Current Events > I Dont Understand Why It's "Bad" To Go After A Girl Who Has A BF...

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with hooking up or dating or moving forward with a girl who has a BF. Especially when she hides that info from you, or makes it clear that she wants to hang out/chill/hook up despite having one . The fact that this person, who is seeing someone, desires me essentially means that she thinks I'm a better guy than her current BF, or she wants something new and exciting. Mostly the latter.

If the opposite happened, I would blame no one but myself for falling for someone who had no loyalty to me.

Right now I'm talking with a chick who has a BF(I found out on my own, she didn't tell me) and she's still excited to see me. Maybe if she had a BF and she makes it known she has no desire or want to see you, I would understand. But a woman who has a BF but still wants to hang out or hook up? No way I'm following some dumb set of "morals"

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Pointless_Topic posted...

I would blame no one but myself for falling for someone who had no loyalty to me.

Thats something you should probably work on

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If it was my gf you'd see why it's "Bad"

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Would you allow me to fuck your girlfriend?

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Pointless_Topic posted...

Ok we get it:you created an account with the username "Pointless Topic" and are purposely posting pointless topics.that's so funny!-Cyber Akuma Zero

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Must be Bluemonk alt

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If I'm really interested in a girl with a bf that seems like a pretty minor obstacle, especially if we start chatting and vibing. How else is she going to determine who's better for her if she has the option and is attracted to both guys? This is why I always approach in public vs doing online dating bullshit, you never know what she's willing to do in spite of having a bf.

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AbysmalTrinity posted...

Would you allow me to fuck your girlfriend?

Meh. If you managed to do so with her consent , it just means that at the end she wasn't loyal. Thereby, saving me the trouble of wasting more of my time by being in a long term relationship with her

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Johnny_Nutcase posted...

If it was my gf you'd see why it's "Bad"

lol

I mean, pay it forward. If a girl has a BF and wants to hook up with you, just tell her 'kay, then ditch the other dude.'

If she's willing to go behind his back, she's willing to go behind yours.

That's how I see it.
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Im not a top tier Chad like TC so I wouldnt want to get with a girl who keeps looking to upgrade since it would just be a matter of time until someone better than me came along and Im the one being kicked to the curb. The thought of this really kills any enthusiasm I have for seeking out a relationship in general since this seems to be an acceptable and agreed upon approach.

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I'm usually kind of with you in this regard. You obviously don't go after the partners of people you know and are friends with because that's just fucked up but generally if I have no idea who their bf is and the girl is interested, then its on her to be faithful.

If it happened to me then I'd be blaming my girlfriend and then dumping her. I'd be sad of course but its her decision to cheat, it isn't some "mistake" like so many people make it out to be.
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Johnny_Nutcase posted...

If it was my gf you'd see why it's "Bad"

What a badass

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Pitlord_Special posted...

Im not a top tier Chad like TC so I wouldnt want to get with a girl who keeps looking to upgrade since it would just be a matter of time until someone better than me came along and Im the one being kicked to the curb. The thought of this really kills any enthusiasm I have for seeking out a relationship in general since this seems to be an acceptable and agreed upon approach.

Most women are completely content with simply having a good man who treats them well. If you treat her as well as she deserves, you cultivate loyalty and eventually an enduring commitment will form. Besides, you don't even know if someone might appear who's even better for you, and you might make that choice too. If worrying about this is all that's stopping you from pursuing a relationship, that's not a productive use of energy at all. If your gf is attractive and desirable to other men, you should take that as a compliment that she is choosing to be with you, if you're jealous you're gonna sabotage all your relationships.

Also dudes, I see extremely attractive women whose obvious long term boyfriends are ugly ass unkempt weaklings multiple times a day, how do you think something like that happens? He made a move and she was into it enough to take a shot on it, then he cultivated loyalty to secure a longer term commitment. Sure, someone might come along, but those other dudes already had their turn and they should be happy with that. You can't be bitter about that shit or you're not gonna find someone else.

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I tried chasing after a girl who had a boyfriend. She rightfully just ignored it.

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WaterLink posted...

I'm usually kind of with you in this regard. You obviously don't go after the partners of people you know and are friends with because that's just fucked up but generally if I have no idea who their bf is and the girl is interested, then its on her to be faithful.

If it happened to me then I'd be blaming my girlfriend and then dumping her. I'd be sad of course but its her decision to cheat, it isn't some "mistake" like so many people make it out to be.

Yeah, but in the same vein, why go after someone like that if you know they'll cheat?
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It's morally a dick move, but the one who is doing the cheating holds much more blame.

Slayer_22 posted...

WaterLink posted...

I'm usually kind of with you in this regard. You obviously don't go after the partners of people you know and are friends with because that's just fucked up but generally if I have no idea who their bf is and the girl is interested, then its on her to be faithful.

If it happened to me then I'd be blaming my girlfriend and then dumping her. I'd be sad of course but its her decision to cheat, it isn't some "mistake" like so many people make it out to be.

Yeah, but in the same vein, why go after someone like that if you know they'll cheat?

To get laid or maybe you think you can make her happier and less likely to cheat, idk. I was mainly thinking of hookups rather than full blown dating.
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WaterLink posted...

To get laid or maybe you think you can make her happier and less likely to cheat, idk. I was mainly thinking of hookups rather than full blown dating.

Oh. Well, then you're just being a dick if you do so knowingly lol.
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RetsuZaiZen posted...

What a badass