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haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 9:45:56 PM #1:	And ask how they've been? Or is it expected that there'd be no communication til the break is over Asking as I'm in scary new territory right now --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949659400] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>And ask how they've been? Or is it expected that there'd be no communication til the break is over Asking as I'm in scary new territory right now </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lairen 01/18/21 9:51:15 PM #2:	My breaks are permanent. --- When it rains, it pours. <cite>Lairen posted [p:949659550] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>My breaks are permanent. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 9:54:00 PM #3:	Yeah, this is a weird situation for me too. Was wondering if there was something considered a norm in this situation. --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949659648] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Yeah, this is a weird situation for me too. Was wondering if there was something considered a norm in this situation. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Chicken 01/18/21 9:55:05 PM #4:	She might take a while to reply because shes got her hands full. --- May contain bones https://youtu.be/jGbI0P4hh3o <cite>Chicken posted [p:949659688] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>She might take a while to reply because shes got her hands full. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FightingJester 01/18/21 9:55:44 PM #5:	Chicken posted... She might take a while to reply because shes got her hands full. heh heh --- Perhaps the world is not made. Perhaps nothing is made. A clock without a craftsman. It's too late. Always has been. Always will be. Too late <cite>FightingJester posted [p:949659707] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Chicken posted... </cite> <quote>She might take a while to reply because shes got her hands full.</quote>heh heh </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 9:56:05 PM #6:	Chicken posted... She might take a while to reply because shes got her hands full. We've agreed not to see other people during this lol That's honestly not something I'm worried about --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949659715] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Chicken posted... </cite> <quote>She might take a while to reply because shes got her hands full.</quote> We've agreed not to see other people during this lol That's honestly not something I'm worried about </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Hambo the Hog 01/18/21 9:56:23 PM #7:	If you care about them, just ask. If they don't like that, then it might be more than a break. --- I'm sorry, but 10,000 of ANYTHING on a PS2 would absolutely destroy your framerate. It'd be like playing chess through the mail. ~johnboy1 <cite>Hambo the Hog posted [p:949659725] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>If you care about them, just ask. If they don't like that, then it might be more than a break. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 9:56:50 PM #8:	Hambo the Hog posted... If you care about them, just ask. If they don't like that, then it might be more than a break. I like that advice. Cheers --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949659740] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Hambo the Hog posted... </cite> <quote>If you care about them, just ask. If they don't like that, then it might be more than a break.</quote> I like that advice. Cheers </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Unsugarized_Foo 01/18/21 9:57:48 PM #10:	Idunno, it's been so long since high school --- "All I have is my balls and my word, and I don't break them for anyone!"-Tony Montana <cite>Unsugarized_Foo posted [p:949659775] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Idunno, it's been so long since high school </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Smackems 01/18/21 9:58:21 PM #11:	If you're "on a break" it's pretty much already over and not worth pursuing, because it'll just happen again or get completely broken off --- Common sense is a fudge round - some dude <cite>Smackems posted [p:949659792] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>If you're "on a break" it's pretty much already over and not worth pursuing, because it'll just happen again or get completely broken off </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lairen 01/18/21 9:58:42 PM #12:	I would never suggest a break and if they do i tell them its over. --- When it rains, it pours. <cite>Lairen posted [p:949659805] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>I would never suggest a break and if they do i tell them its over. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 10:01:11 PM #14:	Fishstick posted... What's the reason for the break? My buddy and wife went on a break. Four years later and they are still on it. She's going through a lot of stuff, her brother has a court case in a couple of weeks(which is meant to be the length of the break) and could easily be looking at jail time. She had to talk him down off a ledge recently --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949659882] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Fishstick posted... </cite> <quote>What's the reason for the break? My buddy and wife went on a break. Four years later and they are still on it.