis when I'm in a relationship.

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EvilMegas
04/06/21 9:48:37 AM
#87:


I really don't want advice from a serial cheater lol

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Jen0125
04/06/21 9:50:01 AM
#88:


EvilMegas posted...
I really don't want advice from a serial cheater lol

Right? He's outraged at this woman while he trawls Tinder for people to cheat on his girl with while he claims they're... I don't even know they're not on a break.

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hockey7318
04/06/21 9:52:40 AM
#89:


Which one? HornedLion or OhhhJa? I haven't been back long enough to know everyone's history yet, but personalities sure are easy to figure out quickly.
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Jen0125
04/06/21 9:54:38 AM
#90:


hockey7318 posted...
Which one? HornedLion or OhhhJa? I haven't been back long enough to know everyone's history yet, but personalities sure are easy to figure out quickly.

HornedLion. He created a new, very annoying gimmick posting style wherein he's a husband and father going through some mental crisis and he's started working out so he's a gym authority and he is always talking about trying to be successful on Tinder despite his wife.

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HornedLion
04/06/21 9:55:30 AM
#91:


ITT: Controlling/insecure people & Brainwashed Sheep living in a fantasy world

Im okay with being called the former rather than the latter.

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Jen0125
04/06/21 9:55:58 AM
#92:


Having trust in your partner = brainwashed sheep

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OhhhJa
04/06/21 10:00:33 AM
#93:


I know gfaqs people are "different" but what I'm saying is pretty standard for most relationships in the real world. Having friends of the opposite sex is fine but it's ok (and perfectly normal for most people) to expect some kind of reasonable boundary as far as that goes
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EvilMegas
04/06/21 10:01:26 AM
#94:


It's not my fault you guys can't find good partners that you can trust wholeheartedly.

Sorry, your life sucks?

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hockey7318
04/06/21 10:02:08 AM
#95:


It's not even only trust, it's knowing full well that our old asses are in bed and asleep by 9 every day so there is no way we're taking late night calls to start an emotional affair.
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EvilMegas
04/06/21 10:05:21 AM
#96:


OhhhJa posted...
I know gfaqs people are "different" but what I'm saying is pretty standard for most relationships in the real world. Having friends of the opposite sex is fine but it's ok (and perfectly normal for most people) to expect some kind of reasonable boundary as far as that goes
"In the real world". Lmao.
Just because a bunch of people are insecure about their relationships doesn't mean it's right.

How about you follow what you think is best instead of looking to others for guidance on how to behave in your relationships?

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LinkPizza
04/06/21 10:05:29 AM
#97:


I couldnt imagine having a partner I couldnt trust, tbh...

OhhhJa posted...
reasonable boundary

Whats reasonable is different for everybody, though?
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HornedLion
04/06/21 10:17:08 AM
#98:


Jen0125 posted...
Having trust in your partner = brainwashed sheep

So your SO should be completely fine with you going out with this dude...



At night, alone, after you and your SO have been together for years and things have become a little stale, and youre in ovulation?


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Jen0125
04/06/21 10:20:48 AM
#99:


Why are you obsessed with ovulation? If I'm having to be going out with a man that isn't my boyfriend at night there's going to be a reason for it. If I want to go out, I'd go with my boyfriend. Maybe find people like that? You're just insecure dating insecure people.

I have literally never cheated on anyone I have been with and I don't intend to. It's not difficult to not cheat.

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hockey7318
04/06/21 10:22:23 AM
#100:


And generally cheating doesn't happen in a happy, healthy relationship. If it's gotten to the point that cheating is a worry or a real possibility, you've got some things to work on.
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EvilMegas
04/06/21 10:23:25 AM
#101:


Jen0125 posted...
Why are you obsessed with ovulation? If I'm having to be going out with a man that isn't my boyfriend at night there's going to be a reason for it. If I want to go out, I'd go with my boyfriend. Maybe find people like that? You're just insecure dating insecure people.

I have literally never cheated on anyone I have been with and I don't intend to. It's not difficult to not cheat.
No don't you understand, Jen? You're a woman, you can't control yourself. You will cheat!

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