Current Events > As a bf when do I say something with creeps in public on my GF?

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Like if I see clearly creep dudes with the lust look looking at her ass or boobs when she is walking by and I'm right there. Do I ignore? Say something? Just look at them and glare?

Then what about when they say something verbal like "mmm mmhmm baby" or something like that when I'm with her?

I hate the staring ones but don't usually do anything for that. BUT when it gets verbal I get the strong urge to beat the shit out of them. I think my girl pretends to not like when I get physical or verbally defend her but I think deep down she kinda likes it cause I notice afterwards she got like the 'fire look' in her eyes.

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As long as they don't get physical just move on with your life, it's not worth getting into fights with some random asshole

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look at them and say "oh, thanks" and smile at them and then keep walking

If it gets verbal, it's on her to tell them to fuck off, if she's indeed unwelcoming of those comments. You can't control how others interact with "your" girl.

AwesomeOSauce posted...

I think my girl pretends to not like when I get physical or verbally defend her but I think deep down she kinda likes it cause I notice afterwards she got like the 'fire look' in her eyes.

That's a bit to unpack. How public are we talking here? If it's some skeezy bar and she's dressed to impress, um, stop going there or stop going there with proactive attire.

Unless you actually like all of this, in which case, keep it up.
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Don't start trouble. Like if the two of you are walking together, just link arms with her and pull her closer or something. If you're sitting by her, put your arm around her. If they dont stop staring/making comments, they're just shitty people and nothing you do can really change that. But don't directly react towards the person unless they get physical or in your personal space.

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I'd say unless they touch her or get extremely up in her grill, there's no need to really get in their face over it. If they make comments or something, just go over and make out with her in front of them or make a snarky remark back at them.

But yeah if they do physically touch her butt or something, then that's when you step in.

philsov posted...

with "your" girl

Ignore sentiment like this. A little bit of jealousy/protectiveness is important to a real relationship, for both dudes AND chicks. There's nothing wrong with feeling it.

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Blow kisses and wave at them. Tell your GF they're after you, not her.

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philsov posted...

If it gets verbal, it's on her to tell them to fuck off, if she's indeed unwelcoming of those comments. You can't control how others interact with "your" girl.

I have never met a woman, whether she was a friend or lover, who wanted the burden of confronting a cat caller. They always looked to me or my guy friends to bail them out. I dont know for sure what would have happened if we told them to handle it, but my instinct is that theyd lose respect for us as men. I know, I know, there must be exceptions out there, but Ive never met any.

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