</quote> She's going through a lot of stuff, her brother has a court case in a couple of weeks(which is meant to be the length of the break) and could easily be looking at jail time. She had to talk him down off a ledge recently </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Unsugarized_Foo 01/18/21 10:02:17 PM #15:	haloiscoolisbak posted... She's going through a lot of stuff, her brother has a court case in a couple of weeks(which is meant to be the length of the break) and could easily be looking at jail time. She had to talk him down off a ledge recently She's not that interested anymore. If you were brad pitt, would she take a break? --- "All I have is my balls and my word, and I don't break them for anyone!"-Tony Montana <cite>Unsugarized_Foo posted [p:949659915] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>haloiscoolisbak posted... </cite> <quote>She's going through a lot of stuff, her brother has a court case in a couple of weeks(which is meant to be the length of the break) and could easily be looking at jail time. She had to talk him down off a ledge recently</quote> She's not that interested anymore. If you were brad pitt, would she take a break? </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Lairen 01/18/21 10:03:21 PM #17:	When im going through tough shit the last thing i want to see is the person i love. ~~SARCASM~~ --- When it rains, it pours. <cite>Lairen posted [p:949659941] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>When im going through tough shit the last thing i want to see is the person i love. SARCASM </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Smackems 01/18/21 10:03:57 PM #18:	Yeah this reeks tc. She's stringing you along at best. You'd think she'd want your love and support if she was super into the relationship --- Common sense is a fudge round - some dude <cite>Smackems posted [p:949659960] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Yeah this reeks tc. She's stringing you along at best. You'd think she'd want your love and support if she was super into the relationship </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ManicPlumber77 01/18/21 10:04:07 PM #19:	If I had checked in more, she might still be alive. So yes. --- This is a sig. <cite>ManicPlumber77 posted [p:949659966] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>If I had checked in more, she might still be alive. So yes. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 10:04:22 PM #20:	Fishstick posted... That's some pretty serious stuff to deal with. Have you been dating long? No, a couple of months. So I kinda get it --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949659978] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Fishstick posted... </cite> <quote>That's some pretty serious stuff to deal with. Have you been dating long?</quote> No, a couple of months. So I kinda get it </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Returning_CEmen 01/18/21 10:05:11 PM #21:	Did you and her not discuss boundaries or expectations besides dont fuck other people? Seems odd that you dont know what you can or cant do. Did she just spring this on you? No one is too busy 100% of the day, if they care enough they will make time. I understand she is busy consoling her brother and that is her first priority. I dont see a problem with asking how things are going if you havent heard from her in a couple of days. <cite>Returning_CEmen posted [p:949660004] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Did you and her not discuss boundaries or expectations besides dont fuck other people? Seems odd that you dont know what you can or cant do. Did she just spring this on you? No one is too busy 100% of the day, if they care enough they will make time. I understand she is busy consoling her brother and that is her first priority. I dont see a problem with asking how things are going if you havent heard from her in a couple of days. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 10:05:20 PM #22:	Unsugarized_Foo posted... She's not that interested anymore. If you were brad pitt, would she take a break? You could be right. Honestly a couple of weeks isn't some huge sacrifice of my time to wait and see though --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949660009] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Unsugarized_Foo posted... </cite> <quote>She's not that interested anymore. If you were brad pitt, would she take a break?</quote> You could be right. Honestly a couple of weeks isn't some huge sacrifice of my time to wait and see though </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 10:06:51 PM #23:	Returning_CEmen posted... Did you and her not discuss boundaries or expectations besides dont fuck other people? Seems odd that you dont know what you can or cant do. Did she just spring this on you? No one is too busy 100% of the day, if they care enough they will make time. I understand she is busy consoling her brother and that is her first priority. I dont see a problem with asking how things are going if you havent heard from her in a couple of days. We did this over text the morning after he had this little incident unfortunately. It's kinda all a bit vague atm --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949660053] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Returning_CEmen posted... </cite> <quote>Did you and her not discuss boundaries or expectations besides dont fuck other people? Seems odd that you dont know what you can or cant do. Did she just spring this on you? No one is too busy 100% of the day, if they care enough they will make time. I understand she is busy consoling her brother and that is her first priority. I dont see a problem with asking how things are going if you havent heard from her in a couple of days.</quote> We did this over text the morning after he had this little incident unfortunately. It's kinda all a bit vague atm </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Infinite 2003 01/18/21 10:08:03 PM #24:	haloiscoolisbak posted... We've agreed not to see other people during this lol Oh my sweet summer child --- Before I knew it there was poop on my lips. - squarion <cite>Infinite 2003 posted [p:949660090] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>haloiscoolisbak posted... </cite> <quote>We've agreed not to see other people during this lol </quote> Oh my sweet summer child </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MabusIncarnate 01/18/21 10:08:55 PM #25:	I wouldn't, let it play out and see where it goes. Unfortunately as mentioned, breaks rarely end up back to normal, I'd give her distance. --- Ten million dollars on a losing campaign, Twenty million starving and writhing in pain. =~=; Vicious_Dios Original - https://tinyurl.com/y9fpdoll <cite>MabusIncarnate posted [p:949660112] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>I wouldn't, let it play out and see where it goes. Unfortunately as mentioned, breaks rarely end up back to normal, I'd give her distance. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 10:09:10 PM #26:	Infinite 2003 posted... Oh my sweet summer child Eh, honestly not something I'm concerned about --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949660122] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Infinite 2003 posted... </cite> <quote>Oh my sweet summer child</quote> Eh, honestly not something I'm concerned about </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
The_Creep_2020 01/18/21 10:10:17 PM #27:	haloiscoolisbak posted... We did this over text the morning after he had this little incident unfortunately. It's kinda all a bit vague atm Dont sweat right now, TC. It sounds like some heavy shit shes going through. If it becomes an ongoing situation and the new normal, bail politely. --- Have I carved enough, my Lord? Child, you are a bone <cite>The_Creep_2020 posted [p:949660156] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>haloiscoolisbak posted... </cite> <quote>We did this over text the morning after he had this little incident unfortunately. It's kinda all a bit vague atm</quote>Dont sweat right now, TC. It sounds like some heavy shit shes going through. If it becomes an ongoing situation and the new normal, bail politely. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
gunplagirl 01/18/21 10:10:35 PM #28:	https://youtu.be/R2qBy5E-y1w Topic reminds me of this --- tfw no big tiddy goth vampire gf who lactates blood - viewmaster_pi <cite>gunplagirl posted [p:949660168] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>https://youtu.be/R2qBy5E-y1w Topic reminds me of this </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cowthief 01/18/21 10:11:26 PM #29:	Do it the true nordic way. Give him your sword. If he gives it back to you, you know you are fucked and better put some forces on your borders. --- There is no success like excess! <cite>Cowthief posted [p:949660198] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Do it the true nordic way. Give him your sword. If he gives it back to you, you know you are fucked and better put some forces on your borders. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 10:11:54 PM #30:	gunplagirl posted... https://youtu.be/R2qBy5E-y1w Topic reminds me of this I haven't been left on read lol. It's just been a discussion of a break and then nothing --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949660208] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>gunplagirl posted... </cite> <quote>https://youtu.be/R2qBy5E-y1w Topic reminds me of this</quote> I haven't been left on read lol. It's just been a discussion of a break and then nothing </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
TheMikh 01/18/21 10:12:26 PM #31:	if he/she wants a break, give him/her a permanent one and end the relationship --- https://imgur.com/A0TAfek <cite>TheMikh posted [p:949660223] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>if he/she wants a break, give him/her a permanent one and end the relationship </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Solid Snake07 01/18/21 10:12:59 PM #32:	Lol, bro break up with her(or him) and move on. There is no "taking a break". Its just someone who wants to break up but won't pull the trigger because they don't want to be mean or are being indecisive about it and another person who's allowing them to string them along with the sad hope that things might work out. Don't be one of those people. --- "People incapable of guilt usually do have a good time" -Detective Rust Cohle <cite>Solid Snake07 posted [p:949660243] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Lol, bro break up with her(or him) and move on. There is no "taking a break". Its just someone who wants to break up but won't pull the trigger because they don't want to be mean or are being indecisive about it and another person who's allowing them to string them along with the sad hope that things might work out. Don't be one of those people. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 10:16:15 PM #33:	Solid Snake07 posted... Lol, bro break up with her(or him) and move on. There is no "taking a break". Its just someone who wants to break up but won't pull the trigger because they don't want to be mean or are being indecisive about it and another person who's allowing them to string them along with the sad hope that things might work out. Don't be one of those people. It's only a couple of weeks to find out. If it turns out she wants it fully over, so be it. Was just wondering what you're meant to actually do while on a break as its new ground for me --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949660333] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Solid Snake07 posted... </cite> <quote>Lol, bro break up with her(or him) and move on. There is no "taking a break". Its just someone who wants to break up but won't pull the trigger because they don't want to be mean or are being indecisive about it and another person who's allowing them to string them along with the sad hope that things might work out. Don't be one of those people.</quote> It's only a couple of weeks to find out. If it turns out she wants it fully over, so be it. Was just wondering what you're meant to actually do while on a break as its new ground for me </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Solid Snake07 01/18/21 10:27:47 PM #34:	haloiscoolisbak posted... It's only a couple of weeks to find out. If it turns out she wants it fully over, so be it. Was just wondering what you're meant to actually do while on a break as its new ground for me You're essentially broken up, do what you want. Drink, cry, pray, get laid. Whatever helps you cope. But no, I wouldn't call her. Unless it's to tell her you're ending it --- "People incapable of guilt usually do have a good time" -Detective Rust Cohle <cite>Solid Snake07 posted [p:949660680] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>haloiscoolisbak posted... </cite> <quote>It's only a couple of weeks to find out. If it turns out she wants it fully over, so be it. Was just wondering what you're meant to actually do while on a break as its new ground for me</quote> You're essentially broken up, do what you want. Drink, cry, pray, get laid. Whatever helps you cope. But no, I wouldn't call her. Unless it's to tell her you're ending it </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 10:30:00 PM #35:	Solid Snake07 posted... You're essentially broken up, do what you want. Drink, cry, pray, get laid. Whatever helps you cope. But no, I wouldn't call her. Unless it's to tell her you're ending it I was gonna shoot her a text at the halfway point of this break just to ask how she's holding up as I know she's going through some shit Was definitely not considering calling lol --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949660745] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Solid Snake07 posted... </cite> <quote>You're essentially broken up, do what you want. Drink, cry, pray, get laid. Whatever helps you cope. But no, I wouldn't call her. Unless it's to tell her you're ending it</quote> I was gonna shoot her a text at the halfway point of this break just to ask how she's holding up as I know she's going through some shit Was definitely not considering calling lol </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Solid Snake07 01/18/21 10:31:54 PM #36:	haloiscoolisbak posted... I was gonna shoot her a text at the halfway point of this break just to ask how she's holding up as I know she's going through some shit Was definitely not considering calling lol I apologize, when I said don't call her I meant don't contact her --- "People incapable of guilt usually do have a good time" -Detective Rust Cohle <cite>Solid Snake07 posted [p:949660809] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>haloiscoolisbak posted... </cite> <quote>I was gonna shoot her a text at the halfway point of this break just to ask how she's holding up as I know she's going through some shit Was definitely not considering calling lol</quote> I apologize, when I said don't call her I meant don't contact her </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
The X Dawg 01/18/21 10:33:34 PM #37:	It's over man. <cite>The X Dawg posted [p:949660860] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>It's over man. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 10:34:39 PM #38:	I was unaware a break 99% of the time means its over lol. Guess im a bit naive with dating --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949660893] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>I was unaware a break 99% of the time means its over lol. Guess im a bit naive with dating </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Darmik 01/18/21 10:34:52 PM #39:	I can only go by what you're saying but this sounds more like she's dealing with a lot of shit and is too busy to go out with you than a couple of weeks more than actually taking a break because the relationship isn't working but I can only go by how you're wording it. How did this break actually happen? I don't think there's anything wrong sending a message assuming that is the case. --- Kind Regards, Darmik <cite>Darmik posted [p:949660907] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>I can only go by what you're saying but this sounds more like she's dealing with a lot of shit and is too busy to go out with you than a couple of weeks more than actually taking a break because the relationship isn't working but I can only go by how you're wording it. How did this break actually happen? I don't think there's anything wrong sending a message assuming that is the case. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Solid Snake07 01/18/21 10:38:23 PM #40:	haloiscoolisbak posted... I was unaware a break 99% of the time means its over lol. Guess im a bit naive with dating Bro, the vast majority of relationships don't work. This is showing very heavy handed signs of something that is not working. I mean it's your life, do whatever you want. But you should be aware of that. And dragging out a failing relationship isn't healthy for anyone involved --- "People incapable of guilt usually do have a good time" -Detective Rust Cohle <cite>Solid Snake07 posted [p:949661018] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>haloiscoolisbak posted... </cite> <quote>I was unaware a break 99% of the time means its over lol. Guess im a bit naive with dating</quote> Bro, the vast majority of relationships don't work. This is showing very heavy handed signs of something that is not working. I mean it's your life, do whatever you want. But you should be aware of that. And dragging out a failing relationship isn't healthy for anyone involved </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Flockaveli 01/18/21 10:39:29 PM #41:	https://youtu.be/M6o1SEj02t0 --- I'm in Chicago, I'm shaking my head. <cite>Flockaveli posted [p:949661051] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>https://youtu.be/M6o1SEj02t0 </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Darmik 01/18/21 10:42:16 PM #42:	haloiscoolisbak posted... I was unaware a break 99% of the time means its over lol. Guess im a bit naive with dating lol don't take this board too seriously when it comes to things like that. It's always pessimistic about relationships and women. But you need to figure this stuff out on your own. There's no pre-determined rules to follow while you're in a relationship with someone. But if she outright won't even message you during all of this that is a bit odd. So yeah check in with a message to see if she's doing okay (if she's a normal, nice person she will appreciate this) and go from there. There's no need to overthink it or worry you're doing something wrong. --- Kind Regards, Darmik <cite>Darmik posted [p:949661138] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>haloiscoolisbak posted... </cite> <quote>I was unaware a break 99% of the time means its over lol. Guess im a bit naive with dating</quote> lol don't take this board too seriously when it comes to things like that. It's always pessimistic about relationships and women. But you need to figure this stuff out on your own. There's no pre-determined rules to follow while you're in a relationship with someone. But if she outright won't even message you during all of this that is a bit odd. So yeah check in with a message to see if she's doing okay (if she's a normal, nice person she will appreciate this) and go from there. There's no need to overthink it or worry you're doing something wrong. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jagr_68 01/18/21 10:45:57 PM #43:	Lairen posted... I would never suggest a break and if they do i tell them its over. This. Just a cowardly, half ass suggestion to BREAK UP without dealing with any of the consequences or other party's reactions. Sorry TC but assume it's over and go from there. Don't check in, ya know :/ --- New York Rangers [2004-2008] https://media.giphy.com/media/WvQHBYW0q4TuxdAg61/giphy.gif https://psnprofiles.com/Jaromiroquai68 <cite>Jagr_68 posted [p:949661249] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Lairen posted... </cite> <quote>I would never suggest a break and if they do i tell them its over.</quote> This. Just a cowardly, half ass suggestion to BREAK UP without dealing with any of the consequences or other party's reactions. Sorry TC but assume it's over and go from there. Don't check in, ya know :/ </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Shablagoo 01/18/21 10:47:57 PM #44:	Darmik posted... don't take this board too seriously when it comes to things like that. It's always pessimistic about relationships and women. --- "If you wanna grow your business you need to exploit more." ~Austin_Era_II "Out of those two? Racist for me... easily." ~Vicious_Dios <cite>Shablagoo posted [p:949661303] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Darmik posted... </cite> <quote>don't take this board too seriously when it comes to things like that. It's always pessimistic about relationships and women.</quote> </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 10:48:30 PM #45:	Darmik posted... lol don't take this board too seriously when it comes to things like that. It's always pessimistic about relationships and women. But you need to figure this stuff out on your own. There's no pre-determined rules to follow while you're in a relationship with someone. But if she outright won't even message you during all of this that is a bit odd. So yeah check in with a message to see if she's doing okay (if she's a normal, nice person she will appreciate this) and go from there. There's no need to overthink it or worry you're doing something wrong. Oh, this all happened on the weekend. I'm not pining for a reply or hurt she hasn't messaged me yet, plus I know shel reply straight away if I msg her, I'm just thinking is it better to leave it for 2 weeks til the agreed time is over and i can actually ask to see her again or whatever, or text half way during this period just for a quick chat, or if that'd be confusing. But im thinking there's no harm in that now and I'm just over thinking Nearly all our texting the past couple of months has just been to arrange the next time we see each other, I actually hate texting lol --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949661316] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Darmik posted... </cite> <quote>lol don't take this board too seriously when it comes to things like that. It's always pessimistic about relationships and women. But you need to figure this stuff out on your own. There's no pre-determined rules to follow while you're in a relationship with someone. But if she outright won't even message you during all of this that is a bit odd. So yeah check in with a message to see if she's doing okay (if she's a normal, nice person she will appreciate this) and go from there. There's no need to overthink it or worry you're doing something wrong.</quote> Oh, this all happened on the weekend. I'm not pining for a reply or hurt she hasn't messaged me yet, plus I know shel reply straight away if I msg her, I'm just thinking is it better to leave it for 2 weeks til the agreed time is over and i can actually ask to see her again or whatever, or text half way during this period just for a quick chat, or if that'd be confusing. But im thinking there's no harm in that now and I'm just over thinking Nearly all our texting the past couple of months has just been to arrange the next time we see each other, I actually hate texting lol </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Darmik 01/18/21 10:55:52 PM #46:	haloiscoolisbak posted... Oh, this all happened on the weekend. I'm not pining for a reply or hurt she hasn't messaged me yet, plus I know shel reply straight away if I msg her, I'm just thinking is it better to leave it for 2 weeks til the agreed time is over and i can actually ask to see her again or whatever, or text half way during this period just for a quick chat, or if that'd be confusing. But im thinking there's no harm in that now and I'm just over thinking Nearly all our texting the past couple of months has just been to arrange the next time we see each other, I actually hate texting lol I don't get what you mean by agreed time. She literally said to not talk to her for 2 weeks at all? That just sounds odd to me. The risk you're taking by not saying anything is that you might make yourself appear distant while she's dealing with some pretty serious things. I get that a 2 month relationship might be too early to really deal with personal issues like that but I also don't think it's casual enough where you literally have no contact at all. I suppose that depends on your last conversation. You know about your relationship more than any of us here. You probably are overthinking it. Hating texting might make it a bit more awkward I suppose since that's sort of the perfect way to check in during a period like this without feeling clingy or overbearing. Maybe a text offering a chat would be appreciated? Keep in mind when people are reading about breaks during the relationship they're usually hearing about someone who is checking out, seeing what else is out there and leaving that person hanging for whatever is chosen next. Her dealing with a suicidal brother and a court case isn't really that. --- Kind Regards, Darmik <cite>Darmik posted [p:949661480] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>haloiscoolisbak posted... </cite> <quote>Oh, this all happened on the weekend. I'm not pining for a reply or hurt she hasn't messaged me yet, plus I know shel reply straight away if I msg her, I'm just thinking is it better to leave it for 2 weeks til the agreed time is over and i can actually ask to see her again or whatever, or text half way during this period just for a quick chat, or if that'd be confusing. But im thinking there's no harm in that now and I'm just over thinking Nearly all our texting the past couple of months has just been to arrange the next time we see each other, I actually hate texting lol</quote> I don't get what you mean by agreed time. She literally said to not talk to her for 2 weeks at all? That just sounds odd to me. The risk you're taking by not saying anything is that you might make yourself appear distant while she's dealing with some pretty serious things. I get that a 2 month relationship might be too early to really deal with personal issues like that but I also don't think it's casual enough where you literally have no contact at all. I suppose that depends on your last conversation. You know about your relationship more than any of us here. You probably are overthinking it. Hating texting might make it a bit more awkward I suppose since that's sort of the perfect way to check in during a period like this without feeling clingy or overbearing. Maybe a text offering a chat would be appreciated? Keep in mind when people are reading about breaks during the relationship they're usually hearing about someone who is checking out, seeing what else is out there and leaving that person hanging for whatever is chosen next. Her dealing with a suicidal brother and a court case isn't really that. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
masticatingman 01/18/21 10:56:31 PM #47:	Breaks mean you find a new relationship --- Fervent appearing <cite>masticatingman posted [p:949661504] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Breaks mean you find a new relationship </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JimmyFraska 01/18/21 11:01:40 PM #48:	A couple of months? I would say, because it's only been that short amount of time, we have to give her the benefit of the doubt. But truthfully, if she were really falling for you, she'd probably want to confide in you about stuff she's having a hard time with, and use you to have a sense of security and relaxation. Not push you away like she doesn't want to deal with you on top of everything. With all that in mind, I'd say no, don't check in. I would not invest too much, it doesn't seem she has a very high interest. <cite>JimmyFraska posted [p:949661648] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>A couple of months? I would say, because it's only been that short amount of time, we have to give her the benefit of the doubt. But truthfully, if she were really falling for you, she'd probably want to confide in you about stuff she's having a hard time with, and use you to have a sense of security and relaxation. Not push you away like she doesn't want to deal with you on top of everything. With all that in mind, I'd say no, don't check in. I would not invest too much, it doesn't seem she has a very high interest. </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 11:04:03 PM #49:	Darmik posted... I don't get what you mean by agreed time. She literally said to not talk to her for 2 weeks at all? That just sounds odd to me. The risk you're taking by not saying anything is that you might make yourself appear distant while she's dealing with some pretty serious things. I get that a 2 month relationship might be too early to really deal with personal issues like that but I also don't think it's casual enough where you literally have no contact at all. I suppose that depends on your last conversation. You know about your relationship more than any of us here. You probably are overthinking it. Hating texting might make it a bit more awkward I suppose since that's sort of the perfect way to check in during a period like this without feeling clingy or overbearing. Maybe a text offering a chat would be appreciated? Keep in mind when people are reading about breaks during the relationship they're usually hearing about someone who is checking out, seeing what else is out there and leaving that person hanging for whatever is chosen next. Her dealing with a suicidal brother and a court case isn't really that. No, it was just a super brief conversation where she suggested that maybe we could take a break for a few weeks. We discussed not dating other people but didn't talk about whether we talk to each other or not during these 2 weeks. I just assumed you don't do that during a break, I dunno why tbh --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949661707] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>Darmik posted... </cite> <quote>I don't get what you mean by agreed time. She literally said to not talk to her for 2 weeks at all? That just sounds odd to me. The risk you're taking by not saying anything is that you might make yourself appear distant while she's dealing with some pretty serious things. I get that a 2 month relationship might be too early to really deal with personal issues like that but I also don't think it's casual enough where you literally have no contact at all. I suppose that depends on your last conversation. You know about your relationship more than any of us here. You probably are overthinking it. Hating texting might make it a bit more awkward I suppose since that's sort of the perfect way to check in during a period like this without feeling clingy or overbearing. Maybe a text offering a chat would be appreciated? Keep in mind when people are reading about breaks during the relationship they're usually hearing about someone who is checking out, seeing what else is out there and leaving that person hanging for whatever is chosen next. Her dealing with a suicidal brother and a court case isn't really that.</quote> No, it was just a super brief conversation where she suggested that maybe we could take a break for a few weeks. We discussed not dating other people but didn't talk about whether we talk to each other or not during these 2 weeks. I just assumed you don't do that during a break, I dunno why tbh </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
haloiscoolisbak 01/18/21 11:08:59 PM #50:	JimmyFraska posted... A couple of months? I would say, because it's only been that short amount of time, we have to give her the benefit of the doubt. But truthfully, if she were really falling for you, she'd probably want to confide in you about stuff she's having a hard time with, and use you to have a sense of security and relaxation. Not push you away like she doesn't want to deal with you on top of everything. With all that in mind, I'd say no, don't check in. I would not invest too much, it doesn't seem she has a very high interest. She's already confided a lot of stuff to me, including something pretty horrible the brother did to her when they were kids... The brother has schizophrenia btw, to say he's a handful is an understatement --- Started from the bottom now we here <cite>haloiscoolisbak posted [p:949661844] in If youre o... [t:79246974]...</cite> <quote>JimmyFraska posted... </cite> <quote>A couple of months? I would say, because it's only been that short amount of time, we have to give her the benefit of the doubt. But truthfully, if she were really falling for you, she'd probably want to confide in you about stuff she's having a hard time with, and use you to have a sense of security and relaxation. Not push you away like she doesn't want to deal with you on top of everything. With all that in mind, I'd say no, don't check in. I would not invest too much, it doesn't seem she has a very high interest.</quote> She's already confided a lot of stuff to me, including something pretty horrible the brother did to her when they were kids... The brother has schizophrenia btw, to say he's a handful is an understatement </quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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